TOTALLY not your fault!  Don't give it a second thought!

hugs,
-L.

 How could you know?  You did nothing wrong.  In fact you did
everything right.  There is NOTHING to forgive.  Mega soothing purrs for
you and BIG hugs!

Don't beat yourself up about it, Lori.  The vast majority of people I've
gotten to know on usenet over the years are sincere individuals who are
honest about themselves, their situation, their pets (in this forum).  They
aren't trying to garner attention or money (although that didn't seem the
case here - she must be one really LONELY attention-starved woman if she's
actually healthy and at work just collecting sympathetic emails and cards).
We don't blame you for this one bit.  Please don't feel bad.

Jill

I think anyone here would do exactly the same thing. I just posted this in
another thread, but it bears repeating: I would rather send out a thousand
prayers and purrs, then find out that they weren't needed (at least not in
the way I thought they were), than let someone languish for lack of
support even once.

Helping someone you believed to be in need is the RIGHT thing to do. Don't
kick yourself for doing the right thing.

And as I also posted in the other thread, I was brought up believing that
there is no such thing as wasted prayer. If the prayer isn't needed for
the situation or person we originally prayed for, then I was taught that
God will let the prayer help someone else who needs it instead. So I
believe that SOMEONE, somewhere, was on the receiving end of a whole lot
of prayers, purrs, good thoughts, etc. Maybe it was someone who has nobody
to pray for them. But all that heartfelt support doesn't just go out into
nothingness -- it's going to do good SOMEwhere, even if we never know
where.

Donna, Captain, and Stanley

My dear Coon*$$, there is nothing to apologize for! You are a lovely
lady who trusted someone else. I'm still waiting to hear the facts,
before passing judgement. :)

See my other post.  I repeat, No shame in being kind, ever.  And
someone who would do such a thing is in need of help.

Theresa
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There is no crime in being kindhearted, and I'd prefer to be suckered a
thousand times over than to deny just one person in genuine need.

Whether Holly's story is genuine or not, it doesn't matter. The group acted
compassionately, as did you Catnipped. No great loss, and if the prayers and
purrs went to someone in need - even Holly - then they weren't wasted.

Absolutely no need to apologise.

Yowie

There's no need to be sorry! If the time comes when we stop caring about
other people we may as well give up. Now go write some more Sammy
stories. :-)

Please don't apologize for being a caring human being.  As others have said,
I'd much rather offer purrs and good thoughts to someone who (apparently)
really doesn't need them than to ignore anyone who is in need.

We love you, 'Nipped, just the way you are.  No apologies necessary.

Sam, closely supervised by Mistletoe

Uh, Lori, Sweetie, don't worry about it.  These things happen, and I'd
rather that you'd posted than to ignore it and find that that Holly
really did need help.

Two and a half years ago, I posted a plea for help and understanding
because a CT scan showed that my husband, Rob, had a bunch of tumors in
his brain and needed surgery asap.  Two days later three malignant
tumors were removed from his brain.  A fourth, in the lower back part of
the brain, where autonomic processes are governed was left to be reduced
by radiation and chemo therapy.

I wouldn't have made it without the prayers, sympathy, and purrs from
this group.  I honestly believe that the purrs and prayers from everyone
here and their cats got Rob up and around in about half the usual time.
 I also believe that those purrs and prayers were the reason that his
tumors were not the severe GBM that the pathologists originally thought
they were and were the less severe oligodendroglioma that he has instead.

So don't kick yourself.  Had Holly been physically ill, those purrs and
prayers would have been there for her.  With her being mentally ill,
maybe those purrs and prayers will help her get better.

Pam S.