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My wife and I are in tears and beside ourselves with grief. About three hours ago the doorbell rang and it was a man holding one of our cats (Pokchi) in his arms. He had hit him on the road outside. We took him straight to the clinic but there was nothing they could do, his back was broken. Pokchi was one of the most sweet, sensitive and innocent friends we have ever had and we will miss him forever. He was a happy, fun loving 12 month old who loved nothing better than sitting in a big paper grocery bag. We spent the last year in Romania working. During our stay a stray cat that we had befriended gave birth to a litter of three kittens in our back garden. A couple of weeks after she gave birth she disappeared one day and was not to be found. My wife and I looked after them, bottle feeding them and giving them all the love and kindness they deserved. We made plans to bring them to the US and finally brought them with us six weeks ago to our house in Seattle along with a sweet little persian that we bought to be their friend called Copoli. They love it here and unfortunately loved to play outside. There is a road close to our house and although it's only a 25mph speed limit there are often fast cars. Now we feel terribly guilty and upset that we let them out at all. It was so hard watching them crying by the door, knowing how much they love to be out there. I don't think we will be able to let them out again after what just happened. We don't have any children and Pokchi, Pooshi, Mischief and Copoli are about as close to our children as you can imagine. If you would like to seem a picture of him as we will remember him take a look here. Suckling his favorite blanket: http://65.197.155.136/PokchiNursingHisBlanket.jpg Hard at work: http://65.197.155.136/PokchiAtWork.jpg There will be a big hole in the family now he is gone. We know we wil never replace Pokchi but does it make sense to get another cat? If so would the other year old cats get along better with a new kitten or a more mature cat? best wishes to all the other cat lovers out there. <chrisbe@gmail.com> wrote in message > Pokchi was one of the most sweet, sensitive and innocent friends we > have ever had and we will miss him forever. He was a happy, fun loving > 12 month old who loved nothing better than sitting in a big paper > grocery bag. Our pets can indeed become surrogate children and the pain felt when one is lost is tremendous. My sincerest condolences at your loss. > My wife and I are in tears and beside ourselves with > grief. About three hours ago the doorbell rang and it [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] > He was a happy, fun loving 12 month old who loved nothing > better than sitting in a big paper grocery bag. Purrs for your loss, we've all been there. I liked the picture of him hard at work on the computer..! Here are some pictures of my Sheba (well she was my favourite at the shelter where I volunteer) who died last year, I have her ashes with me so I will always have her close :-) www.g6urp.co.uk/sheba Ivor <snip> > There will be a big hole in the family now he is gone. We know we wil > never replace Pokchi but does it make sense to get another cat? If so > would the other year old cats get along better with a new kitten or a > more mature cat? > > best wishes to all the other cat lovers out there. Very sorry to hear about your loss... We lost our WhiteCat a week ago and still feel very sad. Cats are very special. >My wife and I are in tears and beside ourselves with grief. About >three hours ago the doorbell rang and it was a man holding one of our >cats (Pokchi) in his arms. He had hit him on the road outside. We >took him straight to the clinic but there was nothing they could do, >his back was broken. Sorry to hear about your loss. Pokchi will be waiting for you at Rainbow Bridge. > My wife and I are in tears and beside ourselves with grief. About > three hours ago the doorbell rang and it was a man holding one of our [quoted text clipped - 40 lines] > > best wishes to all the other cat lovers out there. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, but I am also glad that you are now looking at the need to keep your other cats indoors. This is especially true when you live close to a road, as you described. Do you live in a house or an apartment? If you live in a house (or even an apartment with a balcony), it is possible to build an outdoor enclosure that will permit your cats to enjoy "the great outdoors" in safety. I have a number of links to both commercial and build-it-yourself designs. Please let me know if you want to see them. (I have no association or even experience with any of them -- they are simply links to sites that I have seen online over the last couple of years.) MaryL Photos of Duffy and Holly: >'o'< Duffy: http://tinyurl.com/cslwf Holly: http://tinyurl.com/9t68o Duffy and Holly together: http://tinyurl.com/8b47e Recent pics: http://tinyurl.com/clal7 > My wife and I are in tears and beside ourselves with grief. About > three hours ago the doorbell rang and it was a man holding one of our > cats (Pokchi) in his arms. He had hit him on the road outside. We > took him straight to the clinic but there was nothing they could do, > his back was broken. I'm very sorry to hear that. That's horrible for anyone to have to deal with. > Pokchi was one of the most sweet, sensitive and innocent friends we > have ever had and we will miss him forever. He was a happy, fun loving > 12 month old who loved nothing better than sitting in a big paper > grocery bag. What is with cats and paper bags, anyways?? > We spent the last year in Romania working. During our stay a stray cat > that we had befriended gave birth to a litter of three kittens in our [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] > door, knowing how much they love to be out there. I don't think we > will be able to let them out again after what just happened. I don't blame you for not wanting to let the other ones out. We live close to a fairly busy road as well, and even though it's a residential street, you always get some jerk speeding down the road, especially dangerous for any type of animal or child. Don't feel guilty, even though that's probably so easy for me to say and so hard for you to do. At least you know Pokchi was very happy, and he was doing what he loved to do - play outside. > We don't have any children and Pokchi, Pooshi, Mischief and Copoli are > about as close to our children as you can imagine. This seems to be the case for a lot of people. Their pets become their children if they have none. > If you would like to seem a picture of him as we will remember him take > a look here. [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > > Hard at work: http://65.197.155.136/PokchiAtWork.jpg Haha I like this one. Typical day in the life of a cat, so busy sleeping! That's definitely a very cute picture! > There will be a big hole in the family now he is gone. We know we wil > never replace Pokchi but does it make sense to get another