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xmp333@yahoo.com - 03 Nov 2003 14:50 GMT Hi,
I have a spayed female kitten (a month or so old?). She's an indoor cat and is pretty needy (meows when I'm not around, etc...).
I work full time and I spend time with friends on weekends, so there are long periods when she's alone at home. I want to do what's best for her, so I have a few questions:
1) Should I get another kitten to keep her company? If so, what gender should the kitten be?
2) Should I give her away to folks who already have some cats? I don't know if she's "bonded" with me or not so I don't know how much it would hurt her to part company with me.
Thanks.
Joe Pitt - 03 Nov 2003 16:19 GMT Kittens often do better in pairs. I would suggest a little (neutered) boy.
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> Hi, > [quoted text clipped - 13 lines] > > Thanks. kaeli - 03 Nov 2003 16:42 GMT > Kittens often do better in pairs. I would suggest a little (neutered) boy. I second that.
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Iso - 03 Nov 2003 16:52 GMT Remember that cats do not need to be social creatures - unlike the pack-orientated dog; they function happily on their own without a social structure around them. They are unlikely to feel the 'need' for a companion even though you would wish to have another cat around. Moreover, you cannot force cats to like each other - some will live with a newcomer easily, others will never relate, or they may just manage to live alongside each other in an uneasy truce - you can only try. However, if there is no competition for food or safe sleeping places (as in most good homes) then cats will accept each other eventually and some will even seem to form close bonds with one another. In conclusion, getting another cat may not solve the problem, nor would getting rid of the cat. Do you think if you keep the cat for the remainder of its life, your personal life will settle down in the future, enabling you to have more time to spend at home? If you do, and you like the idea of having a cat, keep her. If you don't think you are going to settle down, and don't like the idea of having a cat, then by all means find her a good home. As you probably already know, the transition the kitten will have to make into a new home will be easier at a younger age. In my opinion, it has always been easier to find a kitten a home, rather than a one to two year old cat. The fact that she is already house broken and an indoor cat helps. If you do decide to get another kitten, I suggest you find one at or about the same age as the kitten you already have. That way there won't be any competition for food or sleeping areas, until they are older and have already established personal spaces or boundaries in your home. Regarding the gender of a new cat, that is purely up to you. Many people like to mix the genders if they have two cats and some do not. If you get a kitten at or about the same age as the kitten you already have, as they mature they will hopefully bond and become fond of the others presence because. If you find another kitten that is a little older and a little larger, you may be setting yourself up for disaster. As you already know temperament of cats are unique. Should you decided to mix the gender, and find a male kitten; make sure you find one at or about the same age and size as the kitten, you have and neuter him. If you do want to have another kitten, you should ask around and see what other people have done in your situation, regarding mixing genders. Maybe they can shed some light on how their experience with their cat's relationship matured, and problems you may face in the long run... I hope this helps.
Bob Brenchley. - 03 Nov 2003 21:57 GMT >Remember that cats do not need to be social creatures Yes they do - they are highly social creatures.
> - unlike the >pack-orientated dog; they function happily on their own without a social >structure around them. No they do not, that is one of the most common causes of stress in cats.
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Judy - 04 Nov 2003 04:36 GMT > >Remember that cats do not need to be social creatures > > Yes they do - they are highly social creatures. Try telling this to Matilda. Nothing she loves more (apart from her chow) than to skin another cat. :c)
> > - unlike the > >pack-orientated dog; they function happily on their own without a social > >structure around them. > > No they do not, that is one of the most common causes of stress in > cats. Oh I know! Matilda gets very stressed when she isn't able to socialize with other cats in her special way. LOL
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Bob Brenchley. - 05 Nov 2003 18:38 GMT >> >Remember that cats do not need to be social creatures >> >> Yes they do - they are highly social creatures. > >Try telling this to Matilda. Nothing she loves more (apart from her chow) >than to skin another cat. :c) Indeed, but establishing their status in the local social order is part of the social nature of cats.
