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Cat Forum / Cat Anecdotes / January 2008New Purr Request
I got a call from my mother in the last hour. She's not doing well health-wise (she was hospitalized for colitis last year) and she called and said she can't deal with being sick and taking care of my father too. She asked, "Would I please come help?" Of course I will. But I won't be driving. I called and arranged for Persia and Peaches to be boarded once again and I'm trying to find air fares that make any sense. I don't get how I could fly back on January 3rd and it cost $166 and suddenly the price is double that. I'm crying because I think this may be the last time I see both of my parents. So purrs for them, please. They are in their 80's and this is to be expected but dammit.... it's so hard to watch. And my brothers sort of drop out of the picture when this tough stuff comes up. Purrs for Persia to know I didn't abandon her when I take her back to be boarded for I don't know how long. I really thought I'd have another month or more before I had to make this trip again. But when you gotta go, you gotta go. Jill Purrs on the way for you and your parents. Ann  Signatureread Sam's blog at http://kittens-3.blogspot.com/ >I got a call from my mother in the last hour. She's not doing well > health-wise (she was hospitalized for colitis last year) and she called [quoted text clipped - 23 lines] > > Jill Purrs for all of you, including the cats. The higher price is because it is short notice. You could try calling an airline and explaining that it is an emergency. There is always a chance someone might take pity on you and give you a price break. Or you could try http://www.priceline.com/. SignatureJoy There is, incidentally, no way of talking about cats that enables one to come off as a sane person. - Dan Greenberg >I got a call from my mother in the last hour. She's not doing well > health-wise (she was hospitalized for colitis last year) and she called [quoted text clipped - 23 lines] > > Jill > Purrs for all of you, including the cats. > > The higher price is because it is short notice. You could try > calling an airline and explaining that it is an emergency. There is > always a chance someone might take pity on you and give you a price > break. Or you could try http://www.priceline.com/. My trip in December was short notice, too. Only cost $166. Now it's double that. Go figure! Thanks for the purrs. They are welcome, especially by Persia who is not going to be happy being taken to the vet to be boarded again! Jill > I got a call from my mother in the last hour. She's not doing well > health-wise (she was hospitalized for colitis last year) and she called and [quoted text clipped - 16 lines] > I really thought I'd have another month or more before I had to make this > trip again. But when you gotta go, you gotta go. Purrs for you and your parents and for Persia, who will forgive you. Chirps for Peaches as well. Will in New Haven -- > Jill > I got a call from my mother in the last hour. She's not doing well > health-wise (she was hospitalized for colitis last year) and she [quoted text clipped - 19 lines] > > Jill Purrs for you, your parents and Persia. At least you know Persia and Peaches will be well taken care of when you're away. SignatureAdrian (Owned by Snoopy & Bagheera) Cats leave pawprints on your heart http://community.webshots.com/user/clowderuk Purrs and prayers for your parents and for you. Lily & her mama SignatureIrulan from the stars we come to the stars we return from now until the end of time. >I got a call from my mother in the last hour. She's not doing well > health-wise (she was hospitalized for colitis last year) and she called [quoted text clipped - 23 lines] > > Jill > I got a call from my mother in the last hour. She's not doing well > health-wise (she was hospitalized for colitis last year) and she called and [quoted text clipped - 18 lines] > > Jill Jill, We can relay you, Persia and Peaches to your mother's house like rescued cats are sometimes sent long distances. If you can get to either Chattanooga or Birmingham (or Anniston) on a Saturday, I'll come get you and drive you to your parents house. I've driven from Atlanta to Beaufort, SC round-trip in one day (a friend's funeral) so I know it can be done. Julie >> I got a call from my mother in the last hour. She's not doing well >> health-wise (she was hospitalized for colitis last year) and she [quoted text clipped - 30 lines] > > Julie Thank you so much for the offer, but I'm flying to Savannah via Charlotte on Saturday. The vet is ready for Persia to be dropped off for an indeterminate amount of time and I know they'll take good care of her and Peaches (chirp) too. I hate to leave them but what else can I do? Jill >>> I got a call from my mother in the last hour. She's not doing well >>> health-wise (she was hospitalized for colitis last year) and she [quoted text clipped - 38 lines] > > Jill Thank you again for your kind offer! I had to change my plans again. Now I'm not leaving until Monday. I don't know why everyone (meaning my family members) seems to think it's so simple to just pick up and go at a moment's notice. Just because I'm not working doesn't mean there aren't things I need to take care of before I go rushing out the door. I don't see either of my brothers