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Monique Y. Mudama - 30 Dec 2004 21:49 GMT So, as some of you may know, I have a cat named Oscar. I had a cat named Eros for one month, but my husband was allergic to him and Oscar hid under the bed from his friendly advances. Eros was adopted early this week, and I am very happy about that.
So here's where I'm dumb. I really want another cat. I know that I don't need another cat. I know it's probably a bad idea. I know that Eric, my husband, is definitely not on board.
I am further dumb because I went ahead and called the shelter asking about a cat that I *know* lived with Eros for a few weeks. He's older, was not very outgoing to the other cats in the condo, and therefore sounded like a good candidate. Their notes, however, show him as being in his own cage because he dislikes other cats. Well then.
So I go on to ask the question. "Is there any way to do a trial adoption? I know you guys foster some cats ... could I bring a cat home, try him out, and see if my cat and my husband can tolerate him?" Amazingly, the answer was, well, it's not standard protocol, but depending on how long the animal has been stuck at the shelter .... and then she suggested Kaia, a boy kitty who's been at the shelter since late september. A normal, healthy adult cat goes for $95; Kaia has been reduced to $25. No one's really looked at him in months, and they have people spending time with him just to make him feel a little better. He's eight years old. A true foster setup requires house inspections and such; she suggested a no-pay adoption, with the agreement that I can return him if it doesn't work out and I can pay if it does. She thinks he would do well to have a few days in a house, even in his own room.
I suspect that this is extremely foolish. I suspect that my husband will object, vehemently. I suspect that Oscar won't tolerate Kaia, either.
Haha, I just called to ask about the stated "needs work with housetraining" business, and she says that someone's actually meeting with him; his first nibble in months.
But the question still stands. Should I trial adopt an older kitty who maybe won't be hot after Oscar's tail, or should I leave well enough alone?
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Jo Firey - 30 Dec 2004 21:49 GMT Given your husbands allergy problems and Oscar's sharing problems, if I were is your shoes I'd leave well enough alone. If your husbands allergies got worse Oscar could be at risk.
Jo
> So, as some of you may know, I have a cat named Oscar. I had a cat named > Eros [quoted text clipped - 49 lines] > maybe won't be hot after Oscar's tail, or should I leave well enough > alone? Monique Y. Mudama - 30 Dec 2004 22:15 GMT > Given your husbands allergy problems and Oscar's sharing problems, if I were > is your shoes I'd leave well enough alone. If your husbands allergies got > worse Oscar could be at risk. Oscar is *not* going anywhere.
Could repeated exposure make Eric more allergic than he already is?
To be clear, he has *no* health problems triggered by Oscar.
 Signature monique, roommate of Oscar the (female) grouch ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Eros was adopted! Eros has a home now! *cheer!*
Christine Burel - 31 Dec 2004 02:11 GMT I tend to agree here; what you could do is work with socializing the kitties at the shelter that are up for adoption (unless I've goofed and you're doing this already). It would do a lot of good for the kitties who are stuck in cages waiting for adoption; I do this at my local animal humane association. It might satisfy your neediness for kitties and yet spare you any conflicts re Oscar and hubby at home. hth, Christine
> Given your husbands allergy problems and Oscar's sharing problems, if I were > is your shoes I'd leave well enough alone. If your husbands allergies got [quoted text clipped - 54 lines] > > maybe won't be hot after Oscar's tail, or should I leave well enough > > alone? jmcquown - 30 Dec 2004 22:05 GMT > So, as some of you may know, I have a cat named Oscar. I had a cat > named Eros for one month, but my husband was allergic to him and > Oscar hid under the bed from his friendly advances. I'm not clear on why your husband was allergic to Eros but not to Oscar? Was it pet dander? Fur length?
Eros was adopted
> early this week, and I am very happy about that. I'm happy too! I got teary every time I read about you visiting Eros at the shelter and having to leave again.
> So here's where I'm dumb. I really want another cat. I know that I > don't need another cat. I know it's probably a bad idea. I know > that Eric, my husband, is definitely not on board. That's probably a major consideration.
> I am further dumb because I went ahead and called the shelter asking > about a cat that I *know* lived with Eros for a few weeks. He's > older, was not very outgoing to the other cats in the condo, and > therefore sounded like a good candidate. Their notes, however, show > him as being in his own cage because he dislikes other cats. Then how would he get along with Oscar?
> So I go on to ask the question. "Is there any way to do a trial > adoption? I know you guys foster some cats ... could I bring a cat [quoted text clipped - 10 lines] > can pay if it does. She thinks he would do well to have a few days > in a house, even in his own room. Might be a good idea. Does Kaia have any health problems?
> I suspect that this is extremely foolish. I suspect that my husband > will object, vehemently. I suspect that Oscar won't tolerate Kaia, > either. Persia does not like other cats. I'd absolutely love to have another cat but I won't disrupt her life by introducing one. She chose *me* and I suspect it's because there aren't other cats here ;) She totally ignores my birds; they are beneath her.
> Haha, I just called to ask about the stated "needs work with > housetraining" business, and she says that someone's actually meeting > with him; his first nibble in months. Awwww! Maybe that's a sign. And if he needs "work" maybe he needs no stress or a bladder check-up.
> But the question still stands. Should I trial adopt an older kitty > who > maybe won't be hot after Oscar's tail, or should I leave well enough > alone? Sadly, that is only a question you can answer given your DH and other circumstances. Whatever you do, know you'll be supported here.
Jill
Monique Y. Mudama - 30 Dec 2004 22:26 GMT >> So, as some of you may know, I have a cat named Oscar. I had a cat named >> Eros for one month, but my husband was allergic to him and Oscar hid under >> the bed from his friendly advances. > > I'm not clear on why your husband was allergic to Eros but not to Oscar? > Was it pet dander? Fur length? Sadly, I don't know, either. It's not fur length, at least not in the traditional sense -- Oscar is a longhair, no problem. Eros is a shorthair, big problem.