>> > - unlike the >> >pack-orientated dog; they function happily on their own without a social [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] >Oh I know! Matilda gets very stressed when she isn't able to socialize with >other cats in her special way. LOL I know a couple of humans like that :)
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Judy - 06 Nov 2003 04:39 GMT > >> >Remember that cats do not need to be social creatures > >> [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > Indeed, but establishing their status in the local social order is > part of the social nature of cats. I agree and when it comes to the local social order - Matilda prefers to be on top of things.
> >> > - unlike the > >> >pack-orientated dog; they function happily on their own without a social [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] > > I know a couple of humans like that :) How true! At times there's nothing better than a good "hissy fit." Keeps life interesting and the ball rolling. :c)
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Judy - 05 Nov 2003 00:15 GMT > >Remember that cats do not need to be social creatures > > Yes they do - they are highly social creatures. Try telling this to Matilda. Nothing she loves more (apart from her chow) than to skin another cat. :c)
> > - unlike the > >pack-orientated dog; they function happily on their own without a social > >structure around them. > > No they do not, that is one of the most common causes of stress in > cats. Oh I know! Matilda gets very stressed when she isn't able to socialize with other cats in her special way. LOL
Judy
> >Remember that cats do not need to be social creatures > [quoted text clipped - 6 lines] > No they do not, that is one of the most common causes of stress in > cats. Iso - 06 Nov 2003 17:51 GMT Cats are indeed a solitary species. But they can and do live in groups. This seems confusing to us because we are social animals and have a difficult time understanding and accepting a different social structure. Our other companion pet, the dog, is also a social or pack animal. He fits right in with our way of thinking and living. The cat does not. We tend to look at our pets as little people with human emotions and needs. When our cat does not accept or become friends with the new cat we bring home, we automatically think something is wrong and that both cats are unhappy. That's because we're superimposing on the cat our standards for "happiness." Cats can live in groups but they don't need to. For social/pack animals such as humans and dogs, living and functioning as a group is a necessity. The process of domestication facilitates social interaction of cats with other cats and humans. Kittens are usually quite friendly and playful with other cats and their human family. They participate in family functions. We perpetuate these kitten qualities through ongoing care and play with them. The kitten matures physically, but mentally retains kitten-like behavior. Cats that retain kitten-like behavior adjust to and probably prefer group living.
Bob Brenchley. - 06 Nov 2003 19:15 GMT >Cats are indeed a solitary species. No they are not, far from it.
>But they can and do live in groups. They prefer to live in groups, though they will toller ate isolation.
>This >seems confusing to us because we are social animals and have a difficult >time understanding and accepting a different social structure. Our other >companion pet, the dog, is also a social or pack animal. The dog is a pack animal, not a social animal - there is a difference.
>He fits right in >with our way of thinking and living. No, the dog fits in with th e common human misconception that we are the bosses.
>The cat does not. Toooooo true - the cats knows IT is the boss.
>We tend to look at >our pets as little people with human emotions and needs. Not if we are real animal lovers.
>When our cat does >not accept or become friends with the new cat we bring home, we >automatically think something is wrong and that both cats are unhappy. >That's because we're superimposing on the cat our standards for "happiness." >Cats can live in groups but they don't need to. Cats can live in isolation, but they don't like to - they prefer a social group.
>For social/pack animals such >as humans and dogs, living and functioning as a group is a necessity. You confuse two different things. Dogs are pack animals, while it is a form of socialization it is not the same as the complex social structures of humans and cats.
> The >process of domestication facilitates social interaction of cats with other >cats and humans. Cats are not domesticated.
>Kittens are usually quite friendly and playful with other >cats and their human family. They participate in family functions. We >perpetuate these kitten qualities through ongoing care and play with them. >The kitten matures physically, but mentally retains kitten-like behavior. >Cats that retain kitten-like behavior adjust to and probably prefer group >living. One reason cats moved in with man is that it gave the cat even greater scope for social relationships - both with humans and with other cats.
