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Cat Forum / Cat Anecdotes / September 2007Blanket Purrs (again)
Sorry, folks, I have been seriously distracted by some things going on in my life. I've only had a chance to skim and reply to a few posts in the last week. So once again I'm offering blanket purrs for all who need them. Jill > Sorry, folks, I have been seriously distracted by some things going on in > my > life. I've only had a chance to skim and reply to a few posts in the last > week. So once again I'm offering blanket purrs for all who need them. > > Jill It sounds as though you could use some purrs of your own. ((((((((Jill)))))))))) Joy >> Sorry, folks, I have been seriously distracted by some things going >> on in my [quoted text clipped - 9 lines] > > Joy Thank you, Joy. It's parental stuff again. And my brother is trying to drag me into the middle of a bunch of stuff that we really can't control and shouldn't try to. Mom told me to tell him to butt out. I did, and he said he won't. It's very frustrating. (sigh) Jill . It's parental stuff again. And my brother is trying to >drag me into the middle of a bunch of stuff that we really can't control and >shouldn't try to. Reminds me of when my dad died and my brothers insisted mum move into sheltered accomodation and that I be the one to persuade her.She pointed out that at 67 and in good health she didn't need sheltered accomodation and her years of working as a home help meant she'd seen the inside of enough of those places to put her off, not to mention she guessed that as the youngest person by a long shot she'd end up being the one to run errands for everyone else. My brothers actually thought when mum annouced she'd found an ideal property which wasn't in sheltered accomodation that somehow I'd put mum up to it to spite them! It didn't help that I agreed with her reasoning Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furballs > It's parental stuff again. And my brother is trying to >> drag me into the middle of a bunch of stuff that we really can't [quoted text clipped - 6 lines] > > Lesley (pardon my snippage) It's very much like that, Lesley. My brother sent me a link to an attorney's office and is insisting I go make them meet with this solicitor for all sorts of paperwork and to make out their Wills or set up a Trust. Granted, they should have done this years ago but it's not his place or mine to force them to do this. Further, he sent me links to places which sound like what you call sheltered accomodations; we call them assisted living facilities. Mom told him (and me, since he dragged me into this) to butt out. . My brother sent me a link to an >attorney's office and is insisting I go make them meet with this solicitor >for all sorts of paperwork and to make out their Wills or set up a Trust. >Granted, they should have done this years ago but it's not his place or mine >to force them to do this. Exactly- as long as they're compos mentis your brother needs to butt out a bit! Lesley Slave of the Fabulous Furballs > > It's parental stuff again. And my brother is trying to > >> drag me into the middle of a bunch of stuff that we really can't [quoted text clipped - 17 lines] > facilities. Mom told him (and me, since he dragged me into this) to butt > out. I understand your frustration, but I can see your brother's POV also. I am currently in the middle of a health crisis with my father, and had he not already put me on his bank accounts, and given me power of attorney it would be a holy nightmare. If you wait until your parent(s) are loaded up in an ambulance to worry about arrangements, it would be so complicated and so much more difficult. Wills, advance directives, etc. are things no one wants to talk or think about. I am really grateful that my father had pretty much done everything he could to make things easier for us. But it *is* a touchy subject, still, one that needs to be addressed (gently). Sherry Sherry >>> It's parental stuff again. And my brother is trying to >>>> drag me into the middle of a bunch of stuff that we really can't [quoted text clipped - 36 lines] > > Sherry Yeah, well right now it's upsetting their entire household and they don't want to hear about it let alone talk about it. There's really nothing I can do and I just wish my brother would back off for a while. My brother is barrelling in like a steamroller; he scheduled a lawyer to show up at their house (my father promptly called security at the gate and said "Don't let that man in"). He's convinced my brother is trying to steal his money. (I'm not so sure he's wrong about that!) If they don't want to do this then we need to back off. I understand the importance but it's really not our place to force them to do anything. Jill >>>> It's parental stuff again. And my brother is trying to >>>>> drag me into the middle of a bunch of stuff that we really can't [quoted text clipped - 51 lines] > > Jill Remind you brother this kind of interference can backfire big time. Jo > "jmcquown" <jmcquown@bellsouth.net> wrote in message > > Remind you brother this kind of interference can backfire big time. > > Jo He doesn't realize he's writing himself out of everything by his actions. My parents are fed up with him trying to interfere and to control everything. Whether or not Dad is competent isn't my brothers' decision to make. It's still Dad's property, still