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Leonessa - 05 Dec 2003 16:00 GMT
This morning, my cat decided it would be fun to attack my arm.  I was
bleeding profusely all morning, and by the time the bleeding had
almost stopped, he did it again.

I know he's playing...he's just a very, playful wild cat.  But this
kind of playing is not acceptable.  And I've tried everything to calm
him down...I've done so much reading online and in books about how to
stop cats from behaving like this.

I'm considering getting rid of him, but I really DON'T want to do
that, because despite all of this, I do love him and enjoy having him.
And I definitely don't want to resort to declawing him.

I'm sorry if this post is fragmented or kind of hard to follow...I'm
just very upset and really desparate for advice right now...
Judy F - 05 Dec 2003 16:23 GMT
Have you tried squirting him with water from a spray bottle every time he
bites or scratches. You have to be consistent and do it every time. But that
often works, and it's not harmful to the cat (except maybe his pride...)
Judy F

> This morning, my cat decided it would be fun to attack my arm.  I was
> bleeding profusely all morning, and by the time the bleeding had
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> I'm sorry if this post is fragmented or kind of hard to follow...I'm
> just very upset and really desparate for advice right now...
G C - 05 Dec 2003 16:54 GMT
> This morning, my cat decided it would be fun to attack my arm.  I was
> bleeding profusely all morning, and by the time the bleeding had
> almost stopped, he did it again.

What's he doing?  Is he biting or clawing or both?  How old is he?

If he's a kitten, he ought to calm down a bit as he gets older.

If he's clawing, trimming the ends of his claws so they aren't pointy may
help.

A little discouragement (e.g., a squirt from a water bottle) may help
temporarily.  If he's just got a lot of energy and wants attention, a
second cat can help a lot.  From personal experience: first we got one cat.  
When he got bored (especially when we were watching TV), he would
occasionally nip at our toes (not breaking the skin, but annoying).  Once
we got a second cat, they'd play with each other, and the nipping stopped
(except when we forget to feed him).
PawsForThought - 05 Dec 2003 17:13 GMT
>From: LeonessaViola@operamail.com  (Leonessa)

> And I definitely don't want to resort to declawing him.

That's good to hear.  Because with an already aggressive cat, he would more
than likely become a biter.  Cat bites can get very seriously infected.

What is the cat doing when he scratches you?  Do you use toys to play with him
instead of your hands?  Are you watching for signs that he's had enough petting
(swishing tail, ears back, looking agitated)?

Lauren
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Mary - 05 Dec 2003 17:14 GMT
> This morning, my cat decided it would be fun to attack my arm.  I was
> bleeding profusely all morning, and by the time the bleeding had
> almost stopped, he did it again.

What have you done to try to train him? How old is he?

Flicking or "plunking" (index finger and thmb together, then flick)
his paws when he puts his claws out makes him retract them. It does
not hurt but startles and they don't like it. Preceded by a loud "OW"
this did it for my babies.
m. L. Briggs - 05 Dec 2003 18:19 GMT
>This morning, my cat decided it would be fun to attack my arm.  I was
>bleeding profusely all morning, and by the time the bleeding had
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>I'm sorry if this post is fragmented or kind of hard to follow...I'm
>just very upset and really desparate for advice right now...
Have you read about Soft Paws?  They are clawshaped plastic tips that
are glued on the nails  -- Vet  can do it.  I've had two sets put on
my cat (last about 2-3 months) and now she doesn't seem to need them
anymore.   The Soft Paws cost about $25.  With help, you could do it
yourself.  I'm sure you could read about them on the internet. MLB
Laura R. - 08 Dec 2003 06:16 GMT
circa Fri, 05 Dec 2003 11:19:55 -0700, in rec.pets.cats.health+behav,
m. L. Briggs (mlbriggs@nospam.net) said,
> Have you read about Soft Paws?  They are clawshaped plastic tips that
> are glued on the nails  -- Vet  can do it.  I've had two sets put on
> my cat (last about 2-3 months) and now she doesn't seem to need them
> anymore.   The Soft Paws cost about $25.  With help, you could do it
> yourself.  I'm sure you could read about them on the internet. MLB

Softpaws are *very* easy to apply. I used them for a time with my
cats, although since moving to a place with no carpeting, they're
much better about using only their scratching posts.

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Kalyahna - 06 Dec 2003 04:52 GMT
> This morning, my cat decided it would be fun to attack my arm.  I was
> bleeding profusely all morning, and by the time the bleeding had
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> him down...I've done so much reading online and in books about how to
> stop cats from behaving like this.

I had a bitey foster not so long ago, and used two methods to teach him not
to bite. I tried the 'push' method, which basically means when he's gnawing
on my knuckles, I stiffen my finger and push it back into his mouth. It's an
uncomfortable sensation, and had much success with a coworker's foster, but
not so much with mine, and it seems to me that such a thing could make a cat
wary of fingers, and particularly difficult with medicating, if the need
ever arises. Still, it's a possibility. The second method was the 'puff'
method, since I'm obviously nearby whenever he would gnaw on me. This being
an attention-mongering cat, it was easy to positively reinforce. If he bit,
I would puff in his face. The sort of hard, brief puff of air that
accompanies a forceful 'p' sound. It startles every time, and as soon as he
would stop, he'd get "goooood boooooy" and lots of gentle scratches.
PawsForThought - 07 Dec 2003 03:23 GMT
>From: "Kalyahna" kehl_jads@charter.net

>The second method was the 'puff'
>method, since I'm obviously nearby whenever he would gnaw on me. This being
>an attention-mongering cat, it was easy to positively reinforce. If he bit,
>I would puff in his face. The sort of hard, brief puff of air that
>accompanies a forceful 'p' sound. It startles every time, and as soon as he
>would stop, he'd get "goooood boooooy" and lots of gentle scratches.