breaking their necks to either go with me or go in my place. I wonder what they'd think if they knew you were willing to make such a sacrifice if I could have gotten to Birmingham today? Jill > >>> I got a call from my mother in the last hour. She's not doing well > >>> health-wise (she was hospitalized for colitis last year) and she [quoted text clipped - 52 lines] > > Jill Jill, They'd probably predict that you were putting yourself in harm's way by getting into a vehicle with a total stranger. They wouldn't understand that we can know each other well without ever having met. I'll continue to send purrs that everything goes well for you and your parents. It's unfortunate that family members believe the person without "conventional ties" should be expected to drop everything for their convenience. As a couple without hooman children I've been put in that position before by family members so I completely understand. My FIL used to ask us to house sit when they traveled. We lived in an apartment less than a mile from my job but because we didn't have children we should be expected to spend a week in his house which is 15 miles but a 1 hour commute because of traffic just so his house would be secure. Hello?! Buy a security system. I happened to love my apartment, my bed, my short commute to work. Ultimately, I think that you will be of more comfort to you mother than your brothers and at the end of the day you will be able to move forward knowing you were there when your parents needed you. You will have no regrets. I'm not sure your brothers will be able to say the same. And remember, I'm here if you need me to help get you to your parent's. Julie, Hobbes, Lacey, Sam and Barnabus . It's unfortunate that family members believe the person > without "conventional ties" should be expected to drop everything for > their convenience. As a couple without hooman children I've been put > in that position before by family members When my mum was first ill I had an horrendous exchange with my youngest brother- it went something like this Him "When mum gets out of hospital- why don't you go and stay with her for a few days? Look after her that sort of thing" Me "Okay" Him "But you know we have got to think that she might need someone to look after her for a bit longer than that" Me: "Well I've got a job...if I did stay with her it would take me over 2 hours to get into work so I wouldn't fancy doing it too long" Him: "Well we can't ask Jim he's got a family and I can't give up my job. Could you move in with her?" Me: "What! I just told you I have a job" Him: "Yes but it's not an important job is it?" Me: "Happens to be to me" Him "I could pay you whatever you are earning now tax free to move in with mum" Me: "And Dave?" Him "Mum doesn't like Dave. Anyway it's a two bedroomed flat and mum probably wouldn't be happy if the pair of you were sleeping together" Me: "So what about Dave?" Him: "Well.....one of us could probably cover say Saturday night so you could see Dave then and I am sure with the aunts we could work out something so you could go and see Dave say once a night in the week as long as you were back in time for mum's bedtime" I shot him down in flames! And I got a fair bit of grief over it only to find out at the funeral that my SIL would have taken mum in if she'd had to Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furballs > . It's unfortunate that family members believe the person >> without "conventional ties" should be expected to drop everything for [quoted text clipped - 46 lines] > > Slave of the Fabulous Furballs Isn't it amazing? As if your life is somehow less important. I know you understand what I mean by that. Don't get me wrong. I'll do what I have to to help Mom out. But I don't appreciate the attitude of my brothers: oh well, you can go, no problem. Sorry, but it is a problem. I hate leaving Persia and Peaches for an indeterminate amount of time. I'm not going to the next town, I'm going 13 hours away. When I was there in December Mom was hinting strongly that I move in with them. Oh, she said it with a laugh (usually after I cooked up a great meal) but I know she's got it in the back of her mind. I'm not trying to be selfish but I am not prepared to move there. It's bad enough John is already 6 hours away from me; I don't want to tack on another 13 hours to that. Of course there are other factors. Even if I didn't love my apartment, I just signed another year's lease. I'm sure I could break it without too much financial burden. But what do I do with all my furniture, sell it? I'm too old to start all over again buying furniture again down the road. And while my parents have a three bedroom house, one of the rooms is the "TV room". (The formal, and I *do* mean formal, living room is not a place to kick back and eat snacks while watching television. I don't even know where they'd put a television in that room. One wall is solid glass with two double doors on it.) I'm already sleeping on the pull out bed in the "TV room" when I visit. Do I want to do that as a permanent arrangement? Sorry, I don't think so! And what do I do (assuming I get there with Persia at some point) when Dad walks outside and leaves the door standing wide open? Persia's a curious cat. She'd succumb to the temptation. There are alligators on the island where they live. When