You're welcome, and hey, even Ketzl, who is one of the most affectionate cats
ever, has his quirks about where and when he'll share my space -- or better
put: share *his* space with me.

I don't think it's unusual at all for a cat to be invisible the first couple
of days in a new place, especially one from a shelter. In most cases one can
only guess what experiences led to the cat's being in the shelter in the
first place, and what she experienced before getting there.

She sits on your lap at night now (even if only in one chair) and I wouldn't
be surprised if it starts happening more often. Also, in my unprofessional
but seasoned experience, the fact that she will lie down next to your husband
as well as sit with you is a very good sign that she will eventually
socialize. Ketzl loves a good nap with me, but generally stays away from me
at bedtime until I've fallen asleep, then he comes up on the bed and lies
near my feet. The first several weeks he was here, he stayed away all night
in some unknown location. I'm pretty sure it was because he didn't want to
get rolled over on during the night, and he gradually realized that it was
safe to approach.

My way of thinking is: I don't know what kind of childhood this creature had
and I really have no way of knowing, so I'm going to imagine the worst and be
as kind and loving as I can be, to gain his trust (already done) and his
companionship (again: done) and his devotion (yet to be accomplished, but
hey, he *is* a cat, after all, and that's a stretch! :-)

Don't forget to talk to her!

Per contessa:

I see some of this with our cat.   It seems to seek out touchie/feelie attention
in certain areas of the house yet it seems like the slightest contact with a
hand irritates it in other areas of the house.

Seems like it operates in different modes that are highly dependent on the
surroundings.