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The new family tabby baby. Tigger

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Christina Websell - 06 Oct 2007 21:16 GMT
Well.
I visited my brother's house today for the first time since Christmas.  It's
not that I don't love him, I do, but his 3 u/7 children are off the planet
behaviour wise and I can only take it now and again.
I went to see the kitten, tbhonest.
I found him outside greeting my car.
It's not a busy road but I would like them to keep him inside a while yet,
he is 16 weeks old.
I offered some advice, but it didn't go down well, my brother said "do you
think I am stupid?" and he seemed annoyed so I left it.
Yes, I do think you are stupid, actually, Andrew! Especially when I
challenged you and you said "either he gets run over or he doesn't."  I
nearly went for your throat then.
Tigger is a marbled tabby. He very sensibly kept out of the way of the
children. I wished I could but I had to endure it.

Tweed
jmcquown - 07 Oct 2007 03:27 GMT
> Well.
> I visited my brother's house today for the first time since
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>
> Tweed

I totally understand your frustration!  My brother seems to think because
he's my bother we should agree on everything.  Um, no.  Glad you got to see
the kitten, though!

Jill
Karen - 07 Oct 2007 03:31 GMT
> Well.
> I visited my brother's house today for the first time since Christmas.  
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>
> Tweed

Hmm. I think you might approach your niece rather than your brother. I
bet you would have greater success.
Christina Websell - 07 Oct 2007 19:58 GMT
> Hmm. I think you might approach your niece rather than your brother. I bet
> you would have greater success.

LOL!
She is 7, so there is not much she can do against her parents wishes.
It's usual for cats to be allowed outside here.  They are not near a main
road and I expect Tigger will be quite ok, but there is a bit more traffic
than here where I live as I am on the edge of countryside and my road goes
nowhere.
Maybe it's a good idea to introduce him to the big outside so young, who
knows?  I have no experience of kittens, both mine arrived adult and
streetwise.  I did tell them to make sure he was in at night or the foxes
would eat him and they took that on board.
I took my camera but no chance to get a piccie.
He's a lovely kitten, very kind natured with the kids, very slight in build
yet; which explains why, when Andrew saw Boyfriend a couple of weeks ago he
said "Blimey, he's FAT"  I carefully explained that he is not fat at all, he
is a mature male, 5 years old and in his prime and that one day *his* cat
will look like this.

Tweed
Karen - 08 Oct 2007 01:57 GMT
>> Hmm. I think you might approach your niece rather than your brother. I
>> bet you would have greater success.
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>
> Tweed

Well, sometimes, parents will listen to wee kids better than adult
relations, If you impress upon her, she actually might be able to
persuade them.
jofirey - 08 Oct 2007 02:23 GMT
>>> Hmm. I think you might approach your niece rather than your brother. I
>>> bet you would have greater success.
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> relations, If you impress upon her, she actually might be able to persuade
> them.

You have to be careful with giving advice to children.  Too often they
aren't in a position to take it, but they are in a position to feel terribly
guilty if something goes wrong.

If you tell a child their cat should be kept inside, and the parents choose
to allow it out, or the child accidentally lets it out you have a real
problem.

Jo
jXwXeXrXmXoXnXt@sonic.net - 08 Oct 2007 06:23 GMT
> You have to be careful with giving advice to children.  Too often they
> aren't in a position to take it, but they are in a position to feel terribly
> guilty if something goes wrong.

> If you tell a child their cat should be kept inside, and the parents choose
> to allow it out, or the child accidentally lets it out you have a real
> problem.

I agree with this. Seven years old is too young for this kind of
responsibility. If her parents were 100% behind it, and helped her
to keep the cat inside, then asking her to do her part would be
reasonable. But a 7-year-old can't be expected to fix a problem
that her parents are causing.

Joyce
Karen - 08 Oct 2007 06:29 GMT
>  > You have to be careful with giving advice to children.  Too often
> they  > aren't in a position to take it, but they are in a position to
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>
> Joyce

I didn't look at it that way. You are right.
Mischief - 07 Oct 2007 06:20 GMT
"do you
> think I am stupid?"

I once asked my mother that...Then i stopped and said, "Wait, don't
answer that."

My brother and I used to be close, but now we're pretty distant and I
hate it.  At times I talk to him it starts cordial and then turns
frustrating, so I know the feeling to trying to talk to someone and
they just don't seem to get it

Kristi
Kreisleriana - 07 Oct 2007 15:00 GMT
> "do you
>> think I am stupid?"
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>
> Kristi

I know how you feel.  My brother and I used to be very close-- I still
regard him as my best friend.  When we talk, we always connect in the same
easy way.  But he lives in another city now, and is very wrapped up in his
family and his work, and is not so good at keeping in touch, or really
thinking about anything outside his own little family.  Actually, my mom and
dad and I are all rather dismayed at how distant he's become.  We don't feel
like there's anything we can do.
Christina Websell - 07 Oct 2007 19:30 GMT
> "do you
>> think I am stupid?"
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> frustrating, so I know the feeling to trying to talk to someone and
> they just don't seem to get it

This is what's happened here too. Since my mother died in 2003 I hardly see
my 2 brothers and the more we are not in touch, the less we have in common.
It's sad.  It seems that she was the hub around which we all revolved.
Instead of taking what I said as a kindly meant attempt to advise and guide
(they have never had a cat before) it was seen as a criticism.  Ah well, I
guess I'll just have to let them get on with it, learning as they go ;-)

Tweed
jXwXeXrXmXoXnXt@sonic.net - 09 Oct 2007 18:49 GMT
> I visited my brother's house today for the first time since Christmas.  It's
> not that I don't love him, I do, but his 3 u/7 children are off the planet
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> challenged you and you said "either he gets run over or he doesn't."  I
> nearly went for your throat then.

Aaaarrgh!! I'm with you, Tweed - he sounds like an idiot. Sorry to
insult your family member, and perhaps he's a reasonable person in other
ways, but around this kitty, he's being pretty stupid. That poor thing
is in real danger. I hope he grows up fast!!

Joyce
 
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