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poor cat has to get used to being an indoor cat for real now
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Jake Blues - 02 Dec 2003 22:33 GMT Hi y'all. I moved into this new place in June. Started letting the cat out after she got used to the new apartment. She always came back in. Well, at the beginning of August i decided to stop letting her out, in part because it's against the rules, and in part out of fear of something happening to her. Well, for six weeks i kept her in. She meowed and meowed and meowed and meowed, driving me nuts. Finally, in about the middle of September she wore me down so i started letting her out the screen window again. But just recently, the maintenance people have fixed up both screens so they can't be moved, at least not without risking damage to them. Probably they saw the screens repeatedly our of their grooves and were worried about break-ins, and any good maintenance people would be. But dang it, now i actually have to abide by the rules! I have no choice! And at this moment, my cat is meowing very loudly to be let out. Sometimes she'll get right up to my face and meow, as if to say, "Hey what did i do? Why are you putting me on restriction? Come on, let me out! There are lots of birds, bugs, and mice that desperately need killing, after all." Poor kitty. I can open the window, but that's it. i don't even want to do that right now, as it is getting colder nowadays. Any ideas on how i can go about easing her pain, so to speak? Failing that, how do i SHUT HER THE HELL UP!?
David Pendleton - 04 Dec 2003 07:33 GMT Let her out and eventually it will kill her.
Keep her inside, If she yowls to go out, big deal. Would you rather find her by the side of the road, as road-kill, or mangled and killed by some other animal?
I've been there, and I've done that. Find something that entertains her, and play with her inside -- regularly.
It's not that hard, and she'll get used to being inside -- and will live a lot longer.
-- ROT13 my email address to reply: qnircra@gpd.arg
> Hi y'all. > I moved into this new place in June. Started letting the cat out after she [quoted text clipped - 18 lines] > Any ideas on how i can go about easing her pain, so to speak? Failing that, > how do i SHUT HER THE HELL UP!? Sherry - 04 Dec 2003 10:59 GMT Jake Blues wrote:
>> Hi y'all. >> I moved into this new place in June. Started letting the cat out after she [quoted text clipped - 22 lines] >that, >> how do i SHUT HER THE HELL UP!? I'm sure you've considered all the usual suggestions.... like cat trees, more toys, more time with her. All that would help. But have you considered getting her a companion cat? Think she might accept another cat? It would keep her occupied when you're gone, and really it's no harder to take care of 2 than 1, a bit more expensive with vet bills and all. Good luck.
Sherry
Luvskats00 - 04 Dec 2003 12:36 GMT >... have you considered getting >her a companion cat? Think she >might accept another cat? It would >keep her >occupied when you're gone, and >really it's no harder to take care of >2 than 1....
Not so fast....I, too, got a second cat as a companion cat to my 4 year old (neutered) male. He lived (semi) successfully with a female cat for 4 years...Trouble is...he didn't accept this new cat and now, I have to alternate my time between the 2 darlings. Keep one in the bedroom and the other in the rest of the place. I hear from people who have 3-4-5-6 and more cats. I got the 2 who won't let me live in peace <sigh
Sherry - 04 Dec 2003 20:04 GMT >>... have you considered getting >>her a companion cat? Think she >might accept another cat? It would >keep her [quoted text clipped - 9 lines] >rest of the place. I hear from people who have 3-4-5-6 and more cats. I got >the 2 who won't let me live in peace <sigh> Of course there are exceptions, and there are cats who are only happy being the only cat. I feel sorry for these cats who have owners who are away most of the day, though. Still, I think the majority of cats benefit from a companion, but introducing the new cat slowly and properly is very important.
Sherry
JM - 04 Dec 2003 13:01 GMT >Let her out and eventually it will kill her. Yeah, didn't you know? Cats evolved inside people home's. It is only in the last decades that they have been allowed outside by irresponsible owners.
All animals must be kept indoors where they belong, and doing so is the responsibility of us humans. I mean, there is still whales at large, why doesn't anyone catch them and put them in a tank where it's safe? I am sure they will be much happier.
