Hi I run a cat rescue and have always had cats. since doing rescue I
have learned a lot about different cat personality traits and how to
give them the best start in a new home.
Yes the #1 thing is to always let them come out when they are ready to
meet you for some the crate is the den they feel safe when surrounded
on all sides.
I have had some cats that did not decide it was really safe to be
social till they had been with us a year so be patient, don't give up
and let them have what ever time they need.
#2 Also food is a great way to make friends with cats, try just sitting
near them as they eat if they will let you talk to them softly and when
you can offer treats to them.
#3 Never grab them and hug them or hold them till they are ready.
#4  Many cats don't like for you to reach for the top of the head to
pet right away or ever, I always let them sniff my hand first and if
they are still hear they may rub on your hand (of course just holding
catnip before can't hurt either) try to scratch the cheek area or under
the chin before trying for the head. If they seem to be getting upset
stop and just talk to them.
#5  Get down on their level sit on the floor and talk
#6 Don't give them full run of the house at first a small room is best
I always suggest your bedroom so a cat can get to know you when you are
peaceful and asleep, make sure they have food and water and litter box
of course!
# 7  I try and have some places to hide for them like carriers with the
door off and a blanket over it if you don't have a cat condo post that
has a box to get in. If in your room they will probably choose under
your bed.
# 8 The plug in Feliway and the herbal Rescue Remedy in the water may
help to calm them too.
If I can help let me know I'm always willing to give advice!
Sharla
kapshill@aol.com
www.ragdollrescue.com