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Cat Forum / Cat Anecdotes / February 2010My brother died [not all OT]
As I mentioned, there hasn't been a month go by without a diaster of some sort, or something very sad. December, my brother died. He was only 51. I am still mourning his death. He left me the house I owned half of and he owned half of. And he left me one basically nasty but beautiful tortoiseshell pretty much feral cat named Renee. You know how many ferals/former ferals have their "One Person" and that's the only one they love? And they tolerate no one else at all? Yep, Renee is one of those. Sigh. The closest we came to moving forward was one time I was on the floor with her, and slowly reached out my little finger to touch her paw (man, am I either brave or stupid!). She left her paw there for a second, pulled back, and then reached out her paw to touch my hand for just a coupleof seconds. Since then, unfortunately, it's pretty much been HISS-SPIT any time I've come near her. I know she's grieving, too, and grabbed a pair of John's pants that was on the couch in the house to bring with me for her to have the smell close to her. But I was hoping she'd be more settled by now! I've decided just to let her figure out her own time to approach me. And then the fact that I'm going to be *moving* to the house will probably help -- lol! Yes, I've decided to move, and actually have my own house! Of course, Renee's smells are all over it, so she'll be happy. My other cats are just as likely to be hissy, but we shall see. Ginger-lyn > As I mentioned, there hasn't been a month go by without a diaster of some > sort, or something very sad. December, my brother died. He was only 51. > I am still mourning his death. I'm very sorry for the loss of your brother, GL. > He left me the house I owned half of and he owned half of. And he left me > one basically nasty but beautiful tortoiseshell pretty much feral cat [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > my hand for just a coupleof seconds. Since then, unfortunately, it's > pretty much been HISS-SPIT any time I've come near her. She'll get used to her, I'm sure. > I know she's grieving, too, and grabbed a pair of John's pants that was on > the couch in the house to bring with me for her to have the smell close to > her. > > But I was hoping she'd be more settled by now! I've decided just to let > her figure out her own time to approach me. Good idea. At least you aren't uprooting her. > And then the fact that I'm going to be *moving* to the house will probably > help -- lol! Yes, I've decided to move, and actually have my own house! > Of course, Renee's smells are all over it, so she'll be happy. My other > cats are just as likely to be hissy, but we shall see. > > Ginger-lyn Purrs on the way for your loss, the cat and for your move. Jill i am sorry, i have a brother that is very ill, Lee > As I mentioned, there hasn't been a month go by without a diaster of some > sort, or something very sad. December, my brother died. He was only 51. [quoted text clipped - 26 lines] > > Ginger-lyn I'm so sorry to hear that, Stormee!  SignatureJoy >i am sorry, i have a brother that is very ill, Lee >> As I mentioned, there hasn't been a month go by without a diaster of some [quoted text clipped - 34 lines] >> >> Ginger-lyn thank you, its a miricle he has made it this long... i worry for my parents. Lee > I'm so sorry to hear that, Stormee! > [quoted text clipped - 38 lines] >>> >>> Ginger-lyn Yes, it must be terribly hard on them. I think that losing a child is the worst thing that can happen to a parent. SignatureJoy Don't argue with an idiot; people watching may not be able to tell the difference. > thank you, its a miricle he has made it this long... i worry for my > parents. Lee [quoted text clipped - 44 lines] >>>> >>>> Ginger-lyn it seems so, mom has gone and stayed with him to help him stablilze so he wouldn't have to do the nursing home route, he is doing pretty good right now, but he has so many issues it really is just a matter of time, i pray alost more for them than i do for him. Lee > Yes, it must be terribly hard on them. I think that losing a child is the > worst thing that can happen to a parent. [quoted text clipped - 47 lines] >>>>> >>>>> Ginger-lyn I think you all could use some prayers. You'll be in mine. SignatureJoy Don't argue with an idiot; people watching may not be able to tell the difference. > it seems so, mom has gone and stayed with him to help him stablilze so he > wouldn't have to