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Cat Forum / Health and Behavior / February 2005cats not getting along
Sam was a rescue cat and is now enjoying the run of the house. The problem is with my other 2 cats. One of them hates Sam. Cinnamon will growl or hiss at him every time she sees him. This has been going on for more than 6 weeks. He is 7 months old and just wants to be friends with his "sisters". Abby is starting to warm up to Sam and I think they will be friends soon. Does any one have any suggestions to help Cinnamon? Ann > Sam was a rescue cat and is now enjoying the run of the house. The problem > is with my other 2 cats. One of them hates Sam. Cinnamon will growl or hiss [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > Does any one have any suggestions to help Cinnamon? > Ann Broken record again, but have you tried Feliway? Also, anytime there is an aggression, fetch out some treats or a toy to distract them. This does wonders if you can do it *right away* as soon as any confrontation seems about to happen. If you can catch it before it actually happens, they can come to associate good things in being together. I did try the Feliway spray. I didn't help any. I do use toys to distract Sam if he is bothering Cinnamon ( he is only trying to get her to play).Cinnamon is about 8 years old and does play but is not as easy to distract as Sam. Ann > on 2/1/05 3:55 PM: > [quoted text clipped - 14 lines] > about to happen. If you can catch it before it actually happens, they can > come to associate good things in being together. You know, sometimes, no matter what you do, cats will just hate eachother for no reason. We have had Bandit for about 13 years, and when Blackie showed up on our doorstep we prayed that they would get along. Now, 3 years later, they still despise eachother. They hiss and make those low pitched growling noises when they happen to walk near eachother. At this point, there is probably nothing we can do. Normally, they avoid eachother, but do have a strange habit of sleeping on opposite ends of the same bed. As long as your cats aren't hurting themselves, I wouldn't worry about it... > You know, sometimes, no matter what you do, cats will just hate > eachother for no reason. We have had Bandit for about 13 years, [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] > opposite ends of the same bed. As long as your cats aren't > hurting themselves, I wouldn't worry about it... And sometimes you have cats who used to get along and were best buds until you added new cats. I have Shamrock (who is a very high- strung cat) who adores the new kittens (2) but now seems to hate her former bud Bonnie. I've also run out of ideas and positive reinforcement. Nothing works with him. You can see his emotion change in his eyes when he sees her. Any distress he feels about anything, he takes out on her. I've had to go back to separation with these two (he's great with the kittens so they stay with him during the day).  SignatureCheryl Cheryl, Thats very sad.. My situation is a bit different from yours, but my advice is to just take time to make each of the cats feel special. It doesn't take much with my cats, just a good ear scratching and a kiss is all it takes sometimes.. > Cheryl, > > Thats very sad.. My situation is a bit different from yours, but > my advice is to just take time to make each of the cats feel > special. It doesn't take much with my cats, just a good ear > scratching and a kiss is all it takes sometimes.. That's great! Whatever works.:) As for situations being different, I've found from this and groups like it, that sometimes situations that are only slightly similar can provide answers, or at least something to ponder, and try to apply it in a different way to my own situation. As for what I posted (my separation tactic during this adjustment phase between the two adults and the two kittens) is probably very wrong. I said that I put Shamrock (the bully) downstairs with the kittens during the day while I'm at work, leaving Bonnie, the kitty being beat up by the bully, upstairs by herself. It was suggested to me to try leaving Shamrock downstairs without the kittens because he is probably feeling some ownership of them, and maybe feels the need to protect them from Bonnie. By leaving them with her, it might improve their relationship, and not reinforce to Shamrock that the kittens are *his*, thus needing defending. I dunno, makes sense and I'm giving it a try. Today I used this tactic and it worked out ok so far. I'll give it time. Good luck with your kitties! SignatureCheryl >> Cheryl, >> [quoted text clipped - 23 lines] > > Good luck with your kitties! Interesting. You might switch them off and on regularly, just like you do while introducing. Please let us know how it goes. > Interesting. You might switch them off and on regularly, just > like you do while introducing. Please let us know how it goes. I will Karen. Tonight is a lot better. I have been keeping Shamrock in my room at night so that he gets all of my attention then, even if its while sleeping. He likes staying with me, and Bonnie seems to be gaining some confidence not having to be on the defensive all the time. Shamrock has only gone after her once tonight. It's hard because I can't tell if it's play, but Bonnie clearly seems upset by the chasing, so to play it safe I'm going to do this for a while. Luckily, the kittens have each other so they don't seem fazed either way. SignatureCheryl Wow, Cheryl, what a drag. I hope it works out. I'm still status quo with our 3. Scottie and Abbey still hide when Marbles is out yet are braver. Last night we went out to dinner leaving them all together...well, meaning Marbles was not confined. We do this often as Marbles will not go under the futon after Scottie and Abbey and they stay there as long as he is out (generally 3 hours or so on weeknights). Well, apparently Marbles was in the living room sleeping or being quiet and Scottie must have thought he was back in his room confined. He left his safe spot in the family room and went into the living room, we assume, whereupon Marbles must have ambushed him as, when we got home, there were tufts of orange fur (Scottie's fur) all over the living room along with Scottie's collar. Lately, Scottie and Abbey come right out after Marbles is put back into his room but last night Scottie was a little reticent to come out. He did come out after an hour or so but, sigh, we've had yet another setback, I guess. Scottie was just starting to get braver and now this. We're in month 7...and we never find tufts of Marbles' fur, I guess Scottie doesn't fight back at all. Candace See my cats: http://photos.yahoo.com/maccandace "One does not meet oneself until one catches the reflection -from an eye other than human." (Loren Eisely) > Wow, Cheryl, what a drag. I hope it works out. I'm still > status quo with our 3. Scottie and Abbey still hide when [quoted text clipped - 16 lines] > month 7...and we never find tufts of Marbles' fur, I guess > Scottie doesn't fight back at all. Candace, I find tufts of black fur everywhere, too. That's why I finally went to separating Shamrock from Bonnie. They don't all get along. And sometimes it takes going back time and time again to help them co-exist. Then there is your situation. I'm so proud of you for sticking with it. It must be so hard. I know how much you wanted a new kitty after Cory died. SignatureCheryl /watching her whole pride of cats going totally insane now since it's late, and that's when they all come alive to play > Wow, Cheryl, what a drag. I hope it works out. I'm still status quo > with our 3. Scottie and Abbey still hide when Marbles is out yet are [quoted text clipped - 23 lines] > eye other > than human." (Loren Eisely) Well, you know how they positively SHOOT out hair when you go to the vet? Scottie is the one being scared, so it stands to reason. I really hope they can come around eventually. I mean, I bet they will never be friends, but eventually Marbles will quit that one would think. <<Well, you know how they positively SHOOT out hair when you go to the vet? Scottie is the one being scared, so it stands to reason. I really hope they can come around eventually. I mean, I bet they will never be friends, but eventually Marbles will quit that one would think.>> That's true about the fur but there must have been some contact since Scottie's collar was laying there amidst the fur. Soon, I hope, we will have another room built onto our house and, for some reason, I am thinking that will make it better. It will at least give Marbles 3 rooms to be locked up in instead of 2 like now and it seems like it will be easier to switch the cats around so some nights Scottie and Abbey can sleep with us. Right now, Marbles sleeps with us every night, it's just too complicated to switch them around with the layout of our house. Of course, this room was supposed to have been built for the last 5 years but I'm really hoping this spring will be the time. I may be wrong about it making life easier but that's my hope right now...gotta have some hope. Candace See my cats: http://photos.yahoo.com/maccandace "One does not meet oneself until one catches the reflection -from an eye other than human." (Loren Eisely)
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