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Cheryl - 25 Nov 2004 04:13 GMT Some of you know I was upset that the baby angel that I put on Eric's grave soon after he died was gone this summer, and I do understand because trinkets of this sort aren't exactly "approved" as grave decorations. Still, it hurt; the angel I put on his grave meant a lot to me because when I saw it, it touched me, it was a baby angel laying down sleeping. I found another one and it isn't the same but it is still a sleeping angel. The picture was hard to take; it is white and it is really washed out, but I think you can sort of see it. It is an angel baby with his head resting on his hand, sleeping. It is about 4" high and I hope that since the grass mowing season is over now, it can stay there for a while. I'm going tomorrow to place it on his grave. Since Christmas is coming very soon, I think I am ready to put more decorations there. Every time I visit the cemetary, I see so many decorations and I wonder how can they do that, how can they lovingly pick out things at the store that they know are going to be sitting on the grave of one that they love. I fall apart when I even look at this angel.
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Tanada - 25 Nov 2004 04:33 GMT > It is an angel baby with his head resting on his hand, sleeping. > It is about 4" high and I hope that since the grass mowing season is [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] > > http://tinyurl.com/4auwa Cheryl, that is a beautiful angel. I think Eric would be pleased with your caring enough to find something so sweet for him. I must admit, it wasn't until we came to the south/south east that we saw all those cemeteries decorated for the holidays. I'm used to flowers, but not Christmas trees, lights, and decorations. Actually, I find it touching that people care enough to visit those they love and do something special in their memory.
If, as is probable (given the circumstances) Rob should go before me, I'll be looking to you to help me though the grieving process. I've lost parents and other relatives, but none I love as much as I do Rob and the kids. I didn't know if I'd be able to handle the grief; but thanks to you, I know I'll make it. It will hurt like h*ll, but I'll make it.
Pam S. loving Cheryl for her bravery and willingness to share it with us
gracecat - 25 Nov 2004 05:39 GMT I won't do another funeral until it's a parental one Pam, love you dearly... but I think I do like the idea of an RPCA "mourners" support group. And I fully intend to be there when you'll need us the most. I plan to spend a couple days with you when family is gone, you've rested a bit. Two weeks or so after, your house looks like poo and everybody is "giving you space". You don't want space, you want someone who cares about the laundry and the three day old pot in the sink. Or groceries..
Cheryl, it just doesn't seem right to *not* buy Eve a christmas present, something she can use. But logically that's not possible. I don't want to put twinkling anything at her spot, maybe a burning candle or two.
> > > > It is an angel baby with his head resting on his hand, sleeping. [quoted text clipped - 25 lines] > > Pam S. loving Cheryl for her bravery and willingness to share it with us Tanada - 25 Nov 2004 06:14 GMT > I won't do another funeral until it's a parental one Pam, love you dearly... > but I think I do like the idea of an RPCA "mourners" support group. And I [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] > something she can use. But logically that's not possible. I don't want to > put twinkling anything at her spot, maybe a burning candle or two. Gracie, I'll hold you to that. I'll need someone just to remind me to feed the owners by that time, let alone do dishes or vacuum. The idea of being without Rob is enough to send me into abandonment dreams.
I think that burning a candle or two, or putting some little bouquet on Eve's place is an excellent idea. I bet she loved shiny things.
Pam S.
Yoj - 25 Nov 2004 06:38 GMT ((((((((((Grace))))))))))
-- Joy
> I won't do another funeral until it's a parental one Pam, love you dearly... > but I think I do like the idea of an RPCA "mourners" support group. And I [quoted text clipped - 37 lines] > > > > Pam S. loving Cheryl for her bravery and willingness to share it with us Yowie - 25 Nov 2004 10:51 GMT > I won't do another funeral until it's a parental one Pam, love you dearly... > but I think I do like the idea of an RPCA "mourners" support group. And I [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] > something she can use. But logically that's not possible. I don't want to > put twinkling anything at her spot, maybe a burning candle or two. {{{{{Cheryl}}}}} {{{{{Grace}}}}}
Cheryl's post started me weeping, by the time I finished Grace's I was sobbing out loud.
This is what I mean when I say that the relationships here are *not* "cyber", They're just as real, intense and sometimes just as painful as any other.
Yowie
CatNipped - 25 Nov 2004 14:50 GMT {{{{{{{{{{Grace}}}}}}}}}}
This first Christmas without her will be hard, there's no getting around that Just try to remember that she is playing on the knee of the One whom Christmas is all about. He will keep her safe and happy until you can be with her again. I'm praying that He will help you get through this.
