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Cat Forum / Health and Behavior / August 2007Tragic Accident
A couple of hours ago, Paul went outside to pick up our daughter from her Ganny's house after dinner. He got into the car, readied himself to leave, & drove away. It wasn't until after Paul got off the driveway that we could see that there was a cat underneath, that he had run over. We have seen this cat for about 4 months now, because he comes to the feeding bowl every day. We named him old faithful because we couldn't find out who he belonged to , & we offered him shelter during the floods recently too. Obviously, Paul is beside himself, & nothing we can say makes any difference to the terrible guilt that he feels any better. There is no consolation in knowing that he was a very old cat. he was deaf, & nearly blind too. In fact a few days ago we had discussed what to do regarding him. We couldn't offer him a full time home, but we were looking for someone who could have him to see out his final months, or maybe a year @ the most ( He looked older than Jasper did @ 18 years old). We frontlined him, &wormed him last week, & took him next door to my neighbor for advice (she is a vet!), & she advised us to try & home him if possible, but if he deteriorated, then we should look @ other possibilities. I think she was trying to say that there is no cure for being old & worn out, & that he couldn't be cured of that, but he could be spared the mercy of lameness, pain & no quality of life. Now all of this seems so pointless! We carried him indoors, cleaned him up, then my boys buried him right next to Jasper, our old faithful friend. I hope that with time, that Paul will get over what happened, but right now, nothing can take away the guilt, horror & pain he is going through. We all said our farewells to him, & wished him peace on the other side of the Rainbow Bridge, & instilled the hope that we hoped he would remain a part of us & our family, as he did in life, all be it a short few weeks. I hope that time will heal Paul. It must way terribly on his soul, all we can do is encourage him to believe that ultimately, it was a tragic accident. Purrs of healing for Paul Sheelagh>"o"< Tragic - yes. Accident - yes. Sometimes these things happen, and it's out of our hands. Purrs to Old Faithful and to Paul. -bonbon >A couple of hours ago, Paul went outside to pick up our daughter from >her Ganny's house after dinner. He got into the car, readied himself [quoted text clipped - 21 lines] >Purrs of healing for Paul >Sheelagh>"o"< Sympathy wishes to both you & your husband, but you both know well it was an unfortunate accident. You can go over & over in your mind "the should have's & could have's" but they wouldn't have been practical or possible, & you were already looking out for him & doing the best you could under the circumstances. M. > A couple of hours ago, Paul went outside to pick up our daughter from > her Ganny's house after dinner. He got into the car, readied himself to [quoted text clipped - 29 lines] > Purrs of healing for Paul > Sheelagh>"o"< Years ago my Aunt died in an auto accident. At the funeral, the speaker said that she "died magically, not tragically. One minute she was with us here and the next minute with the Almighty". Purrs that your husband will look at this accident the same way. Purrs for the kitty at Rainbow Bridge. MLB > A couple of hours ago, Paul went outside to pick up our daughter from > her Ganny's house after dinner. He got into the car, readied himself [quoted text clipped - 32 lines] > Purrs of healing for Paul > Sheelagh>"o"< this poor cat was probably killed instantly and would not have known anything about it, in which case paul probably saved him from a long and drawn death from old age or beign attacked by a fox or something which may have been worse. ok that doesn;t make anyone feel any better, but he did not know that the cat was there, you often assume that when you start the enigine that it would be enough to spook any cat hiding underneath into moving pretty quick, but obviously this cat did not have the hearing or reflexes to do so. stuff happens and we all to die sometime, and perhaps being killed instantly by a car would better than a slow death from some painful disease. hopefully this old cat will be over the rainbow bridge and happy now, poor sausage bookie > > A couple of hours ago, Paul went outside to pick up our daughter from > > her Ganny's house after dinner. He got into the car, readied himself [quoted text clipped - 51 lines] > > - Show quoted text - Thank you to all of you who have responded. Your words are comforting, & appreciated as are