Sheesh...
JM
Luvskats00 - 04 Dec 2003 14:10 GMT JM..no email addy provided says
>.... I mean, there is still whales at >large, why doesn't anyone catch >them and put them in a tank where it's >safe? .... 1. You mean...there ARE (not-there is). 2. Whales have not been domesticated...NO family has a whale in a pool in their backyard. Cats have been domesticated for hundreds and hundreds of year.
JM - 04 Dec 2003 15:51 GMT >1. You mean...there ARE (not-there is). Cheap shot. I apologize for my command of your language not being perfect. At least I can speak 4 languages besides my native one, albeit with the occasional mistake. How about you?
> 2. Whales have not been >domesticated...NO family has a whale in a pool in their backyard. Cats have >been domesticated for hundreds and hundreds of year. Have cats have been kept solely inside for hundreds of years? You guys make it sound like they weren't made for living outside. Do you really think that two-hundred years ago, people locked their cats in?
I'm not saying you should just let them out anywhere (I bought my house with an eye on letting the cats out, it is safe) but to say that any cat that goes outside gets killed is nonsense. I have known plenty of 18 year old cats that spent most of their life outside.
If you want to keep your cat safe and unhappy, never let it outside. If you want it to live a happy life with the inherent risks that come with it, let it outside where it wants to go. If you live somewhere where it's not safe or possible for them to go outside, don't live with one.
Outside or in, it's their choice. Just my opinion, but my cats love me for it. (note that unlike some, I do not present my opinions as thruths)
JM
Peter Wilkins - 04 Dec 2003 20:50 GMT >>1. You mean...there ARE (not-there is). > >Cheap shot. I apologize for my command of your language not being >perfect. At least I can speak 4 languages besides my native one, >albeit with the occasional mistake. How about you? Hey, JM, don't you realise some people just don't understand satire and don't realise when they are being sent up? We really should start a "Save the Whales" programme to domesticate the whale and have one in every swimming pool if we really want to prevent extinction.
Oh no, sorry, make that two in every pool (one male, one female) if we really want to prevent extinction.
As for speaking 4 languages, congrats, but no big deal, I speak my native Australian (Strine) and also English, American and a bit of that East Coast derived dialect Noo Joisie-ish, so I'm not too far behind.....
 Signature Regards, Peter Wilkins
Luvskats00 - 04 Dec 2003 22:48 GMT JM no email addy says
> I apologize for my command of >your language not being >perfect. At least I can speak 4 >languages besides my native one... Actually, I have many online conversations with friends from germany, spain, france and japan. Online translators are wonderful.
>Have cats have been kept solely >inside for hundreds of years? >....Do you really >think that two-hundred years ago, >people locked their cats in? 1. There's a lot more people NOW than in the olden times. Education regarding the issue of inside vs outside has been researched 100x since the olden times.
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equalizer - 04 Dec 2003 21:52 GMT >JM..no email addy provided says > [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] >domesticated...NO family has a whale in a pool in their backyard. Cats have >been domesticated for hundreds and hundreds of year. ^^^^ Should be 'years'.
JM - 05 Dec 2003 09:17 GMT >>been domesticated for hundreds and hundreds of year. > ^^^^ Should be 'years'. Great contribution to the discussion.
Ah well, we best stop bickering about it as it's pointless anyway. Some have strong beliefs one way, other feel differently. I myself probably went too far making blanket statements, but then it was the 'let her outside and it will kill her' that got me going. That's like saying to those of us who do let our cats out that we treat our animals badly and don't care about them.
I lived on the 8th story of an apartment block for 3 years, and my cats who were used to going outside became quite unhappy, I could tell. Now I have a house with a garden and their joy is showing. Personally, I prefer it that way, including the risks (which aren't that great, like I said, cat safety was a big factor in picking my house).
