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Marion - 21 Feb 2005 17:06 GMT
Hi all,
 I just need a hug and a bit of reassurance that we did the right
thing, that time will soothe all hurts, etc. etc. If you don't mind.
  We foster cats for a rescue group. At the moment, in addition to our
own three, we have 2 adult fosters. We had another little girl until
Saturday when she was adopted to a really good home.
  This little one came to us at the end of November -- she'd been
scheduled for euthanasia, because she was pregnant and had a bad cold.
  She must have felt awful when she came to us, but still she snuggled
into us when we picked her up, and co-operated when I fed her a
liver-and-supplements concoction from a medicine dropper. After a dose
of worm pills, her "pregnancy" disappeared, and antibiotics helped a
lot with her cold.
  When we let her out of her isolation, she was determined to be
friends with the other house cats. She charmed all but the feral one
who's afraid of everyone. I have photographs of her snuggling with my
Percy; his paw is over her shoulder, and he's licking her head. The
foster Brittany -- who is so unassertive that she spends a lot of time
on top of the refrigerator so that the others won't push her around --
loved wrestling with this little one.
 And then we got the phone call from a lovely pair of sisters who
adore animals and have another cat from the rescue group I work with.
When they were at the house, I was looking for anything negative that I
could use as a reason to veto the adoption, but I found nothing. I'm
sure she'll be happy in her forever home.
  But we all miss her!  I can't even tell Percy and Brittany what has
happened, and I'm sure they're looking for her (although they've both
seen many cats and kittens come into the house and then leave.)
   Maybe I should have kept her for myself, but really I couldn't
justify doing that. There are enough cats in the house. But, oh, she is
a sweet little thing!

Marion
CatNipped - 21 Feb 2005 17:11 GMT
> Hi all,
>   I just need a hug and a bit of reassurance that we did the right
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>
> Marion

{{{{{{{{{{Marion}}}}}}}}}}  Fosterers are very special angels.  I hope you
can take comfort in knowing that she will be happy in her foreverhome!

Hugs,

CatNipped
KellyH - 21 Feb 2005 17:27 GMT
> Hi all,
>  I just need a hug and a bit of reassurance that we did the right
> thing, that time will soothe all hurts, etc. etc. If you don't mind.
>   We foster cats for a rescue group. At the moment, in addition to our
> own three, we have 2 adult fosters. We had another little girl until
> Saturday when she was adopted to a really good home.

Marion, I also do fostering for a rescue and I think adopting out our
fosters is the hardest job.  I cry every time one leaves.  I'm so glad your
foster found a wonderful home.  You did a wonderful job.
I'm glad this was about adopting out a foster and not something else.  I
almost didn't open it!

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Tanada - 24 Feb 2005 03:54 GMT
> Marion, I also do fostering for a rescue and I think adopting out our
> fosters is the hardest job.  I cry every time one leaves.  I'm so glad your
> foster found a wonderful home.  You did a wonderful job.
> I'm glad this was about adopting out a foster and not something else.  I
> almost didn't open it!

We're going through the same problem with Calvin.  We've fallen in love
with him.  He's totally adorable, loving, and a love bug.  We really
want to keep him, but his front paws are de-clawed and his is terrified
of the other cats because they have claws.  We think he may get over it,
but can't be positive.

To make things worse Calvin was dumped in a parking lot and was skin and
bones when we first got him.  He was sent to us because he "couldn't"
trust humans after being dumped.  Now he trusts us totally, and we feel
as though we'd be betraying that trust by sending him off to someone else.

Calvin wakes me up in the middle of the night to get pettins and purrs
at me in return.  I have a feeling that the Fayetteville Five may become
the Fayetteville Six again.

Pam S.
Marion - 24 Feb 2005 14:21 GMT
Yes, it's hardest Pam, when you've nurtured a poor little
soul from misery into happiness. Their gratitude really
makes for a strong bond.

I try to tell myself that there are millions of great homes
out there, and some might even be more nurturing than
ours! ;- {   In fact, I've received emails from people who've
adopted my fosters that have made me cry -- the love and
care is so apparent.

I also try to trust that the right home will present
itself for each cat, even though it could take
a long time. I keep in mind one ten-year-old boy who
was placed in a temporary room in a barn with other
"hard to adopt" cats. The others picked on him, and
he was so happy when volunteers from the rescue
group visited. When they left, he would jump up to the
window in the door, clinging onto the sill, meowing pleas
to be rescued.
   Then, out of the blue, a call came from a seniors'
residence looking for a calm, friendly, older cat. This boy
had found his home!
Marion
Kreisleriana - 21 Feb 2005 17:44 GMT
>Hi all,
>  I just need a hug and a bit of reassurance that we did the right
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>
>Marion

As long as you are positive these ladies, will be great catslaves, you
did your very best for this little sweetie.  Hug your kitties and give
yourself a pat on the back. ;)

Theresa
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Karen - 21 Feb 2005 17:51 GMT
All I know is that HAS to be tough. Big hugs and I hope everybody readjusts.