This is what worked with my biter too.

Lauren
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-L. - 06 Dec 2003 08:12 GMT
> This morning, my cat decided it would be fun to attack my arm.  I was
> bleeding profusely all morning, and by the time the bleeding had
[quoted text clipped - 11 lines]
> I'm sorry if this post is fragmented or kind of hard to follow...I'm
> just very upset and really desparate for advice right now...

Take little Bratface into the vet for a nail trim - and learn how to
do it yourself at home.  Trim those nails often.  Buy some interactive
toys that do not need direct contact for play - a CatDancer and a
Turbo Mouse are two that are essential.

Your cat may be becoming overstimulated - to the attacks happen after
a petting session?  If so, then you are petting the cat too much or
for too long of a period of time.  Limit petting to a minute or so, at
most, per session, unless the cat is sleepy and completely relaxed.

Do not use "punishment" like squirt bottles - all that will do is
excite and agitate the cat more.  If he scratches and/or bites, yell
"OUCH!", IMMEDIATELY separate him from yourself (scruff himif you have
to), and ignore him - put him in another room for 5-10 minutes.  Then
let him out and ignore him still, and give him a toy to play with, by
himself.

Best of luck to you - this behavior CAN be curbed, with patience and
persistence!

-L.
Luvskats00 - 06 Dec 2003 09:12 GMT
k3_e81@yahoo.com  (-L.)
writes

>...Your cat may be becoming >overstimulated...If he scratches >and/or bites,
yell
>"OUCH!", IMMEDIATELY separate him from yourself (scruff himif you have
>to)......

I wouldn't scruff a cat while he/she's agitated..very bad move!
ChakaShiva - 06 Dec 2003 15:49 GMT
> k3_e81@yahoo.com  (-L.)
>  writes
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>
> I wouldn't scruff a cat while he/she's agitated..very bad move!

So what do you do when he's got his teeth sunk deep into your hand and won't
let go?
Talk him gently out of it?
Diane L. Schirf - 06 Dec 2003 18:04 GMT
> So what do you do when he's got his teeth sunk deep into your hand and won't
> let go?
> Talk him gently out of it?

I started spraying Hodge with lemon water from a spray bottle. He hates
it, he lets go, and interestingly, although he's not cured 100%, he's
biting a lot less AND being a little less feral and lot more social.

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Mary - 06 Dec 2003 22:16 GMT
> > So what do you do when he's got his teeth sunk deep into your hand and won't
> > let go?
> > Talk him gently out of it?

Please. In this case you are allowed to slap the cat right across the
chops. I had a hard biter--for two months. When she bit me, I yelled
"OW!" and slapped her. Then I had a cat that gave me sweet little love
bites and licked me as soon as she heard "OW." for 20 years.

It should go without saying that I did not slap her hard enough to
hurt her. But there, I've said it anyway.
Cheryl - 06 Dec 2003 22:54 GMT
> > > So what do you do when he's got his teeth sunk deep into your hand
> and won't
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> It should go without saying that I did not slap her hard enough to
> hurt her. But there, I've said it anyway.

<sigh>
If a cat has bit you, you have overstepped the bounds of closeness.
Cats (like other animals) bite in self-defense even if we don't
understand /why/ they felt the need to be defensive.  Punishment (and
for that matter, anything they consider punishment or don't
understand) will only deepen their need to keep a boundary between
their *true* affection and trust, and you. I firmly believe that
violence of any type is non-productive.  Submissive behavior is a
learned response, too, and is really kinda sad when you think about
it.  I too, have a biter cat, but I have never hit him.  Even when I
/really/ wanted to because he has hurt me several times.  I
overstepped the bounds.  I didn't see the signs of aggression and act
on it first. I (as a human) have the gift of forethought, and the
ability to comprehend consequences; animals act from instinct.
Mary - 06 Dec 2003 23:45 GMT
> <sigh>
> If a cat has bit you, you have overstepped the bounds of closeness.

So sorry, Cheryl, but in this case you are wrong. In my first
encounter with this cat, I fed her, and she walked right up to me and
bit me on the arm--and drew blood. We worked it out and had a happy
life together for 20 years. I never slapped her after that, either.

> Cats (like other animals) bite in self-defense even if we don't
> understand /why/ they felt the need to be defensive.  Punishment (and
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> on it first. I (as a human) have the gift of forethought, and the
> ability to comprehend consequences; animals act from instinct.

That was beautiful. *sniff*
Cheryl - 07 Dec 2003 00:22 GMT
>> <sigh>
>> If a cat has bit you, you have overstepped the bounds of closeness.

> So sorry, Cheryl, but in this case you are wrong. In my first
> encounter with this cat, I fed her, and she walked right up to me
> and bit me on the arm--and drew blood. We worked it out and had a
> happy life together for 20 years. I never slapped her after that,
> either.

If it was your first encounter with her, you didn't know much of her
history.  Perhaps only what you were told.  I'm only saying that we
don't know what goes on in their furry little heads or what a certain
act of ours *reminds* them of or why they feel the need to bite.  They
aren't stupid animals. You don't know if the rest of her 20 years were
spent in fear of you.  Ok, ok, exaggeration.  Maybe the beginning when
it was submission and she learned that biting led to hitting which led
to submission.  <shrug>  My own means of dealing with a biting cat may
not work for others, and no it doesn't always work for me.  But I just
can't hit him. That doesn't mean I sit here and let him mawl me,
either.  Diversion works for him; a laser light beam has diverted him
off my leg many times.  He also understands the words "no bite" but
sometimes he could care less; I can see it in his eyes.  He also only
tends to get aggressive when his skin allergies are really bothering
him, so in his case it is not related to me but to his pissiness about
being itchy.