I honestly think that Eros groomed himself more than Oscar, which could be it. I've also done some web-research and apparently both males and darker cats are more likely to be allergenic than females and light-colored cats. Eros is a black male ...
>> Eros was adopted early this week, and I am very happy about that. > > I'm happy too! I got teary every time I read about you visiting Eros > at the shelter and having to leave again. Doh, sorry about that! I didn't post every time I visited, because I figured you guys were tired of hearing about it =)
>> So here's where I'm dumb. I really want another cat. I know that I >> don't need another cat. I know it's probably a bad idea. I know >> that Eric, my husband, is definitely not on board. >> > That's probably a major consideration. I wouldn't do anything like this without his acceptance. I'd prefer his approval, of course. I've brought up this "plan" to him in general terms, but it didn't really come to a head because it was theoretical; we didn't even know if the shelter would consider a "trial" adoption.
>> I am further dumb because I went ahead and called the shelter asking >> about a cat that I *know* lived with Eros for a few weeks. He's [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > > Then how would he get along with Oscar? Ah, sorry, I wasn't clear. Before the phone call, I didn't know he didn't like other cats; of course, once I found out, both I and the shelter person agreed that he would be a poor candidate for this kind of trial.
[snip bit about Kaia]
> Might be a good idea. Does Kaia have any health problems? I never got that far, because when the shelter person went to get his paperwork, we found out that he was being visited =) I hope he gets adopted. The number of cats at the shelter seems to have shrunk drastically since last week. Tis the season for good deeds and open hearts, I guess.
> Persia does not like other cats. I'd absolutely love to have another > cat but I won't disrupt her life by introducing one. She chose *me* > and I suspect it's because there aren't other cats here ;) She > totally ignores my birds; they are beneath her. But I keep hearing stories about cats working it out and eventually becoming friends ... and I know that I didn't do a good job of introducing Oscar and Eros. So maybe I'm in la-la land, but I think it could possibly go much better than it did.
>> Haha, I just called to ask about the stated "needs work with >> housetraining" business, and she says that someone's actually meeting >> with him; his first nibble in months. >> > Awwww! Maybe that's a sign. And if he needs "work" maybe he needs no > stress or a bladder check-up. But a sign in which direction? =P
This shelter is very responsible; health issues are the first thing their vets investigate when there are potty problems. So it's probably behavioral.
>> But the question still stands. Should I trial adopt an older kitty >> who maybe won't be hot after Oscar's tail, or should I leave well >> enough alone? > > Sadly, that is only a question you can answer given your DH and other > circumstances. Whatever you do, know you'll be supported here. Thank you. I suspect I know the right answer, but just don't want to hear it. On the other hand, I could make a shelter kitty's life a lot more bearable by letting him/her have a larger space for a few days, and a happier cat could be a cat who gets adopted quickly ...
There's a box that Oscar never used to sit in, though she does have favorite boxes. Eros loved the box, though. Now that Eros has been gone a while, Oscar has started sitting in it. I wonder if that's some sort of process ...? Also, I've come home smelling of strange cats a number of times, which I never did in the past. I wonder if that will help her at all ...
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Yowie - 30 Dec 2004 23:13 GMT > > So, as some of you may know, I have a cat named Oscar. I had a cat > > named Eros for one month, but my husband was allergic to him and > > Oscar hid under the bed from his friendly advances. > > I'm not clear on why your husband was allergic to Eros but not to Oscar? > Was it pet dander? Fur length? Allergies are weird things, and although I'm technically allergic to cats, I find some cats really set me off, some cats make me vaguely sniffly, and some cats don't bother me at all.
Shmogg is a vaguely sniffly cat. Unfortunately, it looks like I'm more allergic to IBKFergus (although perhaps it will settle down later). And yet Romeo and Juliet didn't bother me at all, I could inhale deep into the gorgeous furriness and have absolutely no reaction. I have yet to notice any trend with different breeds or with furriness, just that each cat is its own individual and obviously produce their own individual level of whatever it is I'm allergic to.
As to the advice, I'd go with the "fostering" option if you have to. If it doesn't work out, at least you've helped with the socialisation of the cat. If it does.... well, wonderful!
Yowie
Monique Y. Mudama - 30 Dec 2004 23:29 GMT > Allergies are weird things, and although I'm technically allergic to cats, I > find some cats really set me off, some cats make me vaguely sniffly, and > some cats don't bother me at all. [snip]
> Unfortunately, it looks like I'm more > allergic to IBKFergus (although perhaps it will settle down later). I know that IBKFergus is black, which is (probably) one strike. Have you figured out if he's really a boy? That could also be an issue, although I'd imagine as young as he (?) is he shouldn't be producing massive amounts of hormone-induced allergens.
Out of curiosity, are any of your other kitties all-black?
> As to the advice, I'd go with the "fostering" option if you have to. If it > doesn't work out, at least you've helped with the socialisation of the cat. > If it does.... well, wonderful! I am definitely not going to commit myself to a full-blown adoption. If I do this, it will have to be in a pseudo-foster situation, with the very clear understanding that I may not be able to keep the cat. This would all be in writing on the shelter documents.
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Yowie - 31 Dec 2004 02:32 GMT > > Allergies are weird things, and although I'm technically allergic to cats, I > > find some cats really set me off, some cats make me vaguely sniffly, and [quoted text clipped - 9 lines] > imagine as young as he (?) is he shouldn't be producing massive amounts of > hormone-induced allergens. I *think* he's a boy, but strangely :-) he doesn't like me fiddling about back there.
