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Millie Update (was Post-spay not eating)

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Darkchild - 14 Sep 2004 03:07 GMT
Hi all -

Thanks for 'being' with me during the trials of Millie's illness.

On the weekend things were great - her appetite returned and she was
chowing down on food and apparently her personality was coming back. The
vet mentioned that there were some more sores appearing on her back that
he was monitoring and a new one appeared on her leg. He took blood and
was going to get the results today to clear Millie to go home.

Well he phoned this morning - it appears that Millie's liver can no
longer cope and has failed or is in the process of failing. She is no
longer able to produce fibrin (sp?) which the vet explained helps with
wound healing. The wounds/sores on her back have grown bigger and more
have appeared. He said he normally would suture them closed but he'd
have to put Millie under and he's afraid that the anesthesia will be
harmful. He said he could try and glue them with surgical glue - but
they are too large for that. He has sedated her - so she isn't in pain
but he explained that you can see the muscle in some of the sores and
it's only a matter of time before they could be infected. He said this
this is definite a result of an underlying condition that she was
probably born with.

The vet explained that as a result of her liver failing she neurological
functions will likely fail too. He explained that the options for
treatment are to keep giving her fluids on an IV as long as she's
comfortable or to put her down. While he didn't say it, I believe that
she probably won't make it more than a few days. It seems that she is
too far along to be saved further and I believe that he has done
everything he could to save her.

I was supposed to visit her today. I haven't seen her since last
Tuesday. The vet said that it might be best not to come - I would likely
be frightened by her condition and he said "sometimes it's best to
remember them as they were."

I guess I'm in shock, I am in shock - I was cleaning up this morning in
preparation to bring her home on Wednesday night.

I'm in tears right now - I haven't been able to absorb this properly
since I've been at work since he phoned. I really thought that she would
make it. I never thought that our time together would be so short.

I guess I don't know what to say - thank you for all of your support and
advice. I wish the outcome of this would have been happier.

DC
Karen Chuplis - 14 Sep 2004 03:52 GMT
> Hi all -
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> DC

OH no :( I was so hoping to hear better news for you and Millie. I just
don't know what to say except that I am SO sorry and that this is really so
unusual.  At least Millie has gotten a family for however short a time. So
sweet a kitty deserved some love in her life. I'm so sorry.
KellyH - 14 Sep 2004 03:53 GMT
> Hi all -
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> DC

{{{{{{DC}}}}}}}
I'm in tears right along with you!!  I'm so sorry things turned out this
way.  Millie had someone to love her, and she can cross the Bridge knowing
that.

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Cathy Friedmann - 14 Sep 2004 03:59 GMT
> Hi all -
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> DC

Poor Millie & poor you; I wish this were turning out differently than it
appears to be.

Cathy
zuzu22@webtv.net - 14 Sep 2004 04:30 GMT
I am so sorry to hear this. I know it may be tough to go see her and be
with her, but seeing your familiar face and feeling your gentle touch
during her last moments is probably the greatest gift you could give to
Millie, especially after what the poor baby has had to endure. I have
been through this many times, and as hard as it has been sometimes, I
have never once regretted making the choice to be there until the end. A
little over a month ago I lost my cat Omar after he threw a blood clot
that went into his lungs. He died in my car on the way to the emergency
vet. I was trying to soothe him with my voice and had the carrier door
open and my hand on him stroking him as he took his last breath. It
happened so suddenly and was so completely unexpected and traumatic, yet
I found comfort in the fact that he knew I was there right to the end. I
was so afraid that when I got him to the ER they would take him away
from me and to the back and he would die surrounded by strangers, but
fortunately that's not what happened. To me, the guilt of not being
there would have been far more distressing.

I know you have a tough choice to make, especially since this is your
first time and it's all so unfair. I just wanted to share my experience
in the hopes it might give you some perspective. I wish you and Millie
peace, and thank you for doing all you could for her.

