Did you take thim to the vet ? If not this should be the first order of
the day. He may have been injured or picked something up that is making
him not feel well. I'd definitely get a CBC done and have the vet check
closely for abscesses, etc.

Megan

                                   

It sounds safe enough to take his actions for face value: He wants to
be somewhere else (right now)...which is no reflection on you guys, he
probably found a little quiet sunny back porch where an old man or
woman spoiled him for a month. Who knows.

Sure, he'll settle down, and know nothing but love for your family.
Instinctively he wants to go play outside, or prowl you know male cat
stuff.

Keep it simple, talk to him, tellem don't get his panties in a wad.
Just consider him home. If you are "walking lite" around him, he will
milk this and probably develop little trifling habits. (listen at me,
like I have a clue)...

I'd chase him around, ambush him at least once a day, insisit that he
rubbed my feet...you know...just rouse him up! He comes and sets in the
room with you guys because he has a need to be social. I don't think
you two should be thinking so loud around the cat.

Don't let your right hand know what your left hand is doing.

I'm thinking I can't see any reason why he can't be readjusted with love,
time, and patience.  After all, think about how unsettled his life has been
since early this year -- who knows where he was before the shelter, then the
shelter, then a
new home, and then the great big outside, now a return to the inside. I'd be
scared and not very trusting if I were him right now. If I were in your
shoes I'd try setting up a very predictable daily routine for Boz and your
other kitty that included some rewards (treats in each other's presence) and
lots of kind talk and praise for any tiny bit of progress Boz makes.  I'd
talk soothingly to him while he eats or if he'll let you sit near the table
he's hiding under; and see if you can engage him in play with a feather wand
or string, or something like that at predictable (for him) times of the day.
If you don't have one, you might consider getting a cat tree also and put it
near the window for him to look out -- my 5 kitties really enjoy them. ( you
might also consider a Feliway diffuser or Feliway spray; it's a pheremone
spray that mimics "happy cat" scent to them; this was mentioned in another
thread here, see "Feliway availability" but it can be ordered online much
less expensively than buying it at a pet store.)

Two summers ago I had major mentoring in how to help turn a outside feral
cat into an inside domesticat. Tucker was about a year old when we took him
in and he adjusted with a lot of love, time, and patience ;o).  Give Boz
time; he'll come around.  Think positively!
regards,
Christine

Why is it that people like you can't seem to understand the obvious and
just let the darned cat live the way he wants to..? He obviously
doesn't want your company. Did you abuse him in some way to make this
all happen? If not, just try and understand that some cats are indoor
animals and others like the free life. Same thing happened to us a
while back. We took in the neighborhood stray and tried to civilize him
to indoor life. But he wanted to 'live out on the street' so to speak.
And ever since we let him follow his fancy, he'z never been happier.
Now, we come out onto our rear deck and there he is ... lounging about
just a happy as the proverbial J-bird. Our other boy now lives free
from the terror and tyranny that the newcat brought into our preaceful
home as well.
Let him be free to be all the cat he can be. This isn't about allowing
him to misbehave... Don't tolerate that for one moment. Have rulez and
enforce them. But it is clear to me that you are trying to capture a
free spirit and put it into a cage. Why? You seem like the kind of
person who has plenty of unresolved emotional issues yourself. Could
this desire to imprison things once free be linked back to any of them?
Issues with your elders..? Your father, perhaps?
Whatever the case, don't take it out on a helpless little cat. Get it
together and leave him alone...
Just my take on things...

                             IBen Getiner

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He's been with you, actually, for only a few weeks- its not 'home' to him
yet. Give him a few more weeks to settle in and become reacclimated.  I'm
sure he'll settle in and warm up to you as soon as he realizes he can trust
you and sees you feeding him.

Have him checked by a vet and make sure he didn't pick up anything
(parasites, diseases, injuries) during his escapade.

Keep the faith!

Phil

Sounds like it took a few weeks to turn him into a snugly cat when you
first brought him home. You're probably starting over, and it's going to
take some time for him. It may take longer than the first time, but I'm
sure he will come around. He's been through a tough experience.

Good luck,

Rhonda