> Out of curiosity, are any of your other kitties all-black? No, Shmogg is a grey "ticked" tabby. IBKFergus isn't *quite* all black, there's a sprinkle of white hairs on his ears, his front paws, and a more conentrated sprinkling on a small patch on his belly - but it isn't a *white* patch, so much as "salt and pepper". And I can see tabby stripes on his head. I'm wondering whether he is actually black, or just a very dark brown.
Yowie
Howard Berkowitz - 31 Dec 2004 03:01 GMT Was I just amazingly lucky?
When I adopted Mr. Clark (about 3 years), Ding (4 months) and Rhonda (3 months), there was never any conflict. Rhonda was first to explore, then Mr. Clark, while Ding was rather shy. But as they came out, Mr. Clark immediately decided that he was responsible for the kittens (and hoomin), and the two kittens would obviously play-fight -- but there was hardly ever a hiss, growl, etc.
They remain very affectionate toward one another and toward me -- they seem to have rituals for who takes which space, eat happily from the same bowl, etc. While Ding is more the shy one, the other two are always eager to meet new humans. Mr. Clark will tend to go and reassure them, where Rhonda wants to be the *star*.
In contrast, when Clifford (RB), as a kitten, was introduced to Chatterley (RB), perhaps 1.5 years old, he greeted her with a hiss and they fought for the rest of her life.
KellyH - 30 Dec 2004 22:26 GMT > So, as some of you may know, I have a cat named Oscar. I had a cat named > Eros [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] > need another cat. I know it's probably a bad idea. I know that Eric, my > husband, is definitely not on board. This is a major consideration. ALL people in the household have to be on board with adopting an animal. Also, given your husband's allergy situation, I wouldn't push it. Same with Oscar not being keen on other cats.
> So I go on to ask the question. "Is there any way to do a trial adoption? > I [quoted text clipped - 16 lines] > thinks > he would do well to have a few days in a house, even in his own room.
> But the question still stands. Should I trial adopt an older kitty who > maybe won't be hot after Oscar's tail, or should I leave well enough > alone? What about just doing fostering and not all out adopting a cat? If you have a spare room to do this, this should take care of Oscar's issues and your husband's. You could get this kitty out of the shelter for a while and work with him.
I'm not trying to be harsh, I'm speaking here as a Cat Adoption Counselor at a shelter. If you had turned Eros into my shelter and then asked about adopting another cat, I would say no, given the reasons you turned in Eros.
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Monique Y. Mudama - 30 Dec 2004 22:52 GMT >> So here's where I'm dumb. I really want another cat. I know that I don't >> need another cat. I know it's probably a bad idea. I know that Eric, my [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > situation, I wouldn't push it. Same with Oscar not being keen on other > cats. Well, to be clear, Eric hasn't flat-out said "No." He has strong reservations, and I can't blame him. I would never make a major decision, like adopting a cat, without his acceptance. I figure you have to plan on being able to care for a cat for at least 15 years, if you're going to adopt one. Doing so without my life-mate's approval ... that doesn't compute.
>> But the question still stands. Should I trial adopt an older kitty who >> maybe won't be hot after Oscar's tail, or should I leave well enough alone? [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > husband's. You could get this kitty out of the shelter for a while and work > with him. I'm not sure my husband would be up for having a constant parade of animals coming through the house. I'm pretty sure I don't have the time to handle your typical foster animals; they're usually in foster care because they are too young, injured or ill to deal with shelter life, and that implies a lot of time. On your average work day, it would not be unusual for me to be out of the house for ten hours at a stretch. So a relatively healthy cat who needs a mental break, sure. A constant need for a great deal of time and care? I wish I could do that, but I can't.
Of course, the idea was kind of both. A non-standard foster situation, in that the possibility exists of adoption. The only reason for the adoption paperwork is that they are legally required to do home inspections and a lot of other stuff in order to accept someone as a foster family. As it wouldn't be a typical foster situation, this would not be needed. But the cat in question *would* get an opportunity for some respite from the shelter, which is what you're talking about.
In fact, when I originally adopted Eros, it was with the understanding that I could bring him back to his previous owner if it didn't work out. Unfortunately, as soon as he was out of her home, she didn't have much interest in addressing that part of the deal. I think this shelter will be better at honoring its word.
> I'm not trying to be harsh, I'm speaking here as a Cat Adoption Counselor at > a shelter. If you had turned Eros into my shelter and then asked about > adopting another cat, I would say no, given the reasons you turned in Eros. If I didn't want opinions, even harsh ones, I wouldn't have asked. I understand your point of view perfectly; if I knew that trying adoption were the right course of action, I wouldn't have posted this question.
The shelter director told me, when I brought Eros, that a lot of cats will get along with some cats, but not others. Oscar never had exposure to other cats till I brought Eros home, so I don't have a lot of data there. And I know that she can tolerate dogs, even pesky ones, so it's not like she's *completely* anti-other-pets. Unfortunately, dogs require more care than I feel I can commit to right now. It's not the amount of time; it's the increments. I'm just out of the house for too long at a time.
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MaryL - 31 Dec 2004 02:55 GMT <snip>
> I'm not sure my husband would be up for having a constant parade of > animals [quoted text clipped - 10 lines] > wish > I could do that, but I can't. With that last paragraph in mind, what would you do if you adopted a seemingly healthy cat that later developed severe health problems? Just like children, it does happen -- and all of us who adopt pets should be prepared to deal with such a situation. We simply cannot be sure that the cat we adopt will remain "healthy." Many of them will, indeed, require "a constant need for a great deal of time and care." All of these factors need to be carefully considered before undertaking an adoption.
MaryL
Monique Y. Mudama - 31 Dec 2004 03:19 GMT ><snip> >> I'm not sure my husband would be up for having a constant parade of animals [quoted text clipped - 13 lines] > constant need for a great deal of time and care." All of these factors need > to be carefully considered before undertaking an adoption. Of course you are right. It's certainly something to be considered, just as it is possible that Eric could develop severe health problems and need care, or that I could develop severe health problems and need Eric to care for me *and* Oscar.