Please, please let us know if there is anything we can do to help you - you know we're always here for you.
Hugs,
CatNipped
> I won't do another funeral until it's a parental one Pam, love you dearly... > but I think I do like the idea of an RPCA "mourners" support group. And I [quoted text clipped - 37 lines] > > > > Pam S. loving Cheryl for her bravery and willingness to share it with us Christine Burel - 25 Nov 2004 16:01 GMT The angel is beautiful, Cheryl -- Hugs and purrs to all of you who have lost a loved one. Christine (teary)
> I won't do another funeral until it's a parental one Pam, love you dearly... > but I think I do like the idea of an RPCA "mourners" support group. And I [quoted text clipped - 37 lines] > > > > Pam S. loving Cheryl for her bravery and willingness to share it with us Adrian - 26 Nov 2004 16:26 GMT > I won't do another funeral until it's a parental one Pam, love you > dearly... but I think I do like the idea of an RPCA "mourners" [quoted text clipped - 9 lines] > don't want to put twinkling anything at her spot, maybe a burning > candle or two. Hugs and purrs, Grace.
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Cheryl - 27 Nov 2004 02:50 GMT > Cheryl, it just doesn't seem right to *not* buy Eve a christmas > present, something she can use. But logically that's not > possible. I don't want to put twinkling anything at her spot, > maybe a burning candle or two. I know hon. I like the idea of a candle. Thanks for that.
*hugs*
"Tanada" <tanada@earthlink.net>
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>> If, as is probable (given the circumstances) Rob should go >> before me, I'll be looking to you to help me though the [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] >> Pam S. loving Cheryl for her bravery and willingness to share >> it with us Pam, of course. My heart hopes that will be a long long time from now. Hang in there. He's a miracle.
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Tanada - 29 Nov 2004 22:55 GMT > Pam, of course. My heart hopes that will be a long long time from > now. Hang in there. He's a miracle. Thanks, Rob is a miracle, isn't he. He even puts up with my blondness. Which is a good thing, as I'm about as mentally blonde as they come.
Pam S.
Yoj - 25 Nov 2004 06:36 GMT > Some of you know I was upset that the baby angel that I put on Eric's > grave soon after he died was gone this summer, and I do understand [quoted text clipped - 18 lines] > -- > Cheryl ((((((((((((Cheryl)))))))))))
Joy
CatNipped - 25 Nov 2004 14:45 GMT {{{{{{{{{{Cheryl}}}}}}}}}}
I know how hard it is to get through the holidays when you're dealing with grief - especially grief for a child.
The angel is beautiful, I'm sure Eric is smiling down at you and blessing you with is love.
Hugs,
CatNipped
> Some of you know I was upset that the baby angel that I put on Eric's > grave soon after he died was gone this summer, and I do understand [quoted text clipped - 18 lines] > -- > Cheryl Enfilade - 25 Nov 2004 18:53 GMT > I know how hard it is to get through the holidays when you're dealing with > grief - especially grief for a child. Bright Blessings to those who are spending the first holiday season without a loved one.
My grandmother passed away this September at the age of 98. The annual gathering will be hard without her--particularly to Grandpa, who was married to her for over 70 years.
I was sorting my Yule presents the other day and found one with Grandma's name on it. I am not sure whether to give it to someone else, or to keep it, or to give it to the family anyway.
--Fil
Exocat - 25 Nov 2004 19:09 GMT I'd just like to echo what others have said more fluently. Hugs & purrs for Cheryl, Grace, and all those who've been bereaved recently, or even long ago but still feel things keenly.
Supportive & empathetic best wishes
Gordon & the TT
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> Some of you know I was upset that the baby angel that I put on > Eric's > grave soon after he died was gone this summer, Marina - 26 Nov 2004 04:17 GMT > Some of you know I was upset that the baby angel that I put on Eric's > grave soon after he died was gone this summer, and I do understand [quoted text clipped - 13 lines] > to be sitting on the grave of one that they love. I fall apart when I > even look at this angel. {{{Cheryl and Grace}}} This is a hard time of the year.