Megan

                                   
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Mary - 14 Sep 2004 06:13 GMT
> I am so sorry to hear this. I know it may be tough to go see her and be
> with her, but seeing your familiar face and feeling your gentle touch
> during her last moments is probably the greatest gift you could give to
> Millie, especially after what the poor baby has had to endure.

Dark Child, this is true. See her.
Mary - 14 Sep 2004 04:33 GMT
> Hi all -
>
> Thanks for 'being' with me during the trials of Millie's illness. [...]
>> I'm in tears right now - I haven't been able to absorb this properly
since I've been at work since he phoned. I really thought that she would
make it. I never thought that our time together would be so short.

God what terrible news. I'm so sorry, DC. It is very hard to understand how
it can be that you have had to endure so much pain just because you tried to
do a good thing. My heart goes out to Millie and to you.
Nomen Nescio - 14 Sep 2004 05:40 GMT
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From: Darkchild <darkchild@REMOVEcanada.com>

>I was supposed to visit her today. I haven't seen her since last
>Tuesday. The vet said that it might be best not to come - I would likely
>be frightened by her condition and he said "sometimes it's best to
>remember them as they were."

First, let me say that I'm saddened by the results and my heart truly does
go out to you.
But I have to ask...Why have you not seen her in almost a week? I've never
had a cat stay at the vet that I have not seen for even a full day. Seeing you
is important to her. She has no idea what's going on and probably feels
abandoned. And as much as you may trust the vet, a kind and pleasant personality
can sometimes be nothing more that a "smoke screen" for incompetence and
carelessness. Every vet should be under you constant scrutiny.
As far as "remember them as they were", I would be very uncomfortable with
that statement for many reasons.
I would go see her. It may be tough on you, but if she knows you are there, her
last moments will probably be happy because you are there. Do it for her.
Actually, if you quoted the vet accurately, there are a few things that would make
me somewhat less than comfortable.

Again, you do have my sympathy for having to face the situation that you are now
experiencing.
PawsForThought - 14 Sep 2004 13:25 GMT
>From: Darkchild darkchild@REMOVEcanada.com

>I really thought that she would
>make it. I never thought that our time together would be so short.

DK, I am so sorry to hear about Millie.  I know your time together has been
much, much too short.  But I believe there was a purpose for you to be in each
other's lives, and to share your love.  Here is a poem that I hope might bring
you a bit of comfort in this very difficult time:

Lend Me A Kitten

I will lend to you for a while
a kitten, God said.
For you to love while he lives,
and mourn when he's dead.

Maybe for twelve or fourteen years,
or maybe two or three.
But will you, 'till I call him back,
take care of him for me?

He'll bring his charms to gladden you
and should his stay be brief,
you'll always have his memories
as solace for your grief.

I cannot promise he will stay,
since all from earth return.
But there are lessons taught below
I want this kitten to learn.

I've looked the whole world over
in search of teachers true,
And from the folk that crowds life's land
I have chosen you.

Now will you give him all your love,
nor think the labor vain?
Nor hate me when I come to take
my kitten home again?

And my heart replied,
"My Lord, Thy Will Be Done."
For all the joys this kitten brings,
the risk of grief I'll run.

We'll shelter him with tenderness,
we'll love him while we may.
And for the happiness that we've known,
forever grateful stay.

But should you call him back
much sooner than we planned,
We'll brave the bitter grief that comes,
and try to understand.

If by our love we've managed
your wishes to achieve,
in memory of his sweet sweet love,
please help us while we grieve.

When our cherished kitten
departs this world of strife,
Please send yet another needing soul
for us to love all his life.

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Theresa - 14 Sep 2004 14:54 GMT
> Hi all -
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> DC

If you can possibly be with her, try. Our beloved cat, Tribbles, died
alone at the vet's and we've regretted it ever since. Millie knew she
was loved. You must be a wonderful person. Take care.
Mary - 14 Sep 2004 18:56 GMT
>I guess I'm in shock, I am in shock - I was cleaning up this morning in
>preparation to bring her home on Wednesday night.

