Cat Forum / Health and Behavior / March 2004
stressed-out cat
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B Keene - 14 Mar 2004 17:49 GMT Being a two cat family for the past 17 years, we has to put our oldest cat down ( after a long and giving life). Too fill the empty space, we adopted a 3 year old from the local SPCA. This really stressed out our 12 year old female, to the point that she wouldn't come out or eat. After one week we had to return the new cat, hoping this would return things to normal......5 days later still no change, still staying alone and not eating much ( also seems to be swallowing frequently which is a new behaviour for her.)
Any advice would be greatly appreciated
MaryL - 14 Mar 2004 18:05 GMT > Being a two cat family for the past 17 years, we has to put our oldest cat > down ( after a long and giving life). Too fill the empty space, we adopted a [quoted text clipped - 6 lines] > > Any advice would be greatly appreciated You tried to introduce the cats *much* too quickly. If you ever decide to adopt another cat, please ask for advice here first. There is a lot of material available on how to successfully bring a new cat into the household, but it takes time and patience -- you cannot simply put the two cats together and expect it to work.
As to your current problem, I do think you should consult a vet. My guess is that your cat is still undergoing stress induced by being confronted with the new cat (and possibly the loss of the former companion cat). Frequent swallowing can be a sign of stress, but it is important *first* to rule out any medical problems because there are a variety health-related issues that can be related to this sympton.
Also: Buy several feliway plug-in diffusers and position them around the house. Feliway is used for behavior modification and can be very useful in reducing stress. It is available in plug-in diffusers (with refills available) and as a spray. I used the plug-ins when I brought a new cat into my household and wanted to introduce him to my resident cat. The spray is excellent for an occasional use, such as spraying the carrier about 20 minutes before you take your cat to the vet, but the plug-in diffuser is better for long-term use because it releases premeasured doses. Refills can be purchased for the dispenser. One bottle lasts a little more than a month. I bought mine from ValleyVet (www.valleyvet.com). The last time I checked, the diffuser plus one bottle of feliway sold for $24.95 ; the refill was $14.95; and feliway spray was $15.95. Shipping is free. Be careful *not* to order Feliway with D.A.P. because that formulation is for dogs. I have also seen references to www.petguys.com. They had the plug-in dispenser and one bottle on sale for $20.99 (but I haven't checked their site recently).
MaryL (take out the litter to reply)
Photos of Duffy and Holly: >'o'< http://tinyurl.com/8y54 (Introducing Duffy to Holly) http://tinyurl.com/8y56 (Duffy and Holly "settle in")
---MIKE--- - 15 Mar 2004 01:04 GMT The "free" shipping is deceptive. On orders under $50 there is a $5.00 "packing" charge.
-MIKE
MaryL - 15 Mar 2004 02:32 GMT > The "free" shipping is deceptive. On orders under $50 there is a $5.00 > "packing" charge. > > -MIKE It has been awhile since I bought mine, but I just checked the inventory -- and there was no packing charge.
MaryL
MaryL - 15 Mar 2004 02:34 GMT > > The "free" shipping is deceptive. On orders under $50 there is a $5.00 > > "packing" charge. [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > > MaryL Uh, oh, I responded too quickly. You said for orders "under $50.00," and my order was above that (3 feliway plug-in diffusers and 3 refills).
MaryL
zuzu22@webtv.net - 15 Mar 2004 06:03 GMT Mike wrote:
>The "free" shipping is deceptive. >On orders under $50 there is a $5.00 >"packing" charge. If you actually bothered to look you would see that free shipping is offered on Feliway products and requires no minimum purchase. You can buy *one* refill and the shipping is free.
Megan
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---MIKE--- - 15 Mar 2004 12:36 GMT Sorry Megan, but you are wrong. I just recently bought some Feliway from them and there WAS a $5.00 order processing charge. If you look on page 33 of their catalog, you will see "ORDER PROCESSING CHARGE (if order is under $50.00 add $5.00)".
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---MIKE--- - 15 Mar 2004 15:47 GMT When I first got Tiger (Sept 1999) he was 4 months old and I brought him home and just let him out of the carrier. Amber (who was about 4 at the time) retreated into a corner and refused to eat. After two days of this, I took Tiger back to the shelter. Amber started to eat as soon as I got back home. After four days, I picked Tiger up again but this time I kept him in his own room for a couple of weeks. There were no more problems. They are not best buddies but they do get along.
-MIKE
Mary - 15 Mar 2004 18:22 GMT > When I first got Tiger (Sept 1999) he was 4 months old and I brought him > home and just let him out of the carrier. Amber (who was about 4 at the [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > I kept him in his own room for a couple of weeks. There were no more > problems. They are not best buddies but they do get along. I'm so glad you went back for him. When I read about people returning rescues it wrenches my gut.
---MIKE--- - 16 Mar 2004 00:04 GMT I had no intention of leaving Tiger at the shelter. The shelter owner knew that it was only for a few days. Taking him back just about broke my heart. He was crying all the way. He is now a BIG boy (23 pounds) and I suspect he is part or all Maine Coon.
