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Cat Forum / General Topics / January 2006Gave cat away
Today is a sad day. I gave my cat away to someone at work. She is 18 months old, so I owned her for about 16 months. A week ago, it seemed like a good idea, but the day before, I was sad. A week ahead of time, there was no firm date or new owner yet. Once somebody said "can I pick her up tomorrow," that bothered me. I wasn't ready yet, but I followed through on it. My cat was terrified of me today. When I fed her this morning, she was fine. I came home at 9 am, because I wanted to take her to Petsmart to get her claws trimmed. She was terrified of me. I didn't want to traumatize her twice in one day, so I left. I went to the vet, got her medical records, and gave them to the new owner. I came back at 3 pm to get the cat and she was still terrified. She hid under the bed. I waited 15 minutes. I closed the bedroom door and tried to use a broom to get her, but that didn't work. I stood the bed on end and that worked. I petted her for a minute, but she didn't want to stay in my lap, so I took her in for the claw trim and took her to work. People were asking why I would give a way such a pretty cat. I felt bad. These pictures are old, but if you want to see what she looked like as a kitten: http://www.alexanderpics.com/photos/c_pic_cat.htm Mike I am sorry you had to give up your friend If you don't mind may I ask why you could not keep her > Mike I am sorry you had to give up your friend > If you don't mind may I ask why you could not keep her I could keep her, but I feel like she's in the way a lot. She was gaining weight and I think part of the problem is lack of exercise. She was strictly an indoor cat even though she was born outdoors. I live alone in a one bedroom apartment. I go to work. I come home and spend some time with the cat. I go to bed. She wants to sleep with me, but I lock her out of the bedroom. It was a nightly struggle to get into the bedroom without the cat. She was lonely most of the time. I should have gotten her a playmate, but if I don't particularly like one cat, then why get two. Than you did the right thing letting her go to a place that you can give her the attention that she needs. Mike I don't know you or how old you are but you stepped up and were very mature in your decision to do the right thing. Maybe later in your life you will be able to find a four leg (s) that will make you their slave. Till than many happy thoughts and keep those pictures later on you will regret if you loss them. Matthew >> Mike I am sorry you had to give up your friend >> If you don't mind may I ask why you could not keep her [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > her a playmate, but if I don't particularly like one cat, then why get > two. >> Mike I am sorry you had to give up your friend >> If you don't mind may I ask why you could not keep her >I could keep her, but I feel like she's in the way a lot. She was gaining >weight and I think part of the problem is lack of exercise. She was [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] >cat. She was lonely most of the time. I should have gotten her a playmate, >but if I don't particularly like one cat, then why get two. Good thing you do not have children!! You probably would give them away also !!! The only good thing is it is young enough that she will bond with someone else and (Hopefully) forget her experience with you !!! Hopefully it's new human will not get rid of it because it is too much work, gains too much weight, ETC. I hope you feel rotten for a long time and never get another furbaby !! They do not deserve to be with someone the likes of you !!! >>> Mike I am sorry you had to give up your friend >>> If you don't mind may I ask why you could not keep her [quoted text clipped - 24 lines] > They do not > deserve to be with someone the likes of you !!! Michael did the right thing. He got a cat, realized it wasn't for him, and found him a new home, and felt regret about the whole thing. He didn't toss it out on the street, or bring it into a shelter, or even kill it - which a lot of people do. I can understand your frustration NMR, but cats AREN"T for everyone. (as much as I would like them to be) >>>> Mike I am sorry you had to give up your friend >>>> If you don't mind may I ask why you could not keep her [quoted text clipped - 31 lines] > it - which a lot of people do. I can understand your frustration NMR, but > cats AREN"T for everyone. (as much as I would like them to be) He did the "right thing" because he could not or would not (in my opinion, *would* not) care for it properly. Nevertheless, this is a mindset that I simply do not understand. My furbabies are family to me. Once I adopt (or they adopt me), it is a lifetime commitment. They are not disposable objects to be tossed aside if they are not "convenient." My Duffy was the victim of that type of mindset. Even though he was blind and a completely wonderful cat, he was returned to the shelter (a kill shelter) after two years. He then spent several months in a cage before I adopted him, and the woman who "returned" him had to know that there was a very good chance that he would be euthanized. Fortunately, shelter staff did everything they could to keep him until a home could be found (much to my good fortune -- and his, I think). Michael did not do that, so he did take the best course of action if he was not going to keep his cat. However, I hope he will remember this experience and *never ever* adopt another pet. MaryL >However, I hope he will remember this experience and *never ever* adopt >another pet. > >MaryL I would like to modify that last sentence (quoted above) from my own message because I think it was a bit harsh. I should have said that I hope he will remember this experience and never adopt another pet *unless he is fully prepared to make a lifelong commitment.