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mlbriggs - 27 Nov 2004 00:49 GMT > Some of you know I was upset that the baby angel that I put on Eric's > grave soon after he died was gone this summer, and I do understand [quoted text clipped - 15 lines] > > http://tinyurl.com/4auwa Sending purrs that the little angel will stay put.May all of your memories bring peace. MLB
Krista - 27 Nov 2004 06:37 GMT > Some of you know I was upset that the baby angel that I put on Eric's > grave soon after he died was gone this summer, and I do understand [quoted text clipped - 15 lines] > > http://tinyurl.com/4auwa ((((((Cheryl)))))) The angel is beautiful. We are sending you our best purrs.
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Adrian - 28 Nov 2004 11:50 GMT > Some of you know I was upset that the baby angel that I put on Eric's > grave soon after he died was gone this summer, and I do understand [quoted text clipped - 15 lines] > > http://tinyurl.com/4auwa Hugs and purrs, Cheryl. This is the hardest time of year for those of us who've lost someone close.
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Christina Websell - 28 Nov 2004 18:08 GMT >> Some of you know I was upset that the baby angel that I put on Eric's >> grave soon after he died was gone this summer, and I do understand [quoted text clipped - 18 lines] > Hugs and purrs, Cheryl. This is the hardest time of year for those of us > who've lost someone close. Absolutely agree. Any anniversary too, like birthdays. Many hugs, Cheryl. New Year is now very difficult for me. I last spoke to my mom, on the phone, on New Year's Day 2003, to wish her Happy New Year. She seemed ok, was complaining that my brother had just been to visit with his (then) two small children, and what havoc they'd created, touching and interfering with everything. Which is typical and normal for her, she hated her routine disrupted.
She then said she had a pain, and described it to me. It didn't seem serious, so I reassured her she'd be okay, nothing to worry about. This was a fit woman, who rode a moped, went birdwatching, and walked all afternoon every day to look at wildlife. It obviously *was* serious. My brother found her dead in bed on January 3rd. Even though the post-mortem showed that nothing could have been done, I wish I'd told her to get the doctor.
<guilt attack, sorry>
Tweed
CatNipped - 28 Nov 2004 18:20 GMT > Even though the post-mortem showed that nothing could have been done, I wish > I'd told her to get the doctor. > > <guilt attack, sorry> > > Tweed {{{{{{{{{{Tweed}}}}}}}}}} It's just human nature to second-guess ourselves, but you could not have done anything and it's likely that she was happier spending her last hours in the home she loved than she would have been in hospital.
Hugs,
CatNipped
Christina Websell - 29 Nov 2004 23:05 GMT >> Even though the post-mortem showed that nothing could have been done, I > wish [quoted text clipped - 13 lines] > > CatNipped Thank you. I know you are right - or at least my head does. It's just that my heart hasn't quite caught up yet.
Tweed
jXwXeXrXmXoXnXt@sonic.net - 29 Nov 2004 02:39 GMT > She then said she had a pain, and described it to me. It didn't > seem serious, so I reassured her she'd be okay, nothing to worry [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > could have been done, I wish I'd told her to get the doctor. > <guilt attack, sorry Did she die of a heart attack? If so, where was she feeling the pain?
I ask because a lot of women experience heart attack symptoms differently from what we think of as the classic symptoms, ie, pain and pressure in the chest, shortness of breath, cold sweats, nausea, and so on. Those are typical male symptoms, but men's and women's circulatory systems are a bit different. What I've read is that women have a lot more small, branching veins, so their discomfort during a heart attack can be more diffuse, rather than a sharp, focused pain in one area. My grandmother had a heart attack, and her only symptom was pain in her *jaw*.
Anyway, I'm only assuming this was the situation with your mom, since I don't know. And I hope this isn't coming across as too coldly clinical-sounding. No matter how you make peace with what you did or didn't say, it's still very painful to lose your mom.
<<<Purrs>>>
Joyce
John F. Eldredge - 29 Nov 2004 03:35 GMT > > She then said she had a pain, and described it to me. It didn't > > seem serious, so I reassured her she'd be okay, nothing to worry [quoted text clipped - 24 lines] >clinical-sounding. No matter how you make peace with what you did or >didn't say, it's still very painful to lose your mom. I am sorry to hear about Christina's mom. My mother died of congestive heart failure, but lab results, which the doctor didn't get back until the day after she died, showed that she had had a heart attack about one week prior to her death.
Incidentally, when I had my heart attack in 1999, the pain was a diffuse aching in my left arm, the _right_ side of my chest, and in the right side of my jaw. So, heart attacks in men don't always have the classic symptoms either.