the purrs to comfort Old faithful, on his travels over the Rainbow Bridge. I think shock has simply set in. it's never easy for any of us to deal with a cats death, but, when it happened by your own hands, it really does drive deep into the soul. Guilt is something you ultimately have to learn to live with.... Of course it is all the worse, knowing that we had been trying to keep him alive, so when this happened, you don't need me to explain what it did to Paul. He might be a Big Chap, but that doesn't stop a man weeping. If anything, I admire him all the more, because @ least it is helping him to accept what happened, which goes a long way to forgiving yourself in the long run. My guess is that having done so much to try & help cats escape dangers like this, it is all the more crushing! I agree with all of you. I would have hated it had he just disappeared one day, never to return. At least this way, we can find some closure to this extremely sad incident. He has the honour of sharing a plot next to our beloved Jasper, & the kids all helped with the burial, so that Paul didn't have to. I am so grateful to them! At 17 & 16, both boys have acted very maturely throughout the entire incident. I am keeping an eye out for them just in case there is a delayed action... ( they saw it all happen, but couldn't do anything to prevent it!) I feel comforted to know that he has gone to a better place where he can be young & chase butterflies all day when he wants to. I have told Paul that the last moments we so brief that I am not sure he ever realised what happened, & he certainly would never want Paul to suffer for what happened. We didn't know him for that long, but he certainly entered our hearts in a big way. He will never be forgotten Thanks to all of you, Sheelagh>"o"< > Purrs of healing for Paul > Sheelagh>"o"< My thoughts are with Paul. This is a terible thing to go through. Andy Sorry to hear about this Sheelagh... it's a shame, but if he was old and died quickly, that's the silver lining. Charlie On 6 Aug, 01:13, Charlie Wilkes <charlie_wil...@users.easynews.com> wrote: > Sorry to hear about this Sheelagh... it's a shame, but if he was old and > died quickly, that's the silver lining. > > Charlie thats exactly what I think, and as you said sheelagh, he probably never knew what hit him. I truly hope that when all our cats cross the rainbow bridge that they go back to being young healthy kitties again in heaven, fit and free from any pain and able to chase butterflies around, occasionally bothering to look down on us silly humans and laugh at what we get up to in their absence. this old fellow is probably looking down right now and thinking "well at least they cared for me in my last few weeks on earth and tried to do something for me and feed me when noone else would" and if he could be he would be thankful for that. bookie > On 6 Aug, 01:13, Charlie Wilkes <charlie_wil...@users.easynews.com> > wrote: [quoted text clipped - 16 lines] > > bookie Yes, and he knew love in his last days. He was at "his" home where he felt comfortable. I'm very sorry. I know how it is to keep having strays show up and not being able to bring them all inside. We can only do what we can do and it sounds like you did quite a lot for him. Time will heal Paul's wounds; it's sad but life sucks sometimes. Candace I'm sorry, Sheelagh. I'm sure it's going to take some time for Paul, it would for any animal-lover. Just keep being nice to him, I'm sure he needs a lot of TLC right now. Take care, Rhonda > I'm sorry, Sheelagh. I'm sure it's going to take some time for Paul, it > would for any animal-lover. [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > > Rhonda This is true. I took Paul to the garden centre yesterday to choose a rose to plant next to our feline companions. Old faithful is buried right next to our long time feline family member, Jasper, who died last November. He was 18 years old, & it was like loosing a child. Time does heal. I can remember thinking that there would never be a day that would pass where I was able to think about him without crying, but I was wrong. Now, I am able to think of him fondly, & of all of the good times that we shared together too. Jasper loved to help me whilst I was gardening. The same as Old Faithful, we inherited him from our homes previous owners, who moved out of the house, & left the cat to fend for himself. Both cats had very similar personality traits, both nervous around humans to start with, & eventually won over, to become close personal friends, & both took a piece of our hearts when they left us.. . I do like to think that one day, Paul will be able to do the same