Mr. Macho, my large black male, has become a visitor in our home.  Last April
my husband, who Macho adored, was hospitalized for two weeks.  We had to set up
a hospital bed in the dining room for him because it was just too difficult for
him to climb the stairs.  In addition, he uses oxygen at night.  

The first week my husband was home, Macho would jump up on the bed with him but
after a while that stopped.  Our next neighbor then told me Mr. Macho was
spending a lot of time with her and her son.  He would beg to be let in their
home and if he wasn't, he would open the screen door himself.

Since we have a cat door and a feeder for my two cats, Macho could come home
and eat and then he would take off again. Now he is hardly coming home at all.
My neighbor promised me she wouldn't feed Macho so at least I would see him
occasionally but I noticed the other day that he has lost weight.  I told my
neighbor to go ahead and feed him since he was driving her crazy crying in the
kitchen for food.

I miss Mr. Macho very much but I don't know what to do.  My husband has tried
to be extra loving to him but he just looks at him and walks away.

Has anyone encountered anything like this and if so, what can I do to convince
Macho he belongs here not at the neighbors.  Nan