Give Kali some time. She'll become more integrated as she has spent
time with you. Don't despair. She'll become social. Probably more than
you wanted! <snerk> Then we'll hear stories of Kali jumping into the
bed at 2 AM demanding pets! Oi, the life of a cat slave....

We have a cat that's very neurotic about this. He leads us to the food
bowl so he can eat while we pet him. At first we thought it was funny,
but he is dead serious. He chirps at us and watches that we follow him
as he walks to the bowl.

He was in the Humane Society for 4 months before we brought him home. He
was a friendly, 10 year old barn cat and probably traumatized to be in a
cage. I think he got petted most often when the volunteers would open
the cage and feed him and he put the two together. That's my theory,
anyway, but I think in general cats equate eating (a good thing,) with
affection.

Now she sounds like a real feral. We have a former feral that was in her
first heat, so probably 8 mos old or so, when we took her in. She is
still skittish at 11 years old, but likes affection and attention on her
terms. She won't walk through the middle of the room, but will come out
and night and sleep with me. She loves to be petted.

Give your cat a couple of days to get her bearings, then spend lots of
time with her. I would just sit in the same room and read at first, then
get closer every day. When she seems a little curious, try to pet her.
One good way to a feral's heart is through their stomach. Throw treats
to her, letting her see that you were the one with the food. Eventually,
try to get her to eat from your hand.

Just take it in steps and let her learn to trust you. She could turn
into a lap cat or she could just want attention when she feels safe.
Some of our former ferals have safe times, like Sweeter's is at night.
With Snickers, I can pet her in one room but she fells more nervous in
another.

Let us know how they're doing,

Rhonda