thing. In his case, it is because he blames himself for the death of someone(cat), that he really did love, so it was like killing a friend, all be it unintentionally. I know that with time, he will come to see this in the same light, but in the meantime, that tender loving care is desperately needed & we are doing our best to support him. Like bookie, I like to think that he has now been released from the worldly difficulties, like pain, hunger, sorrow ect. He must be looking down & thinking what a pair of old fools we are, & remembers us fondly as we do him, whilst enjoying the greater place that the Rainbow Bridge takes you to. He is in the wind that stirs your hair, the whisper on the edge of hearing & the reminder in your mind when decisions need to be made. Hell, we do miss him, but come next summer when the rose flowers, he will be part of that fragrance, some of the beauty & the whole of the Rose's flowers to look @ in their perfect glory. Thanks for your purrs of comfort & words of wisdom. Sheelagh I can only agree with everybody else that it was a tragic accident. Whether you have a cat for days or years you bond with them and always want them with you. My heart goes out to you and Paul....Old Faithful and Jasper will be with my 2 cats that sadly died this year Molly and Donny - they are buried next to each other. When we are sad or remembering their ways we can sit at there grave because they will always be with us. We too are thinking about buying a rose or certainly some nice plant. Paul in time will be fine, what you have both got to remember is that you helped Old Faithful and there are a lot of people that wouldn't. My Great Grandma died at the age of 101 in 1998 and I helped my Mum look after her when she used to spend Xmas with us. I grew very fond of her so when she died I was deeply upset (as you would be), but what got me through it was the fact that I had helped in her last years of life (and what a good life she had - as they say in cricket GOOD INNINGS). Purrs go to Old Faithful, Jasper, Molly, Donny and Pudgy (who I read about yesterday). from one cat lover to another, take care and keep smiling :-) Clare x >> I'm sorry, Sheelagh. I'm sure it's going to take some time for Paul, it >> would for any animal-lover. [quoted text clipped - 38 lines] >Thanks for your purrs of comfort & words of wisdom. >Sheelagh > > I'm sorry, Sheelagh. I'm sure it's going to take some time for Paul, it > > would for any animal-lover. [quoted text clipped - 41 lines] > Thanks for your purrs of comfort & words of wisdom. > Sheelagh i am wondering if you will find a rose bush actually called 'old faithful', there are so many types and names that you just might and it woudl be very appropriate. you know when i am trying to persuade people to give a hoem to an elderly cat they always come out with 'oh but it will be so sad when they die and i will be so upset' blah blah blah and I just think that is so far from the truth in what actually happens and how you actually feel. I too had a Jasper who had to be PTS in july 2005, bladder tumour to big to operate on, he was about 18 I think, he was a lovely old soul, mainly white with black blobs here and there (kind of like a friesian cow) and although i was sad when he went I knew that at least i had made his last 18 months of life as happy and pleasant as he could have hoped for and much better than they might have been living in a rescue pen or possibly on the streets. For me jasper dying was a release form pain for him and a reason to celebrate and i felt happy that i had made him comfortable in his last year or so. peolpe kept saying inthe couple of days after he died that I should leave it a while before even thinking abut gettign another, maye a few months, and i suppose a lot fo them could not understand why i went straight out to the cats protection main shelter the next weekend and bagged myself jessie, or rather she bagged me. the way i saw it i could not wiat to get another cat, an old one, as all i could think was that there must be lots of other 'jaspers' out there who badly need a home for their twilight years, or even months in some cases, and that their need for a comfortable place to rest their weary heads after a lifetime of providing companionship to someone else was far more important than anything else. I know it is the older cats who are always looked over at shelters and they are the ones who badly need homes and this need is much greater than my need to 'get over' jasper. Actually getting jessie and running around after her ladyship really helped me get over jasper and i could just imagine him looking down at us and smiling trying to