Yes it does!

And you're worrying for nothing.

I rarely post but always read your posts they are very nice, keep posting,
Lee

Hugs Joyce. I love your posts and hearing about your kits.  I hope
that you don't get negative responses to your heart-felt and honest
post.  A lot of the old regulars have been very quiet of late, but
that doesn't mean we have left - I still read most posts, but RL is
such that I can't respond to many of them.

I enjoy your contribution to the group and the impression I get of you
through your writings is that you are a warm, generous, funny,
intelligent and very interesting person.  I would miss you if you
left.

Tish

I love you Joyce ;-)

But seriously I find your input and your internet friendship very valuable
and very uplifting.  I truly appreciate having you in this newsgroup and I
am very happy to call you a friend.

I don't contact too  many people outside the newspost thru email but that is
me.  I also feel sometimes like you mentioned in your post.  I feel the
world crashing in and I truly am happy to be able to look to this newsgroup
for a ray of hope.  Which it has provide many of times WHICH YOU HAVE DONE
FOR ME ALSO IF YOU REMEMBER.  <Thank you>

BIG HUG AND A SMOOCH HEADING YOUR WAY.   If it is too wet I will blames it
on the cats ( he he )

I know how it is to be depressed  due to home problems I think I am going
thru a bout my self and the holidays are not helping.  Thank the GODS for my
masters

Well, I for one enjoy most of your posts, and to me, you are an
important part of this group. I missed you when you went away for a
while. Sometimes I get that feeling too, like I've been offensive
without knowing it or meaning to. Then I think back on my own posting
style, and I realise sometimes I enjoy a post very much but don't reply
or some reason - there's nothing to add to the thread, or nothing
similar has happened with me or my cats, or I don't have any advice to
offer, etc. Or, which often seems to be the case recently with me, I'm
just too tired to formulate a coherent answer.

I've never had any negative reaction to any of your posts.  I subscribe to
five newsgroups and often skim, rather than reading each post.  Also, I
seldom reply that I like a particular post.  That doesn't mean I don't like
them, just that I haven't taken the time to write anything about it.

I don't want to be insulting, but I think you are being a bit paranoid.  You
are a part of this group.

Joy

Joyce, I don't post all that much but read this group several times a day, I
enjoy reading about you, and your cats.

I sometimes think, oh I will respond to that post but then RL gets in the
way.

Please don't feel that way I am sure you are loved by most of us here.

Purrs and (((((((((Hugs)))))))))))))

Lois

Joyce, I think you might just be going through a rough patch.  I
certainly like you and value all your posts greatly.  I missed you a lot
during your long absence and was very happy when you returned.
I just haven't been posting much lately.  I'm flat out at work and with
our house building crap and also actually starting to meet people here
and aquiring a social life.  I have been following the group but mostly
just lurking.  My good thoughts and purrs are with everyone, always.
But I just haven't been able to post much, so I hope you don't feel
ignored by me.
Hugs and purrs,

As Kindly as I can say this: you are being depressed and paranoid. Your
contributions are always valued. I'm sorry I can't say that I always read
them, but thats not personal, I barely have time to read this group any
more, much less compose a reply, I don't read all of *anybody's* posts any
more. But I read this one!

I do hope you apreciate that I did indeed read and take the time to reply to
this message, so please don't quit posting. And please get that depression &
paranoia seen to.

Hugs,

Yowie

Hi Joyce,

I really enjoy your posts and have never thought negatively about you.
I've noticed that most people don't receive many responses to their
posts. You seem pretty down at the moment and I know that when you're
feeling low, everything seems worse than what it is. I hope you feel
better soon.

((((Joyce))))

Dewi.

FWIW I like you and I missed you when you weren't posting. I'm afraid
I'm mostly lurking at the moment and even lurking I don't read every
post.  I still think about various folks on the group often though - my
cats remind me!

<snip>

I think you're just being depressed and paranoid, many of us have been
there. I for one do appreciate your posts and will continue to read them, I
can't think of any that have upset me. I know I don't often respond to
posts, there's not usually much I can think of to say exept 'me too' which
would get boring very quickly.

Why would you say that? At times there may have been disagreements over
stuff with other members, but that does not mean you're not appreciated. :)

I don't think you're being paranoid, because I feel the same way, and I
don't think *I'm* being paranoid. I don't think it's personal, either.
I think the dynamics of this group have changed a lot. We have much
fewer posts. Many people have dropped out or just rarely post. For
instance, Cheryl and Karen used to reply to a lot of my posts. I think
they're both just busy with IRL, but I really notice it when I post
something and no one replies. I miss them. So what I'm trying to say
is, fewer active posters make fewer replies.

Sherry

Joyce,

I for one, always enjoy reading your posts. Your responses are always very
articulate and heartfelt. You don't need to change a thing, you are a very
honest and sincere person. I don't post or respond to most posts, but as in
real live, I'm a very quite person. I usually just listen, laugh and learn. You
would be very much missed if you left the group.

Tippy thinks Auntie Joyce is awsome!