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Howard Berkowitz - 29 Nov 2004 04:31 GMT > -----BEGIN PGP SIGNED MESSAGE----- > Hash: SHA1 [quoted text clipped - 37 lines] > the right side of my jaw. So, heart attacks in men don't always have > the classic symptoms either. John, that's another example of a mysterious pain that has to be evaluated. What you describe certainly isn't out of the spectrum of heart attack presentations, just as my back pain was not. I'm sure the first physicians needed to rule out some other possibilities, but you clearly got to someone in time. I'm glad.
Christina Websell - 29 Nov 2004 23:16 GMT > -----BEGIN PGP SIGNED MESSAGE----- > Hash: SHA1 [quoted text clipped - 28 lines] > the right side of my jaw. So, heart attacks in men don't always have > the classic symptoms either. I'm sure you're right, John. It is not always clutch chest and drop to the floor. Maybe we all ought to learn more about it to know what to look for.
Tweed
Howard Berkowitz - 29 Nov 2004 04:29 GMT > > She then said she had a pain, and described it to me. It didn't > > seem serious, so I reassured her she'd be okay, nothing to worry [quoted text clipped - 16 lines] > in one area. My grandmother had a heart attack, and her only symptom > was pain in her *jaw*. Cardiac events, in general, can manifest differently than many people expect. Now, while it's been a while, I have been through advanced cardiac life support training (wasn't eligible for certification since I wasn't in an emergency services unit), and have quite a bit of experience with cardiology and internal medicine.
One evening, while having dinner with friends, I found I couldn't seem to get comfortable in my chair at the restaurant. At first, it felt as if I had twisted my upper back. Somewhat later, it felt like an upset stomach, and then again an achy back.
I was home by this point, and got into a hot tub trying to work out the kinks. After some minutes, I realized the pain, which was under my left shoulderblade, was now radiating into my arm, and I was sweating far more than I should be. There also began to be some actual chest pain. So, it was a good two hours after the first twinge when the picture suddenly came together for me, I cursed, rolled out of the tun, got on a bathrobe, and headed for the phone to call 911. By the time I got to it, the pain was severe and I was gasping. I don't think I was in denial, so this is an example of even where a trained person doesn't recognize atypical symptoms.
It happened that this was unstable angina rather than a true heart attack. While I do now have some scarring in my heart, I always acted quickly enough to get intervention to prevent further damage -- and, indeed, a good deal of the damage has reversed.
The lesson is that a mysterious pain that won't go away really needs to be evaluated. Even once I was in the emergency room, the basic tests were all negative. The symptoms, and that they were relieved by nitroglycerin, made a clinical diagnosis. Only after I had heart stress imaging were the details apparent.
> Anyway, I'm only assuming this was the situation with your mom, since > I don't know. And I hope this isn't coming across as too coldly > clinical-sounding. No matter how you make peace with what you did or > didn't say, it's still very painful to lose your mom. Let me also purr, because I have a case of a what-if in my family, something that hits me emotionally although I know objectively I couldn't have made a difference. My father-in-law [1] called us one night to say he was in the hospital, hurting, and they weren't sure what was wrong with him.
He told us he had complained of a backache for about two weeks, and had been going for repeated chiropractic sessions. Now, I know chiropractors that are responsible and work well with other healthcare practitioners, but this jerk was one of those that believed chiropractic cured everything.
I asked a few questions about the nature of the pain, and promptly got scared. What he was describing, and apparently had been going on for a couple of weeks, was absolutely classic for a problem with an internal organ -- it wasn't remotely like a back problem. Any nurse, paramedic, or physician should have recognized this and gotten him to an ER -- except the chiropractor didn't recognize it.
By the next morning, a ruptured aortic aneurysm had been diagnosed. He was in Corpus Christi, TX, which, at the time, had no open-heart surgical capability. They were considering if they could stabilize him enough to get to Houston, but he died soon after.
Even if he had been in the hands of a competent heart surgeon when the pain first hit, his chances of survival, at the time, would have been no better than 50-50. But, Christina, I always ask myself the same sort of what-ifs: what if I had just happened to call earlier? We typically spoke on the phone a couple of times a month. I really believe that I could have gotten enough information to convince him something was seriously wrong and to get to an ER -- if I had spoken to him in time.