they moved there 20 years ago people's pets were going missing until folks wised up and kept them inside or only let them out on a leash. Jill > When my mum was first ill I had an horrendous exchange with my > youngest brother- it went something like this > Him "When mum gets out of hospital- why don't you go and stay with her > for a few days? Look after her that sort of thing" > Me "Okay" > Him "But you know we have got to think that she might need someone to > look after her for a bit longer than that" > Me: "Well I've got a job...if I did stay with her it would take me > over 2 hours to get into work so I wouldn't fancy doing it too long" > Him: "Well we can't ask Jim he's got a family and I can't give up my > job. Could you move in with her?" > Me: "What! I just told you I have a job" > Him: "Yes but it's not an important job is it?" > Me: "Happens to be to me" > Him "I could pay you whatever you are earning now tax free to move in > with mum" > Me: "And Dave?" > Him "Mum doesn't like Dave. Anyway it's a two bedroomed flat and mum > probably wouldn't be happy if the pair of you were sleeping together" > Me: "So what about Dave?" > Him: "Well.....one of us could probably cover say Saturday night so > you could see Dave then and I am sure with the aunts we could work out > something so you could go and see Dave say once a night in the week as > long as you were back in time for mum's bedtime" Wow, I hardly know what to say! The level of utter disrespect coming from him is mind-boggling. He can't leave *his* job becuase it's "important", but what you do for a living doesn't matter. And your other brother can't leave *his* family, but, I guess because you and Dave weren't legally married, you could just do without him, maybe go see him once or twice a week like a teenager on a date. (I'm assuming you weren't married, otherwise, why would your mom object to your sleeping together?) The smug arrogance of his attitude toward you just takes my breath away. Not to mention his ignorance about any way for people to live their lives, other than the narrow ideas he has about normalcy. I'm really glad you shot him down in flames!! Joyce > I shot him down in flames! And I got a fair bit of grief over it only > to find out at the funeral that my SIL would have taken mum in if > she'd had to > Lesley > Slave of the Fabulous Furballs SignatureTo send email to this address, remove the triple-X from my user name. . (I'm assuming >you weren't married, otherwise, why would your mom object to your >sleeping together?) Weren't and still aren't despite putting up with each other 30 years come May this year. As for mum objecting, she would have probably said "Not under MY roof" even if we were married The funniest one was a few years ago when Dave's mum asked why we didn't get married and I said something like "We're saving it for when we run out of sheets so everyone can give us those as wedding presents." The next time she was down in London- she brought us....three sets of sheets! Apparently she doesn't want us to wed either Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furballs > (I'm assuming >> you weren't married, otherwise, why would your mom object to your [quoted text clipped - 17 lines] > > Slave of the Fabulous Furballs ROTFL SignatureAdrian (Owned by Snoopy & Bagheera) Cats leave pawprints on your heart http://community.webshots.com/user/clowderuk > (I'm assuming >> you weren't married, otherwise, why would your mom object to your [quoted text clipped - 15 lines] > > Slave of the Fabulous Furballs Reminds me of when I met my future in-laws. When DW-to-be announced that we were going to get married, my FMIL's first response was "Oh, NO". Fortunately, DW didn't listen to her and they eventually learned to put up with me. I was a city boy and she was a country girl. I think her Mom thought we'd never make it together. 'Course that was 38 years ago and we're still together. Sam, supervised by Mistletoe Jill purrs and prayers in route I have colitis so I know the hell that she is gong thru >I got a call from my mother in the last hour. She's not doing well > health-wise (she was hospitalized for colitis last year) and she called [quoted text clipped - 23 lines] > > Jill > I got a call from my mother in the last hour. She's not doing well > health-wise (she was hospitalized for colitis last year) and she [quoted text clipped - 19 lines] > > Jill Good luck, Jill. I hope things go better than you fear. Andy > Purrs for Persia to know I didn't abandon her when I take her back to be > boarded for I don't know how long. Purrs on the way for all of you. SignatureMarina, Miranda and Caliban. In loving memory of Frank and Nikki. > I got a call from my mother in the last hour. She's not doing well > health-wise (she was hospitalized for colitis last year) and she called and [quoted text clipped - 18 lines] > > Jill First of all, purrs for your parents and for you. BTDT as to watching aging parents go downhill. Next, air fares are the product of the big computer at the airlines corporate office. Take 2 pounds of "is there any competition in this market", add 2 pounds of "how full are the flights going there", add 1/4 tsp of "how much does it cost to move the plane from A to B"; divide that by "how many people can we cram on this bus?", stir thoroughly and bake 15 minutes at 