Hi all,
On Saturday I decided to get a new cat as our beloved one had passed away 2
christmases ago. I went to the pet shop and saw a beautiful Calico female,
sterilized and she looked like a queen. In the afternoon I went back with my
husband so he to could check her out. The lady at the pet shop said she had
found a hole in the wall went in and hadn't come back out. We went back on
Sunday and no dice she was still in the wall.
Monday afternoon they had finally got her. I checked her out played with my
fingers around her mouth to see if she was aggressif but no. So I bought
her. When we got home at 1:30 pm she went into hiding behind the washing
machine. We did a lot of coaxing but to no avail. Finally at arount 8:30 pm
she came into the living room and was pushing against the furniture. So I
picked her up and she started purring pawing me and sucking on my nightrobe.
The minute my husband came upstairs off she ran and hid under the bed. Yet
my husband is also a cat lover who will use a gentle voice to approach her.
She ate a bit while we were in bed and there was a bit of urine in the
litter box. This morning I left for work at 7:30 and she was hiding under
the bed. I called my retired husband at noon and there was no change. When I
came in from work I called her and she went out from under the bed she was
under and under another one.
I don't know what to do. We don't want to force ourselves on her. Anyone
ever have that problem? How long will it take her to realize we only want
to cuddle, pet and love her?
HELP PLEASE
Java
NanCe - 08 Mar 2006 00:35 GMT
>On Saturday I decided to get a new cat as our beloved one had passed away 2
>christmases ago. I went to the pet shop and saw a beautiful Calico female,
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>ever have that problem? How long will it take her to realize we only want
>to cuddle, pet and love her?
This is actually quite normal for some shelter cats. She's been through a
lot - was given up by her owner and brought to a shelter with strangers there,
then to the pet shop with more strangers (obviously very scared there to go
into the wall), then to your house with yet again more strangers. Quite
traumatic for a kitty. It's going to take time but exactly how long I can't
say, maybe even a couple of weeks or more.
Just make sure she's eating even if you have to put the food with her under
the bed. Only problem with that is that she won't come out of her hiding
spots as easily if she has food to eat but you want to make sure she's eating
every day to avoid liver problems. If you're using dry food, try some canned
to entice her; if she really likes it, it may bring her out of hiding in
order to eat it. Put some on a dish and push it toward her; if she starts to
eat it, slowly pull the dish away from her; before you know it, she may be
out from under the bed to eat it. You can also try something really tasty
such as salmon or tuna or some chicken.
Once you get her out, it would be a good idea to confine her to one room for
a few days; having the whole run of the house is probably very intimidating
to her and this may feel safer to her. Then go in there and sit with her and
talk to her without petting her at first; once she gets used to that, then
start petting her a bit. You may want to give her something she can go into
in there in case she feels scared such as a large paper bag, an upside down
box with a door cut into it or a cat house; this would provide a feeling of
security until she feels ready to come out of her shell. Just have a lot of
patience. She sounds like she's going to be a wonderful companian once she
gets used to both of you (I love calicos!).
NanCe
(Hope the pet shop is going to fix that hole so no more kitties go in there!)
whayface - 08 Mar 2006 01:52 GMT
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>Java
Give her time and do not rush herr. My first furbaby took almost 4 weeks before she
really got used to her new surrounding and started slowly coming out.
Beth - 08 Mar 2006 02:01 GMT
> Hi all,
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> Java
Mine did the same thing. I got her from a pet shop and she spent the car
ride home clinging to me with her head under my arm. Thank God someone else
was driving. Then she was under my couch for a few days, only coming out
when I'd been sitting still watching tv for a while. But, since I teach and
that was summer time, she got used to me quickly. Don't rush. She'll be
much better if you let her feel safe on her own. You could try going
somewhere that's not so big, like if she's under the bed, close the door and
try coaxing her our and if she comes out, stay in there for a while. Let
her roam if she wants, but as strange as it sounds, my cat actually went to
the only place in my apartment that's remotely like a cage. I had a small
breakfast nook table that had bars on the sides and she would go sit in
there after she came out from under the couch. I think it was comforting
for a while :) Just give her time.
Beth
sayhitocatgirl@yahoo.com - 08 Mar 2006 06:22 GMT
I'm so happy to hear people with these responses... and I agree with
them... I always like to say, "Dogs are emotionally like human
children... and cats are emotionally like human adults." So
understanding a cat, in general anyway (they are each as individual as
we are, after all), is all about empathy. Putting ourselves in their
very situation... how would we feel...? And what would we do? Torn
away from the place we felt secure... no matter how unpleasant it may
be, we *knew* it... and to be suddenly placed on another planet almost,
with everything and every smell and sound so strange... its terrifying.
When you brought her home, you were the *only* familiar thing in her
entire life. Having additional strange humans rushed at her would only
frighten her more.