If one of my loved ones needs better care, I will have to adjust my life accordingly. That's reality. And, at least currently, Eric works close to home and could cover some of the care duties if need be. But I see a distinction here. It's one thing to accept the risk that a loved one may need extensive care; it's another to volunteer to provide that extensive care on a routine basis for a series of foster babies. They are equally deserving, but I have to draw the line somewhere. And while I could ask Eric to help me care for Oscar if she becomes ill, it's another matter for me to volunteer him as a foster caretaker.
Eric is compassionate with animals, but it's not clear to me that he has the visceral reaction that I do. I know that he has consciously chosen to reduce his own stress level because the formula of Eric plus stress tends to equal health problems, so he has learned to react in a more stoic manner. I, on the other hand, am one of those people who feels the highs are worth the lows, and I seem to live this philosophy pretty regularly.
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Sherry - 04 Jan 2005 05:38 GMT >Of course, the idea was kind of both. A non-standard foster situation, in >that the possibility exists of adoption. The only reason for the adoption [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] >question *would* get an opportunity for some respite from the shelter, which >is what you're talking about. Monique, I see your point about giving the cat a break from the shelter and a trial run. I think the usual objection is that if other cats didn't work out, the new one isn't likely to. Also, if the cat is in your home, and not being shown to prospective adoptors, he might miss out on chances to get adopted while he's there. Our cats in foster care would never get adopted if we didn't have adopt-a-thons in public places where people can see them. People aren't very willing to go inside a private home to look at a cat. That's just my experience. I tried fostering a dog sort of like what you're talking about. Not one person even came to look at him, and I ended up adopting him. Sherry
Monique Y. Mudama - 07 Jan 2005 00:23 GMT Sorry for the late response ...
>>Of course, the idea was kind of both. A non-standard foster situation, in >>that the possibility exists of adoption. The only reason for the adoption [quoted text clipped - 9 lines] > shown to prospective adoptors, he might miss out on chances to get adopted > while he's there. Yup. That's true. The shelter would not let me take home "desirable" cats like this. The idea was to try an older cat who wasn't getting any nibbles at the shelter, anyway. A break and some human-time might get the cat to eat better, be more alert and generally start looking more adoptable.
I really botched the job when introducing Eros to our house. I kind of plopped him on the floor and hoped they'd work it out. Well, Eros made himself right at home after a day of hiding in the basement; the problem, as we know, was Oscar. I think it is possible, although not certain, that if I actually followed the commonly-discussed cat introduction rules, Oscar might be a lot more receptive. I felt so bad for Eros having to leave his previous home that I wasn't willing to do the right thing for the first few weeks, and we all paid for it.
Honestly, though, I think Eric had the right idea in waiting a month before making any decisions. I'm already starting to think, gee, Oscar's so happy now, do I really want to rock the boat? In an ideal world, though, I'd love to have more than one furry pet, and it would be especially great if the other pet provided Oscar with some companionship and also if we could home a cat with few other prospects. It seemed to me that Oscar mourned Puma's loss; if she could get along with a sedate older dog, why not a sedate older cat? I know it's a different matter, but it seems possible.
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BC - 31 Dec 2004 12:14 GMT >>So, as some of you may know, I have a cat named Oscar. I had a cat named >>Eros [quoted text clipped - 46 lines] > a shelter. If you had turned Eros into my shelter and then asked about > adopting another cat, I would say no, given the reasons you turned in Eros. I hope you haven't come to this conclusion because her husband was allergic to one cat. They already have one cat which causes no problem at all so there is no reason why they couldn't rehome another cat, but more time would need to be spent with the husband and the cat to discover if they were compatible first.
As for the cats not getting on, they only had the previous one for a month, that is often not long enough for a cat to get used to another cat, especially as Oscar was used to being alone for so long. Maybe an older cat(like the one Monique has her eye on) would make a better quieter friend for Oscar.(Remembering that rehoming a cat with another is always a risk.)
Yes it would take more time and possibly paperwork, but surely rehoming a cat to a loving home is the most important thing. The idea of fostering it first is a brilliant idea, if it doesn't work out at least it will be happier in a home environment and maybe have more chance of finding another home after.
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jmcquown - 31 Dec 2004 15:01 GMT >>> So, as some of you may know, I have a cat named Oscar. I had a cat >>> named Eros [quoted text clipped - 48 lines] > more time would need to be spent with the husband and the cat to > discover if they were compatible first. And this leads me to - why not take husband to the shelter to spend time with and play with Kaia and see if he has allergic reactions? If so, then you know not to get the poor kitties hopes up but the kitty will have had play time and undoubtedly feel better for it.
I can't believe I didn't think of this sooner when reading through this thread!
Jill
Monique Y. Mudama - 31 Dec 2004 18:01 GMT > And this leads me to - why not take husband to the shelter to spend time > with and play with Kaia and see if he has allergic reactions? If so, then [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > I can't believe I didn't think of this sooner when reading through this > thread! My two thoughts here are:
1) I don't know how much time it would take to trigger the allergy
2) With 40-60 cats in the cat area, and a meeting room used by everyone, there will be so much cat "stuff" in the air that I'd be surprised if he *didn't* get an allergic reaction.
Still, something to consider. As I've said, he's asked me to wait a month and see if my feelings are still strong. The rational part of me actually agrees that this is a smart way to try to separate "guilt about giving up Eros" from "wanting another cat."
