Purrs request for this horrible day to end.
I have managed to completely alienate my lastborn I finally had to stick up
for the things and lifestyles I believe are right and completely throw him off
the gravy train. It's the hardest thing to do. The natural inclination of a
parent is to make life easy for our kids. But sometimes that's not what they
need.
Next my father calls and says he needs to go to the emergency room, he can't
breathe from a bronchial cold that went really bad. Then I go to get him, and
he says no. He's decided to self-medicate himself with cow pencillin and even
do-it-yourself respiratory therapy with welding oxygen. He won't listen for
sh.t.
Obviously he ends up in a few hours sicker than a dog and beet red, splotched
and whelpy and wheezing for air. THEN we go to the ER.
All is well now. I might add that he is going on 80 years old and this is the
first time he has ever seen a doctor since 1962 when he had to have a fleck of
steel removed from his eye.
I hope I NEVER get that hard-headed. I also hope day isn't representive of the
entire new year.
I almost forgot the best part. Frank & Boots went out early this morning, then
came back in together an hour later. Frank looked funny. He had a mouse in his
mouth. Took it in the kitchen, they started jacking around with it and let it
go before I could figure out what to do. Now in a few days I bet my kitchen
smells like "eau d' dead mouse under the refrigerator."
Sherry
Yoj - 02 Jan 2005 07:57 GMT
> Purrs request for this horrible day to end.
>
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>
> Sherry
Purrs and hugs, Sherry. Let's hope it was the new year getting all the bad
things out of the way so the rest of the year can be good.
Joy
Pat - 02 Jan 2005 08:14 GMT
> Purrs request for this horrible day to end.
It has ended. With no help from anyone!
> I have managed to completely alienate my lastborn I finally had to stick up
> for the things and lifestyles I believe are right and completely throw him off
> the gravy train.
Hopefully he'll thank you later on!
> first time he has ever seen a doctor since 1962
I wish my parents had been less trusting of doctors.
Seanette Blaylock - 02 Jan 2005 09:36 GMT
sriddles@aol.comkitty (Sherry ) had some very interesting things to
say about OT Can I Vent?:
>Purrs request for this horrible day to end.
>I have managed to completely alienate my lastborn I finally had to stick up
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>go before I could figure out what to do. Now in a few days I bet my kitchen
>smells like "eau d' dead mouse under the refrigerator."
Hugs, purrs, coos, and prayers headed your way. Grab your preferred
form of chocolate or other comforter of choice, hit a nice hot bubble
bath, and try not to worry too much. You did do right about your son,
even if it was hard to do [IME, the worst choices are frequently made
by looking for the easy way], and as much as you love your dad, he may
be one of those people who just has to pee on the electric fence for
himself. ;-)

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jmcquown - 02 Jan 2005 10:52 GMT
> Purrs request for this horrible day to end.
>
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>
> Sherry
Purrs on the way Sherry. Sure hope, like Joy said, 2005 was getting all the
bad stuff out of the way right up front.
Jill
Karen Chuplis - 02 Jan 2005 11:56 GMT
> Purrs request for this horrible day to end.
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>
> Sherry
Oh dear! Many purrs for you Sherry that this was just an abberation and not
an indication of the year. I heartily believe that hard as it is, we can
*make* ourselves put the idea out of our head that things are setting up for
a pattern. I'm sure that things will get better.
Marina - 02 Jan 2005 12:24 GMT
> Purrs request for this horrible day to end.
I guess it has ended over there by now, but purrs are available at
http://www.possibleplaces.com/Nikki_Purr/ or Catslaves/Files/Nikki
purring. We're also sending cyberpurrs that this was just the old year
getting rid of all the bad stuff before a new and splendid year can
start for you, Sherry.

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Victor Martinez - 02 Jan 2005 14:36 GMT
> Purrs request for this horrible day to end.
Purrs hoping the next of the year is a whole lot better.