Sherry - 29 Nov 2004 06:22 GMT >The symptoms, and that they were relieved by >nitroglycerin, made a clinical diagnosis. Only after I had heart stress >imaging were the details apparent. IMO, the only positive diagnostic for blockages in the heart is a heart cath. Six months before I had my bypass, I had had a treadmill stress test, thalium test, and ultrasound of the heart. I was pronounced fit as a fiddle by one of the leading cardiologsts in the state. Six months later I had severe jaw pain ONLY, and if it were not for an ER doctor who just had a hunch because of my family history, and ordered a heart cath, I'd be dead. I had four arteries almost completely occluded. Again, especially to the ladies, if you have pain that won't go away, don't let some cardiologist blow you off because you've had some stress test, ultrasound or thalium test. They don't like to do heart caths, because there's greater risk involved (and they cost the insurance company a lot more money)...but again, IMO, anything else is worthless.
Sherry
Howard Berkowitz - 29 Nov 2004 15:23 GMT > >The symptoms, and that they were relieved by > >nitroglycerin, made a clinical diagnosis. Only after I had heart stress [quoted text clipped - 22 lines] > money)...but > again, IMO, anything else is worthless. While cardiac catheterization is the gold standard, I have to disagree that it is always necessary as the first step in all cases. It is an invasive procedure that, admittedly in a small number of patients, can produce problems, such as perforation of the heart wall. It's not terribly dangerous -- I've had several as a research volunteer. It's not necessarily benign, and isn't necessarily the most cost-effective technique to use first. It is indicated when less invasive tests don't show disease but the patient has symptoms.
Treadmill stress EKGs aren't particularly good. Stess echocardiography wuth a chemical, not exercise test, isn't really the ideal test, although there are major technical improvements in the recent past -- it is a superb test for valvular problems and abnormalities of wall motion. The problem is that a small heart attack may have occurred, or the vessels are significantly blocked and need intervention, but this may not always produce visible wall motion.
SPECT nuclear scanning using thallium, sestamibi, etc., are reasonable techniques. There are also improvements in the drugs used to do stress test. Finding pathology on SPECT can justify going immediately to a combined cath and angioplasty. If it's uncertain if the lesion can be approached with a catheter, or that bypass surgery is likely, a separate cath is indicated.
There is very rapid progress in cardiac MRI, which may put it on an accuracy level with catheterization -- yet is noninvasive and lower cost.
Howard
(7 caths, 2 angioplasties, quadruple bypass)
Sherry - 29 Nov 2004 16:01 GMT >While cardiac catheterization is the gold standard, I have to disagree >that it is always necessary as the first step in all cases. I did not mean to imply it was the necessary first step. But IMO, cardiologists are too quick to blow women off with symptoms. Especially young ones. If I heard "it's stress related" one more time from a cardiologist, I would have had to smack him. It still amazes me that no one really factored in my family history, my mother dead at 42, my grandfather at 52 from heart disease. If other issues (gastrointestinal, gall bladder, etc.) after the initial cardiac testing is done are ruled out, then yeah, a heart cath should be ordered. Sherry
Howard Berkowitz - 29 Nov 2004 16:49 GMT > >While cardiac catheterization is the gold standard, I have to disagree > >that it is always necessary as the first step in all cases. [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] > testing is done are ruled out, then yeah, a heart cath should be ordered. > Sherry It's mot just cardiologists. There's substantial data that physicians often minimize womens' complaints, and will prescribe lesser pain medication for the same indication. This tendency does seem to be lesseing.
Seanette Blaylock - 29 Nov 2004 23:24 GMT Howard Berkowitz <hcb@gettcomm.com> had some very interesting things to say about Re: OT - New Angel:
>There is very rapid progress in cardiac MRI, which may put it on an >accuracy level with catheterization -- yet is noninvasive and lower cost. What about ultrasound? I had that once, when our family doctor sent me to a cardiologist in an effort to pin down why I'd had two odd little blackouts [years ago, hasn't recurred].
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:-)" - the Dennis formerly known as (evil), MCFL Howard Berkowitz - 29 Nov 2004 23:51 GMT > Howard Berkowitz <hcb@gettcomm.com> had some very interesting things > to say about Re: OT - New Angel: [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > to a cardiologist in an effort to pin down why I'd had two odd little > blackouts [years ago, hasn't recurred]. Conventional ultrasound is very good for lots of things, but principally imaging things that move. It can't easily see blocked arteries, because they don't move -- you can infer arterial problems because the muscle they supply doesn't move, but there can be other reasons for it. Some newer techniques may give it better ability to image static objects, which would be very good since it's probably the cheapest and least hazardous form of imaging. One of the new methods, for example, involves injecting harmless "microbubbles" that give contrast to blocked areas, but this is still expensive.
