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Cat Forum / Health and Behavior / December 2004Cat will only cuddle in one spot?
Hi, I have a kitty who is very affectionate and likes to cuddle. Problem is he will only do so under very specific circumstances. If I sit in bed with my legs under the covers, he will crawl up into my lap and stay there for hours; However, this appears to be the only time he's ever in a cuddling mood. He really enjoys being petted and I'm happy to oblige, but I wish I could persuade him to sit in my lap when I'm working at my desk, on the couch watching tv, at the kitchen table drinking coffee, etc. The way things are now, in order to pet him, I have to specifically set time aside, stop what I'm doing and get into bed. If I try to pet him at any other time, he thinks it's a game, time to play chase, whatever. Throughout the day, I try to pick him up and put him in my lap. He will actually stay and pur for a few seconds and then it's like he suddenly remembers himself and squirms to get away. I'm just curious if anyone has experienced a similar situation and found a solution? Thanks, --Al >my legs under the covers, he will crawl up into my lap and stay >there for hours; ................. [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > >--Al We call it "blankie syndrome" around here. Both my male cats have preferred for me to have a blanket on my lap before they snuggle in - like a hammock of support I guess. Even in summer (with AC on of course!), I sit with a blanket on my lap while watching TV and it's an instant invitation for a cat in the lap. Maybe get a small blanket designated for this, and throw it on your lap whenever you want to invite him to cuddle. Janet Boss http://bestfriendsdogobedience.com/ http://photos.yahoo.com/bestfriendsobedience j1boss@aol.com (J1Boss) wrote in news:20041214130636.08215.00001988@mb- m05.aol.com: > Maybe get a small blanket designated for this, and throw it on your lap > whenever you want to invite him to cuddle. Ooh, that's a great idea -- I might try this with the Roser -- she seems to find the lap a bit precarious a lot of the time. --Catherine & Rosalie the calicohead >> [quoted text muted] > [quoted text clipped - 10 lines] > http://bestfriendsdogobedience.com/ > http://photos.yahoo.com/bestfriendsobedience I use a bath towel. It also protects my legs from kitty claws. I also use this time for combing and brushing and the towel protects my clothes from loose fur. MLB >>> [quoted text muted] >> [quoted text clipped - 14 lines] > I also use this time for combing and brushing and the towel protects my > clothes from loose fur. MLB Does anyone know if r.p.c.anecdotes is still viable? I have been unable to access it in over a week? Would appreciate any information. MLB > Does anyone know if r.p.c.anecdotes is still viable? I have > been unable to access it in over a week? Would appreciate any > information. MLB It's working fine. You should get a backup Usenet provider. Try www.individual.net - it's free.  SignatureCheryl >> Does anyone know if r.p.c.anecdotes is still viable? I have >> been unable to access it in over a week? Would appreciate any >> information. MLB > > It's working fine. You should get a backup Usenet provider. Try > www.individual.net - it's free. Thanks, as always, for your good help. MLB >> Does anyone know if r.p.c.anecdotes is still viable? I have >> been unable to access it in over a week? Would appreciate any >> information. MLB > > It's working fine. You should get a backup Usenet provider. Try > www.individual.net - it's free. Thanks for that information also. I finally got my son working on the problem. My filters were messed up and now it is working fine. He was interested in your suggestion and said he would "look into it". He's the computer expert. I tend to experiment with things I know little about. The day isn't complete without the kitty stories.Best wishes. MLB >>>> [quoted text muted] >>> [quoted text clipped - 17 lines] > Does anyone know if r.p.c.anecdotes is still viable? I have been unable > to access it in over a week? Would appreciate any information. MLB Yes it is. How are you accessing it? >>>>> [quoted text muted] >>>> [quoted text clipped - 19 lines] >> > Yes it is. How are you accessing it? That is the kind of question I do not know how to answer. I have a new computer and use Linux and Pam. My son helped me determine that my filters were messed up. Well, I did learn something new, so the experience wasn't wasted. Best wishes and thanks again. MLB > Does anyone know if r.p.c.anecdotes is still viable? I have been unable to access it in over a week? Would appreciate any information. MLB It's still there and active as ever. Hmm, great idea! I'll give the blanket theory a try and see what happens. Thanks, > >my legs under the covers, he will crawl up into my lap and stay > >there for hours; ................. [quoted text clipped - 17 lines] > http://bestfriendsdogobedience.com/ > http://photos.yahoo.com/bestfriendsobedience When I adopted my Sara she was so small they figured maybe about 6-7 weeks old. I went to WalMart and bought a baby's receiving blanket. I would put her in the blanket and walk around the house doing stuff with her nestled in the crook of my arm, she slept like a baby. At night I would put the blanket in her bed and she would curl up, real cute, if the blanket wasn't there she would look at me and cry, that was my signal to go get the blanket.. Now that she's 8 months old she still likes that blanket, when she wants to cuddle on the couch with me she will actually drag that blanket out of her bed and head for the couch. The only problem I have is when I have to wash the blanket it takes her awhile to realize that it's her blanket. I have another older cat and Sara won't let Hannah near the blanket. Gotta love kitties Dianne > When I adopted my Sara she was so small they figured maybe about 6-7 weeks > old. [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] > me she > will actually drag that blanket out of her bed and head for the couch. ROTFL! I love that. Excuse me if I have told this story in this group before, but your story reminds me of it. About 16 years ago, when my sister and b-i-l were happily ensconced in their first home with their two cats, they used to get visited by the kitten from next door, who came in under a hole dug out under the fence. The owner of the kitten from next door was a junkie and not exactly a responsible cat owner, and the kitten used to come over and pretty