It is also advisable, for people who must put their kitties outdoors,
to keep them confined inside for at least 2 weeks, and please keep a
CLOSE eye that they do not escape. One week has not been enough, there
are too many cases of tragedies... Kitties want desperately to flee
back to where they last felt secure. And they can slip through a
slightly opened door and through your legs like greased lightening, and
silently, too. "Rooting" to a new geographic location to the point of
really feeling secure, takes at least two weeks in most cases. Don't
take chances. Even if kitty *seems* happy and ok in one week... just
don't...
Congratulations and good luck with your new furbaby! In time she will
begin to feel like she belongs, like she is family.
Catgirl
Barnabas - 08 Mar 2006 20:19 GMT
I would add to these posts:
1. make sure the kitten has lots of fresh water and is drinking the
fresh water.
2. try enticing her to eat with something like human tuna. hopefully
the
strong smell will attract her to eat. food is important for her to
have but
water is MUCH MORE IMPORTANT FOR HER TO HAVE.
I would add when a cat gets scared their instinct is to
go into a confined space (like under a bed) where they can
hide, and where they can defend themselves if they need to.
AlexZ - 08 Mar 2006 06:15 GMT
: On Saturday I decided to get a new cat as our beloved one had passed away 2
: christmases ago. I went to the pet shop and saw a beautiful Calico female,
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: ever have that problem? How long will it take her to realize we only want
: to cuddle, pet and love her?
Everything is fine. Please understand that she has been through
frightening experiences. May be abandoned, maybe be without food,
locked in a cage, surrounded by noise and strangers, never knew what
will happen to her. She still doesn't know. Take care of her basic
needs, allow her all the privacy she wants, just be around and
available, and she will start coming as she begins to trust you.
Make sure she eats something everyday. If she will eat when offered
food, try to put her on canned food, it is better for her health and
you also won't have to worry if she drank enough water. If she is a
difficult eater, then leave dry food and water in a few places around
the house
How long it will take her to feel comfortable with both of you? Maybe a
few weeks, but give her as long as she needs.
By the way, she seems like a very cute cat. Congratulations.
foxfire718 - 08 Mar 2006 07:21 GMT
Sounds like you are getting some great advice. One thing I might add, she
was probably taken from her mother very young, maybe even as young as five
weeks - thats usually what has happened with pet store cats, and thats why
she does the sucking thing. I had a cat that did this too - and the
behaivor continued off and on through his whole life.
Congrats on your new furbaby, and good luck to you.
Foxfire
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> Java
Barnabas - 08 Mar 2006 20:02 GMT
> I don't know what to do. We don't want to force ourselves on her. Anyone
> ever have that problem? How long will it take her to realize we only want
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> Java
Just give her lots of time. Eventually she'll warm up to you and your
husband, Some cats are just very skiddish. Unfortunetly you never
know
what happened to them in their early years.
Just don't force it right now. Eventually she will warm up to you and
come to you for attention/love.
You've had her checked out by a vet? I always have any new cats
checked
out by a vet before they get near my other cats.
Java - 08 Mar 2006 22:24 GMT
I didn't have her checked out by me vet yet as it has been 3 days now and I
don't want to put her through the trauma of getting back in the cage in the
car to the vet and back home. Tonite I put a can of fancy feast under her
nose and she licked a bit so I went back to the kitchen and waited. I will
go back later. I have to say though that while my husband was having
breakfast she came to cuddle up against his legs. He petted her and back
under the bed she went for the day. Tonite my husband is going to his spanis
lessons and I will be alone with her so we'll see. Also I only work 3 days a
week. This morning she was laying on the foot to the bed on my bathrobe
suckling and purring and I had a few minutes to pet her. Those moments are
precious. I will keep you all posted and bring on any other ideas you have.
You are great . Thanks to you ALL
Java
> > I don't know what to do. We don't want to force ourselves on her. Anyone
> > ever have that problem? How long will it take her to realize we only want
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> checked
> out by a vet before they get near my other cats.
Barnabas - 08 Mar 2006 23:37 GMT
> I didn't have her checked out by me vet yet as it has been 3 days now and I
> don't want to put her through the trauma of getting back in the cage in the
> car to the vet and back home.
I don't want to traumatize the cat either but when i get a new cat my
top priority is
to the current cats in the house, so I keep the new cat isolated until
the vet
clears it healthwise.
> Tonite I put a can of fancy feast under her
> nose and she licked a bit so I went back to the kitchen and waited. I will
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> precious. I will keep you all posted and bring on any other ideas you have.
> You are great . Thanks to you ALL
Sounds like you're making progress. The cat is S-L-O-W-L-Y warming up
to
you. Be patient, give it lots of time. You'd be skittish too if you
were
ripped out of your house, ripped away from everyone you knew.
Look at it from the cats point of view, she is in a strange house, with
all
these strangers. Plus you don't know how many houses she has gone
through and how many families she has gone through. Even at this
young age she may have been through a large number of houses.
Give her time.