First off, thanks so much to everyone who responded.  Your posts were
very well thought out and extremely comforting to me.

My kitty is still with me.  I revamped my litter box system (again!) in
order to make sure that he has litter access very close by in his
favorite nap spots.  I am still keeping the cats out of my room, and
although this is very tough for me, the cats are adjusting well.

The old guy is using his newly located boxes well, at least for now.

As some of you have said, I will know when the time is right.  That
time just isnt now, apparantly.

Hugs to all of you!

Beth