The question of beauty as a determining factor in cat adoption has recently
been discussed in another thread. Once again, this gave me grounds to ponder
my adoption of Duffy. (Of course, I freely admit that *it doesn't take much*
to provoke me into talking about Duffy and Holly. ;>)) I saw Duffy's picture
on the Petfinder web site about a year-and-a-half ago, and it just broke my
heart. He was blind, and he looked like a very old cat in the picture. The
caption noted that he had been at the shelter for several months. I called
the shelter to ask why he had been left there and was told that the woman
who had adopted him two years earlier had told them that he was "a wonderful
cat" but she couldn't keep him because he had learned to get to her pet
birds and killed one and that he was also "teaching" her sighted cat to get
to the birds. <Yeah, sure!> I was surprised to learn that he wasn't an old
cat - he looked old, but his age was estimated by their vet to be between 3
and 5 years. I decided to drive to the shelter (in a neighboring town, about
35 miles away) to "look" at Duffy (but "just happened" to download and fill
out the adoption application before I left). When I arrived, little Duffy
was thin and scrawny and looked scruffy and shabby. *But,* he pounced on me
like a magnet. He stayed on my lap the entire time I was there, purred up a
storm, headbutted me and rubbed his little head against my face - and I fell
in love with him on the spot. I handed over the adoption papers, was
approved on the spot, and was told I could pick him up two days later (which
I did). Shelter staff told me that he was usually shy and afraid, and I
learned that they were telling the truth. Somehow, he trusted me from that
first instant, but he originally was so afraid of other people that he would
hide under the bed for an hour or so if he even heard a doorbell. All of
that has disappeared. He is now a little glutton for attention, and he heads
for any visitor and demands some petting. The woman who abandoned him at the
shelter (a kill shelter, so she surely knew it could have been a death
sentence) is the lowest of low creatures, in my opinion. On the other hand,
this became a great gift to me because of the tremendous joy Duffy has
brought into my life - and I like to think that also was a great day for
Duffy because he truly is a happy, active little cat.
My point is that Duffy had been bypassed at the shelter for several months,
and anyone looking for a pretty cat probably would not have considered him -
blind, thin, scruffy, and scared. The irony is that he is now completely
transformed. Once he had received good-quality food, lots of attention,
grooming and put on some weight, he became one of the prettiest cats I have
ever seen. Most important, of course, he is an adorable, loving little guy.
Here is a set of "before and after" photos to show what I mean. The first
one is the photo from the shelter that led me to adopt Duffy; the second
photo is an "after" photo showing him on the bench in front of my desk. To
me, he hardly looks like the same cat.
http://pic10.picturetrail.com/VOL320/476350/1636692/19233823.jpg
http://pic10.picturetrail.com/VOL320/476350/1916528/41680392.jpg
**There are no ugly cats. All cats are beautiful**

Signature
MaryL
(take out the litter to reply)
Photos of Holly and Duffy:
http://tinyurl.com/8y54 (introducing Duffy to Holly)
http://tinyurl.com/8y56 (Duffy and Holly "settle in")
Mary - 20 Nov 2004 23:07 GMT
"MaryL" <carstan101@yahoo.comTAKE-OUT-THE-LITTER> wrote: [snip beautiful
Duffy story]
I love the story of Duffy!
The first
> one is the photo from the shelter that led me to adopt Duffy; the second
> photo is an "after" photo showing him on the bench in front of my desk. To
> me, he hardly looks like the same cat.
>
> http://pic10.picturetrail.com/VOL320/476350/1636692/19233823.jpg
> http://pic10.picturetrail.com/VOL320/476350/1916528/41680392.jpg
No, he does not look like the same cat at all. He is
a raving beauty now, from your good care.
MaryL - 20 Nov 2004 23:59 GMT
> "MaryL" <carstan101@yahoo.comTAKE-OUT-THE-LITTER> wrote: [snip beautiful
> Duffy story]
>
> I love the story of Duffy!
Thanks. I love to talk about him.
MaryL
Gail - 20 Nov 2004 23:49 GMT
He's beautiful!!
Gail
> The question of beauty as a determining factor in cat adoption has
> recently been discussed in another thread. Once again, this gave me
[quoted text clipped - 48 lines]
>
> **There are no ugly cats. All cats are beautiful**
mlbriggs - 21 Nov 2004 00:05 GMT
> He's beautiful!!