make our new mistress comfortable, probably thinking "yes, that jessie has them wrapped round her little paw just like i did, excellent work". maybe knowing that jasper was old and stuff already prepared me for his passing and just made me think that I would not mourn his death but celebrate the fact he had a decent place to live for his last year and a half and that he did not die alone in a gutter or in a cat pen but whilst being held by me at the vets as he was put out of his pain. and yes i am aware that i will cry my eyes out when jessie goes but I am also aware that there will many old cats out there who will be needing the love that i will have going spare when that awful day comes. bookie > > > I'm sorry, Sheelagh. I'm sure it's going to take some time for Paul, it > > > would for any animal-lover. [quoted text clipped - 95 lines] > > - Show quoted text - Shelters beg for people like you..... There are so many older pensioner cats, that inevitably when it comes to the pecking order of choosing a family cat, they always seem to be overlooked. It is a terrible shame, but true all the same. In both cases, we didn't actually choose either Jasper, or Old Faithful. They chose us. Ultimately, I suppose it doesn't really matter how it came about. I am just pleased & privileged to have been there for both of them @ the right time, in the right place. And, if the same scenario presented itself tomorrow, I wouldn't think twice about finding room for him/ her @ our inn, because they are the most vulnerable & most needy of the home we can provide for them. Kittens used to be my life, as you know- But there is a certain pleasure in having an old lady, or chap- They offer a type of love that can only come from the more mature puss cat. I don't regret having either of them for one moment & would do the same again if another chose us to love them. We aren't ready for another one yet, but having said that, shortly after Jasper died, Ringo "knocked" on our door, & literally walked into our lives. Sometimes you don't always necessarily choose the cat or when you want one either. They choose the time and the place themselves :o) There probably is a Rose by that name Bookie, but Paul chose one called Red Velvet. It's a free flowering bush that blooms all summer & is supposed to have a wonderful fragrance. He chose that one for both of those reasons, but mainly because he thought it reflected what he thought they deserved. The plushest, best & most luxuriant too.... saxrocco via CatKB.com: Purrs go to Old Faithful, Jasper, Molly, Donny and Pudgy (who I read about yesterday). from one cat lover to another, take care and keep smiling :-) Clare x Thank you Clair, We appreciate your sentiment, & understand your loss as well. It will take time, but one day, like us, you will feel able to share all of that pent up love on a cat who not only chooses you ( They just like to allow you to "think you chose them", Lol;o).No cat will ever take the place of your kitty's. that love is concluded & both cats took a piece of your soul with them, in the same way that you retained a part of them, in the corner of your heart. Does this make sense to you? The next puss who chooses you, will generate their own love as you will too. Greetings & Regards from Catz-Castle, Sheelagh >"o"< > Shelters beg for people like you..... > There are so many older pensioner cats, that inevitably when it comes > to the pecking order of choosing a family cat, they always seem to be > overlooked. It is a terrible shame, but true all the same. actually going to meet another old timer at the one of the cats protection fosterers homes tonight, he is about 16 years old, his mum died and he was rehomed, then they didn't want him anymore for some strange reason (some people are very odd) so he was returned after being made to live outside for a few months by these people (some people are just plain cruel). it is really just a formality, we are supposed to be going along to 'see what we think of him' when really it is what he thinks of us which counts, either way i suspect we will be coming home with one more person in the car than went we went there. Don't know why we have to go and see what we think of him/whether we like him, surely that is irrelevant? of course i will like him; he is an old cat, he is rather fat apparantly, no doubt spends most of the day sleeping, probably fairly cantankerous too with lots of special needs and foibles, but he needs a home asap, kind of a no-brainer really. he was described as 'just a big teddy bear' so i can't wait to meet him god knows what jessie is going to think.... > i can't wait to meet > him > > god knows what jessie