do the nursing home route, he is doing pretty good right [quoted text clipped - 52 lines] >>>>>> >>>>>> Ginger-lyn thank you, Lee >I think you all could use some prayers. You'll be in mine. > [quoted text clipped - 55 lines] >>>>>>> >>>>>>> Ginger-lyn Purrs and prayers for you all at this terrible time. Judith > it seems so, mom has gone and stayed with him to help him stablilze so > he wouldn't have to do the nursing home route, he is doing pretty good [quoted text clipped - 50 lines] > >>>>> > >>>>> Ginger-lyn SignatureJudith Latham Stourbridge, West Midlands. UK. > As I mentioned, there hasn't been a month go by without a diaster of > some sort, or something very sad. December, my brother died. He was [quoted text clipped - 26 lines] > > Ginger-lyn I'm sorry to hear about your brother. Bobble You really are dealing with a lot, Ginger-lyn! I'm so sorry for both your losses. The move will involve a not of work and upheaval, but I hope that once the move is completed, everyone can settle down and things will be better. SignatureJoy > As I mentioned, there hasn't been a month go by without a diaster of some > sort, or something very sad. December, my brother died. He was only 51. [quoted text clipped - 26 lines] > > Ginger-lyn > As I mentioned, there hasn't been a month go by without a diaster of some > sort, or something very sad. December, my brother died. He was only 51. > I am still mourning his death. I'm so sorry. We all have our own ways and timeframes for mourning. Hugs if you want them, and purrs from the clowder. > And then the fact that I'm going to be *moving* to the house will probably > help -- lol! Yes, I've decided to move, and actually have my own house! > Of course, Renee's smells are all over it, so she'll be happy. My other > cats are just as likely to be hissy, but we shall see. Purrs for everyone to settle into some kind of harmony. Take care of yourself. minnow >^..^< Signaturehttp://twitter.com/taheenahana http://www.flickr.com/photos/minnow/ > As I mentioned, there hasn't been a month go by without a diaster of some > sort, or something very sad. December, my brother died. He was only 51. > I am still mourning his death. My sincerest sympathies for the loss of your brother. May be RIP. >As I mentioned, there hasn't been a month go by without a diaster of some >sort, or something very sad. December, my brother died. He was only 51. [quoted text clipped - 24 lines] > >Ginger-lyn I'm very sorry for your loss. Sending purrs for your grief, and for Renee to start to accept you. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ >^..^< "Life without cats would be only marginally worth living." -TC, and the unmercifully, relentlessly, sweet calico kitty, Kenzie. Every day is a treasure with Kenzie; I try to treat them that way. There will only be so many, and then there will never, ever, be any more. How you behave towards cats here below determines your status in Heaven. - Robert Heinlein --- avast! Antivirus: Outbound message clean. Virus Database (VPS): 100208-2, 02/08/2010 Tested on: 2/9/2010 4:32:07 AM avast! - copyright (c) 1988-2010 ALWIL Software. http://www.avast.com > As I mentioned, there hasn't been a month go by without a diaster of some > sort, or something very sad. December, my brother died. He was only 51. [quoted text clipped - 24 lines] > > Ginger-lyn I'm so sorry for your loss, Ginger-lyn, I know how painful it is to lose a brother. SignatureAdrian (Owned by Snoopy, Bagheera & Shadow) Cats leave pawprints on your heart http://community.webshots.com/user/clowderuk > As I mentioned, there hasn't been a month go by without a diaster of > some sort, or something very sad. December, my brother died. He was > only 51. I am still mourning his death. I am so sorry for your loss. Dan On Feb 8, 4:17 pm, "Ginger-lyn Summer" <glsum...@moontakethisoutsummer.com> wrote: > As I mentioned, there hasn't been a month go by without a diaster of some > sort, or something very sad. December, my brother died. He was only 51. > I am still mourning his death. > And then the fact that I'm going to be *moving* to the house will probably > help -- lol! Yes, I've decided to move, and actually have my own house! > Of course, Renee's smells are all over it, so she'll be happy. My other > cats are just as likely to be hissy, but we shall see. > > Ginger-lyn I'm very sorry. It's a blessing that you will be in a better living situation. Hope all the kitties adapt quickly. Candace > As I mentioned, there hasn't been a month go by without a diaster of some > sort, or something very sad. December, my brother died. He was only 51. [quoted text clipped - 24 lines] > > Ginger-lyn Sincere condolences on the loss of your brother. Regarding his kitty, perhaps scent transfer would work. If you still have some of his clothes (a shirt or pj's, or whatever) and were to wear them yourself when you attempt to befriend kitty, it might help. Just a thought. If you decide to move to the house, don't forget the everlasting expense of upkeep and taxes, light, heat, yard work, etc. Will you be physically up to that? Best wishes. MLB > As I mentioned, there hasn't been a month go by without a diaster of some > sort, or something very sad. December, my brother died. He was only 51. > I am still mourning his death. Ginger-lyn, I'm so sorry. Joyce I'm so sorry for your loss of your brother, Ginger-lyn. I hope things will start improving for you soonest. If you can get a Feliway diffuser or two for your house, it might help your kitties transition and maybe lessen some of the stress reactions from Renee and your kitties. It definitely is available cheaper online than in pet stores. Purrs for you. Christine > As I mentioned, there hasn't been a month go by without a diaster of some > sort, or something very sad. December, my brother died. He was only 51. [quoted text clipped - 26 lines] > > Ginger-lyn Bright Blessings for your brother's crossing and for Renee to accept all the new arrivals in her territory. 0--Fil > > And then the fact that I'm going to be *moving* to the house will probably > > help -- lol! Yes, I've decided to move, and actually have my own house! > > Of course, Renee's smells are all over it, so she'll be happy. My other > > cats are just as likely to be hissy, but we shall see. > > > Ginger-lyn On Feb 8, 6:17 pm, "Ginger-lyn Summer" <glsum...@moontakethisoutsummer.com> wrote: > As I mentioned, there hasn't been a month go by without a diaster of some > sort, or something very sad. December, my brother died. He was only 51. [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > that's the only one they love? And they tolerate no one else at all? Yep, > Renee is one of those. I am so sorry...! Brightest blessings to your brother, that he be happy over the Bridge until you're all together again; may there be a dear little kitty to love and look after him! Be patient with dear little Renee, because she is grieving too. Our Odessa-Doll (Dolly, please look after the gentleman for his family; I know you like the boys, you darling tart, and will make him happy) was feral and returned to the shelter several times before we took her, and it took many months to win her trust even to a paw-touch. She'll come around--she may quite surprise you. Purrs and many blessing to you and your brother's family also. Blessed be, Baha > As I mentioned, there hasn't been a month go by without a diaster of > some sort, or something very sad. December, my brother died. He was > only 51. I am still mourning his death. > He left me the house I owned half of and he owned half of. And he left > me one basically nasty but beautiful tortoiseshell pretty much feral [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] > seconds. Since then, unfortunately, it's pretty much been HISS-SPIT > any time I've come near her. > I know she's grieving, too, and grabbed a pair of John's pants that was > on the couch in the house to bring with me for her to have the smell > close to her. > But I was hoping she'd be more settled by now! I've decided just to let > her figure out her own time to approach me. > And then the fact that I'm going to be *moving* to the house will > probably help -- lol! Yes, I've decided to move, and actually have my > own house! Of course, Renee's smells are all over it, so she'll be > happy. My other cats are just as likely to be hissy, but we shall see. > Ginger-lyn I'm so sorry for your loss of your brother. I hope the move goes well and everyone settles well without too much hissing and spitting. Judith SignatureJudith Latham Stourbridge, West Midlands. UK. On Feb 8, 3:17 pm, "Ginger-lyn Summer" <glsum...@moontakethisoutsummer.com> wrote: > As I mentioned, there hasn't been a month go by without a diaster of some > sort, or something very sad. December, my brother died. He was only 51. > I am still mourning his death. I was meaning to ask if anyone had heard from you the other day- I'm so sorry to hear about your brother Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furballs |
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