The gang is sending comforting purrs your way.

{{{{{{{{Hugs}}}}}}}}

Randy

http://picasaweb.google.com/crmartin1

http://kittenwar.com/kittens/74045/

No problems with your posts from this end, Joyce.

Lily & her mama

{{{{{{{{Hugs}}}}}}}}

It might look like that from your end, so paranoia is a harsh
description, but you are appreciated here. Your posts are fine and so
are you. Sometimes I read your posts aloud to WooToo and she thinks you
are just another silly hoomin but you're ok from my POV.

Will in New Haven

--

"Never try to outstubborn a cat." - Robert Heinlein
"I am not stubborn, Mr. Heinlein, I am just in charge." - Feather

I can't imagine why not!!!  For what it's worth, I like you *very* much
and hope I can be considered your friend.  I joined RPCA in 1998 so
we're both "old-timers" here.  I know I'm not one of the more popular
members but that's OK, I can still enjoy the reading and popping up
with a comment once in a while.  And RPCA members have been extremely
supportive when needed.

BTW, I don't know if you remember but some years ago I posted about
Best Friends Animal Sanctuary and that I'd visited it once and
volunteered there another time.  You e-mailed me expressing interest in
it and asking questions about it.  Since then I've felt a close "bond"
with you in our mutual love for BFAS.  I see you're still active with
them and it warms my heart.  You're doing a great thing sponsoring
these needy kitties.  I do hope that *someday* you will have the chance
to visit the Sanctuary - it's a beautiful, wonderful, loving place and
I'd love to know that somehow you can share the experience.

   Jeanne Hajos

P.S.  I'll do better and post replies more often.

I hate when paranoia strikes me as it, apparently, has you.  It's a joy to
read your posts!  Take a nap, listen to your favorite song, pet your kitties
and put a smile on your face.  :~)

kili

(snippage)

Sweetie, I like you a lot!  I don't always reply to every post but I like
appreciate them, I really do!

Jill

Joyce,

I certaintly appreciate your posts.  You're one of the more articulate
folks here and I really do enjoy reading your stories!  Please don't
leave!  

I don't reply much because I mostly read the ng at work (lunch and
breaks only, Boss!!) and the system is set up to not allow me to post.
So the only time I can post is weekends, like now, or evenings, which
doesn't happen much.  We work 9-10 hr days and at the end of them, I'm
pretty well bushed.  After taking a little time for Eric, myself, and
the Chigger Ranch Crew (Tiger, Casper and the Lucy-monster), there
isn't much time for much else.  But I always read and enjoy...So hang
around and keep me from going crazy at work!!!

--Kim

I like you, and appreciate the things you write.  The group is ten
years old now, and it's maturing.

I'm really sorry you are feeling that way. I read all the posts and I
see nothing wrong with yours. But mostly I am very behind in reading
rpca, so I post only short replies and even then not to every post.
English is not my maternal language and there are times when I would
like to make a longer comment to a post, but I cannot find the right
words in English :(
I hope you will continue to post. Lots of hugs and purrs,
Polonca and Soncek

listen love, if someone doesn't like me I just think "sod 'em! their
loss for not choosing me as a friend!" If someone doesn't like you then
they are not worth worrying about, and if someone is rude or nasty to
you for no apparant reason then they obviously have some issues in
themsleves which they should sort out but instead are taking out their
angst on you, nothing to do with you, so therefore just "sod 'em!".
so just ignore anyone who is petty enough to give you any grief or
negativity about any of your posts, you are entitled to post your news
and that is what this is for, and if anyone does give you any crap then
send them in my direction and I will give them a slap for it (as much
as i can over email at least).

you keep posting away, don't worry about other people, if they are of
the opinion that your contributions are not valid or that you do not
deserve the respect that is due to you then those people's opinions are
really not worth worrying about, sod 'em basically, don't let then
bring you down.

do your kitties love you? yes? then that is all you need
chin up, it will all look better after xmas

Like some of the others, I don't post often, but I do enjoy your posts.
   Please stay with us!

Purrs from my two coming your way!

My goodness, Joyce, I don't read every post, but I read yours regularly.  I
know you have been here a long time and I can't think of a single time
you've said or done anything to bother me.

But then, I don't keep score, so even if your social skills aren't what you
consider perfect, you don't have to worry about it on my behalf, because I'd
probably overlook it anyway. (grin)

I'm not one to judge.  I'm what you might call socially challenged myself.

So, feel free to breathe on me as much as you want. As far as I'm concerned,
you don't need to change anything. Just keep being yourself.

Reassuring hugs,

Annie

If you are having a "nobody loves me" day, its a big club.  Trouble is when
I'm feeling that way is the same time I feel too unsure of myself to ask for
reassurance.

I hope by now the feeling has passed at least for now.

The group changes over time.  It is easy to take it personally when some of
the group drifts away, especially if you are going through an uncertain
time.

