My boyfriend is moving in with me and is bringing over his 2 cats this
weekend.  I've got a 9-year old declawed male who is not very social.
He's got a very sociable 2-year old male and an unsocial 9-year old
declawed female.  All cats have been fixed.  His 2 cats do not get
along with each other.  I used to have another cat before my divorce
and so while my cat has lived with another (younger) cat, he has never
liked sharing his domain.  My house is fairly big, and has enough
rooms for the cats to have their independence though my cat is used to
being king of the roost right now. :)  We are planning on putting each
of his cats in their own bedroom and having mine sniff them through
the doors.  We will eventually switch one of the cats with mine, so
his cat can wander the house while mine can sniff the room he was in,
then we'll do the same with the other cat.  We are prepared for this
process to take time.

Any general advice would be greatly appreciated, as would any help
with these questions:

- His cats are used to getting up on counters in his kitchen.  My cat
does not do this, and I don't want any cats on my kitchen surfaces.  I
work from home and can monitor behavior.  What is the best way to
dissuade the cats from getting on the kitchen counters?

- His cats have free reign to their food dishes and are of a healthy
weight.  My cat is obese and gets fed twice a day, 1/4 cup of weight
management food per feeding.  Unless we can come up with a better
plan, my cat will have to have free reign to their food as well (not
weight management food).

Thanks!

CG