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Cat Forum / Cat Anecdotes / May 2008Am I Doing Something Wrong???
Sometimes I just feel like leaving rpca because I feel like I can't say anything right. I have alot of people mad at me, and I know I'm in a lot of hoomins litterboxes. I really love the funny pictures and videos, but the sadness and angst really get to me. I don''t feel like I'm of any value here whatsoever. What have I done wrong so I can correct it? I try and send purrs and prayers, for those who need them, and I've made some wonderful friends here. Mosey and I have sent cards to some people, who have expressed their appreciation and I thank you for that. I guess I'm just too sensitive. I'm not a 'frenetic' person, like someone said, and I do try and get along with the folks here . I don't know what to do. *sigh* Kyla...sad Kyla tell me what family gets along perfectly fine. IF you show me one family that is perfect I am going to go open their closet and show you the grandma that is hiding in the attic dressed in a S&M leather outfit,like Yowie keeps promising to put on or is that tanada maybe it is Granby There are a few out here that can't stand me and vice versa doesn't mean that I am not welcome in the group or don't have my place in the group Heck I battled a few for years but now we are friends and I am looking forward on meeting them during the RPCA get way next year. > Sometimes I just feel like leaving rpca because I feel like I can't say > anything right. [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] > *sigh* > Kyla...sad "Matthew" > Kyla tell me what family gets along perfectly fine. My 2 youngest sisters and I get along just fine <G> We lost both Mom and Dad within 8 months of each other last year. IF you show me one > family that is perfect I am going to go open their closet and show you the > grandma that is hiding in the attic dressed in a S&M leather outfit,like > Yowie keeps promising to put on or is that tanada maybe it is Granby LOL > There are a few out here that can't stand me and vice versa doesn't mean > that I am not welcome in the group or don't have my place in the group I see your point. I like you, for what that's worth <G> > Heck I battled a few for years but now we are friends and I am looking > forward on meeting them during the RPCA get way next year. Good for you, :) wish I could be there. Hug Kyla >> Sometimes I just feel like leaving rpca because I feel like I can't say >> anything right. [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] >> *sigh* >> Kyla...sad sort of take what you like leave the rest, Lee > "Matthew" > > Kyla tell me what family gets along perfectly fine. [quoted text clipped - 38 lines] > >> *sigh* > >> Kyla...sad > "Matthew" >> Kyla tell me what family gets along perfectly fine. > > My 2 youngest sisters and I get along just fine <G> We lost both Mom and > Dad within 8 months of each other last year. You have my sympathy. I lost both of my parents, a little less than six months apart, back in 2001. It seems particularly common with couples who have been married for many years.  SignatureJohn F. Eldredge -- john@jfeldredge.com PGP key available from http://pgp.mit.edu "Reserve your right to think, for even to think wrongly is better than not to think at all." -- Hypatia of Alexandria "John F. Eldredge" >> "Matthew" >>> Kyla tell me what family gets along perfectly fine. [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > months apart, back in 2001. It seems particularly common with couples > who have been married for many years. Well, they were divorced and both remarried. > "John F. Eldredge" >> [quoted text clipped - 9 lines] > > Well, they were divorced and both remarried. Only my father remarried, to a woman only three months older than my sister. :-) SignatureAdrian (Owned by Snoopy, Bagheera & Shadow) Cats leave pawprints on your heart http://community.webshots.com/user/clowderuk "Adrian" < >> "John F. Eldredge" >>> [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] > Only my father remarried, to a woman only three months older than my > sister. :-) Wow:) How long have they been married? Hug > "Adrian" < >>> "John F. Eldredge" [quoted text clipped - 16 lines] > Wow:) How long have they been married? > Hug 23 years now, they married when she was pregnant with my half sister who graduated last with with a batchelor of science degree. SignatureAdrian (Owned by Snoopy, Bagheera & Shadow) Cats leave pawprints on your heart http://community.webshots.com/user/clowderuk NOOOO it wasn't Gramby in that outfit. We were wanting Yowie to come to my one horse, actually no horse, town and walk down the street in that outfit so the neighbors would talk about her and leave me alone, thank you very much. > Kyla tell