Anyone out there from Baltimore??

I have a 14 year old kitty was diagnosed with diabetes this summer--and
now it looks like he also has the beginning signs of kidney failure. I
am new to town and need a good, easy-to-talk-to vet who is a reasonable
drive from Baltimore City (I live toward the North end) and who is open
to owners who take an active part in the cat's care. (I monitor my
cat's blood glucose at home and am willing to do sub-cutaneous fluid,
if I need to, for the kidneys.)

I've gotten a few recommendations for the following places, so please
let me know if there is anything good or bad about them!:

The Cat Hospital at Towson
Paradise Animal Hospital
Eastern Animal Hospital

My cat suffers from PTVT (uh, Post-Traumatic-Vet-Trauma) so I have to
also take into consideration that the vet won't stress him out (gentle
with the animals, doesn't have an overly chaotic waiting room, etc.)

Any suggestions?