Awww Yowie. Mega purrs. It's always tough with that first baby. I have a
friend who had the same trouble (well, different but same first baby how can
I cope with *everything* blues). Will be thinking of you.

Your baby boy is about the age of my grandbaby and they really keep you
hopping @ that age on up, Yowie.
That alone gets annoying not to mention depressing; you can't take your eyes
off them for a minute unless, of course, they're strapped down in highchair
or something!
Have you talked to your doctor about the whole thing?
There is lots of different meds to help your mental situation, and I assume
you're not nursing Cary so you could take any your doc recommends. I know
you have multiple friends and if you could confide in any, maybe they could
help you get a "break" or "time-out" from your duties @ home. My Deadly Duo
(they got very lazy now that MileHigh has finally warmed up) sends strong
and
optimistic purrs to you and yours. Tears sometimes are
*good*, you know....maybe our purrs will get there sooner than when we lived
in s. FL (they'll go southwest now, I think, LOL). Warmest wishes for
improvement
in every way.

("off" meaning not looking after the baby, or beign at

Purrs and Hugs....

Even when two people embark upon parenthood with joy, a baby human being is
an exhausting person to care for, and you've been trying to help Joel, as
well. You've been carrying a heavy load. Don't apologize for finally
reaching a breaking point.  Joel surely realizes that, and must realize he
needs to do a bit more so that you don't wear yourself out completely.

You have recognized the trouble, which is the first step toward getting the
help you need to solve the problem.

Melissa

Take as many as you need!

gentle *hugs* helen s

Go to the doctor and get some anti depressants, it is not as if you have
to take them forever.   They are just a crutch that will help you over a
bad patch.  Of course you will get over it but it doesn't hurt to have
some help.

Love and purrs,

Bev

Lots of purrs on the way, Yowie.

(((((((((((Yowie)))))))))))

Joy

For Yowie: Purrs, woofs & best wishes extracted from loft, basement,
shed at the bottom of the garden and the locked room that nobody's
allowed to enter..........

Seriously, here's hoping you get some breaks & recover soon.

Gordon, Bandit, Snowball & Raki

Oh sweetie, biiiiig hugs to you from me, Dave, the
cat-with-little-brain (aka Persephone), Brains (aka Spock),
SheWhoMustBeObeyed (Mistress Ted), the d*gs and my Mum.  

Is Cary at an age now where he can be left with his aunt & cousin or
grandparents for a night to give you and Joel a "night off" and some
time to yourself?  I know that my SIL did that when her first was
about a year old and it did her marriage and sanity a world of good.
She has been doing it regularly ever since (about once every couple of
months, as far as I can tell).  

Hugs,
Tish

Purrs a comin' hang in there.
Suz&Spicey

Lots and lost of purrs for you.

You got it Yowie. Mega purrs for things to start looking up soon.

Helen M

Yowie, tons of purrs and prayers you get out of your funk. You are a kind
soul and good fortune always follows good souls.
Jazz & his mama

Purrs and good thoughts on the way. You deserve a few!

Lots of purrs and hugs, Vicky. Wish I could do more.

Hey, we always got purrs for you! Thea sends her bestest headbutts and Bono
drooly purrs for you to feel good.
And I keep telling you, you should send Cary to Sweden for a visit - or
perhaps it's better if you come on your own ...'
All my best, hugs to you and Joel and Cary too, skritches to the furries
Lena

Purrs and tail wags that things will get better soon.

You got it, Yowie.  Depression is not a fun thing.  Purrs that however
you choose to deal with it, your depression will lift soon and the
days will once again be full of promise for you.

Ginger-lyn

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Purr on the way

{{{{{{{{{{Yowie}}}}}}}}}}  You *seriously* need some "me" time girl.  Make
arrangements with friends or family to take care of Cary while you and Joel
go off for a weekend (or even get off by yourself or with a girlfriend for a
Spa visit).  If you wear yourself down you'll end up having a breakdown and
then you won't be doing *anyone* any good.

Hugs,

CatNipped

No "spare" purrs here.  But some very special and dedicated ones.  Jake
knows from depressed and sends his best.

