In alt.support.menopause Cathy Friedmann <clfr@adelphia.net> wrote:

All three of the adult cats are pretty normal with me, but they go over to
the cage and after staring for a while lean in to give a good "hissss" to
make sure their point is getting across.  Then Benjie sometimes displaces
some agression on one of the others.  There was a nice period when Caley
would sit and watch Sprocket in an interested fashion, but then last night
she hissed again.

She took a long time to accept Sebastian, and they greet each other with
nose touches now, but he's *clearly* third cat on the totem pole.  I think
that when Sprocket's bigger and has been cleared of any FelV problems, he
could probably hold his own with them, but I don't want four nonviolent
but unhappy cats.  :-(  I keep thinking that Sprocket as cat #4 would be
more cowed than Sebbie is, but I don't actually think he would be.  Sebbie
was more than 12 weeks old when he was trapped, and he's basically a
semi-socialized feral.  Sprocket is and will be fully socialized.

Oh, I don't know.  Clearly I'd *like* to keep Spocky-wocket, but what I
want is not necessarily the same thing as what is best for everyone.  
*sigh*  And what I *really* want is the best for everyone!  

Priscilla