Cat Forum / Health and Behavior / September 2005
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ensoul - 28 Aug 2005 20:35 GMT Moe & Rudy, 8 months old brothers, neutered, we got them from the SPCA they told us the 2 were very loving, NOT
they fight and leave marks on each other, ever night they tear the apartment apart; they knock over plants, break knick knacks, have even destroyed CD's, we live in an upstairs apartment anf of coarse they like to sit in the open windows but now they're trying to push out the screens
sometimes they are loving toward us, other time we get stratched...my hubby has cancer a strach can mean an infection and that's dangerous
they take clean clothes from the basket and drag them around, the knock over lamps, the trash can and even chairs, only at night
we can't let them in out bdrm at night because we get no sleep w/them tearing everything apart
I love them dearly, what can I do? what can I do? I'm deseparate
lynn
Gail - 28 Aug 2005 20:38 GMT Ask the vet for medications to calm them down. In time, they may adjust to each other and their new home. gail
> Moe & Rudy, 8 months old brothers, neutered, we got them from the SPCA > they told us the 2 were very loving, NOT [quoted text clipped - 17 lines] > > lynn Candace - 29 Aug 2005 00:02 GMT > Ask the vet for medications to calm them down. In time, they may adjust to > each other and their new home. > gail I don't know, some of this seems like normal kitten behavior to me. I don't know if it's right to medicate the kitten out of a cat.
I have a 7 year old cat who is very lightly medicated for aggressive behavior (it doesn't help much, separation is all that works for now) but I feel bad medicating him although it doesn't affect him much. He certainly isn't downed out; he just isn't bouncing off the walls constantly, he sleeps like a normal cat now. But I would feel bad medicating a kitten for rambunctiousness. And it can take a couple years for cats to stop being kittenish.
I can't remember if she used Feliway yet, I know she was asking about it. They are used to an older, single. more docile cat. The best thing, hard as it may be, might be to rehome them. I would only return them to the shelter if it's definitely no-kill. I think it's wrong to take a cat home and then return it to a kill shelter. Not *as* bad to return them to a no-kill shelter.
OP, maybe you need to go through an intro process and keep them separate for a couple weeks and gradually re-intro them to each other, with the help of Feliway. It might work...or it might not. Slow intro has not worked for my cats but seems to for most.
Candace
(WebElder) - 28 Aug 2005 23:42 GMT >Moe & Rudy, 8 months old brothers, neutered, we got them from the SPCA >they told us the 2 were very loving, NOT [quoted text clipped - 17 lines] > >lynn In addition to medication,seek help from a behaviorist. Have you tried to keep them seperate at night for now? One in the livingroom,the other in the bedroom? See if being kept isolated from each other helps....at least at night. They are playing off of each other....Kinda like when two kids are together and how differently they behave when each is alone.
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ensoul - 29 Aug 2005 02:44 GMT I thank you all for the suggestions, this is small apartment no such thing as a seperate dinning rookm though we do have do 2 bdrms....we have very limited incomes a behavorist is out, my hubby gets VA benefits and I get workers comp at 50.12 a week....we plan on tryong feliway
idontmind@gmail.com - 29 Aug 2005 10:14 GMT > I thank you all for the suggestions, this is small apartment And people wonder why I have the criteria I do for adoption...
> no such > thing as a seperate dinning rookm though we do have do 2 bdrms....we > have very limited incomes a behavorist is out, my hubby gets VA > benefits and I get workers comp at 50.12 a week....we plan on tryong > feliway Why, in God's name, if your husband can't be scratched and you have no money would you adopt not only ONE, cat but TWO?
First, trim their nails. Keep them trimmed.
Second, they are probably fighting for territory. Are they neutered? If not get them neutered, pronto.
They may have been perfectly fine in another setting but for whatever reason are now fighting because of the new environment - it is not to be taken for granted that the shelter lied to you.