is going to think.... PICS! > > i can't wait to meet > > him > > > god knows what jessie is going to think.... > > PICS! LOTS & Lots &Lots of Pic's Please, lol!!! And lots of details too please. After he gets home & Jessie & Terrie will have lots to time do some bottom sniffing & hissing, before head butts can commence of course... Can't wait to meet/see your new house mate, He sounds absolutely delightful. In fact he sounds just like a fat fellow who lives next door. He sits on their shed roof all day, blowing raspberry's @ our lot, then grinning his head off @ them... Of course, Ringo just wafts his tail around & ignores him, but Lucy (fur!) gets baited everytime :o) (10 guesses who Lucy(fur!) takes after? They do say that cats mirror their slave's personalities. I'm begining to think that this might actually be true, Lol's!! Sheelagh >"o"< > > "bookie" <emily_boo...@hotmail.com> wrote in message > [quoted text clipped - 25 lines] > to think that this might actually be true, Lol's!! > Sheelagh >"o"< the only pics available are on www.buckscats.org.uk go to the 'adopt' page and scroll down until you get to Mr McGregor, odd name for a cat but it seems to suit him > > > "bookie" <emily_boo...@hotmail.com> wrote in message > [quoted text clipped - 31 lines] > > - Show quoted text - Oh Yes, I can see life is going to be a right bundle of laughs for you all. He is a very mature sage looking chap, & I am certain by his age that he will be wise in the ladies department already. I think you are in for a wonderful time with him guarding you all (or should I say you guarding them all..? I'm not quite sure yet :o) I wish you all the best with him, & hope that you young fillies like him as much as I think you obviously have. I think life at your house is about to get interesting, Lol!! Poor old Sophie. she is the sort of cat that we get in. Sometimes it can take months for them to realise that you are not going to kick them out of the way when you even pass them. People can be so cruel. I had to say good bye to the chuckle siblings this morning. They went to their new home & hopefully this time, they ill stay with their new slave's for life. We vetted them well, & I think they will be fine there. I have to be honest, I am going to miss them though;o( We have also taken delivery of a pair of snow shoes too. It started with one cat, then ended up being 2. The first one was handed to us to care for because her mummy had a severe stroke- Apparently they are sister's, & the daughter tried keeping this lady's favourite kitten, but simply couldn't cope. I will show you a pic of them. We only have them for a week or 10 days. I have never met a real snow shoe before, & must say that I am quite taken with them. However, they have a good home to go to ,so I can't be tempted to keep them... Here are a few photos of the Chuckle sibblings & a couple of the snow shoes too. http://picasaweb.google.co.uk/sheelaghmadden/TheSnowShoeSisters http://picasaweb.google.co.uk/sheelaghmadden/ToKeepOrToHome Best of Luck Bookie Sheelagh >"o"< Those cats are gorgeous Sheelagh....I wish I could go out and get another now but we go away at the end of the month and then in October so I don't want to re-house another until after that. I am feeling a bit guilty because if I was to get another it would be a kitten...but you are right so many older cats get left and they deserve a good home too. I am just so used to bringing kittens up, we told our 6 year old that he could choose the next kitten. I think it is a case of going to a shelter and rightfully so see which one picks you. 'Rover' our last remaining cat has been sticking with us more than he did, I guess that is only natural after his brother/best mate is not with him anymore? I have really enjoyed taking the time out to come on this website and will carry on. Thanks to you all Clare x >> > > "bookie" <emily_boo...@hotmail.com> wrote in message >> [quoted text clipped - 38 lines] >Best of Luck Bookie >Sheelagh >"o"< > Those cats are gorgeous Sheelagh....I wish I could go out and get another now > but we go away at the end of the month and then in October so I don't want to [quoted text clipped - 61 lines] > > - Show quoted text - You are most welcome. I'm glad you got a smile out of them, I do too... I used to breed cats, until I cam here.... It did the same thing to me, as will happen to you too ( I hope.) I didn't see anything wrong with breeding, but as time passed, I began to see that I was part of the problem with the overproduction of kittens. I was taking away the chance of other cats getting a fair home & I felt dreadful about it- In the end, my conscience decided for me... I