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Christina Websell - 30 Dec 2004 22:31 GMT > So, as some of you may know, I have a cat named Oscar. I had a cat named > Eros [quoted text clipped - 49 lines] > maybe won't be hot after Oscar's tail, or should I leave well enough > alone? You had to let Eros go because your DH was allergic to him. I think I am right in saying this caused you quite a bit of emotional pain. So why do you think Kaia won't cause the same sort of allergy? To adopt a middle aged cat and let him think he has a foreverhome when he might not have could be a bad idea for him. I'd settle for just Oscar if I were you. Just my opinion though, others may differ. Might be a good idea for you to stay away from the shelter and maybe just send a donation as you can afford it ;-) If I went to the local dog shelter I know I'd come home with at least two. This isn't sensible, so I stay away and support them with a tiny donation when I can. If I saw them, I'd be unable to resist.
Tweed
Monique Y. Mudama - 30 Dec 2004 22:57 GMT > You had to let Eros go because your DH was allergic to him. I think I am > right in saying this caused you quite a bit of emotional pain. So why do > you think Kaia won't cause the same sort of allergy? Just the fact that Eric's not allergic to Oscar at all, and that Kaia isn't dark-furred, which I believe to be the issue. A female would be even better, from an allergen standpoint.
> To adopt a middle aged cat and let him think he has a foreverhome when > he might not have could be a bad idea for him. But the shelter rep actually agreed with me that a few days in his own room in a house would be *good* for him, even if he came right back ... *puzzled* I'm not talking about cats with good adoption prospects here. I'm talking about cats that have been in "solitary confinement" for several months, who are already on "handling" routines so that they get used to contact with people.
They would not consider this sort of arrangement for their "good prospect" animals. Only for their hard cases, and only with permission from the shelter director herself.
> I'd settle for just Oscar if I were you. Just my opinion though, > others may differ. Sounds like most agree with you, and that's certainly something I need to weigh, as I am not a cat expert.
> Might be a good idea for you to stay away from the > shelter and maybe just send a donation as you can afford it ;-) I've already set up a monthly deduction from my credit card. Every month's contribution is small, but I figure it will add up.
> If I went to the local dog shelter I know I'd come home with at least > two. This isn't sensible, so I stay away and support them with a tiny > donation when I can. If I saw them, I'd be unable to resist. I know the feeling. I would like to volunteer as a dog-walker, but I have to be sure I won't come home with one or five dogs. For right now, I'm too vulnerable, but I hope to work up to it this year.
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KellyH - 30 Dec 2004 23:08 GMT > Just the fact that Eric's not allergic to Oscar at all, and that Kaia > isn't > dark-furred, which I believe to be the issue. A female would be even > better, > from an allergen standpoint. I have *never* heard of a female vs. male or light vs. dark cat being better or worse as far as allergies go. Anyone else heard of this, or have a reference?
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Monique Y. Mudama - 30 Dec 2004 23:24 GMT >> Just the fact that Eric's not allergic to Oscar at all, and that Kaia isn't >> dark-furred, which I believe to be the issue. A female would be even [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > or worse as far as allergies go. Anyone else heard of this, or have a > reference? Here you go. It looks like color is more of an issue than gender; at least, as far as gender goes, I can only find reference to the fact that neutered males are less allergenic than "whole" males.
I will grant you that it looks like the articles on color may all stem from the same survey; it's not clear to me that there's been independent verification.
I found these by searching google for "cat allergies color" and "cat allergies male".
Color:
http://www.infopet.co.uk/pages/5021c.htm
[quote] Dark-haired cats more likely to cause allergies in humans
source: Roger Dobson Independent May 1 2000 p1
Allergy specialists have discovered that owners of dark-haired cats have a six-fold possibility of suffering an allergy compared to owners of light-coloured cats. Owners with and without allergies were questioned on whether their cats were permitted to go into their bedrooms, and on the colour and gender of their cats. Gender and being allowed into the bedroom do not appear to be linked to allergies, whereas there does appear to be a link between colour and allergies, perhaps due to the composition or thickness of cat hairs. CA,HH [/quote]
http://www.drgreene.com/21_305.html
[quote] At the year 2000 annual meeting of the American College of Asthma, Allergy, and Immunology in Seattle an interesting cat-hair study was presented. People with dark-colored cats were 2 to 4 times more likely to experience moderate or severe allergic symptoms than people with no cats or with light-colored cats. There was no statistical difference in these symptoms between those with light-hair cats and those with no cats! I would guess that these results are a reflection of the concentration of cat antigens in the different hair colors: dyeing your cat.s hair won't help!
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http://www.prevention.com/article/0,5778,s1-1-51-288-756-1,00.html
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Cats with dark coats may provoke more sneezing, congestion, and itchier eyes and throats than lighter-hued felines (The Jour. of Allergy and Clinical Immunology, Jan 2000).
Researchers at Long Island College Hospital in Brooklyn studied 60 cat owners: 29 with moderate allergy symptoms, 14 with mild symptoms, and 17 who had no symptoms at all. Those with moderate symptoms were more likely to own dark-colored cats than those with mild or no symptoms. In fact, the odds of having moderate symptoms were six times higher with a dark kitty. [snip] [/quote]
Gender:
http://www.felinerescue.net/allergic_to_cats.htm
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Researchers studying ways to reduce cat allergenicity found some cats consistently shed lower levels of allergen. Unfortunately, there's no practical way to identify these "hypoallergenic" cats in advance. But an even more important allergy predictor is hormones. It turns out male cats shed substantially greater amounts of allergen than females. A neutered male, on the other hand, sheds significantly less.
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http://www.allergyescape.com/cat-allergy.html
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If you have a male cat that is not neutered, consider getting him neutered. This reduces the amount of allergen.
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KellyH - 30 Dec 2004 23:26 GMT Very interesting. I wonder how true it is? I'll have to go around sniffing my cats and see which ones make me sneeze more. :-P
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>>> Just the fact that Eric's not allergic to Oscar at all, and that Kaia >>> isn't [quoted text clipped - 108 lines] > > [/quote] Monique Y. Mudama - 30 Dec 2004 23:44 GMT > Very interesting. I wonder how true it is? I'll have to go around sniffing > my cats and see which ones make me sneeze more. :-P I think I may have a better understanding of Eric's problem, too. He only last night explained to me that Eros would sleep on Eric's head all night. I didn't know because Eric and I were "spooned" and Eros slept between our heads, apparently, batting Eric with his tail all night. Eric would pick him up and deposit him elsewhere, but you know how cats are once they've found a button to push.