500F. Presto, you have the fare. Any of the above variables change over time (and the whim of airline management). It truly makes no sense. (BTW, I've never worked for an airline, much less set pricing strategy for one). Purrs for Persia and Peaches to do OK while you're gone. Sam, supervised by Mistletoe ((((((((((Jill)))))))))) purrs on the way for your parents, and of course for the furry and feathered ones to not miss you TOO much >I got a call from my mother in the last hour. She's not doing well >health-wise (she was hospitalized for colitis last year) and she called and [quoted text clipped - 18 lines] > >Jill >I got a call from my mother in the last hour. She's not doing well > health-wise (she was hospitalized for colitis last year) and she called [quoted text clipped - 23 lines] > > Jill You're never ready for this kind of thing. Purrs for your whole family, including Persia, and special purrs for you. > I got a call from my mother in the last hour. �She's not doing well > health-wise (she was hospitalized for colitis last year) and she called and [quoted text clipped - 18 lines] > > Jill Purrs on their way Jill. Suz&Spicey > I'm crying because I think this may be the last time I see both of my > parents. So purrs for them, please. They are in their 80's and this is to > be expected but dammit.... it's so hard to watch. Of course it's hard. It doesn't matter how much you rationalise it saying things like "It's to be expected" or "They've had a good innings" (my dad was 67 so he didn't) it still hurts. That's perfectly normal and crying is understandable, (As is the talents of brothers to be little help. When my mum was dying, my brother clung onto "she'll be out next week "up until the moment she died even when he called me to say she'd had a massive heart attack and had to be brought back with CPR twice so they were going to take her to the ICU, he was still trying to make light of it "You might want to come" he said as if I wasn't going to.,,,,well sort of...I was shaken enough to need to sit down for a while, I had to contact my other brother by text and ask him to call my brother, he texted back he'd only spoken to him an hour or so ago and I had to consider how to discreetly text "This could be bad news" so by the time I'd got my head together enough I thought I had better call my brother to let him know I was going to be a bit late only his number was engaged because he was trying to call me to tell me she had just died...) We will be here for you when you get back and we'll all be thinking of you and sending purrs for you, your parents, Persia and Peaches Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furballs > I got a call from my mother in the last hour. She's not doing well > health-wise (she was hospitalized for colitis last year) and she called and [quoted text clipped - 18 lines] > > Jill {{{{{{{{{{{{Jill}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} Sweet and gentle purrs for you and for everyone. Ginger-lyn SignatureHome Pages: http://www.moonsummer.com http://www.angelfire.com/folk/glsummer (homepage & cats) http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~summer/index.htm (genealogy) http://www.movieanimals.bravehost.com/ (The Violence Against Animals in Movies Website) SignatureKyla's Cat looked over her shoulder and watched her write this ;) "jmcquown" >I got a call from my mother in the last hour. She's not doing well > health-wise (she was hospitalized for colitis last year) and she called > and > said she can't deal with being sick and taking care of my father too. She > asked, "Would I please come help?" Of course I will. Puruuuuuuurs to you from us.... I lost both my parents in 2007, my Dad in late January, and my Mom in late August, and I am still so sad that because of finances and my knee disability, I couldn't go be with my family in Colorado. > But I won't be driving. I called and arranged for Persia and Peaches to > be [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > suddenly > the price is double that. Blast the airlines...have a safe trip... > I'm crying because I think this may be the last time I see both of my > parents. So purrs for them, please. They are in their 80's and this is > to > be expected but dammit.... it's so hard to watch. My parents were in their 80's when they 'went home' last year. I always told them I loved them... And my brothers sort of > drop out of the picture when this tough stuff comes up. Both my younger sisters are strong about these things..my middle sister has been at both my parent's bedsides when they 'went home'....good for my parents, bad for us. > Purrs for Persia to know I didn't abandon her when I take her back to be > boarded for I don't know how long. Puuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuurs > I really thought I'd have another month or more before I had to make this > trip again. But when you gotta go, you gotta go. True....but I'll say a prayer for you sweetie. Love Hugs and Puuuuuuuuuuurs Kyla%b > Jill > I got a call from my mother in the last hour. She's not doing well > health-wise (she was hospitalized for colitis last year) and she called and [quoted text clipped - 18 lines] > > Jill Lots and lots of purrs for your parents, for you, and for Peaches and Persia, POlonca and Soncek
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