me what family gets along perfectly fine. IF you show me one > family that is perfect I am going to go open their closet and show you the [quoted text clipped - 23 lines] >> *sigh* >> Kyla...sad ssuuurrrreeee Lee > NOOOO it wasn't Gramby in that outfit. We were wanting Yowie to come to my > one horse, actually no horse, town and walk down the street in that outfit [quoted text clipped - 27 lines] > >> *sigh* > >> Kyla...sad THAT'S TWO! > ssuuurrrreeee Lee >> NOOOO it wasn't Gramby in that outfit. We were wanting Yowie to come to [quoted text clipped - 36 lines] >> >> *sigh* >> >> Kyla...sad you sure protesting an awful lot, Lee > THAT'S TWO! > > ssuuurrrreeee Lee [quoted text clipped - 37 lines] > >> >> *sigh* > >> >> Kyla...sad > NOOOO it wasn't Gramby in that outfit. We were wanting Yowie to come to my > one horse, actually no horse, town and walk down the street in that outfit > so the neighbors would talk about her and leave me alone, thank you very > much. Well, putting on my best Dave hat, why couldn't we have both of them walk down the street arm in arm? But who's taking the photos/videos? Sam, supervised by Mistletoe and running for his life! I think that S/M list is a wish list,... Lee, hiding fast > Kyla tell me what family gets along perfectly fine. IF you show me one > family that is perfect I am going to go open their closet and show you the [quoted text clipped - 23 lines] > > *sigh* > > Kyla...sad If you are hiding from me, this could take awhile. You know not to hold your breath like my kids did. I have a loooonnnng memory, for some things. >I think that S/M list is a wish list,... Lee, hiding fast >> Kyla tell me what family gets along perfectly fine. IF you show me one [quoted text clipped - 25 lines] >> > *sigh* >> > Kyla...sad > Kyla tell me what family gets along perfectly fine. IF you show me > one family that is perfect I am going to go open their closet and show > you the grandma that is hiding in the attic dressed in a S&M leather > outfit,like Yowie keeps promising to put on or is that tanada maybe it > is Granby It wasn't my grandma, it was just a family friend so _there_. > Kyla tell me what family gets along perfectly fine. IF you show me one > family that is perfect I am going to go open their closet and show you the > grandma that is hiding in the attic dressed in a S&M leather outfit,like > Yowie keeps promising to put on or is that tanada maybe it is Granby You wish. > There are a few out here that can't stand me and vice versa doesn't mean > that I am not welcome in the group or don't have my place in the group > > Heck I battled a few for years but now we are friends and I am looking > forward on meeting them during the RPCA get way next year. Matthew, some of your posts have rubbed me the wrong way at times, but you've never thrown an online pity party, solicited advice and then known better than any of those advising you, lied, or any of the other things Pat has done in here. If Kyla pissed her off, I'll have to take her out of my killfile just in gratitude. Pam S. >> Kyla tell me what family gets along perfectly fine. IF you show me one >> family that is perfect I am going to go open their closet and show you [quoted text clipped - 17 lines] > > Pam S. A man can dream :^) > Sometimes I just feel like leaving rpca because I feel like I can't say > anything right. [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] > *sigh* > Kyla...sad I think you're doing fine. I don't know what posts you're referring to. I didn't see anyone sound like they were mad. Maybe I missed a post. Anyway, Kyla, if you truly want me to be honest, you came on a little strong there at first, when you first started posting. Out of curiosity I once checked google, and you'd posted 140 times in one day. That's kind of excessive, don't you think? That's likely where the adjective "frenetic" came from, though I don't recall that post either. Maybe that's what it was. You shouldn't feel like you're not of value. You and Mosey, etc. are just as important as anyone else here. Nobody's any better than anyone else. Sherry On May 15, 7:08 pm, "Kyla =^. .^=" <kyla.water...