Amazingly, I never woke for any of this.
I'm sure that even a minor allergy will flare up quite a bit if the culprit feels the need to sleep practically inside the sufferer's nose. Oscar doesn't do this; I trained her out of it as a kitten. Sometimes I regret it, but mostly I am glad that I can usually get a full night's sleep.
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Karen Chuplis - 31 Dec 2004 00:59 GMT >>> Just the fact that Eric's not allergic to Oscar at all, and that Kaia isn't >>> dark-furred, which I believe to be the issue. A female would be even [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] > as far as gender goes, I can only find reference to the fact that neutered > males are less allergenic than "whole" males. Hmmm. I wonder about that. My mother has two males: a short haired silky white and grey whole male and a very thick long haired orange and white cat. When I pet and brush the thick haired orange male, my eyes get itchy but the other does not bother me. Pearl who has dense hair can make me a bit itchy but Grant and Sugar with fine silky longish hair do not. They are of course all black.
Karen Chuplis - 31 Dec 2004 00:52 GMT >> Just the fact that Eric's not allergic to Oscar at all, and that Kaia >> isn't [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > or worse as far as allergies go. Anyone else heard of this, or have a > reference? I often wonder about hair texture. Most cats do not bother me at all, but some can make my eyes itch. Cats with a rougher or thicker texture hair make my eyes itch if I pet them a while. I wonder if certain hair texture hangs on to the saliva more.
Monique Y. Mudama - 31 Dec 2004 01:03 GMT > I often wonder about hair texture. Most cats do not bother me at all, but > some can make my eyes itch. Cats with a rougher or thicker texture hair make > my eyes itch if I pet them a while. I wonder if certain hair texture hangs > on to the saliva more. The texture thing seems pertinent to me. I've had the same experience with "rough" fur texture. I wonder if you're right.
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MaryL - 31 Dec 2004 02:57 GMT >>> Just the fact that Eric's not allergic to Oscar at all, and that Kaia >>> isn't [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] > my eyes itch if I pet them a while. I wonder if certain hair texture hangs > on to the saliva more. Texture "might" play a role (guessing here, I don't really *know*), but I can't possibly imagine how color would be a factor.
MaryL
Monique Y. Mudama - 31 Dec 2004 03:09 GMT > "Karen Chuplis" <kchuplis@alltel.net> wrote in message >> [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > Texture "might" play a role (guessing here, I don't really *know*), but I > can't possibly imagine how color would be a factor. Well, not directly, obviously, but it could be a matter of commonly paired traits. Perhaps black cats commonly have more allergenic dander, just like calicos are commonly female and human color-blindness is more commonly found in males.
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BC - 31 Dec 2004 11:45 GMT >>"Karen Chuplis" <kchuplis@alltel.net> wrote in message >> [quoted text clipped - 10 lines] > calicos are commonly female and human color-blindness is more commonly found > in males. I know quite a few people who get very sneezy round some kittens(including me) presumably because of the texture of the fur and the rate at which they lose it. My cousin has a grey/white female cat which causes her no problem but the second she enters by house with my pure white, 5 month old short haired male moggy,currently unneutered(but not for long!) she is an absolute mess, eyes and nose running and wheezing, which continues for a couple of hours after leaving, that does not happen with any of her other friends cats A friends son has also found he is allergic to my cat, but not to any others. I have only had a similar reaction once to a pair of long haired kittens, but never to any other cats or kittens regardless of fur length, age, colour or sex.
The only thing I have concluded is that my cat sheds alot of hair, I have a blue velvet duvet cover which within a couple of hours is covered in white hairs as though it hasn't been washed in months.
So if you take on another cat make sure your husband spends alot of time with it to see if it causes a reaction, some cats will, some wont and there is only one way to find out-Good luck!
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Sherry - 04 Jan 2005 05:41 GMT >I often wonder about hair texture. Most cats do not bother me at all, but >some can make my eyes itch. Cats with a rougher or thicker texture hair make >my eyes itch if I pet them a while. I wonder if certain hair texture hangs >on to the saliva more. I think that's true, Karen. Frank has extra-long, extra-fine, extra-thick angora-type hair. He's light colored. He is the only one that I ever react to. Sometimes he makes my eyes itch and run. sherry
Adrian - 01 Jan 2005 11:48 GMT >> Just the fact that Eric's not allergic to Oscar at all, and that Kaia >> isn't [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > better or worse as far as allergies go. Anyone else heard of this, > or have a reference? The only difference I have noticed is, I am more allergic to orientals. One time I had a siamese on my lap for half an hour, my eyelids swelled so much I could hardley see. The cat was perfectly happy though, so I could move him. :-)
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MaryL - 30 Dec 2004 22:42 GMT > So, as some of you may know, I have a cat named Oscar. I had a cat named > Eros [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] > need another cat. I know it's probably a bad idea. I know that Eric, my > husband, is definitely not on board. <snip>
> But the question still stands. Should I trial adopt an older kitty who > maybe won't be hot after Oscar's tail, or should I leave well enough > alone? In my opinion, this would be inconsiderate. You already gave up one cat because of your husband's allergies and your other cat's objections. Your husband's allergies will not have improved, and your other cat is likely to react with just as much antagonism as before. So, what is the likely scenario? In all likelihood, this poor cat will be shuttled back to the shelter after living for a few weeks (if that) with you. An adoption should be a lifelong commitment, and that is not what it would be in this case. Please don't do it!