> Gail
[quoted text clipped - 50 lines]
>>
>> **There are no ugly cats. All cats are beautiful**
also a very touching tale.MLB
Hodge - 21 Nov 2004 00:15 GMT
> **There are no ugly cats. All cats are beautiful**
We don't treat people like this, either.

Signature
http://www.mindspring.com/~slywy/pages/hodge.html
Karen Chuplis - 21 Nov 2004 00:15 GMT
> The question of beauty as a determining factor in cat adoption has recently
> been discussed in another thread. Once again, this gave me grounds to ponder
[quoted text clipped - 45 lines]
>
> **There are no ugly cats. All cats are beautiful**
You should give your story and the two pictures to the shelter to display so
that maybe people coming in to look at kitties would look for the "inner
cat" and see that they can all be beautiful with love.
Just a guy and his cat - 21 Nov 2004 00:20 GMT
Cathy Friedmann - 21 Nov 2004 02:54 GMT
> The question of beauty as a determining factor in cat adoption has recently
> been discussed in another thread. Once again, this gave me grounds to ponder
> my adoption of Duffy.
<snipped>
> Here is a set of "before and after" photos to show what I mean. The first
> one is the photo from the shelter that led me to adopt Duffy; the second
[quoted text clipped - 3 lines]
> http://pic10.picturetrail.com/VOL320/476350/1636692/19233823.jpg
> http://pic10.picturetrail.com/VOL320/476350/1916528/41680392.jpg
In the past, I'd only seen the "after" sort of pics of Duffy, & I've always
thought that he's a beautiful cat. In his before pic here, despite being
scruffy & too thin, I can see his potential, looks-wise. Silky fur, pretty
coloring, etc. That he glued himself to you was a wonderful bonus.
My sister had adopted a stray who was never a beautiful cat, looks-wise,
even after being well-fed & vetted. I truly don't think anyone could look
at him & declare him handsome - or even close to it. But he had
personality galore, & was my favorite of her cats.
Cathy
MaryL - 21 Nov 2004 03:03 GMT
> My sister had adopted a stray who was never a beautiful cat, looks-wise,
> even after being well-fed & vetted. I truly don't think anyone could look
> at him & declare him handsome - or even close to it. But he had
> personality galore, & was my favorite of her cats.
>
> Cathy
And that's the type of beauty that's important!
aryL
Sherry - 21 Nov 2004 04:21 GMT
>http://pic10.picturetrail.com/VOL320/476350/1636692/19233823.jpg
>http://pic10.picturetrail.com/VOL320/476350/1916528/41680392.jpg
>
>**There are no ugly cats. All cats are beautiful**
Duffy certainly is a beautiful, striking cat. He looks so regal. He's a lucky
boy.
Sherry
MaryL - 21 Nov 2004 07:46 GMT
> When I arrived, little Duffy was thin and scrawny and looked scruffy and
> shabby.
> My point is that Duffy had been bypassed at the shelter for several
> months, and anyone looking for a pretty cat probably would not have
> considered him - blind, thin, scruffy, and scared.
> **There are no ugly cats. All cats are beautiful**
One thing occurred to me after reading my latest message (and after thinking
about some of my previous messages). That is, I have said that Duffy looked
scruffy and shabby, and indeed he did when I first saw him. However, that
might sound like he was neglected by people at the shelter. In actual fact,
they did everything they possibly could to save him, and I will be eternally
grateful for that. I have no idea how he looked when his "owner"
(obviously, *not* his "catslave" or "companion") dropped him off, but I
suspect that Duffy had been neglected for quite some time. The shelter has
a policy of keeping animals for at least 14 days, but they had kept Duffy
for several months -- they were trying very hard to find a home for him, and
they also did not want him to go to someone who would turn around and dump
him again (as had happened with his previous owner). He was in a cage
during that time, of course, and the shelter was noisy; I could hear dogs
barking during much of the time while I visited. I was told that he would
eat very little, and it showed (much too thin); but most of us would have a
hard time adapting to an environment like that. However, the shelter staff
really did the best they could for him under these circumstances. They had
a veterinarian on their staff, and he had been given routine innoculations,
he had not picked up any type of respiratory infections, and his coat had
been brushed. So, my complaint is with the woman who dumped him at the
shelter and not with staff at the shelter. And, of course, I was trying to
describe what a transformation good care can bring to a lovely little kitty
like Duffy.