You knew when you wrote at the end of your post "But there, I've said
it anyway" that you'd get opposition to your method, didn't you?  Your
reply is sort of what I meant when I posted the need [for animals] to
be on the defensive.  I objected, you defended.

--
snowed-in and bored Cheryl
Mary - 07 Dec 2003 02:09 GMT
"Cheryl" <nothing@hotmail.com> wrote in message
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> > either.

> If it was your first encounter with her, you didn't know much of her
> history.   Perhaps only what you were told.

I only knew what I had seen--and she had been tossed in a apartment
complex pool when I first rescued her. So, yes, she had been abused.
She ran away when I pulled her out, then I saw her a bunch over the
next couple of months but she wouldn't let me near her. Then she did,
and I fed her and she bit me after, apparently just for fun. Then she
turned up pregnant and I had to adopt her. She was small--maybe six
months old--and appeared to be in pain because she was so big with
kittens. Vet said she was fine, she had four healthy babies. I placed
all of them and kept her. Two of her daughters went to family members
and lived to be over 18 years old.

> I'm only saying that we
> don't know what goes on in their furry little heads or what a certain
> act of ours *reminds* them of or why they feel the need to bite.

I take your point. I do understand this.

>They aren't stupid animals.

Cheryl. I loved her dearly. I wept like a child when she died. She had
premium cat food when I didn't even have sauce to go on my pasta.
However, THIS was a *stupid* cat. Cats, just like people, tend to be
afraid of what they do not understand. Stupid cats, like stupid
people, do not seem to understand much. Every night she did the
galloping housecat thing from one end of the house to the other,
ending in a window that had a couch pushed up against it. 1 out of
three times I heard a "bonk" because she had hit her head on the
window. No, there was no health problem. She had great vet care her
whole life. One great thing about her--if I had to work at night, I
just left the dishwasher open, as she loved to bat the thing that goes
around. When I came home she was still doing it, and slept through the
night, she was so tuckered from batting it all night. I tell you, I
adored this cat, and was never again "violent" with her. But we had to
get that straightened out in the beginning. She sent me to the
HOSPITAL twice. Was there a better way to do it? Maybe. But my way
worked just fine. I didn't hurt her when I swatted her in the face, as
she hurt me when she bit. But she didn't like it. So she changed her
behavior.

> You don't know if the rest of her 20 years were
> spent in fear of you.  Ok, ok, exaggeration.  Maybe the beginning when
> it was submission and she learned that biting led to hitting which led
> to submission.  <shrug>

She was afraid of me because she was afraid of almost everything.
Eventually she came to trust and love me--but she had to stop biting
me to the bone or I wasn't going to keep her. How can I tell she
trusted and loved me? Beginning when she was about a year old, she
slept on top of me, among other things. She came and licked my face
when I cried about anything. She wasn't intimidated or submissive, as
she growled her head off if I held her a second too long. That was
okay--but biting out of the blue was not.

> My own means of dealing with a biting cat may
> not work for others, and no it doesn't always work for me.  But I just
> can't hit him.

"Hit" really sounds like a hurtful thing. A tap in the face is not a
blow struck to hurt.

>That doesn't mean I sit here and let him mawl me,
> either.  Diversion works for him; a laser light beam has diverted him
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> him, so in his case it is not related to me but to his pissiness about
> being itchy.

Why am I sensing that this is not a cat that draws blood?

> You knew when you wrote at the end of your post "But there, I've said
> it anyway" that you'd get opposition to your method, didn't you?

Yes, I did. And I want to clarify that I do not advocate hauling off
and striking a cat hard, intending to hurt, anywhere or in any case.
Cheryl - 07 Dec 2003 03:47 GMT
>I adored this cat, and was never again "violent" with
> her. But we had to get that straightened out in the beginning. She
> sent me to the HOSPITAL twice. Was there a better way to do it?
> Maybe. But my way worked just fine. I didn't hurt her when I
> swatted her in the face, as she hurt me when she bit. But she
> didn't like it. So she changed her behavior.

Yow.  I know they can bite and cause severe cellulitis and I suppose
I've been lucky with some bites.  I had a foster who bit me to the
bone a couple of times, but it was only because she hated other cats.
She was adopted by an elderly woman and was as gentle to her as can
be.  I hope she is still; I've lost touch.  I guess I just don't
understand how it can help being physical with them.  I'm glad you got
it sorted and had happiness afterwards, but I'd never encourage it or
even mention that in a "cat behavior" forum.  You just don't know how
readers will take that.  I shudder to think lurkers will think it's a
normal way to come to an understanding with a cat.

[...]
>> He also only tends to get aggressive when his skin allergies are
>> really bothering him, so in his case it is not related to me but
>> to his pissiness about being itchy.
>
> Why am I sensing that this is not a cat that draws blood?