Third, make sure they have plenty stimulation outside of each other. Buy a Turbo Scratcher and a CatDancer, and any other interactive toys you can find with which they can play by themselves.
Feliaway is good, but you have it use is consistently and it is expensive.
Separating them at this point will probably cause more stress than leaving them together. You have to give both of them equal attention.
-L.
Alison - 30 Aug 2005 21:50 GMT > > I thank you all for the suggestions, this is small apartment > > And people wonder why I have the criteria I do for adoption... > > > -L.>> This is what can happen when cats are kept totally indoors and not given enough stimulation and exercise. What's sad is people suggesting the cats are medicated with out considering the fact that the life style of the cats is contributing to this behaviour . Alison
MaryL - 03 Sep 2005 02:55 GMT >> > I thank you all for the suggestions, this is small apartment >> [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] > the life style of the cats is contributing to this behaviour . > Alison I agree that cats should not be medicated without considering contributing factors, but being indoors has absolutely nothing to do with it! They need adequate space, interactive toys (as Lyn suggested), lots of attention, good nutrition, etc.
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Wendy - 29 Aug 2005 12:37 GMT >I thank you all for the suggestions, this is small apartment no such > thing as a seperate dinning rookm though we do have do 2 bdrms....we > have very limited incomes a behavorist is out, my hubby gets VA > benefits and I get workers comp at 50.12 a week....we plan on tryong > feliway Check the prices of Feliway online. My experience is the Comfort Zone refills last a week or so longer than the Feliway refills. We just got some at Pet Smart this weekend for $15.99. The store will honor the online price. Just print out the web page and take it with you. I found it elsewhere for a little less but with shipping ,,,,,
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(WebElder) - 29 Aug 2005 21:21 GMT >I thank you all for the suggestions, this is small apartment no such >thing as a seperate dinning rookm though we do have do 2 bdrms....we >have very limited incomes a behavorist is out, my hubby gets VA >benefits and I get workers comp at 50.12 a week....we plan on tryong >feliway Here in Houston the SPCA has a Behavorist on call to help and there is no charge for phone consultation. Perhaps your area SPCA has the same??
As for the scratching,try the "SOFTPAWS" idea as they do instead of de-clawing Cats. They are not expensive at all.
http://www.softpaws.com
They really don't seem to be much more than normal active kittens.I think most here will tell you healthy kittens can be a handful and having two just doubles the activities.
I will be willing to bet they will settle down...as soon as each has had its fill of tormenting you <lol>
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Cheryl - 30 Aug 2005 00:06 GMT > Moe & Rudy, 8 months old brothers, neutered, we got them from > the SPCA they told us the 2 were very loving, NOT [quoted text clipped - 20 lines] > > lynn At 8 months old they are still kittens! My 2 youngest are about 11 months old now and they play with each other very rough. It looks bad to me at times, but if the one getting the bad end of the whoopin' is able to run away, no problem. Scarlett will even hiss at Rhett when he's beating her up, but at the same time, she's in a position to run away from him if she chooses to. I think she's teaching him manners, but he's a slow learner. ;) IOW, kitten behavior. They still snuggle and groom each other at times. Do your two do that at all, or is it full-time hatred of each other?
The other behavior is most definitely kitten behavior. I think this is why so many people like to adopt adult cats; they're already past the hoolikitten stage.
I'm sorry about your hubby and the cancer. He might have to keep his distance while they're still so wild. I'd definitely shut the BR door when you sleep. Try something for some white noise to drown out their antics at night.
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Alison - 30 Aug 2005 22:05 GMT Hi Lynn, The advice asterisked below was written by Pam Johnson- Bennet the well known cat behaviourist . You can buy her books Think Like a Cat and Psycho Kitty on line from amazon.com They are written with indoor cats in mind.