MaryL
MacCandace - 21 Nov 2004 19:57 GMT
<< And, of course, I was trying to
describe what a transformation good care can bring to a lovely little kitty
like Duffy. >>
He's darling, i'm glad you found each other.
Candace
(take the litter out before replying by e-mail)
See my cats:
http://photos.yahoo.com/maccandace
"One does not meet oneself until one catches the reflection from an eye other
than human." (Loren Eisely)
Laila - 21 Nov 2004 17:48 GMT
>The question of beauty as a determining factor in cat adoption has recently
>been discussed in another thread. Once again, this gave me grounds to ponder
[quoted text clipped - 45 lines]
>
>**There are no ugly cats. All cats are beautiful**
wow! he is a beautiful cat! in the picture where he's on the chair,
he looks exactly like our Murka! (the cat at my parent's house)
we had a cat in Russia too. we also called her Murka. my dad had
brought calico kitten who was about 2-3 months old. she was skin and
bones, dull clumpy fur, some a.shole burnt her whiskers, so she barely
had any, and probably the same a.shole broke her tail at the tip. she
crawled under a dresser and wouldn't come out. she was the most
pitiful thing i've ever seen. i think i was 10 at the time. we let
her sit there, but left food out for her and she finally came out.
with time, she began to trust us. she turned into a beautiful
short-hair calico with huge whiskers. she was an amazingly polite and
nice cat! she never jumped on the chairs in the kitchen, let alone on
the table! we once left and accidentally closed her in a room and she
couldn't get to her littler box. she peed on the floor, poor thing.
when we came in, she looked SO guilty, she was walking close to the
floor, looking up at us. no one was mad at her, obviously. she was
an indoor outdoor cat and regularly delivered beautiful babies that we
gave out to all of our friends and neighbors. she was afraid of being
outside, though. she slithered close to the ground when there were
people around. when i would let her in at night, she came into my
room, climbed on my bed and set on my back, kneading. she gave me
kitty massages! we had to leave her there because she was just too
terrified of traveling. we tried to get her accustomed to it by
taking her on short car trips, but she just couldn't deal with it at
all. we gave her to one of our friends before we left.
-L
MaryL - 21 Nov 2004 18:29 GMT
> wow! he is a beautiful cat! in the picture where he's on the chair,
> he looks exactly like our Murka! (the cat at my parent's house)
[quoted text clipped - 11 lines]
>
> -L
Great story!
MaryL
Phil P. - 21 Nov 2004 19:55 GMT
> The question of beauty as a determining factor in cat adoption has recently
> been discussed in another thread. Once again, this gave me grounds to ponder
[quoted text clipped - 45 lines]
>
> **There are no ugly cats. All cats are beautiful**
Absolutely!
The story was too beautiful to snip any part of it. You should send it into
cat/pet magazines and Fran at About.com.
The magical ingredient in Duffy's transformation is your love.
Phil
MaryL - 22 Nov 2004 13:25 GMT
>> The question of beauty as a determining factor in cat adoption has
> recently
[quoted text clipped - 12 lines]
>
> Phil
Thanks, Phil. What a nice compliment!
MaryL
kaeli - 22 Nov 2004 15:27 GMT
> Here is a set of "before and after" photos to show what I mean. The first
> one is the photo from the shelter that led me to adopt Duffy; the second
[quoted text clipped - 3 lines]
> http://pic10.picturetrail.com/VOL320/476350/1636692/19233823.jpg
> http://pic10.picturetrail.com/VOL320/476350/1916528/41680392.jpg
Holy cow!
What a difference!
He's just stunning now.

Signature
--
~kaeli~
I do whatever my Rice Krispies tell me to.
http://www.ipwebdesign.net/wildAtHeart
http://www.ipwebdesign.net/kaelisSpace
Luvskats00 - 25 Nov 2004 10:52 GMT
At first glance, I thought it was pictures of two different cats. See what a
little tlc can do!
Toni&Nate - 04 Dec 2004 14:16 GMT
Just saw the wonderful pictures of Duffy. Too bad more people don't
consider special needs cats.
