Cat Forum / Cat Anecdotes / October 2004
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Yoj - 26 Oct 2004 00:33 GMT I know I have to make the decision myself, but I'd like to collect some opinions before I do so.
Here's the situation. Since Skeeter went to the Rainbow Bridge, Lindy has been an "only cat". She seems to like that, which isn't too surprising. She joined the family when Skeeter had been hear for a couple of years, and it didn't take two weeks to establish that Lindy was now head cat. They tolerated each other, and would sometimes lie only an inch or two from each other, but they never cuddled or groomed the other.
I know that sooner or later I'll get another cat. However, I was putting it off, because I'm going to Australia, probably for four weeks, in April. I thought it wouldn't be too nice to leave a relatively new cat for such a long time. However, Lindy has turned into a lap fungus and is usually close to me when I'm home. She used to sit in my lap briefly once or twice a week. Now it's two or three times a day, and often for an extended period of time. Now I'm worrying that she might be lonely if she doesn't have company all the time I'm gone.
When I travel, the boy next door comes over once or twice a day and feeds whatever cats I have at the time. He also pets them if they want petting. (Skeeter usually hid) However, that's a long time alone, and considering that I get greeted when I come home from the market, I'm wondering if I shouldn't get Lindy a companion fairly soon so she won't be alone when I go. Of course I realize there's no guarantee that she and the new cat would be best buddies.
What do you guys think?
Joy
Cheryl Perkins - 26 Oct 2004 00:54 GMT Since you aren't going until April, I would get the new cat right away.
I think it's only fair to warn you that the cats may take quite a while to become adjusted to each other, so you need to allow for that. It took weeks (seemed like months at the time!) for Mandy and Betsy to get on. I kept one in the bathroom when I wasn't at home, and let them 'get aquainted' when I was home. I nearly gave up because of the fights. When I talked about it to the vet, she told me not to attempt to referee cat battles, but just to ensure they had safe places to hide and let them settle their own differences. It worked. I think the companionship they have was worth the initial settling-in problems, but you need time to allow for the problems, too.
I usually have a friend come in like you do when I have to be away, but when I had to travel after I got Mandy but before I got Betsy, I left her with friends rather than leave her in the house alone. Absolute saints, they were, too, since Mandy went into heat unexpectedly, just before her spay date which was just after I got home. They kept her in, even though she is an extremely determined and loud and mouthy cat at the best of times. I can just imagine what she was like in heat. I *asked* about earlier spaying, too, but it was 'Oh, Doctor doesn't like spaying them too young.' She was 6 months old. Oh, well, no harm done.
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Yoj - 26 Oct 2004 02:17 GMT > Since you aren't going until April, I would get the new cat right away. > [quoted text clipped - 21 lines] > -- > Cheryl Thanks, Cheryl. I suspect you're right. Yes, I'd say your friends were saints. Are they still friends? <G>
Joy
Cheryl Perkins - 26 Oct 2004 11:35 GMT > Thanks, Cheryl. I suspect you're right. Yes, I'd say your friends were > saints. Are they still friends? <G> Oh, yes, most of the family adore cats, so they really didn't mind! Even Terry, who is not really a cat fan, forgave Mandy for (a) repeatedly climbing the living room drapes and (b) climbing up his back so she could sit on his shoulder and see what he was doing at his workbench.
He relented towards cats so much that the family eventually adopted one, and then another after she died. They were both much more placid than Mandy is.
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Yowie - 26 Oct 2004 01:01 GMT > I know I have to make the decision myself, but I'd like to collect some > opinions before I do so. [quoted text clipped - 23 lines] > be alone when I go. Of course I realize there's no guarantee that she > and the new cat would be best buddies. Thats about 6 months for a new cat to settle in - can't see a problem there. And I'm sure Lindy will appreciate the company.
Yowie
Yoj - 26 Oct 2004 02:17 GMT > > I know I have to make the decision myself, but I'd like to collect some > > opinions before I do so. [quoted text clipped - 28 lines] > > Yowie Thanks, Yowie.