In your case, it could be that the doctor was also looking for valve abnormalities, which are harder to see on catheterization and not at all with nuclear scanning (SPECT).
There are some very interesting developments where extremely small ultrasound sensors can be passed into a blood vessel. This, for example, lets the physician find a blockage with the fluoroscopic view during catheterization, but then turns on the ultrasound to analyze the content and internal structure of the blockage. Different techniques may work better on different kinds of blockage -- balloons, lasers, mechanical abrasion, or stents.
Seanette Blaylock - 30 Nov 2004 04:32 GMT Howard Berkowitz <hcb@gettcomm.com> had some very interesting things to say about Re: OT - New Angel:
>> What about ultrasound? I had that once, when our family doctor sent me >> to a cardiologist in an effort to pin down why I'd had two odd little [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] >abnormalities, which are harder to see on catheterization and not at all >with nuclear scanning (SPECT). Could be, since I do have a mild congenital heart murmur.
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:-)" - the Dennis formerly known as (evil), MCFL Howard Berkowitz - 30 Nov 2004 15:08 GMT > Howard Berkowitz <hcb@gettcomm.com> had some very interesting things > to say about Re: OT - New Angel: [quoted text clipped - 16 lines] > > Could be, since I do have a mild congenital heart murmur. That makes sense, then. Was there exercise or chemical stress before the echo? If not, it was almost certainly for the valve. To find infarct ("heart attack" scar) or ischemia (reversible blood supply problem), you need to have both a resting a stress view.
Seanette Blaylock - 30 Nov 2004 22:42 GMT Howard Berkowitz <hcb@gettcomm.com> had some very interesting things to say about Re: OT - New Angel:
>> Could be, since I do have a mild congenital heart murmur. >That makes sense, then. Was there exercise or chemical stress before the >echo? If not, it was almost certainly for the valve. To find infarct >("heart attack" scar) or ischemia (reversible blood supply problem), you >need to have both a resting a stress view. Not that I recall, but I'm pretty sure I did walk over there from my apartment [would have been half a mile or more].
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:-)" - the Dennis formerly known as (evil), MCFL Howard Berkowitz - 01 Dec 2004 00:02 GMT > Howard Berkowitz <hcb@gettcomm.com> had some very interesting things > to say about Re: OT - New Angel: [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] > Not that I recall, but I'm pretty sure I did walk over there from my > apartment [would have been half a mile or more]. The kind of stress I mean is done during the exam, with a controlled workload on (usually) a treadmill, or simulation of exertion with drugs. Stress testing is stressful enough that you'd probably have remembered it.
Seanette Blaylock - 01 Dec 2004 00:34 GMT Howard Berkowitz <hcb@gettcomm.com> had some very interesting things to say about Re: OT - New Angel:
>> >That makes sense, then. Was there exercise or chemical stress before the >> >echo? If not, it was almost certainly for the valve. To find infarct [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] >workload on (usually) a treadmill, or simulation of exertion with drugs. >Stress testing is stressful enough that you'd probably have remembered it. Sounds like I would :-), and no, no such events.
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:-)" - the Dennis formerly known as (evil), MCFL Howard Berkowitz - 01 Dec 2004 05:00 GMT > Howard Berkowitz <hcb@gettcomm.com> had some very interesting things > to say about Re: OT - New Angel: [quoted text clipped - 14 lines] > > Sounds like I would :-), and no, no such events. If it's any consolation, there was a letter to the editor of the New England Journal of Medicine some years ago. The NEJM is probably the most prestigious medical journal, but has a certain tradition of humor.
The letter described a series of physicians undergoing stress tests, randomized to exercise or talking about managed care. I believe they found the latter was more stressful than jogging to exhaustion.
Seanette Blaylock - 01 Dec 2004 05:23 GMT Howard Berkowitz <hcb@gettcomm.com> had some very interesting things to say about Re: OT - New Angel:
>If it's any consolation, there was a letter to the editor of the New >England Journal of Medicine some years ago. The NEJM is probably the >most prestigious medical journal, but has a certain tradition of humor. >The letter described a series of physicians undergoing stress tests, >randomized to exercise or talking about managed care. I believe they >found the latter was more stressful than jogging to exhaustion. [giggle]
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:-)" - the Dennis formerly known as (evil), MCFL jXwXeXrXmXoXnXt@sonic.net - 01 Dec 2004 06:35 GMT > The letter described a series of physicians undergoing stress tests, > randomized to exercise or talking about managed care. I believe they > found the latter was more stressful than jogging to exhaustion. Hey, you could do that with anyone, not just physicians. As a consumer I find the subject of mangled care quite stressful!
