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Lexie - 10 Aug 2005 02:42 GMT
I hope someone can offer good advice for this problem. I've had two
cats for about 8 and 7 years, respectively. A month ago, I agreed to
take in a younger stray male who obviously needed help. He's a
beautiful, personable cat, but he's a bully to my two other girls.
My younger girl cat, Josie, has always been a bit psychotic--timid,
pretty skittish and nervous--but sweet. My other girl, Lucy, was the
queen of the house until Frank got here. I've had him for a month,
and he's got his own room upstairs with food and litterbox. He's
been to the vet for all his shots, snip-snip, worming, etc.
Financially, I'm into this cat for about $500 already.

When Frank is out of his room, he beats up Lucy, he beats up Josie,
and he's taken some serious swipes at the dog, who is also a
sweetheart. Josie has lost her hiding places downstairs (he's
flushed her out), and she spends most of her time cowering in my
bedroom. Delicate creature that she is, she's taken to peeing
outside the litterbox in the laundryroom (oh, man!). Lucy,
previously alpha cat, hides in my office. Frank's a beautiful, blue-
eyed Siamese/tabby mix and s-o-o sweet one-on-one. But he's making
my girls miserable.

He can't live in that room upstairs for the rest of his life. I know
a month might not be long enough, but I'm not sure we're making any
progress. They are all indoor cats. Does anyone here have any ideas?
Thanks in advance. We're all pretty unhappy.

Lexie
Sparky Polastri - 10 Aug 2005 14:27 GMT
Cats have pecking order like wolves or cows. (yes, cows)

You have to let them work it out, it's hard to do that if your original
babies end up low on the pecking order.  At one point, the females will
either kick his butt or "give in" to him and let him be boss, it should
settle into a stable pattern. (It took mine a _year_ to work it all out, so
be patient.)

There will always be dominance scraps among them initiated by the alpha.
(kicking others off the windowsill, choice chairs, eating first, etc.  It
NEVER ends.

You should just view it is as one of the aspects of cat behavior you can't
change.

You might get it to be less severe by punishing aggressive behavior with a
squirt bottle or something.

>I hope someone can offer good advice for this problem. I've had two
> cats for about 8 and 7 years, respectively. A month ago, I agreed to
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> Lexie
Lexie - 11 Aug 2005 08:11 GMT
Thanks, Sparky.  I've read about this pecking order, and I'll admit, it
IS hard to see my girls cowering in the presence of this little
upstart.  But when it comes to down-and-dirty attacks, I do jump in.
That's just not acceptable.  No bloodshed.  :)

Lexie
 
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