* Michael did, indeed, do the responsible thing if he was not going to keep his cat. He found a home for her and did not simply dump her at a shelter -- and it is clear that he has some guilt feelings about the whole thing. MaryL > I would like to modify that last sentence (quoted above) from my own > message because I think it was a bit harsh. I should have said that I [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > > MaryL Mary, Whayface, whatever your name is, the bad thing about the internet is once you post something it is there forever. You responded to a post in a cold, uncaring, sarcastic, way and now after being criticized for it you want to repent. How about doing some serious thinking next time you feel the urge to belittle, bad mouth, or put down someone on a forum. Willee >> I would like to modify that last sentence (quoted above) from my own >> message because I think it was a bit harsh. I should have said that I [quoted text clipped - 14 lines] > > Willee No, I am not Whayface. We are two different people. And, no, I did not "repent" after being criticized. I stand by all except my last sentence -- and if you will check the timestamps, you will see that I updated my own post *well before* any of the other respones were sent. I was not trying to be cold, but I do indeed fail to see why many people look at animals as disposable objects. At the same time, I do appreciate the fact that Michael took responsibility for finding another home instead of simply abandoning his cat. MaryL > No, I am not Whayface. We are two different people. > MaryL Odd that both you and Whayface used the term "furbabys". No one else used that term and the rest of your post sure looked like it was from the same person. Willee >> No, I am not Whayface. We are two different people. >> MaryL [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > > Willee No, it's not the same person -- and "furbabies" is a very common term used on many cats newsgroups. Likewise, you will find that many of us use terms like "foreverhome." They are terms of endearment. You need to look beyond a single commonly-used word if you are trying to find similarities, especially if you are going to make the enormous (and incorrect) leap in thinking that we are the same person. If you take the time to check, I think you will find that my style of writing is very different than Whaycat's. Likewise, if you google, you will find *numerous* messages from both of us, and we are not always in agreement. I do not use sockpuppets. I have always posted under the same name, from the first day I used the Internet. I have used a couple of addresses, but they are consistent -- I have simply changed on a couple of occasions when spam would begin to be intrusive (and then I use that address for a long period of time). If I want to post, I do so as MaryL and I never try to avoid archiving. MaryL OK Mary, ... my bad. Sorry for the accusation. I guess I should take some of my own advice and think a bit more before posting. Willee >>> No, I am not Whayface. We are two different people. >>> MaryL [quoted text clipped - 23 lines] > > MaryL > OK Mary, ... my bad. > Sorry for the accusation. > I guess I should take some of my own advice and think a bit more before > posting. > > Willee Thanks. I guess all of us make too many assumptions sometimes. The Internet has many advantages, but one of the disadvantages is that is is easy to "speak/type first and think later." MaryL > He did the "right thing" because he could not or would not (in my opinion, > *would* not) care for it properly. Nevertheless, this is a mindset that I [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] > > MaryL What is this ... another alais for Whayface? Willee >>>> Mike I am sorry you had to give up your friend >>>> If you don't mind may I ask why you could not keep her [quoted text clipped - 31 lines] > it - which a lot of people do. I can understand your frustration NMR, but > cats AREN"T for everyone. (as much as I would like them to be) That was not from me that was from whayface this was my post "Than you did the right thing letting her go to a place that you can give her the attention that she needs. Mike I don't know you or how old you are but you stepped up and were very mature in your decision to do the right thing. Maybe later in your life you will be able to find a four leg (s) that will make you their slave. Till than many happy thoughts and keep those pictures later on you will regret if you loss them. Matthew" >>> Mike I am sorry you had to give up your friend >>> If you don't mind may I ask why you could not keep her [quoted text clipped - 24 lines] > They do not > deserve to be with someone the likes of you !!! Ya know whayface, people like you are bitter, cold, mean natured, and think they know everything. I would much rather be around someone like Mike than someone like you. At least Mike was open and honest about his feelings. He did what a responsible person should have done. He tried a cat and found it was not working out so he placed it in another home. He obviously cared what happened to the cat. Why do you feel the need to bad mouth the guy for doing the right thing. Willee >>>Mike I am sorry you had to give up your friend >>>If you don't mind may I ask why you could not keep her [quoted text clipped - 16 lines] > I hope you feel rotten for a long time and never get another furbaby !! They do not > deserve to be with someone the likes of you !!! What's the matter to you. Michael did the