Just a wild guess from the north, but I'd bet a lot of you depression is
because you are tired.  Could your sister take Cary for a couple of days so
you can get some rest?

Jo

..> Yowie
Purrs and hugs are on the way.  I know it can be hard and lonely to be a new
mother and feel like the world is resting on your shoulders.  You are not
alone.
This will not last forever; it only seems like it (grin).
Annie

Yowie, it is totally understandable to be depressed under the
circumstances -- DH and I both have depression and it showed up for us,
especially when kiddos came along -- just a lot of stress.  You have
mega-purrs of support during these difficult times.  Counseling and meds
have helped us tremendously.  It can be worthwhile to get objective outside
help.  Please feel free to email me if I can be of any moral support to you.
hugs and purrs,
Christine and Omar, Oreo, Midnight, Robin & Tucker

It must be wonderful being a parent, but difficult too.  I hope your
brain will have a chance to catch a break.  You're looking after a
large and diverse family of one beastie, one brain cell, one bear, and
one barekitten.

Purrs, Yowie!  I hope things look up soon.  I admire you because I
couldn't do it, that's for sure.
--
Britta
"There is no snooze button on a cat who wants breakfast." -- Unknown
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mind

It's so easy to slip over that line without noticing it, and then one
day you notice that life seems too much for you.  Lots of purrs that
you can get back on an even keel.  Take this advice from one who has
experience with this problem.  Tell your primary care physician and
get some help.  Lots of purrs will be coming your way to soothe and
comfort you.   Hugs!

--
Regards and Purrs,
O J

Purrs from one depressive to another.

There are lots of purrs and best wishes sent just for you, Vicky. I really
hope there is some way for you to take some time just for yourself.
We are thinking of you,

Purrs on the way, Yowie.
Sam, closely supervised by Mistletoe

You really need some relief from all the responsibilities. You sound
like a compulsive like me. It took an office attack on me to let go
the job of responsility to my clients. Of course your case is very
different. Still, you need time off from it all. I would say, have a
friend or family member stay with the pets and Cary while you and Joel
go out and play. And I mean the kind of play that lets you yell and
scream; like a sports event. Did you know that yelling for a team gets
rid of stress just as well if not better than yelling frustration?
Hugs and purrs,

--
CATherine

My three are purring for you here.  And you have my best wishes.  Also,
you were supposed to send me your snail mail address!  Can't get cool
things in the mail if you don't send it to me.

Now get thee to a doctor and get some antidepressants.

Let me know how things are going.

Love,
Bridget

prayers for you. Depression is a horrible thing.

Judith

Purrs, doggie drool and healing energy on it's way.  One thing that hubby
and I found to be helpful and is along the same lines as several others have
said, have someone take Carey for a weekend.  We found this out by accident
when hubby won a radio contest for a trip to Florida for the weekend.  Mom
and Dad were thrilled to watch Molly for the weekend and we got some much
needed rest and a real honeymoon a little over a year late.

Mom and my sisters insist that Molly come and spend time with them every
summer (they have a pool so she is agreeable) and we get anywhere from 3-7
days to reconnect as a couple.  It is helpful.

The other thing that kept me sane was the BBS-ing that I did when Molly was
little and I couldn't go anywhere.  Once we got her to sleep it was too late
to go anywhere.  Keep contact with people who love and care for you.  Your
family, friends and of course those of us on this newsgroup.

Also, make sure to talk with your doctor.  Remember, you don't have to do
everything right.  As my mom always said, God looks out for children and
fools.  If you really look at the people around you it's amazing that any of
us made it out of childhood.

Keep us posted.

Diane

Dear Yowie, I have only just caught this as I was scrolling to get to a few
'new ones'and I
wasn't going to post anything, I didn't know you were feeling like that,
I hope you are feeling much better by now, I thought you had a lot on your
shoulders,
you poor love,I feel awful that I didn't know,let me know next time I may be
able to help
somehow, Maybe I could give you a break or help in the house or something
                                                     Love to all Kisses for
Cary, and Hugs for you.  Jean.