@comcast.net> wrote: > Sometimes I just feel like leaving rpca because I feel like I can't say > anything right. [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] > *sigh* > Kyla...sad I think you're doing fine. I don't know what posts you're referring to. I didn't see anyone sound like they were mad. Maybe I missed a post. Anyway, Kyla, if you truly want me to be honest, you came on a little strong there at first, when you first started posting. Out of curiosity I once checked google, and you'd posted 140 times in one day. That's kind of excessive, don't you think? That's likely where the adjective "frenetic" came from, though I don't recall that post either. Maybe that's what it was. You shouldn't feel like you're not of value. You and Mosey, etc. are just as important as anyone else here. Nobody's any better than anyone else. I'll be honest too. It was the sheer quantity. However now you have calmed down a bit, Kyla, I will read your posts again. Don't expect replies to every post, we are busy people. We read and note them but there is often not time to reply. At least for me. I never mind if I get no response. Tweed "Christina Websell" > I'll be honest too. It was the sheer quantity. > However now you have calmed down a bit, Kyla, I will read your posts [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > > Tweed Thanks Christina. I have calmed down a lot and continue to send purrs and prayers for those who need them and I love the 'funny' things/pix/videos posted here. Hug Kyla Heck, I spend half my life talking to myself or the cats, I don't expect answers all the time, not even from them. > On May 15, 7:08 pm, "Kyla =^. .^=" <kyla.water...@comcast.net> wrote: >> Sometimes I just feel like leaving rpca because I feel like I can't say [quoted text clipped - 35 lines] > > Tweed > Heck, I spend half my life talking to myself or the cats, I don't expect > answers all the time, not even from them. But honestly, how awesome would it be if your cats did answer you? Hee. You know, before you got hauled off by the men from the "State Hospital" anyway (lol). I talk to my furkids daily, and two of them talk back, but as I'm nowhere near fluent in "Catspeak", I don't understand what they are saying to me, most of the time. Smokie Darling (Annie) <snipped for brevity> On May 16, 10:52 am, "Smokie Darling (Annie)" <Barnabus1...@yahoo.com> wrote: > > Heck, I spend half my life talking to myself or the cats, I don't expect > > answers all the time, not even from them. [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > > Smokie Darling (Annie) Bosley actually *does* talk, but I'm not sure I want a translation. Bozzy possibly has middle-child syndrom or something, or abandonment issues, but DH & I think he's just the reincardation of a mean, red-headed, freckle-faced kid, because that's what he even looks like. Anyway, Bosley gets scolded a lot. I go "BOZZY!!" and he goes "MRRRROW!! (then thumps his tail)" "Bozzie!!" "MRRRROW!!" (thump, thump) I think this is Catspeak for "You're not the boss o' me." Sherry > On May 16, 10:52 am, "Smokie Darling (Annie)" <Barnabus1...@yahoo.com> > wrote: [quoted text clipped - 27 lines] > > Sherry LOL... That was so much like Barnabus... complete with tail and the "frowny" tabby M on his forehead. He does not *do* scolding. Then Miss Smokie (the one whose name I co-opted for my own use) is the tattler... If I'm out for a bit, then come back home, she follows me from room to room, telling me all the things the others did. Every little thing, like I understand her or something. Then sits and looks so surprised when I love on everyone (she's always first though). Almost like she's thinking, "Did you not *hear* what I told you Marley was doing? And Smeagol? You're loving on him after what *he* did? Meowmie, how can you, they'll never learn if you do that." Smokie Darling (Annie) < < still chuckling over "not the boss o' me!" I talk to my 4 all the time and they talk back to me. They love hearing their names. Especially at our bed time. Sqweex comes 'talking' down the hall, and I talk back to her, in her own language, and she seems to understand me. Mosey, on the other hand, loves me to talk to him, and answers me back. So do Pookie and Pipps. I think I'm going crazy...erm...going??? LOL Hug Kyla -the crazy ol cat lady > > On May 15, 7:21 pm, "Granby" > > > > Heck, I spend half my life talking to myself or the cats, I don't > > > expect > > > answers all the time, not even from them. > I talk to my 4 all the time and they talk back to me. They love hearing > their names. [quoted text clipped - 6 lines] > Kyla > -the crazy ol cat lady Hee... I tried talking to my cats once. No idea *what* I said in Catspeak, but I won't do it again. They all got big eye'd, puffy tailed, and ran down the hallway, and stayed away from me for hours. Anymore, I just brrwrowrr at them and that's alright. If you are like me, then it's a short trip to going crazy (lol). Smokie Darling (Annie) "Smokie Darling (Annie)" On May 16, 4:53 pm, "Kyla =^. .