I guess because I haven't said that.  He has many times.  I've been at
my wits end so many times I can't count them.  He would wake me up
with a death grip on my leg /through/ the blanket apparently because I
moved and woke him up.  He'd keep me captive in a room because he
hated me to walk past him and if I did he'd grab my legs with his
claws and bite my ankle hard.  Even now, when I'm getting dinner or
breakfast for them he'll sit right under my feet and if I have to move
he bites.  These are all reasons I still have him.  He was my foster
cat and turned out to be unadoptable.  He also is very affectionate
and a lovebug lapcat, but only if you just let him sit in your lap
without petting him.  I've learned in almost two years that you only
pet him when he comes to you and puts his head under your hand.  I
constantly have to warn people that no matter how lovable he seems and
longs for attention, if you give him too much he will latch on to your
arm and bite.  My mom in particular has learned his body language now.
re: my mention of laser pointers; a suggestion made to me a while back
was to keep one handy and if he attacks me when I need to walk past
him while he's "in that mood", shine the pointer down the hall away
from me and believe it or not, it works.  Summertime and wearing
shorts around him is not fun sometimes.  He is much better than he
used to be, but I just can't see how swatting him when he bites would
change any of this.  He acts like he was abused in his past; he has a
crooked tail and a huge scar on the base of it.  I don't know if this
was abuse or an accident but he isn't right in the head sometimes.
But I love him dearly.
PawsForThought - 07 Dec 2003 15:13 GMT
>From: "Cheryl" nothing@hotmail.com

>> > > So what do you do when he's got his teeth sunk deep into your
>hand
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>on it first. I (as a human) have the gift of forethought, and the
>ability to comprehend consequences; animals act from instinct.

I totally agree with you, Cheryl.  I also wanted to mention that biting can
also be from poor socialization skills when the cat is a kitten.  One of my
cats was like that.  When he would bite, I would say firmly "no bite" and blow
in his face.  Then I would ignore him.  It took a few times of doing this, but
he got it and he stopped biting.

I don't think acting aggressively back to the cat helps matters at all.
Reacting with violence will only teach the cat to fear the human.

Lauren
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afr - 07 Dec 2003 16:17 GMT
My cat was a biter when he was a baby (and a scratcher). The only thing
that worked (squirt guns were a game to him!) was to put my hand over his
face and shake his head gently.  He hated that. I had a great vet where I
used to live. She could solve every problem.

Some cats are rough to raise. I almost took my cat back. Same with the
scratching. Teach them by putting your hand over their paws and retracting
the claws when they scratch.

ava

> >From: "Cheryl" nothing@hotmail.com
>
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> http://www.geocities.com/rawfeeders/ForCatsOnly.html
> Declawing Info: http://www.wholecat.com/articles/claws.htm
Diane L. Schirf - 07 Dec 2003 18:19 GMT
I was looking at a cat book in a store last night that I actually should
have bought but I'd already spent way too much. A couple of tidbits:

The dog/cat bite ratio is 6:1.
Cat bites often become infected.
3/4 people are bitten by cats every year in the U.S.
Nugget: Cat bites are "virtually never" unprovoked. Not meaning that the
person deserved the bite or was tormenting the cat, but that the cat
perceived an overstepping of bounds. Cats like to be petted, but not
like dogs, for long periods of time, for example. Some cats (Hodge) can
tolerate petting for literally one or two strokes and then they start
feeling impingement on their territory/privacy and lash out (often with
some warning). Other cats can last somewhat longer. It doesn't mean they
don't like being petted; they just have conflicting emotions. Also, some
cats (Hodge) stalk and attack. The author suggested lots of interactive
play time to work off these needs.

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MaryL - 07 Dec 2003 17:18 GMT
> > > So what do you do when he's got his teeth sunk deep into your hand
> and won't
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> It should go without saying that I did not slap her hard enough to
> hurt her. But there, I've said it anyway.

No!  Never!!  How would you feel if you saw a parent slap a child across the
face?  Some do it, but they are not the kind of people I admire.  Resorting
to violence is likely to provoke more violence in return.  I am assuming
that the cat bites and then lets go -- it would be extremely rare to find a
cat that bites and hangs on like a bulldog.  Say *OW!* to make it clear that
this hurts and *no* very firmly.  Pick up the cat and place him in another
room for awhile (15-20 minutes).  He will soon learn that this behavior is
unacceptable and will associate biting with being isolated for awhile.  At
the same time, there is no intimidation or "negative reinforcement"
involved.  This has worked well for me.

MaryL
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Mary - 07 Dec 2003 17:25 GMT
> > > > So what do you do when he's got his teeth sunk deep into your hand
> > and won't
[quoted text clipped - 11 lines]
> No!  Never!!  How would you feel if you saw a parent slap a child across the
> face?

Since I have stated repeatedly that I did not swat her hard enough to hurt
her,
it must be her *dignity you are worried about? If so, you are a loon.

And it worked just fine for us. She stopped biting me, Inever swatted her
again,
and we lived happily for another 19 years.

She had no business biting me to the bone, and she needed to know it. Once
she did, we
were fine.
MaryL - 07 Dec 2003 17:46 GMT
> Since I have stated repeatedly that I did not swat her hard enough to hurt
> her,
[quoted text clipped - 7 lines]
> she did, we
> were fine.

Where in any of your other messages did you indicate that this was an attack
so serious that she was biting you "to the bone"?  You did say this in one
message:  "I fed her and she bit me after, apparently just for fun."  That
sounds like an entirely different type of incident than your current
description.

MaryL
MaryL - 07 Dec 2003 17:29 GMT
>  I am assuming
> that the cat bites and then lets go -- it would be extremely rare to find a
> cat that bites and hangs on like a bulldog.

Once again, I find myself responding to my own response.

If this is a cat that bites and actually hangs on (sometimes while kicking
with their feet), you will need to scruff the cat or place your hand on the
back of the neck firmly while saying "no!"  This is to get the cat to
release its grip ... then I would proceed with what I said in my previous
message.

MaryL
Diane L. Schirf - 07 Dec 2003 18:13 GMT
>  it would be extremely rare to find a
> cat that bites and hangs on like a bulldog.

Not as rare as you think. Hodge won't let go, and any kind of aggression
infuriates him more. The spray bottle has been a miracle worker.