MaryL
Duffy at the animal shelter (before adoption): http://pic10.picturetrail.com/VOL320/476350/1636692/19233823.jpg The transformation -- Duffy today: http://pic10.picturetrail.com/VOL320/476350/1916528/41680392.jpg Duffy examines the Christmas tree: http://pic10.picturetrail.com/VOL320/476350/1916528/76258004.jpg Holly on the mantle: http://pic10.picturetrail.com/VOL320/476350/1916528/34609798.jpg Holly playing with yarn: http://pic10.picturetrail.com/VOL320/476350/1916528/53748850.jpg Holly and Duffy on the cat tree: http://pic10.picturetrail.com/VOL320/476350/1916528/24118497.jpg
Monique Y. Mudama - 30 Dec 2004 22:57 GMT > In my opinion, this would be inconsiderate. You already gave up one cat > because of your husband's allergies and your other cat's objections. Your [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > be a lifelong commitment, and that is not what it would be in this case. > Please don't do it! I guess I'm still confused. How is it that "foster homes" are a good thing for animals, but a "trial adoption" of a pet with poor prospects who's been stuck a cage for months is a bad idea? I am not trying to be difficult here; I'm just trying to understand. Perhaps I don't understand the distinction between foster behavior and owner behavior well enough.
My husband's immune system hasn't changed, of course, but I honestly believe that Eros was exceptionally allergenic. A post by someone on the h+b newsgroup makes me think that such cats do exist. I would not even try for another black male, that's for sure. A light female would be best.
However, your points are well-taken and I am definitely thinking hard.
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KellyH - 30 Dec 2004 23:20 GMT > I guess I'm still confused. How is it that "foster homes" are a good > thing [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > I'm just trying to understand. Perhaps I don't understand the distinction > between foster behavior and owner behavior well enough. It's not that foster homes are bad, or trial adoptions either. Our shelter does those too, we call it foster-to-adopt. What people on here are wary of is that given your situation that this would work out for the cat. At the shelter I'm with, cats are usually fostered either for medical or socialization reasons. Sometimes a volunteer will take home a long-term resident to get them out of the shelter for a while. What we usually do there is bring the cat in on Adoption Days to try to get him adopted, and/or do showings from the person's house so the cat does not have to return to the shelter.
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Monique Y. Mudama - 31 Dec 2004 00:58 GMT > It's not that foster homes are bad, or trial adoptions either. Our shelter > does those too, we call it foster-to-adopt. What people on here are wary of > is that given your situation that this would work out for the cat. This makes sense. Rather than the "throw two cats in a room together and see what happens" approach, if I did this, I would keep the new cat in a separate room for a week, first, before any contact would occur. I'd follow all the suggestions about wiping both cats' scents on commonly used items, and if all of that seemed okay, putting Oscar in the room while the other cat roamed. Only after all of that would I let them see each other. I would also read up on cat-introduction techniques and follow suggestions very carefully.
As I see it, this would give the shelter cat at least a week of having a big room (the guest room) to itself, and the smell of only one cat, rather than a small cage and the smell of dozens of cats.
Even with all of these precautions, would you still consider this to be a bad idea?
> At the shelter I'm with, cats are usually fostered either for medical > or socialization reasons. Sometimes a volunteer will take home a > long-term resident to get them out of the shelter for a while. What > we usually do there is bring the cat in on Adoption Days to try to get > him adopted, and/or do showings from the person's house so the cat > does not have to return to the shelter. Showing from a house is a great idea. I noticed that Eros "showed" much better when I visited him in his condo than when I took him to a meeting room. The meeting place had so many interesting smells that he had very little interest in any human who might be in the room. The condo was familiar, so he was much more relaxed, ready to play and cuddle.
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KellyH - 31 Dec 2004 01:53 GMT > As I see it, this would give the shelter cat at least a week of having a > big [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > bad > idea? No, I don't think it would be a bad idea. But, it's going to take a lot longer than a week for both cats to acclimate.
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Monique Y. Mudama - 31 Dec 2004 02:00 GMT >> As I see it, this would give the shelter cat at least a week of having a >> big room (the guest room) to itself, and the smell of only one cat, rather [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > No, I don't think it would be a bad idea. But, it's going to take a lot > longer than a week for both cats to acclimate. I would agree, but I thought that about a week was typical for one cat to stay in a designated room before moving forward .. ?
Can you give me other advice, or point me to some web resources you'd recommend?
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KellyH - 31 Dec 2004 02:09 GMT > I would agree, but I thought that about a week was typical for one cat to > stay > in a designated room before moving forward .. ? > > Can you give me other advice, or point me to some web resources you'd > recommend? Sorry I misread. I thought you meant a week total in your house. Sometimes a week in one room is fine, sometimes it can take longer. All depends on the cats.
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MaryL - 31 Dec 2004 02:17 GMT >>> As I see it, this would give the shelter cat at least a week of having a >>> big room (the guest room) to itself, and the smell of only one cat, [quoted text clipped - 14 lines] > Can you give me other advice, or point me to some web resources you'd > recommend? Some cats will adjust well after a relatively short time, but a week is *much* too short for many cats -- and you have some evidence that Oscar may fit in the latter category. That was also true for me. My cat, Holly, was antagonistic toward every other cat; and I thought adoption would be impossible. Then I adopted Duffy, but I used a *very* long and slow introduction process. In fact, it was a full six weeks before I left them together for the entire day, including extended periods when I was not home (extended *during the day,* that is). If you look at the first "album" under my signature, you will see a pictorial history of what I did. My two are now buddies. On the other hand, I did not face the additional problem of allergies that you have described. Have you talked to your husband's allergist about that? Is it possible that he (either physically or psychologically) can only tolerate one cat? It is something to consider.