Joyce
Howard Berkowitz - 01 Dec 2004 20:24 GMT > > The letter described a series of physicians undergoing stress tests, > > randomized to exercise or talking about managed care. I believe they [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > > Joyce You have heard of the managed care executive, who began worrying on his deathbed of what awaited him. Arriving at the Pearly Gates, haunted by all the service he was denied, he was amazed to be greeted personally by St. Peter, fitted for a halo, and escorted by angels to a magnificent mansion.
Turning to St. Peter, he asked "why are you rewarding me when I have hurt so many?"
St. Peter laughed and said "It's OK...you have only been approved for 48 hours of benefits. Then..." and he pointed down.
SUQKRT - 02 Dec 2004 18:43 GMT >> > The letter described a series of physicians undergoing stress tests, > [quoted text clipped - 22 lines] > >hours of benefits. Then..." and he pointed down. Good one Howard. Suz Macmoosette =^..^= =^..^= =^..^= =^..^= =^..^= =^..^=
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Karen - 29 Nov 2004 16:48 GMT > >The symptoms, and that they were relieved by > >nitroglycerin, made a clinical diagnosis. Only after I had heart stress [quoted text clipped - 14 lines] > > Sherry This is interesting. That is THREE jaw pain indicators. What kind of jaw pain?
John F. Eldredge - 06 Dec 2004 03:56 GMT >> >The symptoms, and that they were relieved by >> >nitroglycerin, made a clinical diagnosis. Only after I had heart [quoted text clipped - 33 lines] >This is interesting. That is THREE jaw pain indicators. What kind of >jaw pain? In my case, each time that I have had jaw pain in connection with angina, it has been an aching along the right side of my lower jaw, sometimes accompanied by a "sore throat" feeling at the junction of my collarbones.
I now sometimes get mild angina when my blood pressure gets too high. The doctors are tweaking my blood pressure prescriptions, trying to find what gives the best results.
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jXwXeXrXmXoXnXt@sonic.net - 29 Nov 2004 11:35 GMT > One evening, while having dinner with friends, I found I couldn't seem > to get comfortable in my chair at the restaurant. At first, it felt as > if I had twisted my upper back. Somewhat later, it felt like an upset > stomach, and then again an achy back. This is scary to me, because I've had back problems for years. Mostly lower back, but sometimes mid or upper back. And sometimes I can pull something "out of joint" (slang for "I have no idea what I did to myself or exactly what is wrong, but it hurts"), and be uncomfortable for a few days or a week. Usually when I get a pain like that, I'm not very alarmed. I take a few motrin, and sometimes put ice on it. That's about it. Now I've gotta worry about this??
> It happened that this was unstable angina rather than a true heart > attack. What's the difference between angine and a heart attack? Or, a better question might be: what is angina, exactly? I've heard it described as simply "heart pain". Well, OK... but what causes it? It's usually not considered dangerous, as in, not immediately life-threatening, but people who have it are usually watched in case it develops into something more serious. That's my impression, anyway - is it true?
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Howard Berkowitz - 29 Nov 2004 15:31 GMT > > One evening, while having dinner with friends, I found I couldn't seem > > to get comfortable in my chair at the restaurant. At first, it felt as [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > alarmed. I take a few motrin, and sometimes put ice on it. That's about > it. Now I've gotta worry about this?? It's always a difficult call. In a cardiac event (i.e., infarct or ischemia -- see below), there will typically be additional symptoms after the first onset of pain. Be very suspicious if the pain starts to extend, especially into the shoulder or arm. A sense of pressure on the chest, difficulty in breathing, or severe fatigue (e.g., can't climb a flight of stairs without major effort), in the presence of pain, is good reason to call 911. Unusual sweating is also a warning sign.
Another thing not to ignore is your overall sense of health. If you have a back pain, but just generically feel sick as well, or totally exhausted, this is also a warning that needs to be checked out. When I had my first attack of angina, all the basic tests were negative -- but the clinical picture of symptoms and signs was so classic that no one was willing to assume it wasn't cardiac.
