Awwww, how very sad.  I'm so sorry for your loss.  I wish I knew what to
tell you to make Bear feel better.

Jill

Under the circumstances you're doing the right thing. Bear is going
through abandonment depression--a regular, loved member of the household
is no longer around, and he's distressed by it. Keep giving him as much
affection as he wants. Chances are he'll eventually come to live with
the fact that Jasper isn't coming back.

When my cat Simba died years ago, my other cat Bijou was quite
distraught. He'd look all over for Simba, and wait for hours in Simba's
favorite spots, terribly unhappy that he could still smell Simba but
couldn't find him.

Things were different when our cat Christian passed away last fall of
chronic renal failure. Bijou saw his friend's remains, pined for a few
days, then came out of his funk soon afterward.

The point is that, in my experience, it might be helpful for a cat to
see that its friend has passed on. Cats, being hunters, understand
death, at least in terms of it happening to other creatures. Others have
told me how viewing the body of a deceased love one has helped their
cats come to terms with the passing of their friends much more quickly
than if the beloved person or animal had simply disappeared, leaving
only its scent behind. As with humans, it seems better for cats to know
what happened than not to know.

That's all you can do. Purrs to your entire family. It's so hard :(

So sorry for your loss. Poor Jasper. Many purrs for him and you to heal
soon. I know this isn't always feasible, but I've read that the best
thing to do when an animal dies is to let the remaining animal see the
dead animal and check him/her out thoroughly. I've never tried this, though.

"Rise up slowly, Angel.  It's hard to let you go..."
Sincere condolences in the loss of Jasper and purrs and kitty kisses for
Bear.   MLB

Patti wrote:

What a sad story.  My condolences on the loss of Jasper and purrs of
comfort for your family.  May Jasper find a peaceful path to walk.

Regards and Purrs,
O J

That's so sad.  I don't know what to tell you.  When one d*g died and the
other looked for their friend, we just would explain over and over.  It took
time for them.

So sorry about your loss.

<snip>

Awwww...sorry for your loss. :(  I recently had to euth my old dog as
well.  My kitties still haven't recovered - especially Mimi who used to
sleep with her.

-L.

Patti

Sorry to hear about Jasper.

Cats do miss their friends. I've told this tale before but it's worth
telling again

When we lost Fugazi, the first night Isis (her sister) didn't seem too
worried. Fugazi was an Olympic sleeper so even when she did not appear
at the feeding dish, Isis didn't appear too worried.

The next morning was different. She wandered through the flat, making a
calling noise and searching every place Fugazi was known to sleep in
(and some we never knew about). She even went off her food and this was
the cat who licked her bowl clean 15 minutes before she crossed the
bridge herself some 4 years later.

Three days she searched and cried and called.

On the third night, we heard an enormous crash from the bedroom.
Basically, Fugazi's most treasured sleeping place was in a box on top
of the wardrobe, as the box contained old jumpers, it was warm and soft
and it was the highest vantage point of the flat, Best of all, Isis was
no great shakes as a climber so she couldn't get onto the wardrobe thus
guaranteeing that Fugazi could indulge in her favourite pastime of
intense napping without being disturbed.

And here was Isis, struggling to get onto the wardrobe, she'd managed
to get her front paws onto it and was scrabbling to get up, the crash
being where things had been knocked over.

As we watched, she made it and she trotted towards the box with what
can only be described as a grin. She looked into the box, triumphantly
as if she were saying "I've worked out where you must be! You must be
here!"

Then her face fell,quite literally....She let out a strange cry then
got off the wardrobe and hid.

The next morning she was fine

Lesley

Slave of the Fabulous Furballs

We will light a candle for Jasper's safe journey to the RB. Please give hugs
and skritches to Bear for us and lots of cuddles. Condolences to all of you
for the loss of your good boy.
Jazz & his mama

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss Patti.  A candle will be burned tonight
to help light Jasper's way to the bridge, and purrs are being sent to help
heal his family's broken hearts.

Hugs,

CatNipped

You don't; just wait it out. When Freddie & Killer went over the RB, Chaos
looked for each of them for a long time. Now though, she doesn't. It's just
like with us two-legs; I can't count the number of times after Mother died
that I started to go to her room to show her something amusing.

I'm so sorry for this sad time for your family and for Bear.  I'm glad that
you have each other to comfort.

Susan M
Otis and Chester

My condolences for Jasper and for your and Bear's loss. I just had an
idea for Bear. Why not thoroughly clean Jasper's crate from his smell
and put it away? And bury his bedding with Bear in attendance, like a
little funeral.

--
CATherine

My dad had a cat named Stalker who was best friends with Emma, a
Lab/collie mix.  When Emma died, Stalker began to wander in search of
her--first to the forest, then to the neighbours', then up and down the
breadth of the county up to 5 miles away.  Some times he would vanish
for months, almost a year once, and he'd only check in 3 or 4 times a
year to show us he was still alive--not coming near enough to be
caught.  In his old age he returned home, though he still dragged
himself from barn to yard to house and slept in Emma's old sleeping
spot.  When he passed away--in our barn--he was buried with his friend.

My condolences on your loss.

--Fil

Poor Bear, lots of comforting purrs. I will light a candle for Jasper.

Purrs for your loss and for all your hearts to heal

Hugs and purrs, this really is so hard!

Poor Jasper and Bear.