> Hi all,
>   I just need a hug and a bit of reassurance that we did the right
[quoted text clipped - 29 lines]
>
> Marion
Monique Y. Mudama - 21 Feb 2005 18:20 GMT
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>   And then we got the phone call from a lovely pair of sisters who
> adore animals and have another cat from the rescue group I work with.
> When they were at the house, I was looking for anything negative that I
> could use as a reason to veto the adoption, but I found nothing. I'm
> sure she'll be happy in her forever home.

Oh, thank goodness!  When I saw your subject line, I feared the worst.

I'm sorry that you gave up such a wonderful kitty, but you've done a very good
deed for both the sisters and your little cat.  She wouldn't even be alive if
not for you.

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Marion - 21 Feb 2005 19:50 GMT
Thanks to you all -- I needed that reinforcement!
(And sorry about the subject--it was how I felt,
and I didn't think of other contexts!)

I gave the adopters my email address, and made sure
they knew how muchwe'd all bonded with her when I asked
if they'd let me know how things went.
Other adopters have done that -- sent photos of the
cats in their new homes --and it does give us a good feeling.

Actually, as we watched the kitten performing suomo
wrestling with Brittany on the living floor, one of them
made the comment that she felt a bit guilty taking her
away from her friends, so I think they're sensitive people.

When I figure out how to put pictures on the web, I'll
post a couple of the ones of Percy and the kitten snogging!

Marion
Melissa Houle - 21 Feb 2005 21:23 GMT
> Hi all,
>   I just need a hug and a bit of reassurance that we did the right
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>
> Marion

{{{Marion}}}
You did the right thing by her. It's so hard to part with the sweet ones.
=o) But think of it this way.  You've found her a wonderful forever home
with two devoted Hoomins to love her and be loved in their turn.  Tell the
sisters that if the sweetie is lonely, the best gift to give her is a second
cat for company. (And that way, another kitty in need of a good forever home
will get one, and everyone will win.)

Melissa
Cheryl - 21 Feb 2005 22:30 GMT
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>    But we all miss her!  I can't even tell Percy and Brittany
>    what has
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> justify doing that. There are enough cats in the house. But, oh,
> she is a sweet little thing!

Letting them go is the hardest part of fostering! That's why I don't
do it right now. You gave your care and love to one who needed it,
and prepared her for her new life and that is precious. Good going
and congrats on a job well done!

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Cheryl

O J - 21 Feb 2005 23:15 GMT
>  I just need a hug and a bit of reassurance that we did the right
>thing, that time will soothe all hurts, etc. etc
---------------------<snip>----------------------

I don't know how people manage to bring kitties into their lives, care
for them, socialize them, and then are able to let them go, even to
what they know will be wonderful forever homes.

It would make my heart ache and you have all my sympathy.  Hugs and
purrs that the little hole left in your heart by giving up this small
one will soon heal.  

Regards and Purrs,
O J
HRFLTiger - 21 Feb 2005 23:24 GMT
"I don't know how people manage to bring kitties into their lives, care

for them, socialize them, and then are able to let them go, even to
what they know will be wonderful forever homes."

That's the best part - when you KNOW that you couldn't have possibly
done any better for the cat. My favourite foster cat was Flo (anyone
remember her?) and the fact she landed in the PERFECT home thanks to
RCPA!! I couldn't have found a better & more perfect home if I had a
check list - and I'm pretty tough! The same mommy then adopted another
cat through me... ;o)...sense a pattern here Andrea?!

Making a difference is what makes it worthwhile. You know that you've
helped change the life of that particular foster.

Helen M
Victor Martinez - 22 Feb 2005 01:04 GMT
>   I just need a hug and a bit of reassurance that we did the right
> thing, that time will soothe all hurts, etc. etc. If you don't mind.

You did. It's very hard to let go. We hurt very badly when we gave up
our first 3 foster kittens. The next batch of kittens were also the
last, Fez and Rufous were adopted so we never have to give them up to
anybody. :)

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polonca12000 - 22 Feb 2005 09:47 GMT
It is so hard to let them go, I don't think I could do this. You are very
brave and a wonderful person for doing this.
Lots of purrs and hugs,
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Polonca & Soncek

> Hi all,
>   I just need a hug and a bit of reassurance that we did the right
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> Saturday when she was adopted to a really good home.
>   <snip>
 
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