right thing gave the cat away to a good home. Some people just aren't cat people cantcha respect that. > > Mike I am sorry you had to give up your friend > > If you don't mind may I ask why you could not keep her [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] > cat. She was lonely most of the time. I should have gotten her a playmate, > but if I don't particularly like one cat, then why get two. Gosh. She was in the way, she was gaining weight, and you wouldn't even sleep with her. I wonder why you thought you ought to own a cat? Lisa >> > Mike I am sorry you had to give up your friend >> > If you don't mind may I ask why you could not keep her [quoted text clipped - 19 lines] > > Lisa I didn't know in advance that I wouldn't like sleeping with her. She kept waking me up in the middle of the night. I didn't mind the weight gain, but I thought that she would be healthier in a place where she got more exercise. "Michael Rhino" <news2005@alexanderpics.com> You did the right thing Michael don't question yourself > >> > Mike I am sorry you had to give up your friend > >> > If you don't mind may I ask why you could not keep her [quoted text clipped - 24 lines] > I thought that she would be healthier in a place where she got more > exercise. I think you did the right thing by giving her to someone who wanted her. Someone probably told you that cats are very low-maintenace pets, and that you should get one because it would be perfect for your bachelor lifestyle. Cats aren't all that low maintenance. They're not quite as high maintenance as dogs, but they sure can't be ignored. They needs lots of love, attention and care. Lisa > Cats aren't all that low maintenance. I disagree. I have 3 cats, and am away from the house for several days in a row regularly. They're very happy and in good shape. They get in and out through an open window, come in to sleep and eat, and mostly defecate outside. All I have to worry about is water and food--and, occasionally the vet for fighting wounds :( > > Cats aren't all that low maintenance. > > I disagree. I have 3 cats, and am away from the house for several days in > a row regularly. My cats felt blue if I even ignored them for only a couple of hours. Of course, I only owned one at a time. And they were mostly indoor cats. > They're very happy and in good shape. They get in and out through > an open window, come in to sleep and eat, and mostly defecate outside. All I have > to worry about is water and food--and, occasionally the vet for fighting wounds :( A word to the wise---they may not live long if they spend so much time outdoors. Sooner or later, something will get them. Lisa > A word to the wise---they may not live long if they spend so much time > outdoors. Sooner or later, something will get them. I know. But they love being outside-running, climbing trees, hunting, etc. And once a cat tastes the outdoors, he will be very unhappy if confined indoors. I guess a short happy life is better than a long sad one. >> A word to the wise---they may not live long if they spend so much time >> outdoors. Sooner or later, something will get them. [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > be very unhappy if confined indoors. I guess a short happy > life is better than a long sad one. Better yet is a long happy life! My cats are indoor-only and show absolutely no interest in going outdoors. There is no reason why an indoor cat should be a "sad" cat. Of course, they have *always* been indoor cats, and I provide lots of toys, scratching posts, cat trees, and attention. My first cat (who was feral when I adopted him at approximately 8 months age) lived to be almost 20 and my next cat died at the age of 16. Holly will be 11 in June, and Duffy is approximately 7. MaryL Photos of Duffy and Holly: >'o'< Duffy: http://tinyurl.com/cslwf Holly: http://tinyurl.com/9t68o Duffy and Holly together: http://tinyurl.com/8b47e Per MaryL: >My >first cat (who was feral when I adopted him at approximately 8 months age) Did it ever get to the point where it was a 100% normal domestic cat? We've had ours about a year now and, although it's come a looooong way, it still snaps out every once in awhile.  SignaturePeteCresswell > Per MaryL: >>My [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > still > snaps out every once in awhile. Yes, he became an absolutely loving, affectionate cat. Many people have told me that is unusual, but he was truly wonderful. It took 2-3 years before I would say he really "bonded" to me, and during that time I had to be super-cautious that he did not go outside. I lived in an apartment in town (on a busy street corner), and he had been trapped in a rural area -- so it could have been disastrous if he had gone outdoors. After that time, though, he gradually became one of the most affectionate cats I have seen, and he lost all interest in going outdoors on his own. He did seem to want to go out *with* me, so I trained him to walk on a harness and leash. Actually, he took me for walks rather than the other way around -- I would walk behind and let him lead the way. He seemed perfectly content with that arrangement, and I met many new friends who were delighted with the idea of a cat that would walk while in a harness. He lived to be almost 20 years of age, but the vet told me that he would not have lived more than a few weeks if he had remained outdoors on his own because it turned out that he had a severe bladder infection at the time I adopted him. MaryL > My cats are indoor-only and show > absolutely no interest in going outdoors. You sure? Cats are very curious and love to explore. If your cats had access to a permanently open window they'd eventually venture out--on their own