Over the last 10 or so thousand years the cat has trained us very well, real cat lovers allow their cats to be cats while providing them with shelter and good food. I hope our partnership with cats lasts another 10,000 years.
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kaeli - 06 Nov 2003 20:27 GMT > Cats are not domesticated. Domestication Definition:
1. [n] accommodation to domestic life; "her explorer husband resisted all her attempts at domestication" 2. [n] the attribute of having been domesticated 3. [n] adaptation to intimate association with human beings
Synonyms: tameness Antonyms: wildness See Also: accommodation, adaptation, adjustment, flexibility, tractability, tractableness
--- http://www.lam.mus.ca.us/cats/P24/ n the beginning, cats were probably tolerated by humans because they killed the mice and rats that ate their food stores. Full domestication of the cat as a household companion likely occurred in Egypt about 4,000 years ago. To overcome the natural fear that wild cats had of humans, they were most likely captured as kittens and hand-reared.
--- http://wildlife.wisc.edu/extension/catfly3.htm Domestic cats originated from an ancestral wild species, Felis silvestris, the European and African Wild Cat. The domestic cat is now considered a separate species, named Felis catus. In appearance, domestic cats are similar to their wild relatives, and many of their behaviors, such as hunting and other activity patterns, remain essentially unchanged from their ancestral form. Cats were first domesticated in Egypt around 2000 BC [1]. Domestic cats spread slowly to other parts of the globe, possibly because Egyptians prevented export of the animal they worshiped as a goddess. However, by 500 BC the Greeks had acquired domestic cats, and they spread cats throughout their sphere of influence. The Romans introduced the domestic cat to Britain by 300 AD. Domestic cats have now been introduced around the world, mostly by colonists from Europe.
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Iso - 06 Nov 2003 21:17 GMT Bob,
I respectfully disagree with you. "Domestic" cats tend to be solitary. They do not form large groups with complex social structures as do dogs. Cats are also very territorial by nature, some more so than others. However because their social organizations are somewhat flexible, some cats are relatively tolerant of sharing their house and territory with multiple cats socially. It is not uncommon for a cat to tolerate certain other family cats, but not get along with others in the house. In general, the more cats you have, the more likely it is that some of your cats will begin fighting with each other. I tend to presuppose that if the cat has been solitary the majority of its life, and another cat is introduced there is a fifty, fifty chance of the solitary cat accepting the new cat. The topic we are disputing has been argued centuries, and will continue to be argued for many more.
Regarding, the domestication of the common cat; technically speaking, cats still are in the early stages of becoming a domestic animal, but the cats of today are very much domesticated. What we do know is that the common cat hasn't changed genetically much from the Egyptian times, although smaller in size and stature. Needless to say, I think you are misunderstanding the definition of domestication. It means to train or adapt (an animal or plant) to live in a human environment and be of use to humans, or to introduce and accustom (an animal or plant) into another region; naturalize. So, by definition the common house cat is domesticated. We as a class of humans continued to domesticate cats, just as the Egyptians did, and for the same reasons. Unfortunately, today the vast majority of cats are more for novelty, and not for utility, not that there is necessarily anything wrong with that. As you and I both already know, cats make great pets. The role of the common cat has changed, unless you have a rodent problem or you live on a farm.
Furthermore, regarding your opinion of "One reason cats moved in with man is that it gave the cat even greater scope for social relationships - both with humans and with other cats" that may be true, but again I respectfully disagree. As early as 3500 B.C., Egyptians were domesticating wildcats from Africa. These domesticated wildcats became treasured pets, and were honored in many forms of artwork for their skill in hunting and killing rodents, such as snakes, rats and mice. Cats first came to Europe and the Middle East about 1000 B.C., most likely from Greek and Phoenician traders. The ancient Greeks and Romans also highly valued cats for their ability to control undesirable rodents. Europeans once more began to realize the important role cats played in controlling rodents, and cats gradually regained their popularity. Traders, explorers and colonists brought domestic cats with them to the New World during the 1600's and 1700's, and settlers continued to take their cats with them as they moved towards the West. Most all the cats of today in North America are descendants of these cats. Moreover, cats didn 't move in with man, we moved them in with us for utility. The rest is history.