had a final litter of Birmans, & ended up missing out on their rearing, because we had a Cat-flu bug running raging rampant straight through our cats, & every kitten we had @ that time, died. It was the worst thing possible to watch, doubly so knowing that the parents were inoculated. I had to allow my last litter to go to a milk mother to feed them. She was a lovely girl, Tabby, with 2 kittens of her own yet she still took our kittens on. Tahnee.... Wendy & a couple of others here, suggested that if I missed out on the kitten bit, to volunteer to take in unwanted litters, & kittens in desperate need of shelter. I do a bit of work for the cat protection League, & Ragdoll Rescue, UK & lots of local turn- upppers too. I get all sorts that come to stay with us, & I love every moment of it. It's always hard to say Bye, but when you know that the home they are going to are good homes, it makes it all worth while :o) You shouldn't feel guilty about getting another cat. Everyone has different ways of coping. If you had already planned on getting one, then go ahead. It's your life, your love, & your decision. You know that this kitty will never take the place of your beloved cats, so go for it. Not everyone is suited to having older cats, & the kittens are just as needy. I'm "Assuming" that you live in the USA? Because I am in the UK, I might not be the best person to advise you here. However, if you ping someone like Phil, Cybercat, Rhonda, Cheryl, C.Nipped(who recently adopted!!) or -L, I feel sure that they might be in a better position to help you out here. By the sound of things, cats & kittens in no kill shelters are just as needy of homes as the kill policy shelters. What a dreadful choice to have to make? I feel for all of you there. I guess, I might be inclind to go to both & take one from each; one from the kill shelter, & another from a no kill..But then again, I am a sucker for cats & can't help myself :o) Wait until after your holiday, which is a very wise decision... & take the time in between to talk to one another & decide what you feel is best for your circumstances, & that you feel that you can cope with. Not everyone is suited to having older cats. Bookie doesn't have any kids @ home, so there is no worry of the cat taking a disliking to a very boisterous young lad, so an ideal contender to have an older cat, to join her maturer lady friends, Terri & Jessie, both torties & very delightful with it. Welcome to the cat slave society Clare, & I look forward to loads more instalments of the life and times of ***** & ******, when they come home. It's always good to make more cat slave friends. Sheelagh >"o"< > > Those cats are gorgeous Sheelagh....I wish I could go out and get another now > > but we go away at the end of the month and then in October so I don't want to [quoted text clipped - 123 lines] > > - Show quoted text - yes basically my house is just a retirement home for old cats, where they go to snooze away their twilight years. It is sad but i am a sucker for a mangy flea bitten old senior citizen. could you get 2 kittens perhaps, then they could play with each other and not harass the older cat who is proabbly missing his lost companion and may not appreciate havign some rambunctious kitten trying to pounce on him all the time. At least with 2 together they would keep each other entertained. that way you also home more cats, as long as you get them from a rescue centre or shelter of course, and get them neutered of course. bookie Hi Sheelagh Thanks for the reply - yes your pics made me smile and realise that I gave Donny the best life and now it is time to help another furry friend. I am not from the USA by the way I live in the UK (Yorkshire). Check the link out that I put on my thread 'sudden cat death' the cats on there are all worthy of homes! Right I am determined to get a picture of Donny on here....... Bye 4 now Clare >> Those cats are gorgeous Sheelagh....I wish I could go out and get another now >> but we go away at the end of the month and then in October so I don't want to [quoted text clipped - 61 lines] > >Sheelagh >"o"< > > > > "bookie" <emily_boo...@hotmail.com> wrote in message > [quoted text clipped - 70 lines] > > - Show quoted text - yes the story of sophie the abandoned birman breeding queen is very sad but hopefully they will find her a lovely home, she is very soft and pretty isn;t she? went to meet mr mcgregor tonight, couldn't believe the size of him, he is very affectionate, needs a good comb, some exercise too, but mostly all he is after is some love. hopefully pick him up this weekend when i have got another litter tray and a bed and stuff, probably have to get a dog one thinking about his massive girth. when we left he was sat in his little pen in the fosterers garden looking very sad but he won't be sad for too long > > > > > "bookie" <emily_boo...