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MaryL - 07 Dec 2003 18:26 GMT
>  Hodge won't let go, and any kind of aggression
> infuriates him more. The spray bottle has been a miracle worker.

This was actually part of the point I was trying to make in one of my
replies to another person.  You have stated it well:  "any kind of
aggression infuriates him more."  We do part company on using the spray
bottle, but I think violence (even a very minor type that possibly doesn't
justify the term "violence") is likely to provoke still more violence in
turn -- or possibly lead to a fearful relationship.  The spray bottle will
not actually injure a cat (in contrast to hitting it), but I think cats
often associate devices such as a spray bottle only with the person using
it.
Mary - 07 Dec 2003 20:14 GMT
> >  Hodge won't let go, and any kind of aggression
> > infuriates him more. The spray bottle has been a miracle worker.
[quoted text clipped - 5 lines]
> justify the term "violence") is likely to provoke still more violence in
> turn -- or possibly lead to a fearful relationship.

1. A swat in the face is not violence, any more than shaking a can of
marbles at a cat is violence.

2. You are absolutely wrong about my action leading to more violence.
The fact is, it worked just fine. She never bit me again and I never
slapped
her gain. Happy, happy, happy cat, happy me, for 19 years after That
Terrible and Fateful slap.

Some of you fruitcakes really are out of your little cat-loving minds,
you know.

It is very simple.

If your cat bites you to the point of breaking skin, slap said cat.

He or she will likely never do it again.

He or she will likely not be scarred in any way from said slap.

He or she will have no question about boundaries.

You will all live happily ever after.

And this is the last post I am making to this thread.

*Mary exits stage right to cook dinner. The bloodthirsty mob,
having no recourse, and lead by Megan aka zuzuwebbie, who is
frothing at the mouth, follow Candace in leading a lynching party to
the home of Marek,who has undoubtedly done something dastardly to Poor
Old
George.*

:)
zuzu22@webtv.net - 07 Dec 2003 20:57 GMT
>A swat in the face is not violence

and

>If your cat bites you to the point of
>breaking skin, slap said cat.

and in response to people who believe abusing a cat is wrong and took
issue with Mary's abusive recommendation:

>Some of you fruitcakes really are out of
>your little cat-loving minds, you know.

Thank you for proving so clearly and concisely what an animal abusing
bully you are. You've done more to destroy any possible remaining
fragments of your credibility and any assumptions of being taken
seriously in just a few sentences than any of us here could hope to
achieve.

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Diane L. Schirf - 07 Dec 2003 21:28 GMT
> 1. A swat in the face is not violence, any more than shaking a can of
> marbles at a cat is violence.

I suggest you swat a stranger in the street and explain to the police
who respond how it wasn't "violence" or "assault." Please report back on
the results. I'll be curious.

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Diane L. Schirf - 07 Dec 2003 21:27 GMT
> The spray bottle will
> not actually injure a cat (in contrast to hitting it), but I think cats
> often associate devices such as a spray bottle only with the person using
> it.

He has what I call "dominant dog syndrome," and the reason I resorted to
the spray bottle is it seems to have given me dominance. His reaction
has not been fearful but respectful, which is exactly what I needed. I'm
a lot less bitten up now, thank goodness.

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Diane L. Schirf - 07 Dec 2003 18:12 GMT
> > > So what do you do when he's got his teeth sunk deep into your hand
> and won't
[quoted text clipped - 8 lines]
> It should go without saying that I did not slap her hard enough to
> hurt her. But there, I've said it anyway.

You misattributed the "Talk him gently out of it" quote to me. I didn't
say this, so don't say "Please" in an annoyed tone with a misattribution.

My *actual* suggestion was a spray bottle.

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Mary - 07 Dec 2003 20:03 GMT
> > > > So what do you do when he's got his teeth sunk deep into your hand
> > and won't
[quoted text clipped - 13 lines]
>
> My *actual* suggestion was a spray bottle.

I have no idea what you are referring to.

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Diane L. Schirf - 07 Dec 2003 21:26 GMT
> > > > > So what do you do when he's got his teeth sunk deep into your
> hand
[quoted text clipped - 21 lines]
>
> I have no idea what you are referring to.

This, (mis)quoted right above:

> > > > > So what do you do when he's got his teeth sunk deep into your
> hand
> > > and won't
> > > > > let go?
> > > > > Talk him gently out of it?

Diane L. Schirf did NOT say "Talk him gently out of it," contrary to
your misattribution (and subsequent mini-rant). I have no idea who did.

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ChakaShiva - 07 Dec 2003 23:49 GMT
"> > > > >  "ChakaShiva" <chakashiva@yahoo.ca> wrote:

> > > > > > So what do you do when he's got his teeth sunk deep into your
> > hand
[quoted text clipped - 4 lines]
> Diane L. Schirf did NOT say "Talk him gently out of it," contrary to
> your misattribution (and subsequent mini-rant). I have no idea who did.

I wrote this message in response to Luvskats's first post in the thread.
So what's the big deal?

Elaine
Diane L. Schirf - 08 Dec 2003 02:30 GMT
> "> > > > >  "ChakaShiva" <chakashiva@yahoo.ca> wrote:
> > > > > >
[quoted text clipped - 9 lines]
> I wrote this message in response to Luvskats's first post in the thread.
> So what's the big deal?

Because something I would never have said was attributed to me -- and
then the person doing the misattribution got rather huffy about
something I'd never said. Of course, when you responded here,
interestingly, you cut out the misattribution.

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zuzu22@webtv.net - 07 Dec 2003 18:14 GMT
>In this case you are allowed to slap the
>cat right across the chops.

