Moving away from my parents home.. what to do?

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Juan Jose - 31 Oct 2006 03:41 GMT

Hi there!

Im not a very frequent reader of this grup but i wished, anyway, to ask
you for some advice.

I have a soon-to-be 20 years old cat, he is my "baby" i love him very
much, plus i am like his father, since i am the one he obeys the most,
he sleeps with me, and follows me everywhere.

Now, i am about to move to an appartment all by myself, and i dont know
what to do, i am living with my parents right now, but im scared as to
what may happen to him.

Should i take him with me? he will be lonely since i work 12 hs a day,
plus since im young i tend to party ;)

Or should i let him with my parents? he has them and my sister who can
caress him...

I do know he is sad (screams a lot) when i temporarily leave for a
couple of days..

What do you think is the right thing to do?

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Diana - 31 Oct 2006 23:47 GMT

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At his advanced age, it would be a kindness to leave him in the familiar
environment of your parents' home. Be sure to visit him as often as you
are able -- daily, in the beginning. It would also help to leave him a
piece of your clothing that you have worn without washing it (so that he
will have your scent.) Cats are usually not as upset by having less
frequent contact with a favorite person as they are by moving to a new
home.

This is only my opinion. Perhaps you will hear from others. Bienvenido.

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MoMo - 01 Nov 2006 01:50 GMT

I agree with Diana. I would leave him with your parents. If he seems
completely miserable that you left him, you can always change your mind and
bring him to your apartment. I was in somewhat of a similar situation when I
moved out of my parents house a few years ago. My cat at the time was only 5
but I was his love. He slept with me and was always with me. When I moved
out, I made the decision to leave him with my parents (where he was and is an
outside/inside cat living in a big house). I could not imagine taking him
away from that and sticking him in a small apartment where I would never be
home (and out partying like mad as well at night ;). I still see him all the
time and let me tell you, he is the happiest cat in the world and has the
best life ever. Of course, he has completely turned into my Dad's cat and
the two are best friends, but I am happy knowing that he is happy. Good luck
in your decision and let us know how it all turns out.

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Ghost - 02 Nov 2006 00:58 GMT

> I agree with Diana. I would leave him with your parents. If he seems
> completely miserable that you left him, you can always change your mind and
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i've never been in the situation you're in, i can back up the idea about
leaving an artical of clothing for your cat.
my late cat, odie and i had a shirt we shared. when i was'nt wearing it,
he used it for a blanket.

ghost

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Lesley - 04 Nov 2006 01:01 GMT

> my late cat, odie and i had a shirt we shared. when i was'nt wearing it,
> he used it for a blanket.

When Fugazi (RB) was a kitten she used a pair of old and somewhat worn
Y-fronts of Dave's as a security blanket!

Said Dave is now in hospital and someone in rpca suggested gettng
something out of the laundry basket for them to get his scent. When I
went to get something our current Furballs (Redunzel and Sarrasine) had
already dragged an old t-shirt of his out to sleep on!

Lesley

Slave of the Fabulous Furballs

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Valerie L Magee - 01 Dec 2006 22:28 GMT

I am a frequent reader here, but don't post often (if at all). I am
surprised at the responses you have received. I would say, take your cat.

I moved several times with the cat I grew up with. He wasn't as old as
yours when he died, but he was certainly set in his ways. It never took
him more than a few days to get accustomed to a new apartment. After
all, it was mine. The smells were familiar; the bed linens were
familiar, and I was there. At the time I worked very long hours too, so
he was alone all day and often well into the evening. But all he did
(I'm sure) is sleep. When I came home, he was always happy to see me,
purred constantly, followed me around, and snuggled up to sleep. I even
took my cat with me when I had a 6 week temporarly assignment. Again, he
adjusted quickly.

A good friend of mine had two cats that lived to 20 and 22 respectively.
She worked alternately in the US and the UK. When she went to the UK,
the cats had to spend 6 months in quarantine. I suspect my friend
suffered more than her cats.

As for partying, unless you think that your friends will be too wild for
the cat, I really think you should take him!

Valerie Magee

All cat songs CD by Cindy Mangsen at
http://compassrosemusic.com/CatTales.asp

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Juan Jose - 04 Dec 2006 13:00 GMT

Thank you all four your kind answers, i've decided, given the size of
my new appartment, that i will let him stay at my parent's home, its
been a week or so and i can say, he seems to miss me, but is adapting
quickly to me not being arround every day.

I cannot go once per day since the travel time makes it impossible for
me, but i can go twice a week.

I will take a used cloth to him, thats a great idea!.

Thanks again!!!

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