^=" : > I talk to my 4 all the time and they talk back to me. They love hearing > their names. [quoted text clipped - 6 lines] > Kyla > -the crazy ol cat lady >Hee... I tried talking to my cats once. No idea *what* I said in >Catspeak, but I won't do it again. They all got big eye'd, puffy >tailed, and ran down the hallway, and stayed away from me for hours. >Anymore, I just brrwrowrr at them and that's alright. Wow...really?? If you are like me, then it's a short trip to going crazy (lol). Yup, very short trip...wanna grab a latte before we take the Crazy Train? Kyla --sweltering in 86 degrees at 4 pm near Seattle Smokie Darling (Annie) > "Smokie Darling (Annie)" > >Hee... I tried talking to my cats once. No idea *what* I said in > >Catspeak, but I won't do it again. They all got big eye'd, puffy > >tailed, and ran down the hallway, and stayed away from me for hours. > >Anymore, I just brrwrowrr at them and that's alright. > > Wow...really?? Yep, it was scary actually because they were really acting terrified of me, and I hated that I'd scared them that much. > If you are like me, then it's a short trip to going crazy (lol). > > Yup, very short trip...wanna grab a latte before we take the Crazy Train? Sure, make mine a low-fat, mocha latte please. I'll pay ya back (honestly I will, I hate owing people). It got up to 80 something yesterday here, but high desert valley it isn't nearly as bad as 80 something in a humid environment. "Smokie Darling (Annie)" ... On May 16, 5:21 pm, "Kyla =^. .^=": > "Smokie Darling (Annie)" > >Hee... I tried talking to my cats once. No idea *what* I said in > >Catspeak, but I won't do it again. They all got big eye'd, puffy > >tailed, and ran down the hallway, and stayed away from me for hours. > >Anymore, I just brrwrowrr at them and that's alright. > > Wow...really?? Yep, it was scary actually because they were really acting terrified of me, and I hated that I'd scared them that much. Wow... > If you are like me, then it's a short trip to going crazy (lol). > > Yup, very short trip...wanna grab a latte before we take the Crazy Train? Sure, make mine a low-fat, mocha latte please. I'll pay ya back (honestly I will, I hate owing people). DH makes my lattes, he's the only one who knows how to make them right. And we use non fat milk. It got up to 80 something yesterday here, but high desert valley it isn't nearly as bad as 80 something in a humid environment. It's 87 here near Seattle and too hot for me. I get my own 'hot flashes' aka power surges <G> I talk to my cat, too. If someone ever heard me they would think I had children in the house with me. Do you want to go out?( that means I'll open the door the to the enclosed porch for them) Do you want to sit with mommy? Come on I'll hold you. Is it time to eat? Stop chassing your sister. The list goes on and on. SignatureAnn in Connecticut see my cats at http://www.flickr.com/photos/ann791/sets/ read Sam's blog at http://kittens-3.blogspot.com/ * * * >I talk to my 4 all the time and they talk back to me. They love hearing >their names. [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] >> > > expect >> > > answers all the time, not even from them. On May 16, 11:52 am, "Smokie Darling (Annie)" <Barnabus1...@yahoo.com> wrote: > > Heck, I spend half my life talking to myself or the cats, I don't expect > > answers all the time, not even from them. [quoted text clipped - 10 lines] > > <snipped for brevity> Same here. Ping, being a Meezer, is very talkative. And Loudly (he has no volume control). If I talk to him, he answers. If he talks to us, we answer him. Don't know if he understands anything past his name (we assume he understands that, as he answers 90% of the time when we say his name), and I think I would be stunned if he answered in a way that I *could* understand... little men in white jackets driving a van with padded cargo area would be seeking me.... > On May 16, 11:52 am, "Smokie Darling (Annie)" <Barnabus1...@yahoo.com> > wrote: [quoted text clipped - 21 lines] > in a way that I *could* understand... little men in white jackets > driving a van with padded cargo area would be seeking me.... Strangely, only Leonidas is my vocal "Meezer", though none are 'pure'. Even my one purebred wasn't much of a talker. Smokie is a "Mutt" (she actually likes being called smokiemutt), but can she talk? Wow... Barnabus has a tendency to go into the hallway, and stand there and just cry and cry. Until I tell him I'm in the living room, then he runs out, jumps in my lap and goes to sleep. He is getting a bit up in years though, so maybe it's just him forgetting that I'm actually here, particularly when he can't hear me. Smeagol is a Lynx Point, Marley is a Snowshoe and they are littermates. I didn't even know about Smeag until the vet told me. I just thought he was a silly little cross-eyed, big chinned, very strong Tigger wannabe. Both boys squeak rather than meow, and Smeag thinks he is a dog. A very big dog, in truth, he fetches, he rolls over on command, he adores tummy rubs and haunch pats. We have Pandy (Pandora, who crawled into the "top" of the stove when we were cleaning the heating elements, gotta find that picture), another "mutt", who only vocalizes prior to vomiting (rather like Mrow, Mrow, Mrow, MRALPH, ack, ack, ack......), Jeb who has a plaintive cry only when his tummy hurts (but he rarely if ever vomits, thank heavens). Jeb is a Flame Point, he's the one I wrote about that someone neutered, declawed, then dumped. Moved hisself right in with me, soon's he read the sign out front (that I still haven't found) that says, "Free Food and Lovin's For Any Cat Around" in catspeak.... Lee's cat Matthew is the best talker I have ever heard. Persistent when no one answers. On May 16, 10:20 am, Magic Mood Jeep <nalee1...