Bob Brenchley. - 07 Nov 2003 18:32 GMT >Bob, > > I respectfully disagree with you. "Domestic" cats tend to be solitary. Cats the world over prove you wrong.
>They do not form large groups with complex social structures as do dogs. They form groups with far more complex structures than dogs.
>Cats are also very territorial by nature, some more so than others. Very true, and they will defend their territory very well from outsiders unless the outsider makes the right approach.
> However >because their social organizations are somewhat flexible, some cats are >relatively tolerant of sharing their house and territory with multiple cats >socially. Sharing their territory with other cats is part of their nature, though of course those humans cruel enough to attempt to restrict their cats territory will cause the cat some serious problems.
> It is not uncommon for a cat to tolerate certain other family >cats, but not get along with others in the house. In general, the more cats >you have, the more likely it is that some of your cats will begin fighting >with each other. Each cat has to learn its place in the local cat society, and cat society being so complex this can take time and may involve fights.
> I tend to presuppose that if the cat has been solitary the >majority of its life, and another cat is introduced there is a fifty, fifty >chance of the solitary cat accepting the new cat. The topic we are disputing >has been argued centuries, and will continue to be argued for many more. Only people who do not understand cats would argue, the rest of us just accept their ways.
>Regarding, the domestication of the common cat; technically speaking, cats >still are in the early stages of becoming a domestic animal, but the cats of >today are very much domesticated. No it isn't. It is a wild animal that, for many reasons, finds it useful to live with man.
> What we do know is that the common cat >hasn't changed genetically much from the Egyptian times, although smaller in >size and stature. Needless to say, I think you are misunderstanding the >definition of domestication. It means to train or adapt (an animal or plant) >to live in a human environment Something we have not done with the cat.
Maybe we could say that the cat has domesticated humans, it would in reality be a far more truthful statement.
>and be of use to humans, or to introduce and >accustom (an animal or plant) into another region; naturalize. So, by [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] >disagree. As early as 3500 B.C., Egyptians were domesticating wildcats from >Africa. Try adding at least another 4,000 years to that.
>These domesticated wildcats became treasured pets, and were honored >in many forms of artwork for their skill in hunting and killing rodents, >such as snakes, rats and mice. The reality is slightly different. Humans started to store food, maybe as early as 10,000 BC. This attracted rats and mice and they in turn attracted the cats. Cats soon learned that humans were not a major danger to them and that they could live very close to, or even inside, human communities.
A really close relationship did probable start with humans hand rearing some kittens, but the cats soon got the hang of the fact that humans would often feed them and allow them shelter.
Certainly by around 6,000 BC cats could be found in the Middle East almost anywhere humans were, in fact there has been evidence put forward that cats were more populous than dogs.
>Cats first came to Europe and the Middle East >about 1000 B.C., most likely from Greek and Phoenician traders. The ancient [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] >'t move in with man, we moved them in with us for utility. The rest is >history. As you say - it is all history. However, you do need to study the history. A lot of what you say was held to be true even ten years ago, but the studies that have pushed back the dating of Egyptian civilization by several thousand years have also helped to shed light on how cats became our best allies.
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Iso - 07 Nov 2003 21:17 GMT Bob,
I refuse to get into a pissing contest regarding when cats allegedly became useful to humans and if house cats form social structures. My PhD is not in feline physiology, history or animal psychology. The only point that I am attempting to make is that the original poster of this thread would be foolish to think to add another cat to her household, simply because she feels as though her cat is lonely. Still, I respectfully disagree with you regarding your definition of domestication and your statement " the reason cats moved in with man is that it gave the cat even greater scope for social relationships - both with humans and with other cats;" although you believe it to be true, I disagree. The figures that I posted in my preceding post were to be used as ball park figures not hard referenced, exact dates. I am not going to write another dissertation, nor argue my point to any further extent. You believe what you will, and I will do the same. It is fruitless for us to squabble about this topic anymore.