Joy
Victor Martinez - 26 Oct 2004 02:15 GMT > What do you guys think? I would get two littermates, young ones. Seriously. They will provide company *and* keep each other occupied if Lindy wants to be left alone.
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Yoj - 26 Oct 2004 02:18 GMT > > What do you guys think? > [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > -- > Victor Martinez You have a good point, Victor. However, the last time I went to the shelter, people were looking at kittens and ignoring the older cats. Lindy was about a year and a half old when I got her, and I decided then that I would always get grown cats, because they had much less chance of being adopted.
Joy
O J - 26 Oct 2004 02:52 GMT On Tue, 26 Oct, Joy wrote:
>Victor Martinez wrote...
>> Joy wrote:
>> > What do you guys think? >> [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] >that I would always get grown cats, because they had much less chance of >being adopted. I agree with Victor, if you eventually plan on having three or more, get them now. I wholeheartedly applaud your decision to adopt adult cats. We adopted three adults in a row and had no problems with them getting along, but our first one, our beloved Misty, wasn't exactly thrilled with our decision either.
Misty (RB) was a perfect single-cat cat. She used to have long 'conversations' with DH. Lynda and Misty would speak, meow, and mmurrrpp at each other for fifteen or so minutes at a time. Since we both worked, we thought a companion cat would be good for her. Misty was still our love-kitty, but she never spoke another word to Lynda in conversation.
In the end, you'll have to be the judge of your Lindy and roll the dice. I wish I had more to offer.
Regards and Purrs, O J
Yoj - 26 Oct 2004 08:03 GMT > On Tue, 26 Oct, Joy wrote: > [quoted text clipped - 32 lines] > Regards and Purrs, > O J Thanks for your input, O J. I appreciate it. I don't really plan on having three or more. Of course, I didn't plan on having any when I acquired Tawny (RB). I was a dog person until he decided our house was his house. I have had a total of eight cats. I deliberately went out and got two of them.
Joy
Christine Burel - 26 Oct 2004 04:45 GMT I personally would wait on getting another cat because any change for a cat is stressful and then you'd have two major stressors going on simultaneously. I'd hire a petsitter/housesitter for that length of time; you have a lot of time to get Lindy to meet this new person and interact with him/her. my 2 cents, hth, Christine
> I know I have to make the decision myself, but I'd like to collect some > opinions before I do so. [quoted text clipped - 27 lines] > > Joy Yoj - 26 Oct 2004 08:05 GMT That's certainly something to think about.
As for hiring a petsitter/housesitter, I can't afford it. I can only afford the trip because of a gift and because I'll be staying with friends part of the time. My daughter pays someone $15 a day to come once a day to feed her cats when she travels. I'm sure a live-in person would want more than that.
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> I personally would wait on getting another cat because any change for a cat > is stressful and then you'd have two major stressors going on [quoted text clipped - 34 lines] > > > > Joy Marina - 26 Oct 2004 05:23 GMT > What do you guys think? I agree with others, take a new cat as soon as possible, so there is enough time for him/her to settle in before you leave. My sister went through that when her Panther died of cancer. Matilda was left, and she was so lonerly, she clung to my sister all the time. My sister got her a kitten, Linus. Matilda immediately started mothering him. Then Matilda was PTS due to cancer, and Linus was the clingy one, until she got him Ronja to play with. It's always gone very well to integrate the new kitten. We'll be purring for Lindy to accept a new friend.
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Yoj - 26 Oct 2004 08:05 GMT > > What do you guys think? > [quoted text clipped - 9 lines] > -- > Marina, Frank and Nikki Thank you, Marina.
Joy
LOL - 26 Oct 2004 09:49 GMT > I know I have to make the decision myself, but I'd like to collect some > opinions before I do so. (big snippage)
That's a good question. Mikey insisted on being an only cat, and was very, very bonded with his humans. Now, seeing Tallulah and Hubert interacting, I can see what he missed, and I wish he'd let it be different. The fact is, though, that he wouldn't, and I'm thinking it will depend entirely on Lindy's personality. Since she's used to having another cat around, maybe that would make it easier for her to accept another? I dunno, really, but we're sending purrs for the best solution to present itself!
