Jill, tons of purrs and prayers still from us for your parents.
Jazz & his mama

I found out about my mother's death about an hour after she died, when
the nurse at her doctor's office called me to make sure that I was
aware of Mom's death.  They were concerned that my father was by
himself, with no one else there to give emotional support.  I don't
blame him, however; losing a spouse, particularly after nearly 57
years of marriage, is enough to disrupt anyone's organizational
skills.

BTDT. I was in chat with my mother talking about health stuff and oh,
by the way, she had a minor stroke a couple of years ago that she
didn't bother to mention until sometime last week.

Sounds like my mum. She vaguely mentioned some "rash" on her breast and
only mentioned it because it had "cleared up" with the new ointment the
doctor had given her. When she was admitted to hospital it turned out
she had been seeing a specialist through she and everyone else claimed
nothing major was wrong. 2 weeks later she died as a result of
secondary liver cancer  (the doctors point blank refused to discuss the
situation with my brother, who through he is younger , is usually
treated as if he were the "eldest" I even had to explain what the word
"metastatic" meant- the hospital made such a bad job of communicating
with us even when I pointed out I understood and could translate the
big words. It made it very hard in the last few days, with me seeing
how things were going and trying to soften the blow for my brother and
him not believing me- the hospital actually told him they could remove
the blood clots in her lungs but they would only do that if she had a
cardiac arrest so when she did my sister-in-law was actually glad
because she thought this would mean mum would get the treatment she
needed!!!!)

What p***ed me off is if she had talked to me about it then I could
have probably bullied a few doctors for her ...I am very good at
bullying doctors (I am a medical secretary so I have to be)

Lesley

Slave of the Fabulous Furballs