No such thing as overdrawn on purrs, they are like hugs, they just keep
multiplying, give one away and there is always another.  This getting old
crap is not fun for anyone, the person or the one caring for them,

Purrs on the way.

(((((((((Lesley))))))))

Joy

Dave's mum called, she's spoken to the nurse and been told to increase
his sedatives and to get the doctor in the check him over so the
doctors coming at 5.50 tonight and the nurse will pop round next week
to see what can be sorted out

Lesley

Slave of the Fabulous Furballs

Thanks everyone

It gets more complicated since Dave emailed his brother. Turns out
whilst Dave's mum has for as long as any of us can remember touted his
brother as the "Golden Boy" (Good job, mortgage, wife and kids) he's
had enough of her. In fact, he says he's more or less washing his
hands of the whole matter while he accepts Dave's dad has some health
problems he thinks Dave's mum is making them worse by being the
manipulative so and so she is. He compared her (unfavourably) to
Hyacinth Bucket- well she is a bit like that, Dave remembers being
clobbered for not sitting with his back straight whilst watching telly
at home and I remember her being glad Dave had his hair cut and his
beard shaved off when he was in hospital and having to inform her that
"Personally I would rather he was sitting here at home healthy with
long hair and a beard" and she replied "At least he looks decent now!
I would be so ashamed if they'd called him my son before!"

Apparently when Adam called her over Xmas and mentioned their getting
a cat or two she said "You can't have those things!" and he feels she
has tried to control him and his life so I guess we can't expect much
help from there through I do think he is in someway a bit in denial-
yes I am starting to suspect mum isn't helping because she wants
things to be the same as they were (a normal reaction if you ask me)
but equally dad has a problem and Adam seems to think he doesn't- it's
just mum hassling dad and if she stopped doing it things would be okay
(There might be something in it, on Boxing Day Dave's mum put this
holly wreath on their front door when it got dark and two hours later
dad brought it in so she insisted he put it back out, which started
him off...when my Nan had Alzheimer's she would go into one if her
plate at the breakfast table wasn't in the right position so we made
sure it was and everything was fine- wouldn't it have been easier just
to let him take the wreath in and if it's that important to sneak it
out later?)

Dave swiftly changed the subject- as I say he hasn't had a lot of
contact with Adam and I think he was surprised to find some of the
"Golden Boys" opinions agreed with his own and now they're emailing
about jobs and things

Also Dave seems to have become the Golden Boy simply because I call to
ask how things were and he does as well also she was looking for a
freeview box and there's only one model she likes and Dave went online
and found a place where she can get two for less than what one place
wanted for one as well as having them delivered whereas she'd have to
collect them from the other place.

Read she's fallen out with Adam-I now get her giving me accounts of
how she loved Dave as soon as "they put him in my arms even through it
was a terrible shock with his hands", Funny-she used walk down the
street smacking him because she wondered what sin she had done that
God cursed her with a disabled child! Now she says she had to be tough
she could have done everything for him but she didn't and that's why
he's so independent

Yes okay she is manipulative she's been that for years- her latest one
is to lean on Dave, he's been asked if we'd consider moving a bit
nearer "there's some new flats being built only down the road" and if
he does "Well when we're gone, son, everything will be yours, the
house and all the money"

I did not have to put that idea out of his head. I could get a job up
there but Dave and his mum get on well as long as one of them is in
one place and one in the other- in close proximity the best they've
managed before she started criticising him is less than an hour.
Besides there's not a lot of point since if Dad can't drive she'll
need someone to drive her about and neither of us can drive. In a real
emergency we can go from City Airport and land in Edinburgh in less
than an hour- it's not like we've left the country (although I am
still thinking of Australia! Especially if Kylie the vet decides to go
home!)

Families- there's a lot to be said for being an orphan!

Lesley

Slave of the Fabulous Furballs

PURRS and Prayers from me and mine
Love
Kyla

"Lesley" <

Purrs on the way.

Ann

Lots of purrs,
Polonca and Soncek

Purrs on the way, Lesley.
Sam, supervised by Mistletoe