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Bev - 26 Oct 2004 19:34 GMT > > I know I have to make the decision myself, but I'd like to collect some > > opinions before I do so. [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] > ------ > Krista I would be inclined to wait until after your trip for this reason. Why don't you get a house sitter? One cat is a lot easier for a sitter to manage and would be good company for the cat. I have had had several house sitters when I have been away and you shouldn't have to pay them. They get free accommodation, power, phone, all the mod cons, just for looking after a cat. I don't know what accommodation is worth there but it is dear here so most people are happy with the arrangement.
There are plenty of people around who only require, say, a month while they are waiting to take occupation of a house. My friendly real estate person, for instance, gave us the name of a lovely Irish girl who had a heap of references from his friends. Added to the care of the cat is having someone looking after your apartment or house. Once you start enquiring for a house sitter it is amazing how many people you get onto. I got another person who happened to be a receptionist for my doctor. Vets sometimes know people.
:) Bev
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Yoj - 27 Oct 2004 00:39 GMT > > > I know I have to make the decision myself, but I'd like to collect some > > > opinions before I do so. [quoted text clipped - 36 lines] > -- > The email of the species is more deadly than the mail. I guess I could ask around. I'm not crazy about the idea of a stranger staying in my house for almost a month.
Joy
Bev - 29 Oct 2004 19:56 GMT > > > "Yoj" <joygaylord@sbcglobal.net> wrote in message > news:<A3gfd.79$zx1.23@newssvr13.news.prodigy.com>... [quoted text clipped - 52 lines] > > Joy I realise it takes a leap of trust to hand over your house to strangers, Joy and I felt the same at first. When we started house swapping we exchanged with a school teacher and nurse from Toronto. We were all first exchangers and nervous. They asked if we could both lock up one room and put special treasures away in it. We agreed. It worked fine although I soon realised it wasn't really necessary. If you get a bunch of references, make sure they are cat lovers and if possible manage to talk to a couple of people in the references you can't go wrong. I suspect there are heaps of good people in LA who are professional house sitters.
Bev
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Bridget - 28 Oct 2004 15:00 GMT > I know I have to make the decision myself, but I'd like to collect some > opinions before I do so. [quoted text clipped - 27 lines] > > Joy Believe it or not, I got another cat for one of my cats so he wouldn't be alone when I go into the hospital. He absolutely requires company - people or cat, he doesn't care, but by himself and he is just beside himself with loneliness. My normal trick when I went into the hospital was to farm him off to a friend - any friend, I didn't care who. But I have run out of friends who will let him dominate their households (he ends up the dominant animal within less than three days), so in August when I was in the hospital for two weeks, I left him home alone with someone coming in to check on him every day. By the time I got home, he was nuts. He cried for three days and wouldn't let me out of his sight or touch. I immediately made my decision to get another cat and got Mattie - an 8-9 month old kitten with the knowledge that Tony has never met another cat he doesn't like.
Long story short, he really doesn't like Mattie all that much. He tolerates her. And I had to go back into the hospital three weeks after I got her. The person who was supposed to come in every day got sick, so there was no human touch, just Mattie and when I got back home, he was just fine. No crying for three days. No being attached at the hip. Just having her in the same apartment was enough to keep him sane. She was fine also. I suspect she bugged him. :)
He is to the point now where she can stand beside him and eat and he doesn't care but he doesn't play with her or snuggle with her. He also doesn't thwap her anymore. But I don't regret getting him his own cat for when I am in the hospital and take his true buddy with me. The company alone made a huge difference.
Bridget
jXwXeXrXmXoXnXt@sonic.net - 28 Oct 2004 22:44 GMT > ...By the time I got home, he > was nuts. He cried for three days and wouldn't let me out of his sight > or touch. I immediately made my decision to get another cat and got > Mattie - an 8-9 month old kitten with the knowledge that Tony has never > met another cat he doesn't like. Bridget, could you list the names of all your cats (ie, those you have with you now)? With all the different kitty names I've heard from your posts, it seems like you have about 10 or so! There's Tony, and Stripey Thing, and Mattie, and one that starts with "R", correct? And I know there are others. I just can't keep up! :)
Joyce
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