Rona Yuthasastrakosol - 22 Nov 2004 22:54 GMT
<snip>
> My point is that Duffy had been bypassed at the shelter for several months,
> and anyone looking for a pretty cat probably would not have considered him -
> blind, thin, scruffy, and scared. The irony is that he is now completely
> transformed. Once he had received good-quality food, lots of attention,
> grooming and put on some weight, he became one of the prettiest cats I have
> ever seen. Most important, of course, he is an adorable, loving little guy.
My own cat was also a shelter kitty--she was a stray who had been out during
the coldest winter we had had in many years--her ears were frostbitten and
she was underweight (about 6-ish pounds) as well as just plain small for her
age. She had a small head for her body and was a bit strange looking (the
shelter gave her the name "Mouse" for a reason). She also did not make a
single sound (and isn't that one of the ways cats attract humans'
attention?). She was placed in a cage in the highest row of the cat kennel
and I suspect most people didn't even give her a second glance, or possibly
even a first glance. She had been there for three months and her sign said
she was in danger of being pts because she had been there for so long. I
took her into the playroom and she didn't want to play or even be held. She
just squirmed out of my arms and went under a chair to stare at me.
Although I did not want a white cat, and although I wanted a friendlier,
cuddlier cat, she was so funny looking that I was sure no one would adopt
her so I chose her (though there were also a couple of other cats I liked
more).
She turned out to be a sweetheart of a cat. Still not cuddly, but she loves
to be near people and has even converted my mother into a cat lover (just
the other day my mother said, "I think I understand how you feel about this
cat, now. I even sneak out of bed in the morning just so I won't wake her
up!"). And she has beautiful, beautiful eyes. She's still a bit funny
looking, but I love her just the same!
rona

Signature
***For e-mail, replace .com with .ca Sorry for the inconvenience!***
MaryL - 23 Nov 2004 04:13 GMT
> > Although I did not want a white cat, and although I wanted a friendlier,
> cuddlier cat, she was so funny looking that I was sure no one would adopt
[quoted text clipped - 11 lines]
>
> rona
That's a great story. Isn't it amazing to think of how often
circumstances -- not our own "planning" -- lead us to make a decision that
was "right" but that has also turned out to be best for *us*?
MaryL
Cat Protector - 23 Nov 2004 18:36 GMT
The woman was pretty dumb for bringing a cat into a household with birds.
They are prey animals and the woman was either clueless or was looking for
the perfect excuse to dump the cat in a shelter. It is not the cat's fault
here. You were good to adopt him. Special needs cats deserve love and
attention too. He looks like a very nice cat. You are right about the woman
though. She did a very low thing and obviously valued her birds over the
cat. Either that or she had a complex and got it in her head that Duffy was
inferior and thus tossed him into a shelter. It makes me wonder what
happened to her other cat.
People that dump cats in shelters and have weak excuses for doing so are
very low beings. This lady doesn't deserve such a beautiful and intelligent
creature. People like that value things over the life of the cat. Very sad
and I hope the woman that gave up Duffy doesn't adopt any more animals
because they'll dump them at the first sign of a problem instead of working
through it and solving the issue. I hope you have a good life with Duffy as
it sounds like he is a wonderful cat.

Signature
Cat Galaxy: All Cats! All The Time!
www.catgalaxymedia.com
Panther TEK: Staying On Top Of Your Computer Needs!
www.panthertekit.com
> The question of beauty as a determining factor in cat adoption has
> recently been discussed in another thread. Once again, this gave me
[quoted text clipped - 48 lines]
>
> **There are no ugly cats. All cats are beautiful**
MaryL - 23 Nov 2004 21:39 GMT
> The woman was pretty dumb for bringing a cat into a household with birds.
> They are prey animals and the woman was either clueless or was looking for
> the perfect excuse to dump the cat in a shelter. It is not the cat's fault
> here.
I have always suspected that she was just looking for an excuse. There must
have been some other reason that she didn't want Duffy (possibly his
blindness), but that is also difficult for me to comprehend -- he is an
absolute joy, a wonderful cat, and so well adjusted to his blindness that I
have had visitors who watched him for 10 or 15 minutes before realizing that
he is blind. He is incredible on the cat tree -- a little gymnast! He was
easily frightened when I adopted him but has completely overcome that fear.
Now, any visitor is a prime target for Duffy. He immediately approaches and
wants their attention (far different from Duffy when I first adopted him and
he would hide under the bed for very long periods of time if anyone came to
the door).
MaryL