Hi everyone,
I have two cats I adopted from a rescue organization almost 2 years ago.
They were not from the same litter but got along fine together. They are
both about 3 years old.
We just adopted a new kitten and they HATE him! They both hiss at him and
have even swatted at him! The kitten is a sweet darling and just plays and
tries to be friendly with the older cats.
One of my older cats has turned into a big brat - he will sit on the table
where he is not supposed to be and definantly will not get down, even when I
try to pick him up. So if he won't get down I will go over and make a big
fuss over him and hug him and pat him on the back which makes him get down
quick! It's like having a bad little child.
Is there anything I can do to facilitate them getting along? Do you think
they will ever accept the kitten? How long does it normally take? We've had
the kitten for 2 days now, I know that's not a long time, but I don't want
any of the cats to be unhappy or live in fear of one another. The funniest
thing is, the kitten is lucky if he weighs as much as a roll of toilet paper
and my two big fat boys weigh 15 pounds each! They are so much bigger than
him but are afraid of him! Help!!!!!!!!
David & Laurie
Iso - 24 Oct 2003 01:48 GMT
David & Laurie,
Remember that cats do not need to be social creatures - unlike the
pack-orientated dog; they function happily on their own without a social
structure around them. They are unlikely to feel the 'need' for a companion
even though you would wish to have another cat around. You cannot force cats
to like each other - some will live with a newcomer easily, others will
never relate, or they may just manage to live alongside each other in an
uneasy truce - you can only try. However, if there is no competition for
food or safe sleeping places then cats will accept each other eventually and
some will even seem to form close bonds with one another. While it may be a
matter of feline choice as to whether cats relate, how you introduce a new
cat or kitten into your home and to a resident cat or cats can make the
difference between success and failure. Once a relationship becomes violent
or very fearful and the cat feels threatened, it can be very difficult to
change the behavior patterns. Thus, careful introductions which prevent
excessive reactions and take things slowly are vital. So far from your
description of how you introduced the kitten to the cat, you have done
everything correct. Either it accepts the kitten or it doesn't. You can't
force the relationship. You need to give it more time. If in a few weeks or
a month the same behavior is happening, you may have a problem. There are
allegedly tricks that you can use to help accommodate all the cats, such as
alienating the kitten in another room with a door. This way the other cats
cannot harm the kitten and get use to the scent of another cat. Another is
showing little to no affection to the kitten and reinforcing the other two
cats with petting and treats. Those suggestions may work, but for me I just
let the cats come together on their own. Remember, you are dealing with
cats, not tiger cubs.
XMar - 24 Oct 2003 02:21 GMT
Give it a least a month...it takes time...
The hissing and swatting is very normal behavior and is a way of them
establishing thier boundries...
Its important that you give your two older cats attention so they know
that you have not abandened them..PLUS its important that they see you
pet and show affection with the kitten. that way THEY know you accept
the kitten...
I got a new kitten myself back in Sept. and have two older cats as
well...It has taken a few weeks but they are all becoming quiet friendly
to the point that the middle cat and the kitten will even sleep next to
each other
Be patient. Show love and affection to all three in the presences of all
three...If one of them shows some timidity the also give them some love
and affection in private where they feel and know they are safe with you...
> Hi everyone,
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> David & Laurie
onebyone - 26 Oct 2003 06:17 GMT
Yes, Dave, you need to give this TIME. This is VERY natural feline behavior,
to hiss and swat. Here is a link that has some terrific info For you;
http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Pointe/9352/owners.html
I predict that in less than a week, there will start to be some playful
inter-changes.
> Give it a least a month...it takes time...
> The hissing and swatting is very normal behavior and is a way of them
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> > David & Laurie
Dave Barak - 26 Oct 2003 17:04 GMT
Thanks everyone for your advice and insight. The cats are beginning to take
to the kitten! They will sniff noses for a bit and today the kitten was
chasing one of them around the house! I hope that soon they will be like old
friends. A few times the cats have swatted at the kitten but now it's more
playful than spiteful. Thanks again!!
Sarah - 27 Oct 2003 05:46 GMT
I have a 4 year old spayed female cat and resently got a male kitten.
He was 2 months when I got him. He is about 4 1/2 months now and
although they do play together a bit the female will still growl and
hiss whenever the kitten even gets close to her.
I will be getting the kitten fixed in a couple of days. Wondering if
the female with know this change and if this will help this situation.
Thanks,
Sarah
>Thanks everyone for your advice and insight. The cats are beginning to take
>to the kitten! They will sniff noses for a bit and today the kitten was
>chasing one of them around the house! I hope that soon they will be like old
>friends. A few times the cats have swatted at the kitten but now it's more
>playful than spiteful. Thanks again!!
Dave Barak - 29 Oct 2003 02:43 GMT
Well get this - my wife brought the kitten home last Wednesday night and
today, Tuesday, both of the adult cats and the kittens are playing together!
They mostly swat at each other playfully and wrestle. In the morning they
get "the crazies" and it sounds like a herd of buffalo stampeding through
the house. Even the kitten makes a lot of noise when he is bounding around!
Thank you everyone for your advice and stories. I think all of our good boys
are going to get along just fine :-)
XMar - 29 Oct 2003 04:32 GMT
WONDERFUL !!!
My three girls do the very thing you mention...run around like a herd of
buffalo.
You can tell they are happy and enjoying themselves.
Its fun to watch the different elements of their individual
personalities emerge as time passes.
I know you and your wife are going to have fun watching them interact
and be wonderful friends for each other.
:)
> Well get this - my wife brought the kitten home last Wednesday night and
> today, Tuesday, both of the adult cats and the kittens are playing together!
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> Thank you everyone for your advice and stories. I think all of our good boys
> are going to get along just fine :-)