@gmail.com> wrote: > On May 16, 11:52 am, "Smokie Darling (Annie)" <Barnabus1...@yahoo.com> > wrote: [quoted text clipped - 24 lines] > in a way that I *could* understand... little men in white jackets > driving a van with padded cargo area would be seeking me.... Strangely, only Leonidas is my vocal "Meezer", though none are 'pure'. Even my one purebred wasn't much of a talker. Smokie is a "Mutt" (she actually likes being called smokiemutt), but can she talk? Wow... Barnabus has a tendency to go into the hallway, and stand there and just cry and cry. Until I tell him I'm in the living room, then he runs out, jumps in my lap and goes to sleep. He is getting a bit up in years though, so maybe it's just him forgetting that I'm actually here, particularly when he can't hear me. Smeagol is a Lynx Point, Marley is a Snowshoe and they are littermates. I didn't even know about Smeag until the vet told me. I just thought he was a silly little cross-eyed, big chinned, very strong Tigger wannabe. Both boys squeak rather than meow, and Smeag thinks he is a dog. A very big dog, in truth, he fetches, he rolls over on command, he adores tummy rubs and haunch pats. We have Pandy (Pandora, who crawled into the "top" of the stove when we were cleaning the heating elements, gotta find that picture), another "mutt", who only vocalizes prior to vomiting (rather like Mrow, Mrow, Mrow, MRALPH, ack, ack, ack......), Jeb who has a plaintive cry only when his tummy hurts (but he rarely if ever vomits, thank heavens). Jeb is a Flame Point, he's the one I wrote about that someone neutered, declawed, then dumped. Moved hisself right in with me, soon's he read the sign out front (that I still haven't found) that says, "Free Food and Lovin's For Any Cat Around" in catspeak.... > On May 16, 11:52 am, "Smokie Darling (Annie)" <Barnabus1...@yahoo.com> > wrote: [quoted text clipped - 21 lines] > *could* understand... little men in white jackets driving a van with > padded cargo area would be seeking me.... While my mostly-gray calico cat doesn't have Meezer coloring, she definitely has a Meezer voice. There must be some Siamese in her ancestry. Not only will she talk back to me, she will also talk back to the TV or radio at times, sounding off each time someone says something. SignatureJohn F. Eldredge -- john@jfeldredge.com PGP key available from http://pgp.mit.edu "Reserve your right to think, for even to think wrongly is better than not to think at all." -- Hypatia of Alexandria if I ever did understand it better, the hospital guys wouldn't get me because the cat would be able to tell me how to escape, Lee On May 15, 7:21 pm, "Granby" <s...@joink.com> wrote: > Heck, I spend half my life talking to myself or the cats, I don't expect > answers all the time, not even from them. But honestly, how awesome would it be if your cats did answer you? Hee. You know, before you got hauled off by the men from the "State Hospital" anyway (lol). I talk to my furkids daily, and two of them talk back, but as I'm nowhere near fluent in "Catspeak", I don't understand what they are saying to me, most of the time. Smokie Darling (Annie) <snipped for brevity> I read lots more than I respond to, Mark comes to mind, I love his stories, but he seems to be the one I read just before an emergency/appointment/puking cat makes me leave the computer, Lee > On May 15, 7:08 pm, "Kyla =^. .^=" <kyla.water...@comcast.net> wrote: > > Sometimes I just feel like leaving rpca because I feel like I can't say [quoted text clipped - 34 lines] > > Tweed >> Sometimes I just feel like leaving rpca because I feel like I can't >> say anything right. [quoted text clipped - 25 lines] > just as important as anyone else here. Nobody's any better than anyone > else. I'm with Sherry. You did come on a bit strong when you first joined, but hey, its understandable when you find a group like this. If thats the worst crime you commit on usenet, you are doing fine! Now, for the standard advice that I give everyone (its even inthe FAQ). A new person to the group will always attract alot of attention. When you are new, you will usually attract alot of replies simply because you