Bob Brenchley. - 08 Nov 2003 17:32 GMT >Bob, > [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] >foolish to think to add another cat to her household, simply because she >feels as though her cat is lonely. My point is that cats ARE social animals, not solitary ones. One cat on its own is rarely happy. That said, the number of cats a normal person can keep is far less than the number needed to make a proper social structure for cats - one of the many reasons cats need time outside most days.
>Still, I respectfully disagree with you >regarding your definition of domestication and your statement " the reason >cats moved in with man is that it gave the cat even greater scope for social >relationships - both with humans and with other cats;" although you believe >it to be true, I disagree. Hard luck. By moving in with humans, or at least living in human communities, cats could live at a far higher social density as there was less competition for food. Results, happy cats and happy humans.
>The figures that I posted in my preceding post >were to be used as ball park figures not hard referenced, exact dates. I am >not going to write another dissertation, nor argue my point to any further >extent. You believe what you will, and I will do the same. It is fruitless >for us to squabble about this topic anymore. But to understand cats you need to understand their history.
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Bob Brenchley. - 03 Nov 2003 21:56 GMT >Hi, > >I have a spayed female kitten (a month or so old?). She's an indoor >cat and is pretty needy (meows when I'm not around, etc...). WHAT!!!
How can you have a kitten that is only a month old and yet is already away from its mother (at least two months ahead of schedule) and already neutered?
>I work full time and I spend time with friends on weekends, so there >are long periods when she's alone at home. I want to do what's best [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > >Thanks. To be honest she needs time with humans, if you can't give that then it would be better for her to have a new home.
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Ted Davis - 03 Nov 2003 23:58 GMT >Hi, > [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] >don't know if she's "bonded" with me or not so I don't know how much >it would hurt her to part company with me. I see that Bob Brenchley is making a nuisance of himself here now. He probably appears in more killfiles than anyone else in the cat and legal groups. He is best filtered out; if you can't filter him, ignore him. *Don't respond to him.* I notice he as added a warning to his header about quoting him except in direct replies - that is clearly to discourage the "you said this there and the opposite here - which is it?" discussions that always follow his appearance.
As for your cat questions. Cats bond more readily with places than with people, though this certainly does occur. The main effect is that it is more difficult to successfully rehome a cat that has established himself. They are also territorial, which can make it difficult to introduce new cats. None of this applies very much to kittens - they are easily rehomed and most easily introduced to another kitten.
While cats are naturally solitary, their natural environment is far from sterile and includes interactions with all sorts of other animals: a lone kitten in a house with no other animals and no people is starved for stimulation. Multiple cats usually get along well enough that they keep each other stimulated without killing each other. I strongly recommend at least one more kitten. I have good results with multiple (neutered) males, but my (spayed) females don't get along nearly as well with each other, and for that matter some don't get along with the males, not even their own brothers, as well as the other males do (but Millie and Snowball get along with everybody) - a male might be the best bet.
Now I'm going to change the Bob Brenchley filter to global scope.
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Bob Brenchley. - 05 Nov 2003 18:45 GMT >>Hi, >> [quoted text clipped - 19 lines] >clearly to discourage the "you said this there and the opposite here - >which is it?" discussions that always follow his appearance. Stupid idiot troll.
>As for your cat questions. Cats bond more readily with places than >with people, though this certainly does occur. While places are important to cats - their relationship with humans far outweighs that.
> The main effect is >that it is more difficult to successfully rehome a cat that has [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > >While cats are naturally solitary, No they are not, they are highly social and most do prefer to have company.
> their natural environment is far >from sterile and includes interactions with all sorts of other [quoted text clipped - 9 lines] > >Now I'm going to change the Bob Brenchley filter to global scope. Oh do shut up you stupid troll.
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