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Cat Forum / Cat Anecdotes / May 2006PING YOWIE
Want to see how you are doing today and how the hand is doing > Want to see how you are doing today and how the hand is doing Feeling better now, I don't cry anymore. The more I go over the situation,t he more suggestions that are made, the more I realise that I made the right choice for everyone involved. In an ideal world I'd have infinite time, money and space and be able to tend to the whole world's needs, both two foot and four foot. But i"m just one woman, with limited time, money and space (and energy), and have to be able to prioritise and admit to myself that I can't do everything for everyone all the time. Even human children are given up for adoption when their mothers think that the life the kid will get from adoption will be better than the life their own birth mother can give. Its an act of love in its own right. IBKFergus would be better of somewhere else where there was no other cat (dogs would be fine), where the hoomins had more time for her, and where there wasn't a young child that could inadvertently stress her out. I couldn't give her the time and space she needed, I couldn't provide an environment where she'd calm down and feel comfortable. It took her to attack me to realise that, but I did realise that. I pray that she does find the right foreverhome, and I know now that taking on a "special needs" cat is not something to do when you have very limited time. I'd advise anyone with young children *not* to adopt a pet that needs alot of time, especially one that can do serious physical (and psychological) damage to the kids. Yup, the more I think about it, the more I *know* that this is the best outcome for all. She'll find a foreverhome that suits her, whether it be adoption or cattery, and the other ferals around here will get a chance too. Yowie Yowie not matter what is said or you think. IN YOUR HEART YOU KNOW YOU DID THE RIGHT THING >> Want to see how you are doing today and how the hand is doing > [quoted text clipped - 34 lines] > > Yowie > Yowie not matter what is said or you think. > IN YOUR HEART YOU KNOW YOU DID THE RIGHT THING [quoted text clipped - 36 lines] >> >> Yowie What Matthew said. Huggles to you all and "quick homing" purrs for IBKFergus  SignatureSam, closely supervised by Mistletoe > > Want to see how you are doing today and how the hand is doing > [quoted text clipped - 28 lines] > > Yowie I'm so glad you know it now. Joy >> Want to see how you are doing today and how the hand is doing > [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > to prioritise and admit to myself that I can't do everything for everyone > all the time. OK Now you need to take one more step and give yourself credit for what you did do. No more feeling like you tried and failed. Where would IBK be now if you had not taken her in? You knew it was a high risk choice at the time. I remember the posts. You did all you could anyway. You knew up front just what the odds were against making an Australian feral cat, even a kitten into a house cat. But you still raised her, cared for her, kept her healthy - not to mention alive. And did everything in your power to give her the best start in life possible for her at the time. You did that and you did it well. You succeeded against all odds. She goes forward in the world with a chance at a life. A chance you gave her. You did a good thing. A very good thing. Jo >> Want to see how you are doing today and how the hand is doing > > Feeling better now, I don't cry anymore. Boy a little over a day after giving up on her -after only a year and a half - and you are over her already? I guess you didn't really care for her that much after all. > Yup, the more I think about it, the more I *know* that this is the best > outcome for all. You mean that it is the best outcome for everyone but IBKFergus! > >> Want to see how you are doing today and how the hand is doing > > [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > half - and you are over her already? I guess you didn't really care for > her that much after all. No, I'll never be fully *over* her. That I'm not shedding tears anymore does *not* mean it doesn't hurt. > > Yup, the more I think about it, the more I *know* that this is the best > > outcome for all. > > You mean that it is the best outcome for everyone but IBKFergus! Why do you say that? IBKFergus will be going to place that can cater to her needs far better than I can. Even the worst outcome - her going to a cattery - will mean she's not in a place with another cat she was forever competing against, and not in a house with a toddler. She'll have our own space there, and have food, water and shelter. Its not like she currently likes human company anyway, so she won't be bothered by the lack of affection. The best outcome