-MIKE
Cheryl - 17 Mar 2004 02:41 GMT twinmountain@webtv.net (---MIKE---) dumped this in news:25871-40563666-207 @storefull-3256.bay.webtv.net on 15 Mar 2004:
> I had no intention of leaving Tiger at the shelter. The shelter owner > knew that it was only for a few days. Taking him back just about broke > my heart. He was crying all the way. He is now a BIG boy (23 pounds) > and I suspect he is part or all Maine Coon. This brought tears to my eyes and I'm glad it was a happy ending. It reminds me of Shamrock when I first started fostering him. Every adoption show I brought him to he cried and cried in the car, at the show, he never relaxed like other cats did during a 3 hour show. Most cats would eventually sleep if they were upset, but he would cry the entire time. This was part of the reason I adopted him for myself. Incidently, today is Shamrock's 2 year anniversary with me. :) (hence the name)
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MaryL - 17 Mar 2004 03:14 GMT > twinmountain@webtv.net (---MIKE---) dumped this in news:25871-40563666-207 > @storefull-3256.bay.webtv.net on 15 Mar 2004: [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] > was part of the reason I adopted him for myself. Incidently, today is > Shamrock's 2 year anniversary with me. :) (hence the name) Happy Anniversary, Shamrock and Cheryl. And what a great way for Shamrock to have gotten his name.
MaryL
Sherry - 17 Mar 2004 04:08 GMT > Incidently, today is >Shamrock's 2 year anniversary with me. :) (hence the name) Cheryl, I can't believe it's been two years! Happy Anniversary to Shamrock!
Sherry
Cheryl - 17 Mar 2004 04:23 GMT >> Incidently, today is >>Shamrock's 2 year anniversary with me. :) (hence the name) [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > > Sherry
:) All I have to say is that it's a good thing he's so cute and a lovebug. High maintenance. j/k... ...Not totally. He was doing so well these last two months on antihistamines and EFA's, and he just started getting itchy and developing lesions again.
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Karen M. - 17 Mar 2004 18:41 GMT > >> Incidently, today is > >>Shamrock's 2 year anniversary with me. :) (hence the name) [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] > antihistamines and EFA's, and he just started getting itchy and > developing lesions again. Happy Anniversary Shamrock!!! (and to his mommy too!)
xo, K
zuzu22@webtv.net - 15 Mar 2004 16:11 GMT Mike wrote:
>I just recently bought some Feliway from >them and there WAS a $5.00 order >processing charge. Oops, you're right. I don't have a catalog and it doesn't show up on the website until you add an item to the shopping cart. At any rate it's pretty easy to spend $50 on the cat and avoid the processing charge!
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- W.H. Murray
Mary - 15 Mar 2004 18:19 GMT > Sorry Megan, but you are wrong. I just recently bought some Feliway > from them and there WAS a $5.00 order processing charge. If you look on > page 33 of their catalog, you will see "ORDER PROCESSING CHARGE (if > order is under $50.00 add $5.00)". > > -MIKE Oh please. Megan can't be WRONG.
zuzu22@webtv.net - 15 Mar 2004 18:27 GMT >Oh please. Megan can't be WRONG. As usual, in your obsessive haste to find ways to jump on me you again make yourself like an idiot. You really should quit while you're behind. I posted earlier and told him he was right after all and even illustrated how I had made the mistake. Clearly *you* were wrong. Do *you* have the guts to admit it?
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"The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing."
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Learn The TRUTH About Declawing http://www.stopdeclaw.com
Zuzu's Cats Photo Album: http://www.PictureTrail.com/zuzu22
"Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one's favor all manner of unforeseen incidents, meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamt would have come his way."
- W.H. Murray
IBen Getiner - 15 Mar 2004 10:19 GMT > > Being a two cat family for the past 17 years, we has to put our oldest cat > > down ( after a long and giving life). Too fill the empty space, we adopted [quoted text clipped - 44 lines] > http://tinyurl.com/8y54 (Introducing Duffy to Holly) > http://tinyurl.com/8y56 (Duffy and Holly "settle in") Your response is a joke. Who cares about this kind of krap...?
IBen G.
IBen Getiner - 15 Mar 2004 10:15 GMT > Being a two cat family for the past 17 years, we has to put our oldest cat > down ( after a long and giving life). Too fill the empty space, we adopted a [quoted text clipped - 6 lines] > > Any advice would be greatly appreciated A good and decent try on your behalf has netted no results. Don't be too down on yourself. We went thru the exact same thing a few years back. The best thing we ever did (even though it was painful) was to rid ourselevs of the newcomer. I had to make the decision ... before the little lady got too attracted to her. But it was the best thing we ever did, cat-wise. Our existing cat (a male) quickly returned to his old self. I argued that not only should we have been concerned with the new cat's well-being (what might have befallen her by putting her back outside), but that we owed an equal something to our original cat.. we owed him a NORMAL LIFE. Without all the bad-azzing and all the fear (he was a wimp ... what can I say?). Now, all as is as it was. And we have gained a good outside cat who is there every day for us, waiting for us to come home (plus, we have our boy back like he was before).
IBen G. IBen G.
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