I've lost two cats in this same quick shocking way. I walked around in a stupor
for two weeks, could hardly believe that my kitties were gone. I cried a lot.
Each wasn't sick long, didn't really seem that sick, then they were gone. I'm
so sorry you have to experience this. All I can say is that your kitty sure was
lucky to have someone like you to care for her. I'll keep you both in my
prayers.
Darkchild - 16 Sep 2004 01:00 GMT
Millie's fight with her disease ended today - I had to make the horrible
decision to put her to sleep. She began convulsions and was in a
vegitative state.

I appeaciate all of your advice about seeing her - I made the decision
to see her on Monday night after reading your posts. Unfortunately I had
to be out of town on a job yeasterday and planned to speed over to the
vet this afternoon. The vet and I were in constant contact - I really
wanted to get to her but she just couldn't hold out. I can't believe I
didn't get to say goodbye.

The vet is going to go over everything with me tomorrow so I can better
understand what went on. Her kittens are still unadopted and I want to
make sure that if it's heredity they are protected too.

I feel so terribly, horribly guilty on so many levels - but I know this
was all for the best. She was an adorable sweet friend who was
well-behaved and had a very special personality. She loved to plop on my
chest in the morning and reach out her paw to touch my face to say
'hello'. When she was really tired - she would sleep on her back with
her front paws in the air with her little tongue sticking out. And she
loved to play hide and seek.

I miss her terribly eventhough our time was short together. I hope I
made a little bit of a difference in her life. And learning what all of
you know - how having a furry friend in your life makes it all that more
enriched - is a priceless lesson.

Thank you once again for reading. You are a great group, very kind and
helpful. I hope I'll be back reading in the future one day.

Thanks again,
DC
Mary - 16 Sep 2004 01:25 GMT
> Millie's fight with her disease ended today - I had to make the horrible
decision to put her to sleep. She began convulsions and was in a vegitative
state.

I'm so terribly sorry. Words cannot tell you. This is important though: you
have no reason to feel guilty. Your heart was in the right place from day 1.
You did everything you could and much more than many would have. Please
don't let the feeling of guilt interfere with your heart healing from this
sad, sad chain of events. I'm glad you're checking on the kittens. Let us
know.
Karen Chuplis - 16 Sep 2004 01:42 GMT
> Thank you once again for reading. You are a great group, very kind and
> helpful. I hope I'll be back reading in the future one day.
>
> Thanks again,
> DC

I really hope you do come back and with a new kitty friend that Millie
selects for you from Rainbow Bridge. Do you know the poem? I'm QUITE certain
you made a difference. Short time or not, you gave her a home and that means
everything.

Karen
MacCandace - 16 Sep 2004 02:33 GMT
I'm very sorry about little Millie.  How sad.  Maybe if you adopted one of her
kittens, you would feel close to her again?  I'm sure Millie knew you loved
her.

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Cheryl - 16 Sep 2004 02:44 GMT
In the fine newsgroup "rec.pets.cats.health+behav", Darkchild
<darkchild@REMOVEcanada.com> artfully composed this message within
<news:2qs3daF13sq4qU1@uni-berlin.de> on 15 Sep 2004:

> Millie's fight with her disease ended today - I had to make the
> horrible decision to put her to sleep.

I'm so sorry.

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Cathy Friedmann - 17 Sep 2004 02:26 GMT
> Millie's fight with her disease ended today - I had to make the horrible
> decision to put her to sleep. She began convulsions and was in a
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> Thanks again,
> DC

While I'm glad that you had the chance to know Millie - who sounds like she
was such a sweetie!, I'm so sorry that she had such an unexpectedly short
life.  Which of course brings grief for you.

Cathy
 
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