his money, still his estate. He worked for it, he earned it, fought in three wars for it. He bought and paid for it and then some. This doesn't mean Dad and Mom don't need some help, but this isn't the way to go about it. And you're right, Jo. He's going to dig a hole he can't get out of. I just wish he'd leave me the Hell out of it. I'm having nightmares that scare poor Persia to death, me waking up yelling when she's all snuggled next to me. She doesn't know I'm not shouting at her :( Jill > >>> It's parental stuff again. And my brother is trying to > >>>> drag me into the middle of a bunch of stuff that we really can't [quoted text clipped - 48 lines] > > Jill Whoa. He *is* using the steamroller approach. That's just wrong. I hope the relationship with all of you can be salvaged. That's the worst thing. When families start feuding over things like that. It's just sad. Sherry >>>>> It's parental stuff again. And my brother is trying to >>>>>> drag me into the middle of a bunch of stuff that we really can't [quoted text clipped - 57 lines] > > Sherry He's the only one feuding. I'm of the same opinion as Mom... leave them be. She'll ask for help when she wants it or needs it. Hauling in a lawyer is just trying to wrest control. Sheesh. Jill >>>>>> It's parental stuff again. And my brother is trying to >>>>>>> drag me into the middle of a bunch of stuff that we really can't [quoted text clipped - 64 lines] > > Jill I'd guess your dad is one of the top ten guys in the country his age right now to hang on to control no matter what. Even if his mind goes that will go last. He earned the right the hard way. Besides, I'd never trust a lawyer who allowed himself to be put into that kind of situation. Jo >>>>>>> It's parental stuff again. And my brother is trying to >>>>>>>> drag me into the middle of a bunch of stuff that we really [quoted text clipped - 70 lines] > right now to hang on to control no matter what. Even if his mind > goes that will go last. He earned the right the hard way. His mind *is* going. I suggested perhaps a home health aid to give my mom a break for a few hours a couple or three days a week. My brother says that's not the way to go. I have to wonder, when did he get his medical degree? Mom says they aren't moving so get over it! > Besides, I'd never trust a lawyer who allowed himself to be put into > that kind of situation. I hadn't thought about it from that angle but you're absolutely right. What kind of lawyer would drive to someone's home to meet with people who didn't hire him? That just doesn't make a lot of sense, does it? Jill I understand your frustration, but I can see your brother's POV also. > I am currently > in the middle of a health crisis with my father, and had he not [quoted text clipped - 13 lines] > > Sherry Lots of purrs for your father and you, Sherry, Polonca and Soncek > Sorry, folks, I have been seriously distracted by some things going on in my > life. I've only had a chance to skim and reply to a few posts in the last > week. So once again I'm offering blanket purrs for all who need them. > > Jill Purrs for you too, Jill, Polonca and Soncek Purrs for you. I'm grateful for the Internet because it means we can support each other even when we've never met. (Cherry agrees on the purrs; she's just climbed up on my bed. However, she thinks she'd rather my pet her than be on the Internet, thank you very much.) Hugs and headbutts, Cantate > Purrs for you. I'm grateful for the Internet because it means we can > support each other even when we've never met. (Cherry agrees on the > purrs; she's just climbed up on my bed. However, she thinks she'd > rather my pet her than be on the Internet, thank you very much.) Whereas my cats know that the very best time for them to get cuddles with me is when I *am* on the Internet! They all love to get on the desk and curl up between me and the keyboard as I type. Even Licky is a cuddlin' fool, and he purrs the loudest. Joyce > Sorry, folks, I have been seriously distracted by some things going on in my > life. I've only had a chance to skim and reply to a few posts in the last > week. So once again I'm offering blanket purrs for all who need them. > > Jill Add me to that apology, too. I've been MIA again (okay, okay: I've been cheating on rpca with YouTube ;-) ), but hopefully I'll stick this time! Purrs to all who need them, if I haven't replied individually. Ginger-lyn  SignatureHome Pages: http://www.spiritrealm.com/summer/ http://www.angelfire.com/folk/glsummer (homepage & cats) http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~summer/index.htm (genealogy) http://www.movieanimals.bravehost.com/ (The Violence Against Animals in Movies Website) > Add me to that apology, too. I've been MIA again (okay, okay: I've > been cheating on rpca with YouTube ;-) ), but hopefully I'll stick this > time! How's the moving-in coming along? Joyce > > Add me to that apology, too. I've been MIA again (okay, okay: I've > > been cheating on rpca with YouTube ;-) ), but hopefully I'll stick this [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > > Joyce lol -- don't ask! A broken pelvis (plus being a natural procrastinator myself) and a lazy DH tend to mean boxes still unpacked, and heck, not much more than the necessities and a few other things done :-( Ginger-lyn SignatureHome Pages: http://www.spiritrealm.com/summer/ http://www.angelfire.com/folk/glsummer (homepage & cats) http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~summer/index.htm (genealogy) http://www.movieanimals.bravehost.com/ (The Violence Against Animals in Movies Website) >> How's the moving-in coming along? > lol -- don't ask! A broken pelvis (plus being a natural procrastinator > myself) and a lazy DH tend to mean boxes still unpacked, and heck, not > much more than the necessities and a few other things done :-( Broken pelvis? Youch!! When/how did that happen? DH? Are you back together again? I'm not keeping up here, obviously! Joyce > >> How's the moving-in coming along? > [quoted text clipped - 9 lines] > > Joyce Neither am I. I missed something or Ginger has forgive the pun let the cat out of the bag > Neither am I. I missed something or Ginger has forgive the pun let the cat > out of the bag lol. I would never keep the cat IN the bag in the first place ;-) Ginger-lyn SignatureHome Pages: http://www.spiritrealm.com/summer/ http://www.angelfire.com/folk/glsummer (homepage & cats) http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~summer/index.htm (genealogy) http://www.movieanimals.bravehost.com/ (The Violence Against Animals in Movies Website) > >> How's the moving-in coming along? > [quoted text clipped - 9 lines] > > Joyce lol -- more like I'm so spacey and sporadic lately, I can't remember what I've mentioned and what I haven't! Yep, broken pelvis. It was originally diagnosed as a broken hip ("It's All Jack's Fault!") when I got the first x-rays after "Trouble" (aka Jack) was in Cute Kitten Mode and wrapping around my feet. Trouble is -- ahem -- I'm not too steady on my feet these days, so this little, teeny cat managed to make me lose my balance, thus stepping in Wolfie's cat bowl, thus, starting to fall (yet again), but grabbing the doorframe instead and twisting in a very nasty angle. This was in March, but I went through being diagnosed with (1) a muscle spasm; (2) possible nerve damage; (3) a single fracture in my right hip; (4) a single fracture in my right pelvis; (5) two fractures in my right pelvis; (6) a big mess in my right pelvis; (6) breaks in my right pelvis AND my sacrum, with a bunch of other things besides (I don't read Medicalese very well). It was *not* fun going up and down stairs before someone finally prescribed me some pain meds. Step. *Scream*. Step. *Scream*. Step. You get the picture -- lol. Poor cats probably thought I had lost it entirely. Yep, DH is back. He moved back in some time before The Move. We're getting couples counseling. He thinks nothing is better, but it's clear to the therapist and myself that we have actually made some solid progress, even though it is slow. Also, I gave birth to sextuplets and won a Pulitzer Prize. ;-) Just wanted to see if you were paying attention ;-) Ginger-lyn SignatureHome Pages: http://www.spiritrealm.com/summer/ http://www.angelfire.com/folk/glsummer (homepage & cats) http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~summer/index.htm (genealogy) http://www.movieanimals.bravehost.com/ (The Violence Against Animals in Movies Website) > [snip] This was in March, but I > went through being diagnosed with (1) a muscle spasm; (2) possible nerve [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > me some pain meds. Step. *Scream*. Step. *Scream*. Step. You get > the picture -- lol. Poor cats probably thought I had lost it entirely. Aaargh - that sounds horrible. When I was reading the above, I for some reason was expecting it to say, "It was *not* fun going up and down stairs before someone finally prescribed an elevator installation in my building." :) What floor are you on in your new place? > Yep, DH is back. He moved back in some time before The Move. We're > getting couples counseling. He thinks nothing is better, but it's clear > to the therapist and myself that we have actually made some solid > progress, even though it is slow. I'm glad to hear it! Is DH willing to take it on faith that some of the stuff that needs to happen now might not feel immediately gratifying to him, but may help you both in the long run? > Also, I gave birth to sextuplets and won a Pulitzer Prize. ;-) > Just wanted to see if you were paying attention ;-) <glassy-eyed nod> Um hmm. That's nice, dear. Glad things are going well for you. :) Joyce > lol -- more like I'm so spacey and sporadic lately, I can't remember > what I've mentioned and what I haven't! [quoted text clipped - 25 lines] > > Ginger-lyn We continue to send lots and lots of healing purrs and best wishes for you, Ginger-lyn, Polonca and Soncek >> >> How's the moving-in coming along? >> [quoted text clipped - 40 lines] > > Ginger-lyn Ouch Purrs for you to feel better Ginger Over the years and thru the many b@stard cat tricks of them trying to trip me up. I learned that you have to shuffle your feet if they get in the way. They get booted in the butt. Phantom is my biggest trouble maker when it comes to that. Now that I wear thick slippers with no slip grips on the bottom in the house for better traction. Phantom learns to get out of the way or he gets pushed along whether he likes or not. Now before anyone says anything I am not kicking the cat they are getting a friendly foot up there behinds to move cause if daddy falls no one will be there to feed them their snacks. |
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