Advocating violence against a cat is abhorrent and has no place in this
newsgroup. Sadly, seeing you recommend abusing an animal didn't really
come as a surprise.

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Luvskats00 - 06 Dec 2003 21:05 GMT
chakashive@yahoo.ca writes

luvskats00@aol.com wrote
>I wouldn't scruff a cat while >he/she's agitated..very bad move

>>So what do you do when he's got >>his teeth sunk deep into your >>hand and
won't let go?
>>Talk him gently out of it?
 

Actually, at first, I did scruff him and was rewarded with deeper cuts and bite
marks.  The only thing that worked was to stop struggling and relax. He, then,
relaxed.  FYI, a cat's natural instinct - hunting instinct - when seizing a
prey is to hold it tighter and tighter as it struggles.
So...one would logically stop struggling....worked for me.
Mary - 06 Dec 2003 22:35 GMT
> chakashive@yahoo.ca writes
>
[quoted text clipped - 11 lines]
> prey is to hold it tighter and tighter as it struggles.
> So...one would logically stop struggling....worked for me.

Mmm hmmm. And probably for all the others who come from your planet.
Diane L. Schirf - 07 Dec 2003 18:21 GMT
> >>So what do you do when he's got >>his teeth sunk deep into your >>hand and
> won't let go?
[quoted text clipped - 4 lines]
> bite
> marks.  

If you're holding him by the scruff, he shouldn't be able to reach you
to bite you. That's why it worked so well on Hodge. I had total control
of his head.

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ChakaShiva - 07 Dec 2003 20:45 GMT
> chakashive@yahoo.ca writes
>
[quoted text clipped - 10 lines]
> prey is to hold it tighter and tighter as it struggles.
> So...one would logically stop struggling....worked for me.

Although your solution made me smile a bit at first, I thought afterwards
that it is actually what works with one of my cats.  If I'm petting Shiva my
female, and she suddenly gets the idea that she wants to play-fight with my
hand, I stop all motion of my hand and very soon after she relaxes and lets
go as you say.
With Chaka the story is a bit different though.  At 13 yr now he's outgrown
the play attacks but in the first years he was the explosive energy type,
and his grip and bite was totally solid and very painful under his powerful
jaw and diamond-hard teeth!!   At these moments when I *had* to free myself,
the only method was grabbing hold of the scruff, pull him away from my hand,
let go and walk away quiting all attention til he was calm again.  This
method paralyses the cat's moves without violence and no harm is done either
to the cat or to the relationship.
Different methods for different characters.

Elaine
-L. - 07 Dec 2003 01:18 GMT
> k3_e81@yahoo.com  (-L.)
>  writes
[quoted text clipped - 5 lines]
>
> I wouldn't scruff a cat while he/she's agitated..very bad move!

Actually, that's how you handle an aggravated cat, when you work at a
vet - you scruff them, hold them down and do whatever you have to do
to them.  Scruffing - if done properly -  them makes them hold still.
Never hold a cat *only* by the scruff, though.

-L.
Luvskats00 - 07 Dec 2003 02:00 GMT
k3_e81@yahoo.com  (-L.) writes

>Actually, that's how you handle an aggravated cat, when you work at a
>vet - you scruff them, hold them >down and do whatever you have to do
>to them.  Scruffing - if done >properly -  them makes them hold still....

Actually, not quite.  At the vet's office, one isn't been bitten first.  Once
the cat has you in his/her grip, you want to have the cat release that grip.
One could use a cattle prod, of course, but we're talking logically. Since my
cat has done this to me, I supplied the information on how I was able to have
him release his grip.
-L. - 07 Dec 2003 07:46 GMT
> k3_e81@yahoo.com  (-L.) writes
>
[quoted text clipped - 3 lines]
>
> Actually, not quite.  At the vet's office, one isn't been bitten first.

Actually, having someone else scruff the cat to get it off of you
works quite well, if one is being bitten, and the cat is chomping
down...if you can get a hold of the cat. ;)  BTDT...

-L.
Luvskats00 - 07 Dec 2003 08:12 GMT
k3_e81@yahoo.com writes

>...having someone else scruff the >cat to get it off of you
>works quite well, if one is being >bitten, and the cat is chomping
>down....

I believe the scenerio being discussed was a one-person solution....if there
were 5 people in the room, they be able to gather round the cat and, logically,
pry the cat off....We were talking about how to get free from a cat biting your
hand/arm if you were to do it solo. I responded from my viewpoint with what I
personally did to get the cat from my hand..and I did it solo.
m. L. Briggs - 06 Dec 2003 18:13 GMT
>> This morning, my cat decided it would be fun to attack my arm.  I was
>> bleeding profusely all morning, and by the time the bleeding had
[quoted text clipped - 33 lines]
>
>-L.
I've had good luck  with squirt bottles as a training tool.  It won't
hurt them or cause pain.  
better still, they don't seem to associate it with me.   Better a
little mist in their face than scratches and other uncontrollable
behavior.   I also use catnip as a calming agent (some react
differently, I know), but it does divert their attention and then they
get more calm.  Good luck whatever you decide to do.   MLB
MaryL - 07 Dec 2003 17:11 GMT
> This morning, my cat decided it would be fun to attack my arm.  I was
> bleeding profusely all morning, and by the time the bleeding had
[quoted text clipped - 4 lines]
> him down...I've done so much reading online and in books about how to
> stop cats from behaving like this.

