> Cindy,
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> goodbye. In any case, for right now life is good and she's snoring away
> in her comfy warm bed.
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Bonnie, you don't need to be a basket case when you go to the vet. You only
need to focus on your subjective impression of how the cat is feeling. When
the time came for my Molly, it was because she was really sick and wobbly
and not eating, not because of the lab values. The only reason the vet
mentioned the lab values at all was because I was feeling guilty, hoping
against hope that it was too soon (despite what my eyes were seeing). The
vet told me that it was obvious that Molly was really sick and "felt really
crappy." And THEN and only then she said, "If it will help you to know that
you are making the right decision...here are the lab values. You can see
that they're grossly abnormal."
There is an in-between point where you will see that your cat is no longer
doing well, barely eating, maybe not using her litter box, maybe wobbly or
whatever. She will be dehydrated and require subcu fluids. But this point
will come before she goes into respiratory distress. I knew for sure I was
not going to allow my cat to go into respiratory distress, but I would have
done the subcu fluids if it seemed like she still had some quality of life
left. But, at that point, I don't think she did. My advice to you is to base
your decision exclusively on how your Molly seems to be feeling. Even if her
lab values are grossly abnormal, if she seems to be doing okay otherwise,
it's too soon. IMHO.
Best regards,
---Cindy S.
Lynne - 23 Feb 2007 23:34 GMT
on Fri, 23 Feb 2007 22:15:57 GMT, "cindys" <cstein1@rochester.rr.com>
wrote:
> My advice to you is to base
> your decision exclusively on how your Molly seems to be feeling. Even
> if her lab values are grossly abnormal, if she seems to be doing okay
> otherwise, it's too soon. IMHO.
Be careful with that line of thinking. Cats can be quite stoic and
grossly abnormal lab values could suggest she is suffering in silence.
These decisions are never easy, and sometimes they aren’t obvious,
either.
I was just in this position 2 years ago with my nearly 21 year old
Calvin. He definitely wasn’t himself, but he didn’t appear to be
suffering at all. He was still affectionate and his appetite was okay.
He just slept a lot, almost all the time. He purred when I pet him and
responded to me, so he really seemed okay. However his last lab values
told a very different story and I opted to have him put down. I didn’t
want him to suffer a minute longer than he might have already. At that
age and after having CRF for as long as he did, his lab values were more
than enough evidence that his time was up. For me that is. I knew it
was all downhill for him at that point and I figured the only reason to
drag things out was for my own selfish needs. I just didn’t want to do
that to him. I know that had I waited until he was in distress and
clearly suffering and afraid that I would have never forgiven myself. He
went peacefully, the way I hope to go one day.
It’s a very individual decision, but I personally don’t think we “just
know” when the time is right. I think at that point we have hung onto
them too long already.

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22brix - 24 Feb 2007 00:34 GMT
> on Fri, 23 Feb 2007 22:15:57 GMT, "cindys" <cstein1@rochester.rr.com>
> wrote:
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> know" when the time is right. I think at that point we have hung onto
> them too long already.
There's truth in what both of you are saying. It's just a rotten decision.
I am lab oriented and do look at the numbers--a little knowledge can be a
dangerous thing! I have also been in situations with my animals where I
thought there was no hope and they've recovered just fine.
I think what I was trying to say about Molly is that I think she is getting
close to the point where I'm being selfish. I came very close in December
to having her euthanized and then she got better with more fluids. So far
her lab values aren't that bad and my vet, who I trust implicitly feels that
she can still be "managed" by tweaking fluid amounts and the rest. She
still seems to be enjoying herself but I know we're on borrowed time--she's
old and has CRF. I do NOT want to draw things out just to keep her alive.
Every time she has a sniffle I'm paranoid and sure that her time has come.
I'm a worrier, especially when it comes to my cats--I have no children and
my cats are my kids. I strongly believe that euthanasia is a gift but I'm
horribly selfish and don't want to say goodbye. The brain says it's almost
time but the heart says no no not yet.
I really appreciate both of your comments--with all the craziness that
sometimes pervades newsgroups this is one where most people don't think
you're nuts for caring so much for your cats!
Bonnie
Lynne - 24 Feb 2007 02:04 GMT
on Sat, 24 Feb 2007 00:34:47 GMT, "22brix" <spamdavidk@pacific.net>
wrote:
> I think what I was trying to say about Molly is that I think she is
> getting close to the point where I'm being selfish. I came very close
> in December to having her euthanized and then she got better with more
> fluids.
We went through the same thing with Calvin, about 4 months before I let him
go. His labs weren’t that bad and the fluids made a big difference. When
his labs got worse, that was my cue.
I’m sorry you have to face this with Molly. It’s clear to me that you love
her enough that you will do what’s right for her, no matter how hard it
will be.

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