much try desperately to get love and attention. Sister kept hardening her heart, telling herself she was not going to get attached to this wee thing. But then they found out their cats had ringworm, and it was pretty obvious where it had come from. So sis goes over to neighbour and asks her to take her kitten to the vet to get it treated for ringworm. Time passes, nothing happens. Sis realises the only way to get the kitten treated for ringworm is to take it to the vet herself. So she does. When she gets there, the vet is horrified. Kitten is infested with fleas, malnourished, small for its age etc, etc. Sis pays to get the necessary emergency care done, then brings the kitten home. At which point, the hardening of the heart goes all soft and gooey and sis heads inside, gets a saucer, pours some cream into it, brings it outside and puts it in front of the kitten. Kitten is in seventh heaven. Drinks all the cream, stops to wash himself, then heads back under the hole in the fence. A few minutes later, he's back again, carrying his toy mouse. He never went back. He'd got his luggage and moved in :-) Sam died about 4 years ago of liver cancer. He was a lovely cat, and the story of him moving in is one of the cutest I've ever heard. >> When I adopted my Sara she was so small they figured maybe about 6-7 weeks >> old. [quoted text clipped - 40 lines] > Sam died about 4 years ago of liver cancer. He was a lovely cat, and the > story of him moving in is one of the cutest I've ever heard. Awwwwww. How sweet is that. I'm so happy that Sis opened up her heart. What a wonderful story that made my day. >> When I adopted my Sara she was so small they figured maybe about 6-7 weeks >> old. [quoted text clipped - 40 lines] > Sam died about 4 years ago of liver cancer. He was a lovely cat, and the > story of him moving in is one of the cutest I've ever heard. Purrs for Sam at the Bridge -- he knew a good thing when he saw it. Best wishes. MLB >Now that she's 8 months old >she still likes that blanket, when she wants to cuddle on the couch with me she >will actually drag that blanket out of her bed and head for the couch. Now that is cute! I'm still working on teaching my cats to tell me what they want. Standing beside me and meowing is fine to get my attention, but I can't tell the difference between "I want cuddling" and "I want to play" (or even "I want food" with one of my cats) They used to be much better, as soon as I stood up they'd walk me to the problem (water/food dish usually, or they'd head for my lazyboy chair to cuddle), but at some point they stopped, now they just stand beside my and meow until I figure it out. >>Now that she's 8 months old >>she still likes that blanket, when she wants to cuddle on the couch with me she [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] > cuddle), but at some point they stopped, now they just stand beside my > and meow until I figure it out. You are supposed to read their minds. MLB > When I adopted my Sara she was so small they figured maybe about 6-7 weeks old. > I went to WalMart and bought a baby's receiving blanket. I would put her in the [quoted text clipped - 9 lines] > Gotta love kitties > Dianne She sounds like a darling babycat. MLB >From: j1boss@aol.com (J1Boss) >We call it "blankie syndrome" around here. Both my male cats have preferred >for me to have a blanket on my lap before they snuggle in - like a hammock of >support I guess. Even in summer (with AC on of course!), I sit with a >blanket >on my lap while watching TV and it's an instant invitation for a cat in the >lap. I have a down throw that my cats love. I put it on my lap when I'm watching tv and then they're on my lap in an instant. Although they do like being on my lap without the blanket, they do prefer it. Lauren ________ See my cats: http://community.webshots.com/album/56955940rWhxAe Raw Diet Info: http://www.holisticat.com/drjletter.html http://www.geocities.com/rawfeeders/ForCatsOnly.html Declawing Info: http://www.wholecatjournal.com/articles/claws.htm > Hi, > [quoted text clipped - 19 lines] > > --Al How long have you had him? It sounds to me like you are doing all the right things -- giving him affection on his terms and encouraging him to expand his horizons. It may just take some time for him to get used to the idea. You mention that he thinks you're playing when you try to pet him -- are you having play sessions with him? Rosalie loves a toy called the "Cat Charmer" -- it's a wand with a fleece tail attached -- and I have used it to lure her into places she was hesitant about -- up on the sofa, up on the bed, into the den, that kind of thing. Playing is also good for developing your bond with your cat, and may lead to increased displays of affection. --Catherine & Rosalie the calicohead > How long have you had him? It sounds to me like you are doing all the > right things -- giving him affection on his terms and encouraging him to [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] > --Catherine > & Rosalie the calicohead I've had him for almost three years now, since he was a kitten. We play all the time. In fact I think if he had his way, we would be playing 24-7. He loves to play more than anything and will make a game out of just about any event that occurs: If I go downstairs, he runs ahead of me, rolls on the ground with his legs in the air and wants to be petted. When I'm done feeding him and go back up it's a race. He lets me get a head start and then goes up the stairs full speed to win. I have toys for him as well, though he makes toys out of anything he finds on the ground. His favorite toy, at least of those that are actually meant to be toys, is a little mouse on a string. He likes to chase the string end more than the mouse end but ifI swing that around, he'll chase that until he gets so tired he can barely breathe. --Al "Al Puzzuoli" <alpuzz@comcast.net> wrote : > I've had him for almost three years now, since he was a kitten. We play > all the time. In fact I think if he had his way, we would be playing [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > end more than the mouse end but ifI swing that around, he'll chase that > until he gets so tired he can barely breathe. He sounds like a wonderful cat. I want to see photos! > Hi, > [quoted text clipped - 18 lines] > > --Al Well, you have trained him perfectly well. A cat cannot stand being ignored. Don't even try attracting his attention in those other spots and eventually he will cave. |
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