I would like to make a few last remarks though. Those of you who who critizise my English, I think that is silly, bordering on childish. Luvskats, you say you use an online translator. You may not know because you don't speak the other language, but what comes out of them is grammaticaly appalling. You can just about understand what someone is trying to say but that's it. Do your friends give you stick if you send them a message that has errors in it, or do they just try to understand what it is you are trying to tell them?
But anyway, this one I can't win apparently: If I write English to the best of my abilty I get critizised, same as if I were to use an online translator. Perhaps the FAQ for this NG should say 'do not post if you don't have a degree in English'.
About cats killing birds, according to some that is 'another discussion'. What discussion? Cats kill birds, period. It is their nature. You can pretend your domesticated indoor-only cat wouldn't do it, but believe me, given the chance he would love to sink his fangs into a nice little birdy. We can discuss that among each other, or with our cats, until we are blue in the face, it will never change. Cats are cruel killers, thats's a natural fact.
And I don't know what my cats base their decision to go out on. No, they don't consider cars, bad people and the like. They just follow their instincts and precious little hearts. As their human provider, I see it as my resposibility to provide them with an environment where they can do so, and therefore I did.
Greetings to all!
JM
Agua Girl - 05 Dec 2003 14:09 GMT > >>been domesticated for hundreds and hundreds of year. > > ^^^^ Should be 'years'. [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] > saying to those of us who do let our cats out that we treat our > animals badly and don't care about them. Funny, I let my cat out in a protected area too but I didn't see the statement as critical of me personally. The OP lives in an apartment complex and the statement was in response to that particular person letting their cat outside.
> I lived on the 8th story of an apartment block for 3 years, and my > cats who were used to going outside became quite unhappy, I could > tell. Now I have a house with a garden and their joy is showing. > Personally, I prefer it that way, including the risks (which aren't > that great, like I said, cat safety was a big factor in picking my > house). Good for you and lucky cat. Not everyone has that kind of control over their environment. If I wanted to...I could take your statement about providing your cat with a yard personally.... as if the fact that I couldn't afford a yard makes me a bad owner or that only home owners should be allowed to have cats. I know you didn't mean it that way...just pointing out how anything can be taken personally if you try hard enough.
> I would like to make a few last remarks though. Those of you who who > critizise my English, I think that is silly, bordering on childish. [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > send them a message that has errors in it, or do they just try to > understand what it is you are trying to tell them? People do that when they feel threatened or angered by someone's statement. By your own admission you painted a broad stroke with your first response. It even got my hackles up and that's not usually an easy thing to do. I admit when I first started posting here not long ago, I forgot that not everyone lives in the same environment..or even the same country as I do so those things I held to be true were not true for them. You should preface not only your statements but your beliefs with "in my opinion" or " I think". It keeps people from getting defensive and reminds you (and I mean you as in all of us) that we all live in different realities.
> But anyway, this one I can't win apparently: If I write English to the > best of my abilty I get critizised, same as if I were to use an online > translator. Perhaps the FAQ for this NG should say 'do not post if you > don't have a degree in English'.
> About cats killing birds, according to some that is 'another > discussion'. What discussion? Cats kill birds, period. It is their [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > with our cats, until we are blue in the face, it will never change. > Cats are cruel killers, thats's a natural fact. Which is why bird lovers don't like cats. :-) It's also why someone might want to keep their cat indoors..if their neighbor is a bird lover and a cat hater.
