Hi everyone,

I have a 4 year old cat I rescued when he was less than a year old. He
was already neutered when I got him. Recently, he has been displaying
some sexualized behavior that has me baffled. We have one other adult
male cat in the house (we have had this other cat for almost two
years).

This cat has always been affectionate, and has enjoyed kneeding and
snuggling on our laps and on blankets. Recently, if I am laying with a
blanket on my lap and my cat comes to visit, he starts of with more
usual affectionate behavior, but eventually, it seems to turn sexual.
His tail gets a bit stiff, he kneeds with his back paws, and his back
twitches. He doesn't seem to quite know what to do, in fact, it
sometimes seems to upset him. He will sometimes back up...I don't want
to get too graphic...but it almost seems like he wants to hump the
blanket/my arm/ and doesn't know how. If I go to gently lift his chest,
stomach, or try to push him off me at these times he emits a sharp,
high pitched, distressed meow. I would like to decrease this behavior
because it seems to upset him, and I would prefer to be able to snuggle
with him without this behavior happening. I realize sexual behavior is
normal and I wouldnt care if he wanted to hump something that wasn't
me....

I don't think he does this with my husband, but my husband does not
know a lot about cat behavior, and he may not recognize it as different
from normal snuggling.