@hotmail.com> wrote in message > [quoted text clipped - 85 lines] > > - Show quoted text - EXCELLENT! OT: .............................................................. I have been waiting for this news since I got home from Addenbrookes Hospital. Paul's son is over there in renal failure! Her has been on the kidney transplant list for a couple of years now- went on holiday to Philippines with his dialysis nurse, after 4 days, had to fly home because he was so ill. 3 weeks later, he is still there & very jaundiced too. Hair fell out, & started responding to treatment this week- Hence a very hard time for Paul+ Old Faithful ----------------------------------------------------------------- I simply can't wait to see him ensconced on his new fat fluffy bum on his extra room sized bouncy tempura mattress bed, of course! I'm delighted it all went well & that he will be joining you shortly( that is the stuff NASA Use, isn't it?) We were hoping that you were picking him up this evening. I didn't realise that this was the initial visit, I thought you had already had a peek a boo @ him already. Never mind, only another few days. Can't wait to see him @ home, & I'm certain you have that glove mitten warming as we correspond, don't you? Ready & Waiting for a good stroke & to remove all loose hair ( you can find one in a ? shop anywhere around the country)- Really handy old things & delightful for pussy too. I'm certain that McGregor would be in ecstasy if you could find one for him. 2 jobs in one- stroke the cat & remove the old fur he is shedding whilst your @ it.... Sheelagh>"o"< > > > > > > "bookie" <emily_boo...@hotmail.com> wrote in message > [quoted text clipped - 118 lines] > > - Show quoted text - yes I have already got a 'loveglove', i used it on jasper and he loved it, picked up so much loose hair. this one needs a good comb first though, lots of little mats in there. might have to wait until monday to pick him up as ma very busy and away over the weekend and I want to be around to make sure his first days go ok and jessie does not beat him completely. addenbrookes hospital, scary place, i used to work there sometimes in the psych dept, easy to get lost in that place just trying to find the toilet. still he is in the right hands bookie Sorry about your loss. It was certainly an accident. The same thing happend to my cusin's Sheltie. It was an older dog and probably could not move too fast. One of their kids got in the car to go someplace and backed over the dog. They were upset over the tragedy, but it too was an accident. John I am sorry you all have to go thru that. I know how you feel. Years ago, When I lived in Kentucky you always bang on the hood of your vehicle to scare any animals out from under it during the winter time. When you start the car you don't turn it on right away you bump it and rest for a moment giving them enough time to get out if they are in there. I always lifted the hood to check also. It was a heavy snow night and I missed one of the barn cats; who was stubborn the cat would get right in the way of the farm equipment and not move till you threw water on it. Well it got up under there and well you can figure out the rest. I cried my eyes out for two days over that. Till this day I lift the hood and take a can of marbles and shake it under there when we get our cold spells here in Florida. > A couple of hours ago, Paul went outside to pick up our daughter from > her Ganny's house after dinner. He got into the car, readied himself [quoted text clipped - 32 lines] > Purrs of healing for Paul > Sheelagh>"o"< > I am sorry you all have to go thru that. I know how you feel. > [quoted text clipped - 47 lines] > > - Show quoted text - Oh Dear Matthew. I feel for your loss too. It's a horrible experience, isn't it? I think the worst thing is the guilt of knowing that if you had just slowed down for five minutes, then none of this would have happened at all, isn't it? Still, what is done, is done, & Paul will forgive himself in time (the shame is that he is the only one blames himself.) The rest of us "know" it was utterly intentional. If time heals him in the same way it has me, then he will get over it, @ least so that he is able to think of Old Faithful in pleasant ways, & in better times too. It doesn't really matter if you had the cat 10 minutes, or 15 years- You still feel the same guilt I think..... Thank you Mat, Sheelagh>"o"<
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