> And I don't know what my cats base their decision to go out on. No, > they don't consider cars, bad people and the like. They just follow > their instincts and precious little hearts. As their human provider, I > see it as my resposibility to provide them with an environment where > they can do so, and therefore I did. The definition of a good owner is not one that gives into their every whim. And again, your statement about providing them a good environment could be construed as saying those who live in apartments or in area's that they can't let their cats out are some how bad owners. Think about how many people live in urban areas versus suburban areas. Now think of the millions of cats in the world. It isn't possible for every cat to live in the best possible environment any more than it's possible for every person to. Besides, there haven't been any studies that prove living indoors some how effects the quality of a cat's life or its "happiness" while there have been dozens proving that indoor cats live longer healthier lives (less exposure to disease). You can believe as I do that my cat "needs" to go out but there really isn't any scientific basis for that belief and it's not like my cat can really tell me. She seems to think I should let her have my fried chicken wings but I am not going to give her cooked bones no matter how much she meows. There is nothing wrong in denying your cat something you know is bad for them and there is no reason why an apartment dwelling cat can't live a long and HAPPY life in doors. Every situation is different and each owner has to make these decisions based on their own set of circumstances. Just my .02 :-)
AG
JM - 05 Dec 2003 14:57 GMT Hi,
>> Personally, I prefer it that way... > >Good for you and lucky cat. Not everyone has that kind of >control over their environment. If I wanted to...I could take >your statement about providing your cat with a yard personally.... As I said, my personal preference. Doesn't have to be anyones else's.
>true for them. You should preface not only your statements but your >beliefs with "in my opinion" or " I think". It keeps people from getting True, but I do make at least some effort to bring across the fact that they are just my opinions. The posting that I responded too originally is as bad as any of mine, much worse actually, but that seems to be okay since he subscribes to the 'other view'.
I responded to that posting with some (pretty obvious, I'd say) sarcasm, next thing I know I get flamed. Why don't you guys flame David Pendleton too?
>> Cats are cruel killers, thats's a natural fact. I still say this is fact and not opinion... ;-) Sorry birdlovers... I don't encourage my cats to kill anything but I don't discourage them either. (Not that they'd listen) (And before people complain my cats kill birds, there is loads of strays in my area so birds have it tough anyway. Actually quite often the domestic cats chase off the strays which will enhance chances of survival for birds, since the domestics are fed and will not hunt for food.)
>> As their human provider, I >> see it as my resposibility to provide them with an environment where >> they can do so, and therefore I did. /I/ see it as /my/ responsibility. I'm not saying (and shouldn't have implied) that if you can't provide them with an outdoors you are a bad owner. So apologies to all whom I offended. But if I know that if I couldn't provide that for them, I would rather they live with someone who could.
Other than letting them out, I don't give in to their every whim. They don't get any human food, for instance. They have also all been fixed and chipped and get their shots every year. Basically, I just let them do their cat thing... Which may be dangerous at times, but danger is an inherent quality of life, IMO.
And about the heatlth issue: I am sure you could find those that say it's healthier inside since they are not exposed to disease and traffic, or those that say it's better for them to go outside where they get a real cardiovascular workout and their immune system in being put to work..
Live & let live, JM
M.C. Mullen - 05 Dec 2003 19:46 GMT | She seems to think I should let her have my fried chicken wings but | I am not going to give her cooked bones no matter how much she meows. [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] | | AG To make the whole discussion short: There are some happy indoor only cats (I personally know quite a few of them), and there are a lot of happy outdoor cats too.
But I dare to say that it doesn't work indoors for a while and then outdoors again and back to indoors only. It's either one or the other.
Carola
Wendy - 06 Dec 2003 12:53 GMT | She seems to think I should let her have my fried chicken wings but | I am not going to give her cooked bones no matter how much she meows. | There is nothing wrong in denying your cat something you know is bad | for them and there is no reason why an apartment dwelling cat can't live | a long and HAPPY life in doors. Every situation is different and each owner
| has to make these decisions based on their own set of circumstances. Just | my .02 :-) | | AG To make the whole discussion short: There are some happy indoor only cats (I personally know quite a few of them), and there are a lot of happy outdoor cats too.
But I dare to say that it doesn't work indoors for a while and then outdoors again and back to indoors only. It's either one or the other.
Carola
I've had indoor only cats that totally freaked if they went outside. I've had a cat who was an outside cat before I adopted her and there was no keeping her in. I currently have a cat who started out outside. It took one cat fight that she lost to convince her that inside is the way to go for her. Yes, it depends on the cat. I'm just a little surprised that someone hasn't suggested that the poster try leash training the cat. It might not work but if it does she would get to go outside and still be in compliance with the apartment rules. As she would be supervised it would also keep her safe if this is a concern.