My first cat (years ago) was feral, and he would often "attack" my ankles as
I walked by.  It was actually somewhat frightening because he would use both
claws and teeth.  At the same time, he was not really in attack mode or I
would have been badly injured -- it was *play* for him but *painful* for me.
What I did was this (and I was very consistent):  every time he did it, I
would say "no" very firmly, pick him up, and deposit him in another room.  I
would close the door and leave him locked in there for about 15-20 minutes,
then open the door and let him out again.  There was no mistreatment, but he
soon associated that action with him being isolated for awhile.  The
episodes soon began to decline -- first they would be farther and farther
apart, and then they stopped altogether.

We also have something now that wasn't available then, and that is Feliway.
I suggest that you buy 2 or 3 of the plug-in Feliway diffusers.  Feliway is
used for behavior modification and can be very useful in reducing stress.
It is available in plug-in diffusers (with refills available) and as a
spray.  I suggest that you use the plug-ins so it can be working all the
time.  ValleyVet (http://www.valleyvet.com) has better prices than most
others, and there is no extra charge for shipping.  They list Feliway for
$29.95 for a diffuser with one bottle of Feliway.  It is also available as a
spray for $15.95.  The spray is excellent for an occasional use, such as
spraying the carrier about 20 minutes before you take your cat to the vet,
but the plug-in diffuser is better for long-term use because it releases
continual premeasured doses.  Refills can be purchased for the dispenser.
One bottle lasts a little more than a month.
MaryL
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zuzu22@webtv.net - 07 Dec 2003 18:08 GMT
> This morning, my cat decided it would be
> fun to attack my arm. I was bleeding
[quoted text clipped - 14 lines]
>   And I definitely don't want to resort
> to declawing him.

Declawing would probably make his aggressive behavior worse, not to
mention the fact that it is a cruel and abusive practice.

You have a couple of options. The one I would recommend first is that
you get your cat a buddy. It's clear from your post that he is bored and
isn't being given enough stimulation, and this is why you're seeing this
seemingly aggressive behavior which is in reality more play based, it's
just that we humans aren't well equipped to deal with teeth and claws in
play like a cat is. ;-)

I would suggest you contact local foster based rescues. The cats they
have for adoption are living in homes where they are in a more relaxed
environment and the behavior they exhibit is more likely to be the norm
than the behavior you would see a cat in a cage at a shelter exhibit.
You really need a specific type of cat and you have to be careful to
make sure you stick to that and don't fall for a kitten or some other
cat that might be cute and sweet, but have a personality that will be
entirely the opposite of what is necessary for you and your cat's
situation.

For your particular situation, the best match is going to be another
male that is similar in age, personality, and activity level. Males, if
introduced *slowly*  and properly (which is a *critical* step), usually
tend to buddy up, and will get rough with each other and wear each other
out, alleviating your cat's boredom and saving your skin in the process.
It's a win-win situation that not only will result in everyone being
happier, but will give a cat in need a home and make room for the foster
to take in another.
There are many here that can testify to the fact that adding a second
cat does effectively eliminate aggression problems.

You can find excellent instructions on how to introduce a new cat here:
http://www.catsinternational.org/articles/getting_a_cat/good_introduction.html

In the meantime, there are steps you can take to minimize or avoid
aggressive incidents. The most important thing is to NEVER use methods
that are aggressive. This is includes squirting and hitting your cat.
It's not only maen and cruel, but will cause your cat to lose trust in
and fear you and even retaliate with *more* aggression.

Since your cat is so playful and active, it would be wise for now (until
you can get him a buddy) to set aside a few times during the day or
evening for some heavy play using something like a wand with feathers or
a laser pointer. This is really all your cat wants, and giving him that
will help to stop the attention getting aggression he exhibits. You also
want to be careful to not overstimulate him during petting sessions.
Watch him closely and learn to recognize his signals telling you he has
had enough. These can include something as slight as a muscle ripple, or
a twitch of the ear or tail. If you see this, stop petting him and
simply walk away.

If you do happen to get bit or scratched, you can quickly cry "ow" in a
high voice, but then simply ignore him and walk away, or quietly put him
in another room without reacting in any way and, again, walk away. He
bites/scratches to get attention and, just like children, cats will
accept *any* attention, even negative, if that is what they are looking
for.

Consistently removing yourself from the situation and ignoring him will
result in his learning that the aggressive behavior does not get him
what he desires and he is going to have to figure something else out.
You can also learn to recognize his body language and anticipate when an
incident is about to occur. When this happens find a way to distract him
and take his focus off of you. A toy, laser pointer, or even a wad of
paper thrown in a direction away from you will work.

Having a few easily accessible small cans of treats around the house are
also helpful as a quick shake of the can will quickly change your cat's
focus. :-)

Also, adding a Feliway diffuser in the rooms where you spend the most
time will probably help. (http://www.valleyvet.com is the best place to
get them) Feliway is helpful in keeping aggression levels down, and
although the positive effects may seem subtle, most people here that use
them report that when the diffuser goes empty the difference is quite
noticeable!

While this is going on, also make sure to praise and make a big fuss
over him for every instance where he is being sweet and gentle so he
also learns to associate really good things with good behavior. You will
have to be patient and persistent, but this can be done. It may take
several weeks or even a month or two, but is well worth the effort.  The
key rule here is to treat your cat with *only* understanding, kindness
and respect, and do nothing to harm him or put him on the defensive.

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elementary truth the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and
splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then
providence moves too. A whole stream of events issues from the decision,
raising in one's favor all manner of unforeseen incidents, meetings and
material assistance, which no man could have dreamt would have come his
way."

- W.H. Murray

Christine Burel - 08 Dec 2003 00:03 GMT
Leonessa, I am living proof that zuzu22's advice works; she mentored me all
summer and into fall with integrating a feral kitty with biting issues into
my current cat household; in fact, I met this cat because I got bit by him.
If you follow her guidelines, they really do work.  (At the time, my new
kitty already came with a "cat buddy," too, as the 2 unneutered young
boycats were both strays in my backyard and they are good friends.).