*It's natural for a cat to be on alert at various times throughout the night or in the wee hours of the morning. Some cats will stay patiently on the bed until that magic hour of either 4am or 5am and then they just can't sit still another second. That prey-drive kicks in and can't be controlled. Some cats patrol the house, looking for any opportunity to pounce on something. Also, for some cats, they start getting active several hours before they know a meal will be arriving. In the wild, this would be a natural behavior because they have to go through the physical hunt before they get to feast on the prey. For an indoor kitty, even though he may not have to hunt for food, his instincts still tell him to start warming up the engine.
You may be able to address some of this behavior by satisfying the prey-drive in your cats at night. To help a kitty's internal clock you need to understand what I call the "cycle of four". This is based on the natural cycle of hunting, feasting, grooming and sleeping. This is the order that cats go through during a typical day and most especially, at night. In the wild, a cat would stand the best chance of hunting between dusk and dawn because that's when prey is most available. Your kitty has probably spent most of the daylight hours napping and is ready for some serious hunting. Even if you play with both of your cats in the evening, if it's done too early, the internal clock won't be affected in the positive way you want. Training, if based on the cycle of four is very easy and effective. Right before you go to bed, conduct an interactive play session. They key is to do the session as close to bedtime as possible. For us, the evening represents the end of our day and we're getting relaxed but for the cat, the evening means activity. If you do a playtime with your cats when you get home from work, do another one right before bed. Use a fishing pole toy so you can more realistically imitate actual prey. Make the game as close to a real hunt as possible in terms of how you move the toy. This will let a kitty have mental activity as well as physical. Cats don't chase prey to exhaustion, but rather, they hide behind things and get closer and closer until they reach that "ambush" distance and then they pounce. This is the *hunt* part of the cycle of four. To address the *feast* part, offer your kitty a treat after the game. You can also feed a portion of dinner at this time. If you feed on a schedule, divide up the day's normal ration so you can save a little bit to offer right before bed. If you leave food down free-choice, take it up early in the evening so you can make a big production out of putting it back down after that final play session (it helps to refresh the food at that time as well). The third part of the cycle of four involves *grooming*. After hunting and devouring prey, the cat grooms himself to remove all traces of scent. He then moves into the fourth stage which is *sleep*. With a satisfied prey-drive and a full tummy, your cat will look forward to sleeping through the night and probably will wake up later in the morning. He'll probably be less likely to roam the house in the dark, but even if he does, he'll most likely be in a more relaxed mood. It's also a good idea to conduct at least one other playtime during the day to keep your kitty's prey-drive satisfied. You can do this playtime before you go to work in the morning or when you come home at night. Since a cat is a predator, it's important to offer several opportunities during the day to satisfy that prey-drive.
Instructions on Interactive Playtime (m) Interactive playtime serves many functions. It may seem like a simple game but it's actually a powerful behavior modification tool. It can build confidence, ease tension, help erase boredom, help a cat out of depression, aid in weight loss, help during new cat/people introductions, help with litter box problems (yes, that's true!), and it's a big aid when introducing another cat into the home. The reason is that it changes the cat's mindset. When you bring out an interactive toy, you stimulate the cat's prey drive. He stops thinking about whatever was worrying him and shifts his focus to the *prey*. He starts developing positive associations with the playtime and that'll go a long way in helping with litter box problems, multicat tension, etc. This form of distraction and redirection is one of the most effective ways to change unwanted behavior. It's also the best way to help gain the trust of a fearful cat or one who hasn't gotten to know you yet. He'll begin associating you with positive experiences while being able to stay within his *comfort zone*. An interactive play session involves the use of a fishing pole type toy. There are many different kinds on the market. There are several benefits to using this type of toy. First, it puts a distance between your hand and your cat's teeth. This makes for a safer play session. If you have a cat who bites, or if you've allowed your cat to bite your hands in past play sessions, using an interactive toy teaches him that only toys are to be bitten