My cats take turns from the bed to somewhere else.  I have been known to
roll on them and they have learned that if they feel movement...HEAD FOR
HIGHER GROUND!

Tweed, I don't think you mean to make snide remarks either. Sometimes
you do sound a little cranky or impatient, when somebody says something
you think is stupid, or obvious, or just plain wrong, and that might be
interpreted as snide. I don't think you intend to be mean or hurtful,
but sometimes it's hard to control how the tone of a post will be heard
on the other end.

You heard people complaining about a poor night's sleep, and I imagine
that your thought process went something like this: "I value my sleep,
so I don't allow my cats to sleep with me. They allow their cats to
sleep with them, and now they're complaining that they don't sleep well -
what's wrong with this picture??" (Is that close?)

So maybe you didn't mean to judge people for their choices as much as,
maybe, you were wondering why they weren't seeing what you consider to
be obvious? Again, it's hard to know how someone's going to take your
comments, even when they're well-meaning.

Often, comments can be taken as negative more for what *isn't* said
than for what is said. I have found that it pays to throw in an extra
sentence or two to reassure people I'm not judging or being snide, etc.,
when expressing a strong opinion. It may not seem necessary to you
because you know what your intentions are. But people read things into
what other people say, especially when there are fewer cues, such as
online. So what does it hurt to say, "Just my own experience", "Not
meaning to tell people what to do," etc.?

Just my experience. :)

Joyce