MaryL (take out the litter to reply)
Photos of Duffy and Holly: >'o'< http://tinyurl.com/8y54 (Introducing Duffy to Holly) http://tinyurl.com/8y56 (Duffy and Holly "settle in")
MaryL - 31 Dec 2004 02:49 GMT <snip>
> I would agree, but I thought that about a week was typical for one cat to > stay > in a designated room before moving forward .. ? > > Can you give me other advice, or point me to some web resources you'd > recommend? Here are some web sites that discuss methods for introducing cats: http://www.catcaresociety.org/intro.htm http://www.ddfl.org/behavior/catintro.htm http://www.cuhumane.org/topics/catcat.html http://www.methuen-mspca.org/petcare/htm/catintro.htm http://operationnoblefoster.org/catsanddog.htm http://www.catsinternational.org/ (library of articles)
MaryL
Duffy at the animal shelter (before adoption): http://pic10.picturetrail.com/VOL320/476350/1636692/19233823.jpg The transformation -- Duffy today: http://pic10.picturetrail.com/VOL320/476350/1916528/41680392.jpg Duffy examines the Christmas tree: http://pic10.picturetrail.com/VOL320/476350/1916528/76258004.jpg Holly on the mantle: http://pic10.picturetrail.com/VOL320/476350/1916528/34609798.jpg Holly playing with yarn: http://pic10.picturetrail.com/VOL320/476350/1916528/53748850.jpg Holly and Duffy on the cat tree: http://pic10.picturetrail.com/VOL320/476350/1916528/24118497.jpg
Sherry - 31 Dec 2004 06:33 GMT >> It's not that foster homes are bad, or trial adoptions either. Our shelter >> does those too, we call it foster-to-adopt. What people on here are wary [quoted text clipped - 28 lines] >little interest in any human who might be in the room. The condo was >familiar, so he was much more relaxed, ready to play and cuddle. Fostering is great, if everybody is for the idea. If Oscar doesn't take to other cats, I wouldn't push it. The continued stress could end up making him sick. I quit fostering because of Yoda. He just go too old and too cranky to put up with it anymore. Sherry
Pat - 31 Dec 2004 03:14 GMT I would suggest asking the shelter if they have a hypoallergenic breed.
Monique Y. Mudama - 31 Dec 2004 03:24 GMT > I would suggest asking the shelter if they have a hypoallergenic breed. I've heard that this is mostly a myth? I mean, even hairless cats groom themselves and get their saliva all over everything.
The person I spoke to was pretty forthcoming about options, and she didn't suggest a hypoallergenic cat, so I suspect they have none. I'm sure they're fast movers, too. Of course, there are other shelters in the area, too.
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Monique Y. Mudama - 31 Dec 2004 06:48 GMT [snip]
> But the question still stands. Should I trial adopt an older kitty who > maybe won't be hot after Oscar's tail, or should I leave well enough alone? Well, I spoke to Eric this evening. He says that he has reservations, but is willing to do a trial adoption *if* I am willing to wait for a month and see if my conviction to get a second cat is still strong. This seems very reasonable to me.
He has also said that he does not want to have to do the work of introducing the two cats. That will be my problem. This also seems reasonable to me.
I asked if he objected to me researching cat introductions in the meantime, and he does not. He just wants me to be really sure that this is really what I want before going forward. Again, seems reasonable to me. In a month, I can reevaluate whether it's worth the potential stress and heartache for both bare and fur people.
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Toni&Nate - 31 Dec 2004 21:43 GMT What kind of a nut are you? You just get rid of one cat, and now want to adopt another if it works out. Leave well enough alone, and stick with your husband.
jmcquown - 01 Jan 2005 00:25 GMT > What kind of a nut are you? Be nice; we don't call each other names here.
Jill
Monique Y. Mudama - 01 Jan 2005 06:17 GMT >> What kind of a nut are you? > > Be nice; we don't call each other names here. That individual followed me from the h+b ng, where they had similar pleasantries to share.
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CatNipped - 01 Jan 2005 16:47 GMT > >> What kind of a nut are you? > > > > Be nice; we don't call each other names here. > > That individual followed me from the h+b ng, where they had similar > pleasantries to share. Yeah, that's why I quit even lurking at H+B - there was more flaming there than helpful advice.
Hugs,
CatNipped
> monique, roommate of Oscar the (female) grouch > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ > Eros was adopted! Eros has a home now! *cheer!* Monique Y. Mudama - 01 Jan 2005 19:37 GMT > Yeah, that's why I quit even lurking at H+B - there was more flaming there > than helpful advice. I find skimming the topics useful, as a "heads-up" just in case Oscar starts doing weird things. But yeah.
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Howard Berkowitz - 01 Jan 2005 22:02 GMT > > Yeah, that's why I quit even lurking at H+B - there was more flaming > > there [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > starts > doing weird things. But yeah. Even for human health, I tend to find most USENET groups, except super-specialized things in specific scientific techniques, rather useless for finding any detail. In contrast, I subscribe to assorted professional mailing lists, moderated and unmoderated, that have very high content value.
Even things in the "sci.med" hierarchy often become almost unreadable with irrelevant requests for information, generic flame wars, flame wars over alternative medicine, etc. I'd like to find a professional mailing list on feline veterinary medicine -- I'm sure they exist.
Adrian - 01 Jan 2005 14:52 GMT > What kind of a nut are you? You just get rid of one cat, and now want > to adopt another if it works out. Leave well enough alone, and stick > with your husband. This is not very friendly for only your second post to the group.
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John F. Eldredge - 01 Jan 2005 18:14 GMT >What kind of a nut are you? You just get rid of one cat, and now >want to adopt another if it works out. Leave well enough alone, and >stick with your husband. <plonk>
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Christina Websell - 01 Jan 2005 20:45 GMT > What kind of a nut are you? You just get rid of one cat, and now want > to adopt another if it works out. Leave well enough alone, and stick > with your husband. rpca is not the place to insult people. Please go back to your own group to do this.
Tweed
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