Agua Girl - 04 Dec 2003 15:58 GMT > >Let her out and eventually it will kill her. > > Yeah, didn't you know? Cats evolved inside people home's. It is only > in the last decades that they have been allowed outside by > irresponsible owners. Actually the domestic house cat..the one we discuss in here did "evolve" inside homes. That's how they became domesticated. They did not evolve next to the 405 fwy or in downtown London.
I know you think cats can survive outside and if it weren't for the human population they could..but their hunting instincts don't help them with automobiles, pesticides or twisted humans. They also don't have much left to hunt since we do our best to kill anything that moves. Gotta say there aren't alot of mice or rats in my neighborhood..certainly not enough to support a population of cats.
So get over yourself and do a little research. It's not the outdoors that is a danger to cats...it's the people living out there.
> All animals must be kept indoors where they belong, and doing so is > the responsibility of us humans. I mean, there is still whales at > large, why doesn't anyone catch them and put them in a tank where it's > safe? I am sure they will be much happier. I am sure this is supposed to be some kind of parallel but a whale and a cat????? You do know that we are talking about domesticated cats right? Domesticated....domicile...... get it? If we were discussing keeping Lynx or Belgian tigers indoors than the whale thing might make sense but in this context it's just silly.
AG
JM - 04 Dec 2003 16:22 GMT >Actually the domestic house cat..the one we discuss in here did >"evolve" inside homes. That's how they became domesticated. >They did not evolve next to the 405 fwy or in downtown London. I admit I am not an expert on evolution theory, but I am sure it wasn't like people domesticated tigers which then turned into little kitties. First there were smallish cats living in the wild, then they got domesticated.
>I know you think cats can survive outside and if it weren't for the >human population they could..but their hunting instincts don't help [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] >or rats in my neighborhood..certainly not enough to support >a population of cats. My cats don't have to survive outside, and I'm not saying any cat should. If they are hungry, sleepy or want a skritchin', they can come inside where it's nice and warm. If they want to hunt some birds, lie in the sun or go pick a fight, they can go outside. It's up to them.
>So get over yourself and do a little research. It's not the outdoors >that is a danger to cats...it's the people living out there. I don't see a need to get over expressing my opinions, however much they may differ from other people's. I can deal with others not sharing them.
>> All animals must be kept indoors where they belong, and doing so is >> the responsibility of us humans. I mean, there is still whales at [quoted text clipped - 6 lines] >keeping Lynx or Belgian tigers indoors than the whale thing might make >sense but in this context it's just silly. Animals don't like being held captive, especially intelligent ones. Why do you think the OP's cat is meowing?
JM
Luvskats00 - 04 Dec 2003 22:42 GMT JM..no email address listed writes
>My cats don't have to survive >outside...If they want to hunt some birds, lie >in the sun or go pick a fight, they >can go outside. It's up to them.
Please document how cats - your cats - were able to come up with the informed decision about going outside? I won't get into the hunting birds issue (which is another protest altogether), but cats, for the most part, are NOT aware of the perils of going outside. The perils, btw, have been posted hundreds of times. No need to write them again.
Agua Girl - 05 Dec 2003 06:30 GMT > >Actually the domestic house cat..the one we discuss in here did > >"evolve" inside homes. That's how they became domesticated. [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > kitties. First there were smallish cats living in the wild, then they > got domesticated. Got domesticated as in relied on humans for care.
> >I know you think cats can survive outside and if it weren't for the > >human population they could..but their hunting instincts don't help [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > inside where it's nice and warm. If they want to hunt some birds, lie > in the sun or go pick a fight, they can go outside. It's up to them. That's fine if you live in an urban or country area but the OP lives in an apartment complex so obviously there are other considerations such as cars and miscreants. You may have missed the post from the guy who got tired of his neighbors cats visits so he trapped it and dumped it a few miles away. Is that the future you want for your cat?