terms. And, in time, they'd end spending more time out than in. >> My cats are indoor-only and show absolutely no interest in going >> outdoors. [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > venture out--on their own terms. And, in time, they'd end spending more > time out than in. Of course, it's possible they would go outside under those circumstances (and I *am* very careful never to leave a door open), but why should I take a chance with their health and safety when they are delightful, happy cats now? In fact, that would be an almost-certain death sentence for Duffy because he is blind and has never been outdoors. Moreover, I see dead cats by the side of the road on an increasingly frequent basis. That is not what I want for mine. MaryL Photos of Duffy and Holly: >'o'< Duffy: http://tinyurl.com/cslwf Holly: http://tinyurl.com/9t68o Duffy and Holly together: http://tinyurl.com/8b47e > now? In fact, that would be an almost-certain death sentence for Duffy > because he is blind and has never been outdoors. Your adopting of a blind cat was an admirable, selfless act. I dont know if I could do something like that. >> now? In fact, that would be an almost-certain death sentence for Duffy >> because he is blind and has never been outdoors. > > Your adopting of a blind cat was an admirable, selfless act. I dont know > if I could do something like that. Thanks. On the other hand, it has turned out that he is a tremendous gift *to me.* Duffy is a remarkable, happy, delightful, and loving little guy. I can't imagine a better companion. MaryL On Wed 25 Jan 2006 08:18:38p, Thus Spake Zarathustra, or was it MaryL? >>> My cats are indoor-only and show absolutely no interest in going >>> outdoors. [quoted text clipped - 18 lines] > Holly: http://tinyurl.com/9t68o > Duffy and Holly together: http://tinyurl.com/8b47e Sweet cats! SignatureWayne Boatwright Õ¿Õ¬ ________________________________________ Okay, okay, I take it back! UnScrew you! > > Cats aren't all that low maintenance. > > I disagree. I have 3 cats, and am away from the house for several days in > a row regularly. They're very happy and in good shape. They get in and out through > an open window, come in to sleep and eat, and mostly defecate outside. All I have > to worry about is water and food--and, occasionally the vet for fighting wounds :( I'm sure your neighbors love you! jw You mention she was "terrified of me" several times. Why would a cat, that you owned for 16 months, be so terrified of you??? > You mention she was "terrified of me" several times. Why would a cat, > that you owned for 16 months, be so terrified of you??? That is easy to answer animals pick up on human emotions if he was stressed out from the day was going to bring the furball would have picked up on it to. My cats know when I am in a bad mood and stay clear till I am doing better don't yours > You mention she was "terrified of me" several times. Why would a cat, > that you owned for 16 months, be so terrified of you??? Normally it isn't. It wasn't the day before. When it senses that I want to put it in the pet carrier, it suddenly is. It doesn't like getting its claws trimmed or going to the vet. Whatever his reason was it was the right thing to do, let the dear one go to a owner that had the time for the responsibility of owning a pet. He admitted that he was gone alot and lived in a small apt. 2 cats might not of been the most pratical. Our two furbabys sleep with us, my mother loved having my cat but did not like her sleeping with her. Neko likes the foot of the bed or right beside her daddy's tummy. Sissy likes to sleep on my pillow. It doesn't bother me but my husband would never allow his to be on the pillow. Michael realized that having a cat was not for him and found a suitable home. > Today is a sad day. I gave my cat away to someone at work. She is 18 > months old, so I owned her for about 16 months. A week ago, it seemed like [quoted text clipped - 18 lines] > > http://www.alexanderpics.com/photos/c_pic_cat.htm What i dont understand is why get a cat if you dont particularly like one. I hope that poor baby has gone to a good home and is much loved Mandy > Today is a sad day. I gave my cat away to someone at work. She is 18 > months old, so I owned her for about 16 months. A week ago, it seemed like [quoted text clipped - 18 lines] > > http://www.alexanderpics.com/photos/c_pic_cat.htm Mandy, how does a person know in advance? Kittens are so cute and playful. I think that was an intentional design of nature. Perhaps he (or she) was lonley and thought a kitty would be a good compainion. They do require less attention than a dog. After a few weeks or months realized they did not like the cat and decided to disolve the relationship. People do that all the time ... it is called divorce. Willee > What i dont understand is why get a cat if you dont particularly like one. > I hope that poor baby has gone to a good home and is much loved > Mandy > Mandy, how does a person know in advance? > Kittens are so cute and playful. [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > > Willee LOL.. thanks for the chuckle.. it was needed this morning. the bit on here about kittens are so cute and playful and it being an intentional design, reminded me of Rick Cowlings "Ive got Cats" where he sings " don't know how this all got started, Must be an evil feline scam These little kittens sucker you with cuteness, So you take them home Then they take your house and make you buy them kitty toys and sand, " www.ivegotcats.com "~*Connie*~" <no@spam.com> wrote in message On your earlier comment that was not me that said what you quoted that was whayface |
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