Heck, when I was an accountant, there were always a few clients that were
late bringing in their tax information for the year.  Even though it was
pretty much always the same ones, and even though I seldom lost a client
that didn't die, I always thought they had found someone new because they
didn't like me anymore.

Same with anyone that was late paying their bill.  I always would think it
was me before I'd even consider maybe they were short of money or out of
town and not paying anybody.  No, I'd always go to "they are mad at me"
first.  Sucks to be human sometimes.  Especially if you aren't quite as
confident as everybody else seems to act.

Jo

You're having a Bad Day, probably in response to certain posts here.

Well, I enjoy your posts, and hope you continue here.

And I have never seen a hint of even just poor manners!

Purrs your way from the clowder!

Martha

Joyce,

Just the fact that you felt comfortable enough to post this to us means
that you consider us to be friends.  And we are your friends, just as
you are our friend.  We may not answer everything, but keep posting.
We are here for you if you need us.
Take some virtual hugs and remember that you have friends, always.

Jane
- owned and operated by Princess Rita

Three points...

First, I don't think you're obnoxious, just sometimes "blunt" (in that you
give your honest opinion on things, which I think is great).

Second, I've been feeling sort of ignored by the group too, I don't get
nearly as many responses to my posts as some members do... but then again,
*I* don't post nearly as much as some members do, so why should I expect
treatment I don't give.

I don't think this is the case for you since you seem to post a lot.  But,
anyway, I can understand how you're feeling.  With me, depression is either
the cause of it. or it makes that feeling worse (I tend to go into a "poor
little me, everyone hates me, I'm gonna go eat worms and die" mindset).  I
just don't perceive things as clearly and as rationally as when I'm not
depressed.

It seems to happen that once you've been a member of the group for a while
you tend to get "taken for granted" - not that you're denigrated, just that,
as with all our loved ones, we tend to take it as a given that they are
there for us even when we can't be there for them - that they should already
know that we love them so don't need to be told.  Everyone is *SO* busy,
especially at this time of year that, unless it is a request for emergency
purrs or something really out of the ordinary, people just don't bother to
respond.

Third, depression.  It's a killer, and the holiday season, for all it's
supposed to be the most joyous time of the year, tends to make people even
more depressed.  Please try to be aware of this and take steps to help
yourself get out of your depression.  Posting this note was a good first
step - there *ARE* people all over the world who love you, you just need to
acknowledge that they do but can't always find the time to tell you so.

I read in your next post that you've cleaned up your apartment - another
good first step.  Not only will the clean apartment make you feel better,
but the exercise it takes to clean helps flush out toxins in your body that
help cause depression, and exercise can stimulate the brain's production of
endorphins (a natural anti-depressant).  Also, if the weather isn't nasty
get out and take a brisk walk.

Anyway, you *are* loved and appreciated, Joyce.  Please take one more step
that will help with your depression *AND* will help someone else.  Find
someone else who is feeling down and do something nice for them.  "Pay it
forward" and you will find good Karma returning to you at the most
unexpected (and needed) times.

Hugs,

CatNipped

Dear Joyce

I always read your posts and appreciate them.  I tell KFC if Licky is
mentioned ;-)
My problem is that since I went back to work 5 days/week  I don't have much
time.   I try to read most of the rpca posts - and that in itself is
time-consuming.  I also have 3 other groups to read.
I try to respond to purr requests if I can.
I would like to reply to a lot of posts but I don't because I simply can't -
well, not unless I stay up all night!
You seem to be suffering from a severe case of the "low self-esteems" that
can come with low-level depression.
Please note this: (IMHO)
1.  There is nothing wrong with your posts.
2.  You are always polite even if you disagree with another poster.  There
is room for disagreement as long as it is done nicely, and you do.
3. Kitty Farmcat will *never* forgive you if you disappear from this group;
you will take her beloved Licky with you.  How could I tell such an old lady
that someone took her "wink-wink" away?

For every person who actually replies to your post there will be loads more
that read it.  You can see this on forums that list " number of
replies/number of views" side by side, like one of the bird groups I am on.
You can sometimes see on there - 5 replies - 1200 views.

I hope some of the replies you've had have made you realise that you are
valued here.  Most of us don't have the time to say so, that's all!   Keep
posting and don't worry about replies, your posts will be read and enjoyed
by all of us, I'm sure.

{{hugs}}
Tweed

P.S. from KFC:
I hopes yoo feels better verri sune, auntie Joyce.  If yuse takes Licky away
from me, I will hornt you furrever wen I dy.  Yoo better beeleeve it.

Ms Kitty Farmcat, Dame of Thurmaston (retired)

So if I'm just being depressed and paranoid, please let me know
this. And if for some reason I do bug you, you can let me know that,
too, especially if it's something I can or should change. You know,
sometimes people do obnoxious things in a social situation without
even meaning to. So if I have virtual bad breath, please don't let
me keep breathing it on you!

Joyce
=====================================
Joyce I enjoy your posts. Sorry that you're depressed. Unfortunately this
is an easy time of the year to get depressed. Purrs that you're doing
better soon.
Suz&Spicey