are new and different. But once you've been around for a while, the 'novelty' has gone and the replies to posts gets less - sometimes you'll get no replies at all. Rather than worrying about why you've suddenly become unpopular, its time to rejoice. Why? because it means you have been welcomed as part of the family. You no longer have guest status. People will now only comment on a post of yours if htey think they have something worth saying in response rather than replying because its 'polite'. Sometimes they will agree 100% but saying 'me too' is pretty much a waste of space. You've reached the point where the silence is comfortable (and you're expected to help yourself to the fridge if you want soemthing, rather than waiting to be asked) If that bothers you, its more your low self esteem talking than anything going on inthe group. After all, if you'd really hissed the group off, we would have let you know. We're like cats in that regard - usually all cute and purry, but know what our claws are for and have no problem using htem when necessary. (And just a frendly note, asking 'what have I done wrong?' alot, when you haven't actually done anything wrong will eventually be seen as attention seeking behaviour, and that *will* hiss people off) Yowie "Yowie" > I'm with Sherry. You did come on a bit strong when you first joined, but > hey, its understandable when you find a group like this. If thats the [quoted text clipped - 29 lines] > > Yowie Thanks for the info and kind advice Yowie:) I totally understand what you mean. Hug Kyla > >> Sometimes I just feel like leaving rpca because I feel like I can't > >> say anything right. [quoted text clipped - 60 lines] > > - Show quoted text - Remember you inquired of us....my post would be a combo of those from Vicky (Yowie...BTW Yowie maybe you could once again explain, to Kyla & others, what a "Yowie" really is down in OZ, LOL) whom I consider our Honored Moderator in this ng - yeah, I know we don't have a moderator, but she is the Voice of Reason for a long time now...and have utmost respect for. Also a combo of post of Enfilade; great advice since you asked for advice. I have never been "mad" at you per se. When you began posting in 2/08 I never dreamed that the only ng you ever frequented before was your PF ng that you evidently moderated and kept going. This is not the only ng I post to and this group here in rpca is pussycats compared to some of the regs in hacker ngs; if you 'hiss' some of those dudes off, your beloved PC would be at risk as they *do* know how to do it. Lurking is the way to go there unless you really have something useful and/or respectful/interesting to them to say! But back to rpca. You are not and have never been 'contentious' (Tweed, love that word) and I don't question your love for cats. Not my intention to 'hurt your feelings' but know this; my friend Joyce in CA is mistaken in her belief that this 'social critter' - which I'm not - gives a r*** a** what folks all over the world, although cat lovers, whom I will never set eyes on, thinks in general of what I post....there is, however, the element of respect and manners I try to adhere to. You, OTOH, are about the most 'social' critter I've seen here and just the opposite of me, I finally realize. You really didn't have any posting experience in ng's other than PF and after lurking on that one a little bit I conclude that the hackers would have a field day there w/the flying insults (not from you, LOL). Combining Fil and Vicky's advice....stick around, read what you like, just don't comment on it all, and don't take personally what you find insulting or annoying or...more common....'boooooo-ring'. Not necessary to take this to heart, just try to actively work on NOT thinking anyone has anything against you just because they don't 'answer' your posts, okay? BTW I care - about your outlook - or as stated before - wouldn't bother to post this, period. > You really didn't have any posting experience in ng's other > than PF and after lurking on that one a little bit I conclude that the > hackers would have a field day there w/the flying insults (not from > you, LOL). Wait - I thought "PF" stood for "Pink Floyd". There are hackers on that ng? SignatureJoyce To email me, remove the triple-X from my user name. ^..