and never human flesh. The fishing pole toy also allows you to move the toy like prey. Cats don't enjoy the same type of playtime as dogs, so in order for a session to be completely enjoyable and beneficial, you need to stick with what is natural to a cat. When a cat hunts in the wild, he stalks his prey. He spends a lot of time hiding behind a rock, a bush or a tree as he watches his prey. He sneaks up to a safe *ambush distance* and then pounces on his victim. Unlike a dog, a cat doesn't chase his prey to exhaustion. His lungs are built for sprints and not long distance running. So when you do your play sessions, don't have your cat running long marathons throughout the house. That's not fun for the cat. The point of interactive play sessions is for it to be enjoyable - not frustrating. A common mistake many people make when engaging in interactive play sessions is that they keep the toy in motion all of the time. Remember, you should be trying to simulate an actual hunt. In the wild, a mouse or bird wouldn't be moving all of the time. The mouse might hide behind something or the bird would land in order to nibble some seed. It's during those times that the cat can do his planning and inch closer. Even though a hunt is a very physical thing, for a cat, it's also a mental exercise. He has to use his skills to be as silent and quick as possible. He has to judge the ambush distance and develop excellent timing and aim. That takes a lot of mental skill. That's where interactive playtime can create confidence. Let your cat have plenty of captures. Let the toy hide behind the chair leg so your cat can sneak up and pounce. Don't dangle the toy in front of your cat's face and don't make the game too hard. No prey in its right mind would deliberately hang out right in front of the enemy. And no cat in his right mind would endlessly chase a bird who never lands. Remember: let your cat have plenty of captures. This is supposed to be fun for him!! Play sessions should last about 15 minutes each. Two sessions a day would be terrific. If your cat keeps you awake at night, then do a session right before bed. An important part of the game is the *wind down*. At the end of the game, wind the action down, almost like a cool down after an exercise. The reason is to simulate dying prey. This will allow the cat to relax as she realizes he has captured his prey. If you don't slow down the action, the cat will still be revved up at the end of the game. If you simulate dying prey at the end, the cat will feel very satisfied. When it's over, you can even give your kitty a tiny treat. In the wild, the natural order is hunt, feast, groom, sleep. The cat captures his prey, devours it, then he cleans all traces of prey from himself, and off he goes to sleep. Suggestions for interactive toys: There are so many toys out there. When you go to the pet supply store, try to look at the toy and imagine what type of prey it could be. Some great toys include Da Bird and the Cat Dancer. Da Bird (yes, it really is "Da")has feathers on a swivel device so it looks and sounds like a bird in flight as you move the wand through the air. The Cat Dancer is a wire toy that can be moved to simulate a cricket jumping in the grass or a fly buzzing around. These two toys are all-time cat favorites! There are also many more out there. I like to vary the toys so my cats can enjoy hunting a *mouse* one day and a *bird* the next, or maybe a *snake* or *grasshopper*. Be creative. When you've finished your play session, be sure and put the toys away so your cat doesn't chew on any stringed parts and also to keep the sessions very special. If you have more than one cat, try to do some individual play sessions so the cats don't have to worry about another kitty barging in on the fun. You can also do group sessions but you should either have another family member help out or you'll have to hold a toy in each hand. This way, the cats don't have to compete. It'll seem awkward at first, but you'll get the hang of it. Group sessions help cats learn to associate each other with positive things and not feel competitive. *
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> Moe & Rudy, 8 months old brothers, neutered, we got them from the SPCA > they told us the 2 were very loving, NOT [quoted text clipped - 17 lines] > > lynn Alison - 30 Aug 2005 22:12 GMT > Moe & Rudy, 8 months old brothers, neutered, we got them from the SPCA > they told us the 2 were very loving, NOT > >> sometimes they are loving toward us, other time we get stratched...my
> hubby has cancer a strach can mean an infection and that's dangerous > > lynn>>> Sometimes cat that are being stroked or petted can become over stimulated and suddenly beocme aggressive, usually there are signs such as their tail swishing. The best thing to do is to stop petting before the cats get too aroused. When you play with the cats don't let them play with your hands and use toys such as fishing rod types. I found soft stuffed toys useful for young cats to attack and direct their aggression onto. Alison
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