for is her to be adopted by caring people who know how to handle ferals, who don't have young children, and don't own any other cats. This si far more than I could offer her inthe next few years. Its better for her to go someplace where she can be taken care of properly than to stay with us when, until she could demonstrate she was no longer a threat to my child would be locked away by herself in the only room we have available - the garage. Whatever treatment she needed would take *time*, something I don't have to give. If the problem was medical (she didn't have any obvious medical issues - as the Cat lady confirmed) she'd still have to be locked away until she recovered. If it was behavioral, she'd still be locked away until she recovered, and surely locking a cat away doesn't help with behaviorial problems. Surely, it is also in her best interest to find a home where her needs are more adequately catered for? To keep her here would not only be risky to my son, but *also* not helping IBKFergus to become *less* risky. You may not approve of what I've done, and thats up to you. Again, it was a mistake to think I could care and tame a feral kitten with a young child int he house in the first place, and now I'm doing what I should have done when I got her - give her to someone who can do what I couldn't. Yowie PS. Plonk. Yowie > Again, it was a mistake to think I could care and tame a feral kitten with a > young child int he house in the first place, and now I'm doing what I should > have done when I got her - give her to someone who can do what I couldn't. Long after her chances of being properly socialized are gone. You took her, enjoyed her kittenhood, failed to properly train and treat her, then abandoned her when your own neglect of her rendered her inconvenient. This will bite you in the a.s one day. I sincerely hope you will write about that. Selfish a.shole. >> Again, it was a mistake to think I could care and tame a feral kitten >> with [quoted text clipped - 13 lines] > about > that. Selfish a.shole. And another one. PLONK. Killfile almost complete. Jo >>> Again, it was a mistake to think I could care and tame a feral >>> kitten with [quoted text clipped - 16 lines] > > Jo It will never be complete, there will always be more of those low lifes waiting to crawl out of the woodwork. SignatureAdrian (Owned by Snoopy and Bagheera) Cats leave pawprints on your heart. http://community.webshots.com/user/clowderuk >> And another one. PLONK. Killfile almost complete. >> Jo > It will never be complete, there will always be more of those low > lifes waiting to crawl out of the woodwork. Hey, if you're going to respond to the trolls, could you snip the quoted text? Otherwise, those of us who've already killed 'em still have to see their crap! Note that I have cut out all the gangrenous parts of this message. There, doesn't that feel better? :) This has been a public service announcement. Thank you. Joyce > This will bite you in the a.s one day. I sincerely hope you will write > about > that. Selfish a.shole. Killfiles are a wonderful invention... > Long after her chances of being properly socialized are gone. This shows how little you know about feral cats.......here's a clue........some can never be socialised totaly. >You took her,enjoyed her kittenhood, failed to properly train and >treat her, then abandoned > her when your own neglect of her rendered her inconvenient. You know this how? Were you hiding in Yowies home watching her every move - I think not! You're making judgements based on guess work and idle supposition. > This will bite you in the a.s one day. I sincerely hope you will > write about > that. Selfish a.shole. Stupid a.shole. SignatureShirley http://community.webshots.com/user/shirleycatuk you did the right thing. not all of us hoomins have the guts to know when we can't do something. huggles and many purrs >> >> Want to see how you are doing today and how the hand is doing >> > [quoted text clipped - 40 lines] > >Yowie >>> Want to see how you are doing today and how the hand is doing >> [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > > You mean that it is the best outcome for everyone but IBKFergus! And PLONK Hey I'm getting by kill file sorted out and updated from all this anyway. Jo > And PLONK > > Hey I'm getting by kill file sorted out and updated from all this anyway. > > Jo Of course! It's so much easier to kill(file) the messenger(s) than to actually admit one of your precious few did something wrong. You people need a dose of reality. -L. >>> Want to see how you are doing today and how the hand is doing >> [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > half - and you are over her already? I guess you didn't really care for > her that much after all. Killfiles are a wonderful invention... |
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