^ <bastXXXette > hopitus <hopitus: > > > You really didn't have any posting experience in ng's other > > than PF and after lurking on that one a little bit I conclude that the > > hackers would have a field day there w/the flying insults (not from > > you, LOL). Oh the trolls are having a field day with me there too, so I just killfile them. > Wait - I thought "PF" stood for "Pink Floyd". It does stand for Pink Floyd, my favorite band, where I've been the 'Den Mom' for 11 years now <G> >There are hackers on that ng? Not hackers, just worthless mean trolls. Kyla --sweltering in 99 degree heat at 5:35 pm Saturday night you would hate to be in Florida > <bastXXXette >> hopitus <hopitus: [quoted text clipped - 17 lines] > Kyla > --sweltering in 99 degree heat at 5:35 pm Saturday night Yes, yes I would... "Matthew" < > you would hate to be in Florida > [quoted text clipped - 20 lines] >> Kyla >> --sweltering in 99 degree heat at 5:35 pm Saturday night "Sherry" I think you're doing fine. I don't know what posts you're referring to. I didn't see anyone sound like they were mad. Maybe I missed a post. Anyway, Kyla, if you truly want me to be honest, you came on a little strong there at first, when you first started posting. Out of curiosity I once checked google, and you'd posted 140 times in one day. That's kind of excessive, don't you think? That's likely where the adjective "frenetic" came from, though I don't recall that post either. Maybe that's what it was. Wow, I did? Yeesh. When I first came on a few months ago, I did post alot, trying to find out about people here, etc. fed the trolls and got reamed for it, but I've learned my lesson on that. I try and not post as much now. >You shouldn't feel like you're not of value. You and Mosey, etc. are >just as important as anyone else here. Nobody's any better than anyone >else. Sherry Thank you for your informative, kind reply Sherry. Hug Kyla >Sometimes I just feel like leaving rpca because I feel like I can't say >anything right. [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] >*sigh* >Kyla...sad You're not doing anything wrong sweety, and I don't know why you think you are! Grab the closest (or most amenable) furbaby and have a good cuddle - it always makes me feel better.... "Kajikit" > You're not doing anything wrong sweety, and I don't know why you think > you are! Grab the closest (or most amenable) furbaby and have a good > cuddle - it always makes me feel better.... I'm gonna do just that <G> I'm still learning the 'basics' Thanks HUG Kyla > Sometimes I just feel like leaving rpca because I feel like I can't say > anything right. [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] > *sigh* > Kyla...sad Hang in there, Kyla. I don't know what this is about, but I've never heard of anybody who could please everybody all the time. Many of us don't have time to read all the posts, so you might not get a response - or a defense - when you expect it. You're a good person. Hugs and purrs, Joy "Joy" > Hang in there, Kyla. I don't know what this is about, but I've never > heard of anybody who could please everybody all the time. Yeah, there's an old saying that ' if you try and make everybody happy, then no one is happy'. > Many of us don't have time to read all the posts, so you might not get a > response - or a defense - when you expect it. True, I realize that now. > You're a good person. Thank you, and so are you <G> > Hugs and purrs, > > Joy Hugs and Purrs back atcha Kyla First up, not everyone will like everyone else. So, frig the people who don't like you, and frig the people who rub you the wrong way. As long as there are people here you like to talk to, and things you like to read about, good enough. You can ignore the other people and let them ignore you. Secondly, not every post is going to get an answer. Sometimes that's disappointing. Realize, though, that people aren't trying to be malicious...sometimes they feel they have nothing to add, other times they're busy, etc. etc. You just try again the next time you have something to say. Don't flip out imagining that people hate you when there's no evidence of malicious intent. Some people are cranky so...see #1 when someone snaps at you! Thirdly, if you post a whole lot in a short time, it can be overwhelming. I know when you're new to a group you're excited to join in and make yourself heard, but too many posts at once are overwhelming to readers. I know sometimes I have 3 or 4 stories to tell at the same time but I space them out, waiting until one is off the front page before I post the next one. --Fil (I'm the scary one in the basement, with all the piercings and stuff.) Enfilade <decepticoncommand@hotmail.com> wrote in news:8dcd6c10-9703- 4ad9-aaa3-f3549fb1bdd4@f63g2000hsf.googlegroups.com: > First up, not everyone will like everyone else. So, frig the people > who don't like you, and frig the people who rub you the wrong way. As [quoted text clipped - 20 lines] > --Fil > (I'm the scary one in the basement, with all the piercings and stuff.) This is a great "general posting philosophy" for usenet. All I would add is until someone on usenet is paying my salary none of them can make me feel too bad. Andy > Enfilade <decepticoncomm...