Christine Burel

Leonessa wrote:

> This morning, my cat decided it would be
> fun to attack my arm. I was bleeding
[quoted text clipped - 14 lines]
> And I definitely don't want to resort
> to declawing him.

Declawing would probably make his aggressive behavior worse, not to
mention the fact that it is a cruel and abusive practice.

You have a couple of options. The one I would recommend first is that
you get your cat a buddy. It's clear from your post that he is bored and
isn't being given enough stimulation, and this is why you're seeing this
seemingly aggressive behavior which is in reality more play based, it's
just that we humans aren't well equipped to deal with teeth and claws in
play like a cat is. ;-)

I would suggest you contact local foster based rescues. The cats they
have for adoption are living in homes where they are in a more relaxed
environment and the behavior they exhibit is more likely to be the norm
than the behavior you would see a cat in a cage at a shelter exhibit.
You really need a specific type of cat and you have to be careful to
make sure you stick to that and don't fall for a kitten or some other
cat that might be cute and sweet, but have a personality that will be
entirely the opposite of what is necessary for you and your cat's
situation.

For your particular situation, the best match is going to be another
male that is similar in age, personality, and activity level. Males, if
introduced *slowly*  and properly (which is a *critical* step), usually
tend to buddy up, and will get rough with each other and wear each other
out, alleviating your cat's boredom and saving your skin in the process.
It's a win-win situation that not only will result in everyone being
happier, but will give a cat in need a home and make room for the foster
to take in another.
There are many here that can testify to the fact that adding a second
cat does effectively eliminate aggression problems.

You can find excellent instructions on how to introduce a new cat here:
http://www.catsinternational.org/articles/getting_a_cat/good_introduction.html

In the meantime, there are steps you can take to minimize or avoid
aggressive incidents. The most important thing is to NEVER use methods
that are aggressive. This is includes squirting and hitting your cat.
It's not only maen and cruel, but will cause your cat to lose trust in
and fear you and even retaliate with *more* aggression.

Since your cat is so playful and active, it would be wise for now (until
you can get him a buddy) to set aside a few times during the day or
evening for some heavy play using something like a wand with feathers or
a laser pointer. This is really all your cat wants, and giving him that
will help to stop the attention getting aggression he exhibits. You also
want to be careful to not overstimulate him during petting sessions.
Watch him closely and learn to recognize his signals telling you he has
had enough. These can include something as slight as a muscle ripple, or
a twitch of the ear or tail. If you see this, stop petting him and
simply walk away.

If you do happen to get bit or scratched, you can quickly cry "ow" in a
high voice, but then simply ignore him and walk away, or quietly put him
in another room without reacting in any way and, again, walk away. He
bites/scratches to get attention and, just like children, cats will
accept *any* attention, even negative, if that is what they are looking
for.

Consistently removing yourself from the situation and ignoring him will
result in his learning that the aggressive behavior does not get him
what he desires and he is going to have to figure something else out.
You can also learn to recognize his body language and anticipate when an
incident is about to occur. When this happens find a way to distract him
and take his focus off of you. A toy, laser pointer, or even a wad of
paper thrown in a direction away from you will work.

Having a few easily accessible small cans of treats around the house are
also helpful as a quick shake of the can will quickly change your cat's
focus. :-)

Also, adding a Feliway diffuser in the rooms where you spend the most
time will probably help. (http://www.valleyvet.com is the best place to
get them) Feliway is helpful in keeping aggression levels down, and
although the positive effects may seem subtle, most people here that use
them report that when the diffuser goes empty the difference is quite
noticeable!

While this is going on, also make sure to praise and make a big fuss
over him for every instance where he is being sweet and gentle so he
also learns to associate really good things with good behavior. You will
have to be patient and persistent, but this can be done. It may take
several weeks or even a month or two, but is well worth the effort.  The
key rule here is to treat your cat with *only* understanding, kindness
and respect, and do nothing to harm him or put him on the defensive.

Megan
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Learn The TRUTH About Declawing
http://www.stopdeclaw.com

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http://www.PictureTrail.com/zuzu22

"Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one
elementary truth the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and
splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then
providence moves too. A whole stream of events issues from the decision,
raising in one's favor all manner of unforeseen incidents, meetings and
material assistance, which no man could have dreamt would have come his
way."

- W.H. Murray

Leonessa - 08 Dec 2003 05:44 GMT
I just wanted to thank everyone for their responses.  Unfortunately,
the water gun doesn't work.  My cat actually LIKES water.  Crazy, huh?

I'm thinking about Soft Paws, and maybe getting him a playmate.

Your responses were all greatly appreciated.  Happy holidays :-)
Laura R. - 08 Dec 2003 06:15 GMT
circa 5 Dec 2003 08:00:45 -0800, in rec.pets.cats.health+behav,
Leonessa (LeonessaViola@operamail.com) said,
> I know he's playing...he's just a very, playful wild cat.  But this
> kind of playing is not acceptable.  And I've tried everything to calm
> him down...I've done so much reading online and in books about how to
> stop cats from behaving like this.

I'm sure you've gotten tons of good advice (feliway, etc.), and I've
not yet read all of the responses, but I've found that one of the
best ways to deal with a cat that gets overstimulated is to walk away
from the cat when s/he gets out of control. Immediate denial of
attention teaches the cat that his/her behavior is hurtful or
undesirable. Say "no" to the cat, then walk away from him, and do it
consistently. He'll learn. Honest.

Laura
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