You should have started out with them separated, then worked
up to a meeting. How long have you had the female?

Has he been neutered? (and she?) If not get him done asap,as it can reduce
aggression.

When they fight , is there lots of yelling and her screaming? or is it more
equal fight, with lil or no screaming? Who usually wins? Is she scared of
him otherwise? Is she hiding a lot? do they ever lick each other?

If its a proper fight, furr on the back would be up, (so they appear
bigger),and there would be a helluva lot of yelling going on, serious biting
and one scared would be terrified. If it s a playfight, there could be a bit
of growling and some yelling but body furr would be down, tail wouldn;t be
fluffed up, and biting would be more like a lil nibble rather then a bite.

If the fights become too much, get a water spray bottle,and without saying
anything, just spray the water on him/them when the fight gets more serious
or more painful in your opinion.Do it a few times, they should hopefully
associate water with fight and stop it! :)

My Charlie was a stray, a big boy, and when he moved himself in, he started
bullying everyone in to submission.Although I don't think he was really
mean, this was just his "street way" of half playing half assorting
dominance. Tiara got the worse attacks and cried for a while, then one day
she had enough, turned on him yelled and beat him back, and he suddenly
changed! Never bothered her again. Typical bully :) But she has not
forgotten what hes done and does not like him too much to this day(3yrs
later) so whenever he comes too near she'll punch him as a warning :) Shadow
did the same. Actually all the 3 boys are terrified of her, and you can see
willnever cross her way, and if she is sitting on the floor, will rather go
across 7 obstacles then pass next to her :) So funny :) Then they say men
are a stranger sex he he :) Jus kiddin :)

Gee

I think you should get some very experienced person to come and visit and
watch them, and tell you what they are doing.

Margaret