@hotmail.com> wrote in news:8dcd6c10-9703- > 4ad9-aaa3-f3549fb1b...@f63g2000hsf.googlegroups.com: [quoted text clipped - 27 lines] > is until someone on usenet is paying my salary none of them can make me > feel too bad. Ditto, except that the people who pay me can kiss my butt too. -- Will in New Haven > Andy- Hide quoted text - > > - Show quoted text - > Sometimes I just feel like leaving rpca because I feel like I can't say > anything right. [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] > *sigh* > Kyla...sad I think several people have given you good information. You are not doing anything wrong, with the possible exception that you post so often that there is a tendency to skip over many of your messages. Most of us have limited time. As a result -- speaking for myself, at least -- we may read some and skip over others. I have learned to read every message from some people who always seem to have good, solid information, but I read only a small fraction (often depending on the subject shown) if someone "snows us under" with too many messages. Now, I may fall into that category myself because there are times when I think I respond too many times. MaryL for me when I have the time I post more and other times when I am busy I read the first post in a thread and skip the rest, Lee > > Sometimes I just feel like leaving rpca because I feel like I can't say > > anything right. [quoted text clipped - 24 lines] > > MaryL I've done some dumb things & gotten fussed at too,but like a bad penny.I keep coming back! > Sometimes I just feel like leaving rpca because I feel like I can't say > anything right. [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] > *sigh* > Kyla...sad > Sometimes I just feel like leaving rpca because I feel like I can't say > anything right. [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] > *sigh* > Kyla...sad Nothing wrong, so far as I can see. I don't respond to every message from _anyone_ and sometimes a message seems, I dunno, self-contained and requiring no response. I'm sure that there are people here who don't like me and I suppose there are people here who don't like you. But there aren't many in your case, I'm sure, and the way to deal with it is to just keep on going. A little while ago, you seemed to be posting an awful LOT, which may have bothered some people. But it probably just meant that some people missed some of your posts out of there being so many. -- Will in New Haven >Sometimes I just feel like leaving rpca because I feel like I can't say >anything right. >I have alot of people mad at me, and I know I'm in a lot of hoomins >litterboxes. >I really love the funny pictures and videos, but the sadness and angst >really get to me. I don''t feel like I'm of any value here whatsoever. I understand...I feel the same way sometimes. I can be a jerk. I still owe cards sent because Louie and I both got a long-lasting case of bronchitis last holidays and when all the germs were gone so was the season,m and I wonder how people would like a Christmas in July. I didn 't act right on one person's cooking advice, resulting in a terrifyingly ugly Thanksgiving turkey, and i got chewn out but good for it. But we live with it, and ask forgiveness (please? for me?) You haven't done anything to make me mad, at any rate. it takes a lot. I like you. Blessed be, Baha "Baha via CatKB.com" <... >>Sometimes I just feel like leaving rpca because I feel like I can't say >>anything right. [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] > turkey, > and i got chewn out but good for it. Well, IMO, people would like a Christmas in July <G> As for the turkey incident, well, next time, it'll be okay, no worries:) But we live with it, and ask forgiveness > (please? for me?) You've done nothing to me to ask for forgivness my dear. > You haven't done anything to make me mad, at any rate. it takes a lot. I > like > you. Thank you, I really appreciate you saying that. I too am slow to anger. I like you too <G> Hug Kyla > Blessed be, > Baha PS love your site and have marked it under my favorites > Sometimes I just feel like leaving rpca because I feel like I can't say > anything right. > I have alot of people mad at me, and I know I'm in a lot of hoomins > litterboxes. Hi Kyla, I think you have to have a pretty healthy self-esteem or at least be somewhat resilient if you stay on usenet. It's pretty easy to feel everyone's against you, sometimes they are! :) Opinions come and go and change all of the time. Just be true to yourself and keep on truckin'. Good luck, Rhonda "Rhonda" < >> Sometimes I just feel like leaving rpca because I feel like I can't say >> anything right. [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] > > Rhonda Thanks Rhonda Hug Kyla
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