cat? If so > would the other year old cats get along better with a new kitten or a > more mature cat? There probably will be a big hole in your family - you now have a lost family member. As far as getting another cat - not a replacement - that is totally up to you and probably depends on how you feel and where you stand, as well as your other cats. I've noticed, from my own personal experience, that it seems that female cats do not take to a new cat sometimes. I have nothing to back this up other than personal experience, but I've found that introducing a new cat, male or female, can sometimes be a challenge, even with a small kitten. Males they seem to be fine, but females seem to not care for another cat, and I have asked around about this, and although it's not always, I've had other say they've had problems with one female taking to another cat it hasn't grown up with, no matter if it's a kitten or an adult cat that's being introduced. There's nothing wrong with getting another cat, nor is there anything wrong with not getting another cat (or kitten in all the cat cases) I think it will definitely be hard at the beginning no matter which way you go. Some people need to fill that void right away to heal, but others need time to heal before they can even thing of finding a new friend to take into their family, or in the case with cats, find a new cat to take on their family! > best wishes to all the other cat lovers out there. I really am very sorry to hear about your loss. It's hard. > My wife and I are in tears and beside ourselves with grief. About > three hours ago the doorbell rang and it was a man holding one of our > cats (Pokchi) in his arms. He had hit him on the road outside. We > took him straight to the clinic but there was nothing they could do, > his back was broken. I'm sorry to hear of your loss. It's a damn shame such tragic accidents happen, but it is an accident. The person that hit Pokchi must have felt terrible about it. At least he did the right thing by bringing Pokchi to you instead of leaving him. Many years ago I accidently ran over my own kitten. Talk about living with guilt! > There will be a big hole in the family now he is gone. We know we wil > never replace Pokchi but does it make sense to get another cat? The picture of Pokchi shows that he was a comfortably happy kitty while he was here. No kitty could ask for more from their family. Take your time in finding another kitty, there's no rush. When the time is right, things will fall into place naturally. >My wife and I are in tears and beside ourselves with grief. About >three hours ago the doorbell rang and it was a man holding one of our >cats (Pokchi) in his arms. He had hit him on the road outside. We >took him straight to the clinic but there was nothing they could do, >his back was broken. So sorry about your Pokchi, what a tragedy. >They love it here and unfortunately loved to play outside. There is a >road close to our house and although it's only a 25mph speed limit >there are often fast cars. Now we feel terribly guilty and upset that >we let them out at all. It was so hard watching them crying by the >door, knowing how much they love to be out there. I don't think we >will be able to let them out again after what just happened. I take mine out on a harness with a tie out so you might want to consider this (never unattended though) or some people build enclosures in their yard instead. >We don't have any children and Pokchi, Pooshi, Mischief and Copoli are >about as close to our children as you can imagine. I know exactly what you mean. >There will be a big hole in the family now he is gone. We know we wil >never replace Pokchi but does it make sense to get another cat? If so >would the other year old cats get along better with a new kitten or a >more mature cat? Perhaps wait a little while and so how it goes with your other 3. If you want to bring another one in, any age would be fine except for a senior of course, too many youngins' to tease him. On Sat, 01 Apr 2006 01:14:44 -0800, chrisbe wrote: > My wife and I are in tears and beside ourselves with grief. About > three hours ago the doorbell rang and it was a man holding one of our [quoted text clipped - 40 lines] > > best wishes to all the other cat lovers out there. "Rise up slowly, Angel. It's hard to let you go..." Sincere condolences in the loss of your kitten. MLB >My wife and I are in tears and beside ourselves with grief. About >three hours ago the doorbell rang and it was a man holding one of our >cats (Pokchi) in his arms. He had hit him on the road outside. We >took him straight to the clinic but there was nothing they could do, >his back was broken. Purrs for him to have a speedy trip to the bridge. Hopefully you decide to keep the others in. I would rather have a live cat that cries at the door then a dead ones. The thing is to give them plenty to do and place with indoors to keep them occupied and busy. \ Thank you all for your kind words, they were very comforting. We've pretty much decided to move on and get another kittie to keep the gang of four. Once we get them I'll send out some piccies to show you all. Best wishes! My wife and I are in tears and beside ourselves with grief. About three hours ago the doorbell rang and it was a man holding one of our cats (Pokchi) in his arms. He had hit him on the road outside. We took him straight to the clinic but there was nothing they could do, his back was broken. ----------------------------------------- It is a sad thing to lose a pet. There are no words for your loss. Pokchi is at Rainbow bridge waiting for you now. One day you will be with him. My sincerest condolences. regards Mike Lane Luvy , Blackie, Little One, Rainy, Snow Flake & (Yes R.I.P 18 Nov. 2005) > My wife and I are in tears and beside ourselves with grief. About > three hours ago the doorbell rang and it was a man holding one of our [quoted text clipped - 40 lines] > > best wishes to all the other cat lovers out there. I am so sorry for your loss. Posters here can relate, and there will be many a prayerful purr reaching out to you and your wife and cats to surround you with love. Pokchi was a darling. Thanks for sharing those pictures.  SignatureDiana <http://personal.bellsouth.net/d/r/drdrive/hereiam.html> My cat, Kitty was run over outside my house in January, so I know what you mean by a big hole in the family. Please take some comfort from the fact that the driver was compassionate enough to come to you with Pokchi. You all tried your best to save him. I too felt guilty, and my other cat is now not allowed out. Give it some time, and if it feels natural to get another cat, then do so. As you have said, there will be no replacing Pokchi, but you can look forward to happy times with your other cats. Wishing you the very best of Luck. D X >My wife and I are in tears and beside ourselves with grief. About >three hours ago the doorbell rang and it was a man holding one of our [quoted text clipped - 40 lines] > >best wishes to all the other cat lovers out there. |
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