Well, I always put my cats in the bedroom when I ate when they were growing
up and then when they were a few months old, they just were never interested
in my food. I don't know if that would work with an older cat but worth a
try.

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Don't know what you have already tried, but how about feeding her
either at the same time (at her station of course) or just before?

I think of cats like children. I don't want to encourage bad behavior
but it is also unrealistic to hope they will not be tempted when they
see everyone else eating.

Ever since I have had my babies I have let them go where and do as they want.  When I eat
occassionally they will swipe stuff off my plate but as a rule I find that they just want
to see what I have and then they wander off and leave me be.  My ex is the same way.  Her
Furball will set on the table and watch her eat and at breakfast he help himself to the
milk on her cereal on occassion.  I would say we have some of the most spoiled babies
around.

I live my myself so do not worry about what people may think and most people that visit
are cat lovers also so it does not bother them.  A neighbor stopped once and chased one of
my babies off the table and I politely asked her to leave.  I even emptied a shelf in the
kitchen cabinet so they can go in there and lay.

Pics of our babies:

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I had a greedy cat years ago.  Once while I was easting a cucumber pickle
he kept staring at me and licking his chops.  I guess he figured that
if I were eating it it had to be good.  I broke off a small piece and
offered it to him.  He gave it a sniff and looked up with a "You're
trying to fool me aren't you" expression and trotted away.

It isn't hard to train cats to stay off of counters (at least while you
are in the kitchen with them).  I try to avoid puttimg temptation in
their path.