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Christine Burel - 02 Jan 2005 15:18 GMT
> Purrs request for this horrible day to end.
>
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>((((((((Sherry))))))))
What a awful day -- many commiserations, hugs, and purrs for today and the
rest of the year to go much better!
(If it helps to know you're not alone -- my 84-yr-old mom, also who won't
listen for sh*t, who lives 1500 miles away, has fallen twice in the past 3
years (broken hip; broken femur), and who will NOT listen to anyone about
assisted living, fell again on Xmas eve, waited till yesterday to go to the
hospital in an ambulance so she would get seen quicker (!?) has broken her
collarbone. Her friends and I just roll our eyes by this point -- she's so
damn stubborn/ she's also not mentally incompetent, so what do you do -- I
know things will come to a bad end and I can't do anything about it -- love
that peeing on the electric fence image, Seanette! -- sorry, guess I vented,
too!)
all the best,
Christine
EvelynVogtGamble(Divamanque) - 02 Jan 2005 22:11 GMT
> (If it helps to know you're not alone -- my 84-yr-old mom, also who won't
> listen for sh*t, who lives 1500 miles away, has fallen twice in the past 3
> years (broken hip; broken femur), and who will NOT listen to anyone about
> assisted living, fell again on Xmas eve, waited till yesterday to go to the
> hospital in an ambulance so she would get seen quicker (!?)
Well, she had a point - they DO see ambulance cases more or
less immediately. (Although your mother must have pain
thresholds a lot higher than mine - any really severe pain,
and I'd not have to be coaxed to see a doctor!)
> has broken her
> collarbone. Her friends and I just roll our eyes by this point -- she's so
> damn stubborn/ she's also not mentally incompetent, so what do you do
Be there for her when she ASKS for help, and let her live
her life as she chooses, otherwise. There are times when I
am very glad I don't have children to decide they know
better than I do, and try to force me into "assisted" living
arrangements, or anything else, until *I* decide I'm ready
to give up my independence! Most of us who have been on
our own most of our lives value that independence far more
than any physical convenience of being "cared for" by
professionals whose opinions of what we "need" may differ
from our own!
badwilson - 02 Jan 2005 16:02 GMT
Oh my, that does sound like an awful day. Purrs and hugs for a much
better rest of the year. It can only get better from here, right?
--
Britta
Sandpaper kisses, a cuddle and a purr. I have an alarm clock that's
covered in fur!
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> Purrs request for this horrible day to end.
>
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> Sherry
Tanada - 02 Jan 2005 17:41 GMT
> Purrs request for this horrible day to end.
Hang in there Sherry, this too shall pass. Purrs for your life to
become boringly normal, or whatever passes for normal at your house.
I've already had to do the cut the apron strings with middle child
(first born cut his own apron strings) and am terrified that I'll have
to do it again with last born. (who is actually getting over her teen
fits to some extent) She has Paw wrapped around her little paw.
Anyway purrs and normalcy thoughts and wishes going out to you and yours
for the new year. Mine is already turning into Pam's Taxi, again.
Pam S.
Jo Firey - 02 Jan 2005 20:57 GMT
>> Purrs request for this horrible day to end.
>
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>
> Pam S.
One of the nicest things Charlie ever said to me.
Daughter and her useless then spouse and their two small children were being
evicted from base housing as he was being evicted from the Air Force. I was
away on vacation. Dealing with elderly parent difficulties. Charlie
explained the situation and then said "and they can't move in here".
The grandkids are always welcome and have stayed here overnight a lot, and
for weeks and months on end at times. Daughter is welcome to grab a pillow
and blanket and a sofa for a night. And does so rarely.
Oldest grandson just turned 17 and will be a bit surprised when he gets
kicked out of this nest himself.
Sorry but I'm getting old and tired and really sick of having to either live
with the mess they make or clean up after them.
Jo
Monique Y. Mudama - 02 Jan 2005 17:58 GMT
> Purrs request for this horrible day to end.
>
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> parent is to make life easy for our kids. But sometimes that's not what they
> need.
[snip other rough experiences]
Here's hoping the rest of your year will be much calmer and less stressful.
I had a boyfriend throughout high school, college, and then some who really
was no good. He had no spine; he was water, flowing to wherever was easiest.
I often think that he would have been a better person if his parents had ever
let him do things for himself, but they were so worried about making sure his
future was secure that they never got around to teaching him how to secure it
for himself.
Last I'd heard, he's still up to his old tricks, and continuing to screw over
the friends who keep giving him chances.
You're doing the right thing. Eventually, we all have to learn to live with
whatever wits and resources we possess.

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Ginger-lyn Summer - 02 Jan 2005 18:52 GMT
>Purrs request for this horrible day to end.
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>
>Sherry
{{{{Sherry}}}}
Hope all that was just a "2004 hangover", and just clearing the way
for a much better 2005.
Ginger-lyn
polonca12000 - 02 Jan 2005 19:41 GMT
What a terrible day you had, Sherry!
We are sending lots of purrs, gentle hugs and best wishes for the next days
to be nothing like this one,

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> Purrs request for this horrible day to end.
>
> I have managed to completely alienate my lastborn I finally had to stick up
> for the things and lifestyles I believe are right and completely throw him off
> the gravy train. It's the hardest thing to do. <snip
Adrian - 02 Jan 2005 19:43 GMT
> Purrs request for this horrible day to end.
>
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>
> Sherry
Hugs and purrs, Sherry. Things can only get better.