> >So get over yourself and do a little research. It's not the outdoors > >that is a danger to cats...it's the people living out there. > > I don't see a need to get over expressing my opinions, however much > they may differ from other people's. I can deal with others not > sharing them. It was the obvious sarcasm in your response that illicited a like one in me. You can express your opinion that cats need some freedom ..many have. Just remember that every cat and every situation is unique. What's good for your cat may not be good for another depending on the environment.
> >> All animals must be kept indoors where they belong, and doing so is > >> the responsibility of us humans. I mean, there is still whales at [quoted text clipped - 9 lines] > Animals don't like being held captive, especially intelligent ones. > Why do you think the OP's cat is meowing? Because it's routine was interrupted and it doesn't understand why. Sometimes even humans have to do things they don't want to or give up things they like because they aren't good for them. The difference is we can understand the reasoning. If you could tell your cat "hey, I'd like to let you out but look at these pictures of road kill..now look at the cars in the parking lot. I don't want you to look like these pictures". The cat would probably agree and settle down nicely inside. Doesn't work so just like with a 2 year old child you have to put up with the yelling..or meowing...and know that you are smarter and you know best.
For the record...my cat goes outside. However I have a home with a large back yard that my cat either won't or can't leave. She doesn't climb so the only dangers to her are the diseases left behind by the neighborhood strays. If I had to move to an apartment where she couldn't safely go out she would learn to be an indoor kitty too...no matter how much she meowed.
AG
M.C. Mullen - 05 Dec 2003 05:34 GMT | >Let her out and eventually it will kill her. | [quoted text clipped - 10 lines] | | JM Yes I better keep my cat inside - it might fall into the pool and get eaten. LOL
Carola
Zachariahski - 05 Dec 2003 20:31 GMT M.C. Mullen aka Crayola flushed and wrote :
>| >Let her out and eventually it will kill her. >| [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] > >Yes I better keep my cat inside - it might fall into the pool and get eaten. A pussy being eaten? I see no problem with that.
:-) erin - 04 Dec 2003 20:45 GMT Can you take the cat outside supervised for a short time? This might help ween the cat and give you a little solitude for a little while.
> Hi y'all. > I moved into this new place in June. Started letting the cat out after she [quoted text clipped - 18 lines] > Any ideas on how i can go about easing her pain, so to speak? Failing that, > how do i SHUT HER THE HELL UP!? Jake Blues - 04 Dec 2003 22:10 GMT Thought i'd contribute this to the discusion about domesticated cats. No wonder she wants out.
A Staff Report by the Straight Dope Science Advisory Board What was the ancestor of the house cat? 01-Mar-2001 Dear Straight Dope: As I am being terrorized by a cat on catnip, I am forced to ponder the question, "What was the ancestor to the house cat?" Specifically, what did we domesticate to make the beast and what does it look like? Almost everyone knows that dogs are domesticated wolves (and in fact share the same genes). So where did these ferocious monsters comes from (and can I send mine back there?) --Jerry SDSTAFF Doug replies: That's an easy one. The house cat was bred about 7,000 years ago from the African wild cat, Felis sylvestris lybica . (In older classification schemes, this was considered a separate species; see www.primenet.com/~brendel/awild.html .) Accordingly, the name considered proper for the house cat these days is Felis sylvestris catus, rather than Felis catus . ( Felis, sylvestris --a little light bulb is going off in your head, right?) There are virtually no differences between house cats and wild cats, unless you're talking about all the odd human-designed breeds of house cats. Wild cats look and act like gray tabbies (see www.britannia.org/cats/felis-sylvestris/ ), so if that's what your cat is, you have a pretty good idea of what the ancestral house cat was like. As for the catnip, incidentally, it's a type of mint, Nepeta cataria . It produces a strong insect-repellent chemical that purely by coincidence is similar to cat pheromones. --SDSTAFF Doug Straight Dope Science Advisory Board [
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