Can you connect with a rescue group for a foster care situation?  How bout
calling The Humane Societies of New Jersey, Best Friends (in California, I
believe) and other shelters (on a google search). Maybe if you can sponsor the
cat, they can house the cat there and try to get the cat adopted out.

Unfortunately, you haven't given us any specific information.  For example,
if this group is to provide help, we would need to know exactly what your
cat is doing (other than the hint that your house looks like a tornado hit
it), how long you have had the cat, what you have done to try to correct the
problem, and any behavioral or environmental changes in both this cat and
your other cats.  Is this your most recent cat?  The oldest?  Or what?

MaryL
(take out the litter to reply)

Photos of Duffy and Holly:      >'o'<
http://tinyurl.com/8y54 (Introducing Duffy to Holly)
http://tinyurl.com/8y56 (Duffy and Holly "settle in")

M9 wrote:

I have 24 cats and have dealt with health and other issues non-stop for
what seems like forever. Attitude is everything when you're in a
situation such as mine, and I have found that acceptance of the
situation regardless of what it entails and determination to figure out
how to make things work goes a long way in helping to deal with things.
If you are feeling depressed there may be an issue there that is also
interfering with your abilities to cope. If you like, email me privately
and I may be able to help you come up with some ways to cope with this
situation better.

Megan