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Melissa Houle - 02 Jan 2005 21:39 GMT
> Purrs request for this horrible day to end.
>
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>
> Sherry
Hey, Sherry, It's 2005! The Holidaze are over. When you throw somebody off
the gravy train, some howls of protest must be expected. However, if your
aim is to encourage your son to make his own mistakes, plan ahead, and
finally leave your nest to be a functional, self-reliant adult, you're
really doing him a favor in the long run. The throwee rarely thinks so at
the time, though. But you have to do what you feel is right, even if it
causes stress in the short run. Whatever you do, don't go back on this.
Stand your ground. Sorry about your dad and the Emergency room, though.
That's the kind of stress nobody needs.
I think my worst New Year's Eve experience was having a tire almost
literally explode on the freeway, and having to pull off at the next exit,
and put on the spare at 1:00 a.m in Oakland. Luckily, I was in one of the
nicer areas of Oakland rather than near any crack houses and I found a nice
flat area well-lit by a street light for changing, but it was a rude start
to 1999. I figured that either it was the opening salvo of a horrible year,
or else it was going to be a GREAT year and I was getting all my bad luck
out of the way on New Year's Eve. ONce I was underway again, I felt kind of
proud of myself for being able to do it rather than having to call my sister
and beg her to come get me. =o)
Can't help with the dead mouse problem, though.
Happy Neow Year to all two and four foots present,
Melissa
EvelynVogtGamble(Divamanque) - 02 Jan 2005 21:55 GMT
> I almost forgot the best part. Frank & Boots went out early this morning, then
> came back in together an hour later. Frank looked funny. He had a mouse in his
> mouth. Took it in the kitchen, they started jacking around with it and let it
> go before I could figure out what to do. Now in a few days I bet my kitchen
> smells like "eau d' dead mouse under the refrigerator."
Look on the bright side - better that than "eau d'
mouse-droppings"! (If it's dead, you can move the
refrigerator and remove it - if it's still alive, and your
cats are anything like mine, once in the house it becomes a
permanent "guest" until you manage to trap it.)
Sam Nash - 03 Jan 2005 01:29 GMT
> Purrs request for this horrible day to end.
>
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> they
> need.
It is a very hard thing for any parent to do. Almost had to do the "or
else" thing with ours when he was much younger, but he's turned out alright.
Purring and praying that yours does too.
> Next my father calls and says he needs to go to the emergency room, he
> can't
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> fleck of
> steel removed from his eye.
Elderly parents can be a real pill. Hope your Dad continues to improve.
> I hope I NEVER get that hard-headed. I also hope day isn't representive of
> the
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> kitchen
> smells like "eau d' dead mouse under the refrigerator."
Ouch! Hope the furrkids have enough sense to dispose of it "properly".
> Sherry
Many purrs and prayers for the rest of your 2005 to be much better than the
first day.
Sam
Sherry - 03 Jan 2005 05:29 GMT
>Many purrs and prayers for the rest of your 2005 to be much better than the
>first day.
>Sam
Thanks for the sympathy Sam, Seanette.
I truly do feel like the sandwich generation. LOL, though, I just realized what
I'm trying so hard to do is learn to STOP treating my 22-year-old like a kid,
and START treating my 80 year old father like one.
Sherry
SUQKRT - 03 Jan 2005 18:07 GMT
Belated purrs that things are better. I took two days off from posting. Vent
away sweety!
Suz
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Krista - 03 Jan 2005 04:10 GMT
> Purrs request for this horrible day to end.
(snippage)
We're sending purrs and hugs to you, and hoping that this day held all
the bad things 2005 will ever have to offer you.
(((((Sherry)))))
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Krista
JBHajos - 03 Jan 2005 14:15 GMT
>Purrs request for this horrible day to end.
Purrs and good wishes for a good year ahead - hope alll is going
well for you after a rough beginning. Hugs!!!
(When you get to the end of your rope, just tie a knot and hang
on.)
Jeanne
SUQKRT - 13 Jan 2005 17:51 GMT
> Took it in the kitchen, they started jacking around with it and let it
>go before I could figure out what to do. Now in a few days I bet my kitchen
>smells like "eau d' dead mouse under the refrigerator."
>
>Sherry
Purrs Sherry. At last/least your post showed up. mine aren't.
Suz
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