> Thanks for the posts. Based on what I've heard, odds are pretty high the cat
> will be rehomed.

> My wife has suggested it, because she ALSO does not like
> this snotty behavior.

::rolling eyes::

> And the thing is, while you guys may be good at
> accepting a cat on its own terms, neither of us are

> --at least with this
> thing. Other things we can live with "as is," but not this one.

> It's not a
> matter of control,  it's a matter of that the main reason we'd even have a
> cat to begin with is so we can occasionally pick it up & hold it--maybe just
> for 10-15 seconds, big deal.

> Is that so much to ask? We don't think so, and
> if the cat thinks so, it has no right to be here.

> It is about what MY preferences are, and my wife's--the cat's all but don't
> matter a wit.

> We choose to LET a cat live with us that behaves as we want it
> to--no cat will be perfect of course, but certain things are total no-nos.
> BOTH of us dislike this snottiness, and won't tolerate it. Period. The other
> two cats don't exhibit this behavior, and exhibit nothing severe enough for
> us to be upset about it, so they are staying.
>
> We have our own expectations, and this is one of them. Other ones: we don't
> like cats which like us but are snotty to people who come over. One of the
> other two (not the twin to the snot-head) has always been friendly with
> company. The other of the twin? Haven't seen it yet. Then again, we don't
> have company over a lot, so we could probably not make a deal out of it
> either way, but if we had company often, that would be a sticking point.
>
> So with this "snotty" issue--okay, maybe it doesn't mean anything personal
> with resistence towards being picked up. I don't care. I TAKE it personally.
> I dislike it, my wife dislikes it, and the other two cats don't exhibit this
> snotty personality. The main thing that's been a reason we've resisted and
> still keep her at this point is because it still is very cute & cuddly, and
> it has a twin it plays with. We'd really rather not split up the twins. But
> my wife is ALSO starting to tire of the cat's snottiness and is starting to
> say she'd just assume see it go.
>
> For us, it's not about taking in a cat and letting it be what it is, at
> least with something like this. Other things: yes. Some are more playful
> than others, some more mellow. You don't try to make a mellow cat hyper, or
> a hyper cat mellow. They are what they are. But if your own reason for
> owning a cat in the 1st place is to have something cuddly to hold a few
> seconds during the day, and they won't let you do it, they have no business
> being there. They don't deserve you.
>
> LRH