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What to do with the ashes?

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-L. - 17 May 2008 08:55 GMT
Since Peewee is still sitting on my mantle (after a year), and Mimi is
due to come back next week - the question remains...what should I do
with their ashes...?

Pee liked going outdoors - and I'd be inclined to put him in a pot
outside with some bulbs, though I'm not sure I want him and Mimi in
the yard here permanently.  Mimi hated going outside - but I think
she'd like some flowers to chew on. ;)  DH suggested sprinkling them
at the park where I put my snakes...but that's not a place they ever
were, ya know?  My dog is on a beach in CA because she loved it there
- if and when the other dog goes, she will join her.  I can't see
putting the cats in a place they have never been.

I also thought about getting a cat statue(s), mixing the ashes in
cement and making a base for the statue(s).  Then I could plant a
memorial garden.  That way, I could always take them with me when I
moved.

What to do, what to do....
MaryL - 17 May 2008 13:33 GMT
> Since Peewee is still sitting on my mantle (after a year), and Mimi is
> due to come back next week - the question remains...what should I do
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>
> What to do, what to do....

I have always buried my cats' bodies, but I may do cremation in the future.
When I buried my cats, I planted a tree at the head of the spot where they
were buried.  That served as a living memorial to them and also meant that I
could always remember the exact location.  Of course, as you said, that
meant that I could not take them with me.  I very much like your idea of
creating a base for a cat statue by mixing the ashes, and I have a friend
who selects a hollow cat figurine -- one that looks as much like the cat as
possible -- and keeps the ashes there.  My sister-in-law ordered a memorial
stone with her cat's name and an inscription.  She is going to place the
stone in her garden and bury the ashes there.  Here are some examples of the
type of stone she used.  (She used a flat stone, not the upright type that
look like tombstones.)  I don't know where she got hers, but she was able to
have her cat's name and her own selection for an inscription engraved.
http://www.memorial-urns.com/pet_memorial_stones.html

MaryL
-L. - 17 May 2008 17:16 GMT
On May 17, 5:33 am, "MaryL" <stanco...@yahoo.comTAKE-OUT-THE-LITTER>
wrote:

> > Since Peewee is still sitting on my mantle (after a year), and Mimi is
> > due to come back next week - the question remains...what should I do
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>
> MaryL

Thanks for the link, Mary.  Maybe I should scope around on the 'net
and see what's available.

My family must be procrastinators - I just realized we still have Mom
too. :p
-L.
hopitus - 17 May 2008 19:59 GMT
> On May 17, 5:33 am, "MaryL" <stanco...@yahoo.comTAKE-OUT-THE-LITTER>
> wrote:
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I also like your idea about the ashes/cement mix/statue if you know
how to
do this yourself. Not to be irreverent but Mom would be a lot more
convenient
in an urn or something displayable other than a cardboard box - we had
my
grandmother in box years till someone in family went to N.O. and put
her in
elevated grave w/her son - same cemetery seen in 'Easy Rider' years
ago, LOL.
My relatives' grave is directly behind crypt of Marie Laveau, high
priestess voodoo
Creole recognized locally. Always a crowd there bringing presents of
all kinds
whenever we visited....not often, you take your life in your hands
after dark.
Condolences from hopitus.
MaryL - 17 May 2008 23:30 GMT
> On May 17, 5:33 am, "MaryL" <stanco...@yahoo.comTAKE-OUT-THE-LITTER>
> wrote:
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> too. :p
> -L.

My mother died in September, and I have her ashes.  Both she and my father
had requested that, and my brother-in-law before them.  Our family had
donated a small "reading garden" (ornamental trees and benches for students
to use) in memory of my father and brother-in-law.  We obtained permission
to scatter their ashes under those trees (well back from the walking path,
although that really would not matter).  My sister and I are going to take
Mother's ashes with us when we go to Ohio this summer, and our family will
get together for a small service and scatter her ashes in the same area.

I was so sorry to hear about Mimi. I know how painful it is to go through
that experience.

MaryL
Barb - 17 May 2008 15:01 GMT
I have always scattered their ashes where they loved to be.  (The back yard
and later the deck.)  The wind and elements of course scatter them about the
world while hopefully their spirits remain near me.  The problem with
holding on to the ashes even in a container, unless you are going to live in
the same place forever, is that as you live out your much longer life span
you are going to be moving around with a whole lot of containers, especially
if you have had multiple cats.

Barb
cybercat - 17 May 2008 16:38 GMT
"-L." <MonkeySnaps@gmail.com> wrote>
> I also thought about getting a cat statue(s), mixing the ashes in
> cement and making a base for the statue(s).  Then I could plant a
> memorial garden.  That way, I could always take them with me when I
> moved.

That sounds like a neat idea.
-Lost - 20 May 2008 06:56 GMT
Response to "-L." <MonkeySnaps@gmail.com>:

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> I also thought about getting a cat statue(s), mixing the ashes in
> cement and making a base for the statue(s).  Then I could plant a
> memorial garden.  That way, I could always take them with me when I
> moved.

Yeah, this sounds very cool.  Makes me think Egyptian for some reason.

I love this idea.

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-Lost
Remove the extra words to reply by e-mail.  Don't e-mail me.  I am
kidding.  No I am not.

James - 22 May 2008 04:00 GMT
One might arrange to have the ashes buried with oneself or mixed with
one's own ashes and scattered.
 
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