> > It happened that this was unstable angina rather than a true heart > > attack. [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > people who have it are usually watched in case it develops into something > more serious. That's my impression, anyway - is it true? The pain in both heart attacks and angina comes from a lack of oxygen supply to the heart muscle. In a heart attack (myocardial infarction), the blood vessels supplying the area are permanently damaged and the no-longer-supplied muscle dies and turns to scar tissue. The scarring doesn't happen overnight, so bypass and angioplasty may be able to create new supplies. The body also can "self-bypass" by enlarging small blood vessels to provide a new path -- that's what has happened to me after about 10 years of aggressive management, returning my heart function essentially to normal.
Angina (myocardial ischemia) is a reversible event where blood supply either stops briefly, or is inadquate, the latter typically during exercise. There are various forms of angina, but some are associated with a high risk of heart attack. Others may be much more stable.
Christina Websell - 29 Nov 2004 23:29 GMT {big snip of interesting stuff}
> The lesson is that a mysterious pain that won't go away really needs to > be evaluated. Even once I was in the emergency room, the basic tests [quoted text clipped - 38 lines] > could have gotten enough information to convince him something was > seriously wrong and to get to an ER -- if I had spoken to him in time. I know it's no good beating my breast about it now, but yes, Howard, I will always wonder if anything would have been different if I'd called on January 2nd. But I was busy. Too busy to call my mother... We saw each other several times a week, and telephoned a lot as well. Those things you just like to share like "Guess who I saw in the supermarket?" and "Did you hear about so-and-so, crashed his car into a house and got breathalysed? Twice over the limit.." etc etc.
Hindsight is a wonderful thing. Sometimes. My common sense tells me no-one can tell what is going to happen to anyone else. Same with your father-in-law. Although there is more excuse for you since you weren't in touch so much. If you could have know what was wrong with your fil, of course you would have helped and warned. Ditto with me and my mom. But neither of us did know, and couldn't possibly have. Terms have to be come to, as a friend of mine used to say. Eventually, I'm sure they will.
Tweed
Christina Websell - 29 Nov 2004 23:13 GMT > > She then said she had a pain, and described it to me. It didn't > > seem serious, so I reassured her she'd be okay, nothing to worry > > about. {...}
> Did she die of a heart attack? Yes
> If so, where was she feeling the pain? Lower back and what she described as her "back passage."
> I ask because a lot of women experience heart attack symptoms > differently from what we think of as the classic symptoms, ie, pain [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > in one area. My grandmother had a heart attack, and her only symptom > was pain in her *jaw*. I must find the mail that my German friend sent me (she is a doctor who practises only homeopathy now) describing how different the symptoms of a heart attack can be in women. When I find it, I'll post it so everyone can have a look at it. Yoiu never know, it might save a life.
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> <<<Purrs>>> > > Joyce Thanks.
Tweed
Jean Hobbs - 01 Dec 2004 10:27 GMT So sorry to hear that, I was talking to my Mother the night she went to bed and never woke up, she didn't even say if she felt bad or not. I just told her I'd be up at the weekend to help her do her shopping, nextday I went in to work and was told the hospital was looking for the boss sent me into the bottle dpt; with another Jean, and when she rang the hospital she said she was ringing about the lady that had been found dead I nearly died myself. Jean. P.
> >> Some of you know I was upset that the baby angel that I put on Eric's > >> grave soon after he died was gone this summer, and I do understand [quoted text clipped - 41 lines] > > Tweed Jean Hobbs - 01 Dec 2004 10:40 GMT Cheryl sorry to hear about your angel being stolen, when my son died we had his photo put on his graveand 12 or 18 months later found it all smashed since it was a new cemetary still being worked on we put it down to a careless lorry driver, it still broke our hearts. Your new Angel looks lovely Jean.P.
> > Some of you know I was upset that the baby angel that I put on Eric's > > grave soon after he died was gone this summer, and I do understand [quoted text clipped - 20 lines] > -- > Adrian Victor Martinez - 29 Nov 2004 16:39 GMT Sorry about the late reply, still catching up with all the messages while I was gone. I remember about the angel incident. I love the new angel too! I hate to think that there are souless people who would steal from a grave.
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Cheryl - 01 Dec 2004 01:42 GMT > Sorry about the late reply, still catching up with all the > messages while I was gone. > I remember about the angel incident. I love the new angel too! I > hate to think that there are souless people who would steal from > a grave. I'm not so sure it was stolen - I think the cemetary crew was doing work (they have a sign about renovations) and maybe it got in the way, or got tossed by a lawn mower or something.
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